Reading Women; Maintaining Control
912 upvotes | November 14, 2019 | by KeffirLime
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Women are great at reading men. They are able to instinctively pick up
how invested a man is or where they stand with him. They seem to know
how much to give and when to pull back. This is because for many, many
years, emotionally manipulating men was absolutely essential for their
survival. They didn't possess the brute strength of the male to
protect and provide for themselves, their survival depended on their
ability to sway and manipulate men to fulfill their needs and wants.
The better they were at understanding men, the better their chances of
surviving.

Men on the other hand, tend to be terrible at reading women. They
didn't need to manipulate or sway women for their survival, they could
generally survive on their own simply by co operating with the other
men. This means that men tend to be far worse at knowing where they
stand with their women and they often don't know how much to give.
More often than not they're completely blindsided when their
encounters with women blow up and fall apart. For women it's
intrinsic, for men, it's a skill that needs to be learned and
harnessed.

The first step most take as an early Red Piller is defense mechanisms.
Learning to recognize potentially harmful behaviors and react. Like if
she want's to go with her slutty friends to Europe for the summer you
inform her that that will be the end of your relationship. This is a
useful tool to learn, it helps you avoid situations where you later
find out she was blowing Chad and his buddies in his lowered Nissan
Skyline, but it's not where it ends. Defense mechanisms are simply
treating the symptoms, they are not designed to treat the disease.

If your woman is talking to you about going to Europe with her
friends, the problem is not going to Europe, the problem is that SHE
EVEN WANTS to go to Europe. It's indicative that "girls party time" is
more important to her than the sanctity of her relationship. Women who
are smitten with their men don't want to go to on trips with their hoe
friends, they don't want to go on coffee dates with "hes just a guy
friend", they avoid those situations all on their own because they
don't want to risk losing the what they've got.

You telling her that you'll end it if she goes doesn't mean that she
didn't want to go and a similar problem will manifest in a different
way soon after. This is because you're not in control, you're doing
damage control. You're not dictating the frame, you're reacting to it.
Had you been more in tune with her behavior and better at reading it,
you would have noticed the signs long before. You would have reacted
and she would never get to the point where she's coming to you with
ridiculous requests.

HOW DO YOU KNOW? WHAT DO YOU LOOK FOR?

First you need to establish a baseline dynamic between you two. It can
be whatever you want, but male-female relationships function best with
masculine dominance and feminine submission. I like mine where she's
sweet and submissive. She messages first, she does cute little things
for me, cleans my place, fucks me like an animal and doesn't go out to
places she knows could be compromising. She cock blocks other dudes
herself and always respects me, no bitchiness allowed. That is my
baseline, it's how things always are. From there on out it's simply
maintaining that baseline with a healthy amount of subtle dread, like
keeping up my appearance, my career, social life and generally not
falling into beta bitch habits(If you are unaware of how to establish
a dominant baseline, you should only be focusing on gaining
experience).

The signs that tell me that things are veering off path is when there
are deviations from that baseline. A women's behavior is a projection
of her internal state, if her behavior is changing, it's early signs
that her feelings are changing. If you notice she's not messaging as
much, or she's being less sweet, she's being more bold and bitchy or
the biggest most obvious tell-tale sign with women, when shes not as
keen sexually, then it's an alarm bell and you need to take back
control. It's a clear sign that she is getting too comfortable and
comfort kills attraction.

The simple fix is to change gears from subtle dread to direct dread.
Withdraw attention from her, communicate less, be less affectionate,
talk to other girls directly. Due to women's heightened ability to
read male behavior she'll quickly pick up that her behavior is
yielding a negative response from you, pushing you away and reducing
your interest. This will spark tension and competition anxiety as the
prospect of losing you dawns on her. She'll then adjust her behavior
back to what works and you'll be back at your baseline. Continue this
for as long as you want the relationship to last. Notice the changes,
react, back to baseline.

This allows you to consistently dictate the frame of the relationship.
It allows you to establish the baseline you desire and maintain it.
You're not allowing small symptoms to fester into monumental shit test
like hoe trips with the girls or coffee dates with Barry. You're being
proactive and nipping it in the bud to give your self the interactions
with women you desire. When guys go on askTRP saying their women is
acting up what they're really saying is they've missed all the signs
that there's was a problem and its finally manifested into a shitfest.

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