Iron Rule of Tomassi #3 - Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

redpillschool · 2013-04-04T17:18:51+00:00

I'm not in a hurry to bed a chick I like, if getting laid was the only goal I have women I can call on short notice.

If a woman makes me wait for sex she generally shows she's picky, I like that.

Edit: I don't date, I hang out, so maybe the dynamic is different. Without the framework of a "date" I find sex even easier to get because there is no need to put up a front.

TheDoctorCoach · 2013-04-03T17:57:30+00:00

Wording is important: a girl doesn't make a man wait. She asks him to wait.

A man who chooses to follow her lead gets what he deserves, which will probably be more demands and less sex.

[deleted] · 2013-04-03T20:25:32+00:00

Well, depends on the girl, I think and what the guy is looking for.

If you're just looking for a girl that is DTF then yeah, why wait? But if anyone wants a relationship, a girl that gives it up right away is bad news. Because she's done it before. And before. And before.

Rollo-Tomassi · 2013-04-04T14:10:57+00:00

Also worth reading: https://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2011/11/04/taking-things-slow/

the SEX might not be worth the wait, but the relationship might.

Beware of this rationale, sex is the glue that holds an LTR together. Sex is an integral part of an LTR and if it is established from the outset that a woman’s sexuality is a conditional reward for desired behavior from a man rather than a mutual experience based on mutually passionate desire, this LTR becomes fundamentally compromised. It is her frame, her world, that the waiting guy is entering from the very inception of what later may turn into an LTR. His first act of that LTR is capitulating to her terms for sex.

You can dress this up in esoteric reasonings as to how, later, she’ll appreciate him more for respecting her wishes to move slowly, but it doesn’t negate the fact that the Alpha traits women find the most attractive, and the most sexually arousing, have nothing to do with patience and everything to do with impulsivity. Women want to be pushed for sex. Women constantly complain that they need to feel sexy to want to have sex, and so long as it’s ‘the right guy’, nothing makes them feel sexier than knowing he’s hot for her to the point that he’s acting on impulse. The token resistance might seem cute or it’s used as some ASD ego preserving buffer, but it’s really a another way women prolong that feeling sexy dynamic which can be more rewarding than sex itself

The nature of the Alpha guy that women crave pushes him to have sex, not wait for it. In fact that sexual insistence is a prime indicator that a woman is dealing with an Alpha. The man who’d agree to ‘taking it slow’ telegraphs Beta to her. Sexual impulsivity is an Alpha indicator that translates into a Man who insists on getting what he wants in other aspects of life – which benefits HER and her future offspring’s long term provisioning. In the long term, women want Men who other men want to be and other women want to bang. The man agreeing to the patience and effort needed to “take it slow” is indicating that he’s not accustomed to insisting on, and getting what he wants. If he can sublimate his most powerful biological imperative to get sex, what else is he willing to sublimate?

rkg-pua · 2013-04-03T15:23:55+00:00

Fuuark. Never read this before. Nice find and so true.

Rollo is the king

apapaslipsnow · 2013-04-04T15:10:07+00:00

I think this is totally wrong. In my experience, my best relationships were ones where we didn't have sex for 2-3 months after we were dating. Having sex with near-strangers is fun, but when it comes to a relationship, there's something more fun about the waiting part where we're just appreciating each other as people.

To each his own, I guess.

redditalias7 · 2013-04-03T16:09:46+00:00

Conversely, if she gives it up right away, she has, and will give it away easily to the next guy.