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When I think about the improvements I have made with my life, it seems that a woman’s solipsism cannot see the before and after, only the now. How do you deal with this when you fail to live up to your best performance?


[–]Reach180Red Beret24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I deal with it by not really giving much of a fuck what she thinks of my performance if I'm satisfied with it.

Generally, I've got higher expectations for myself than my wife anyway.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"16 points17 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Write her a letter outlining how manly you've become.

[–]mtdog7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think this is more appropriate for a text message.

[–]DeplorableRay2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lots and lots of emoji's. Say as much as you can with only emojis, leave the rest for her to guess.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

In crayon.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Blue.

Has to be a blue crayon.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Glad you are still here you feisty mofo.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah.

Me too

[–]DanceMonkeeDanceRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Flowers and jewelry help.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Be your own judge mother fucker.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

the title had me prepared to come in here and suggest you move this to the MRP sub,

the rest of the post made me glad I didn't.

How do you deal with this when you fail to live up to your best performance?

Her entitlement ends when her dispensably begins.

[–]pridebrah1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Her entitlement ends when her dispensably begins.

Great quote.

[–]Chump_No_More0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Why is it so hard for men to grasp that women are a fungible resource?

It's a rhetorical question...

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I know. The thirst is real. even this past week. Lots of crying at my house, a fair amount of incidental dread. Once I accept that I can take the L and be ok, the threatpoint just goes away

[–]Chump_No_More0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's all just LARP-ing until you internalize abundance.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

100%

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

1.) I don't care what my girl, or any girl thinks of me and my "performance"

2.) The better my "performance", the more options I have, and the more options I have, the more my girl with make an effort to improve her "performance" with me.

It's a double edged sword, yes, they get used to whatever level they are at, but they also know they have to up their level as you improve yours. Just always be improving and it should go your way anyway.

[–]mountainbiker1784 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is so true! So the higher you climb, they tag along and readjust their expectations, but they also can't help but look around and see all the other chumps that are beneath their now higher smv man. Passive dread

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I wrote this 2 years ago:

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3ghbd4/the_balanced_check_book_of_the_relationship/

Women use a different scoring system. Don't get caught in the fallacy that you are banking value for future use.

....it seems that a woman’s solipsism cannot see the before and after, only the now.

So now that you realize that what are you going to do with it? There's nothing wrong with her perspective, it's yours that's crooked.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Classic post!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

But he only gets a "plus one" for it, and only because we noticed. :)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That was a great post.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Holy fuck that post hits really close to home. Esp considering how things are going South quickly with my divorce.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That post really had value for me today. Thanks man.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Succinct and profound at the same time. Not an easy thing.

+1, 0, -1.

Brilliant.

I thought I'd read everything over the years, I don't know how I missed that.

[–]crimson_chris2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This weekend my 6yr old son and I did some yard work. I have raised him to be lazy as fuck so I am fixing that.

When we finished I was about to tell him "go show your mom how great the yard looks". But then I thought "why the fuck am I training my son to seek validation from women".

I told him he did a great job. He seemed to be happy just knowing that he accomplished something.

Stop seeking validation. Do shit for you. If she appreciates it great. If not, she can move on.

[–]rpsheepdog1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It sucks, but understanding that they don't care unless it directly impacts them. But based on your actual question, it can work to your advantage also, if you have a high standard for yourself in something, and don't reach it, she most likely won't even care to begin with.

Unless it interferes with you being able to provide the tingles or provide the provisions she most likely doesn't care.

[–]gizmozed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A man's maximum effort becomes his boss's/supervisors's/manager's minimum expectation.

A man's maximum effort becomes his friend's minimum expectation.

The world is full of expectations, you have to deal with them by not dealing with them.

[–]gameoflibidos1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you know you screwed up... just own it. Not much different from how you'd deal with a screw up at a work place.

[–]civilizedfrog1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Write 3 page letter explaining your love and how you became a man for her. Then give it to her along with 100 roses. To maximize the effect, buy tickets to an expensive vacation and also buy jewelry

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

And, you look to her for what ?

A pat on the head and a cookie ? How sweet. Momma recognized boys work.

Sidebar, Lift. Way of the Superior Male. Read. Make eyes bleed from reading. Then read again. Boy faggot

[–]abudun790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Would you except it if she's done anal once, after 10 years of trying to get her do it, she really enjoyed it, and then does not want to do it again?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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