Are there women out there who won't ever disrespect you?

SteelToeShitKicker · 2018-07-11T15:58:44+00:00

that turned into a bit of an argument and she was saying that she didn't want to talk, I was pressing the issue because I didn't know why she was even mad, and she told me to "shut the fuck up."

I don't know about in your house, but in my house saying you don't want to talk pretty much means you need to back off because if you don't shit is going downhill in a hurry. If you can't give someone space when they are overheating, you get when you deserve.

Edit: You are a needy bitch who can't stand the idea of someone being angry or upset with you. Blow it off, don't worry about it.

cholomite · 2018-07-11T15:58:12+00:00

Every woman is nice and respectful to men who don't have any weaknesses, but I don't know any men like that personally.

Your girlfriend sounds like a bitch, but you also sound like a bitch with a weak frame.

"I was pressing the issue because I didn't even know why she was mad"

This is not red pilled at all, you need to read up on the material a little better because you seem to lack an understanding of the core concepts. Primarily, that women's emotions and words have almost no value or meaning, they just happen. Shit, she probably didn't even know why she was mad, and now she has some pussy husband who is up her butt trying to solve all her problems. Next time treat her like an angry little kid and let her cool off or do whatever.

You're right to call out her blatant disrespect, but don't hold her to the same standard you would hold yourself to when it comes to controlling emotions. My gf gets very emotional and sometimes flips out over stupid shit. It used to piss me off like it does you, now I just see her like a little kid who is upset because her elbow hurts but she doesn't know why. Telling you to fuck off all the time isn't cool, but if she gets pissed off about something, and she's on her period or overwhelmed, you have to understand that she is not like a man when it comes to emotions, so they shouldn't hold as much weight.

So at the end of the day, feel free to set her straight if she's being disrespectful, but also understand that she can't control her emotions like you can, so a little amused mastery and most responsible teenager in the house will go a long way. Also next time she's mad, don't keep fucking talking at her. STFU is common advice for a reason.

SBIII · 2018-07-11T15:43:42+00:00

My wife has never insulted me or told me to shut up.

In fact, none of the women I have been with have done this.

rocknrollchuck · 2018-07-11T17:11:36+00:00

Girlfriend is verbally disrespectful at times, even after me letting her know it is NOT okay, wondering if this is something I can fix

How to build boundaries during your transition should help you get some perspective on the proper way to deal with this.

Rian_Stone · 2018-07-11T15:44:20+00:00

Women don't do respect, the same way you don't do character assassination with your friends.

You may as well ask if there's women out there that will pee standing up

throw-away-account43 · 2018-07-11T16:13:17+00:00

People will do to you as much as you let them.

What's her consequence for doing it?

[deleted] · 2018-07-11T16:59:21+00:00

It appears that you try to get an answer out of her when she doesn’t want to speak.

1) This is what women do.

Problem: Its needy

Solution: STFU and DNGAF.

Your woman should not be swearing or name calling you. My wife never talks to me like this. The only time we ever got in a heated discussion and curse words entered was during my stupid Rambo session. I allowed it by being a dumb fuck and it hasn’t happened since

If your woman is regularly swearing to you then you need to set a hard boundary and next her ass if she crosses it. If she has no issue speaking to her man this way, how do you think she will speak to your child? Would you want to hear your wife call you a stupid fuck while your child is watching?

Ask yourself if she is the type of person you want to be with. Even if you’re a needy bitch like you come off, she could show some restraint and “put some respect in her mouth.” Unless you’re just an insufferable little shit, she should be able to do that for you.

UEMcGill · 2018-07-11T18:01:59+00:00

Mary, "Um, so Joe it seems I'm pregnant."

Joseph, "How did that happen? You're a virgin."

Mary, "Um it was an angel! Yeah an Angel and he said I'd give birth to the son of god"

Joseph, "Oh gods baby, that's ok."

Every women is capable of disrespect, that's why it's called AWALT.

If she doesn't live with you, tell her to leave. If she does, tell her in no uncertain terms you will kick her shit to the curb if she does it again. If you can't or wont enforce it, shut the fuck up and take it.

red-sfpplus · 2018-07-11T16:09:13+00:00

Even during divorce, my wife has never told me to "shut the fuck up"

FeralRed · 2018-07-11T16:50:42+00:00

You allow what you allow.

AKA you get what you deserve. Why do you think you deserve to be disrespected?

redsprinklersystem · 2018-07-11T16:57:09+00:00

In 20 years or so, of ups and downs, my wife and I have said pretty much everything to eacbother at some point. Context matters. You say this is one sided, how frequent is it?

Women talk, men do. She should be the one wanting & chasing the conversations. Shitty attitude = see ya.

Do you know what a boundary is?

robertwservice1974 · 2018-07-11T17:48:42+00:00

> I know that this sub focuses on working on yourself in order to be the best, most desirable mate for your partner

You have a fundamental misunderstanding about the focus of this sub.

Setting that aside, I spent 18 years dealing with nasty, disrespectful comments from my wife. I didn't put up with that behavior and fought back. These arguments were followed by days of silent treatment until I apologized. Then I found MRP and read When I Say No, I Feel Guilty (WISNIFG) by Manual Smith (required sidebar reading).

Now, I never argue and use fogging to deflect nasty comments and criticism. She often responds to my fogging by admitting that her criticism was too harsh or unfounded. I STFU and the discussion ends there. We move on to more pleasant topics.

I also use the 4-year old poopy-face approach described by u/Rian_Stone here: https://rianstonept.blogspot.com/2018/01/manipulations.html. It puts things in proper perspective.

[deleted] · 2018-07-11T19:04:05+00:00

You need to shut the fuck up, faggot.

She's telling you to stfu when you were probably beating a dead horse deering and an emotional wreck. She's probably disrespectful due to you just not getting it and stfu. If my wife told me that I'd tell her you don't disrespect me and then I'd leave and go to the gym for a good while.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2018-07-11T19:34:45+00:00

Your feelings of disrespect are partly from too much ego and partly too little frame. An isolated incident is one thing. But repeated behavior that she’s been corrected on previously calls for a harsh boundary.

broneilbro · 2018-07-11T20:16:27+00:00

Next?

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-07-11T20:27:24+00:00

For the record, over many years of dating and marriage, my wife has never disrespected me like that. Take that as you will.

friendandadvisor · 2018-07-11T21:10:54+00:00

She didn't want to talk, and you were pressing the issue.

Hmmm...sounds like you were being a fucking idiot. Why didn't you shut the fuck up?

You act like a shithead, you get treated like a shithead. WTF, did somebody tell you that everytime an LTR gets horribly upset that you're supposed to 'talk it out'???? Well, don't.

classicthrowaway86 · 2018-07-12T03:35:28+00:00

Another classic case of not doing the work or understanding.

Women will respect a man who deserves it, or disrespect a man who deserves it, AWALT. The fact that you put up with her doing this shows you arent worthy of respect, therefore, she will continue.

You DEER, you have a very weak frame, like seriously you're posting on the internet because of a womans words... And I bet you dont lift. Could you go out and get laid by someone else tomorrow if you wanted to?

Do you think Leo Dicaprio would put up with that? No, he wouldnt, it would be a hard next. If your dread levels were high enough, and you were capable of getting other women, you would say once, and only once: "You speak like that again, and we are done". She'll either not speak like that again, or she will and you next her.

Fritz_Frauenraub · 2018-07-12T11:29:31+00:00

At least you found this place before you got married.

RPWolf · 2018-07-12T15:04:49+00:00

In the 20 years my wife and I have had a relationship she has never insulted me, told me to shut up or talked shit behind my back, Even when I gave her every reason to do so. Even when we were cheating on each other she wouldn't bad mouth me to anyone. Its part of the reason why I am still around. It would be so so much easier to walk away from a shrill fucking cunt like your girlfriend.

CalvinRichland · 2018-07-15T04:34:06+00:00

Nobody tells me to STFU period.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-07-11T16:23:56+00:00

You clearly don’t know shit about this sub faggot.

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[deleted] · 2018-07-11T18:22:43+00:00

Look. This sub attracts men who are in shitty relationships. Do you think guys whose wives respect them and give them sex have a need to Google "why won't my wife respect and fuck me"? No. They don't.

MRP is a fantastic place for men in similar relationships. But it's a bit of an echo chamber.

I compare it to a battered wives support group. If every woman in your group has the same story of being abused, it's REEEEALLY easy to fall into the trap of "all men beat their wives". Just as it's very easy to fall into AWALT here.

So yes, there are good, decent women out there.

[deleted] · 2018-07-11T21:09:10+00:00

i told my wife when we first started dating: "if you ever criticize me to another human being i will dump you on the spot. and if you feel the need to do so privately, ask yourself if that's really the hill you want our relationship to die on"

she's been nothing but respectful for 9 years

wkndatbernardus · 2018-07-11T22:02:44+00:00

Damn dog, do u even have testicles? Last time someone used the f word in reference to me and wasn't kidding, I got in a physical altercation. This B needs to learn how to respect the cock...

https://youtu.be/bbanWHx5AFQ