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Is it easier to date men than women? (self.altTRP)

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This is basically a x-post from /r/asktrp so I'm sorry if you've read this before, but it was suggested I post this here instead.

I ask because I've recently come to terms with my bisexuality, in the last 18 months or so. In that time I've found seducing cute guys is like shooting fish in a barrel whereas seducing hot women is... much, much more work, effort, hoop-jumping, mental games, power plays, projecting dominance, etc. But I'm still about equally attracted to women and men, if not slightly more drawn toward women (though this might just be because I have more experience with them...)

Am I just generalizing due to my lack of bi experience? Or is there really a fundamental difference between dating different sexes?

Anyway, I'm not sure if there's actually a precise question rattling around in here somewhere but I could use any and all advice regarding the intersection of bisexuality, TRP philosophy, why it might be easier to date men than women, I don't know what else but I greatly respect the honesty of this community so I figured I'd give it a shot.

Thanks so much for your time,

Troll_ey


[–]should_7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Society, at least stereotypically, asks that women hold back their goods while encouraging men to give theirs freely. So if a guy likes you or thinks you're hot, he's more down to get down to it right away than a girl, who needs to proceed with caution and will be more likely to play hard to get.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You have to keep in mind that until their late 20's/early 30's, women are the gatekeepers to sex. To many/most of them, it's as much a means as it is an end. As such, they're generally going to pick the top 10-20% of men.

Men on the other hand are much more open with their sexual proclivities. It's less a tool and something to enjoy. Because of this, men are generally more forgiving in regards to the partners they choose.

Granted, this is all highly dependent on the individual's SMV, but still fits as a general rule.

[–]GC0W305 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exact same thing I figured out when I realized I was bi at 15. I had been trying to get pussy for years... within a week of coming out I had offers from two different guys. I took advantage of that, but it didn't slow down my pussy hunt, and it still took me until I was almost 17 to get access to a woman's hug clam.

Pussy is like a cartel, and women keep it expensive on purpose. Men do the other thing.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Simpler without a doubt. Aside from the answers already given, consider how few gay men there are compared to women. Women have the ultimate abundance mentality. They know there will always be another fish in the sea. Gay men have extremely limited options depending on where they are located. Passing up a potential lay it tougher in that situation.

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