LTR left without notice

ChokingDownRP · 2018-07-09T20:45:32+00:00

Maybe swipe right on her newly created Tinder profile before Chad does?

Is she someone you want to be with? If so, you might need to speak to her instead of being such a fucking 'sperg. Own what you did with Tinder instead of making excuses, etc

SteelToeShitKicker · 2018-07-09T21:14:41+00:00

nothing happend more than that my ltr saw my profile on her "friends" phone.

Quotes around "friends" implies you don't believe her. That perhaps she saw it because she was on tinder. If that's true, why are you worried?

officerkondo · 2018-07-09T21:03:41+00:00

She made her decision to leave six weeks ago. But hey, at least you have a Tinder profile ready to go.

screechhater · 2018-07-10T03:03:53+00:00

No one gives a fuck.

Basic, basic premise of MRP.

Do you actually give a fuck, deep down ?

Most likely not, so why are you waffling on wanting strange/new to keep from stepping on her feelings ?

abudun79 · 2018-07-10T06:46:09+00:00

She found out that you set everything up to cheat on her. If you eventually would have done that is not relevant. Any claim that you were just sneak peaking, what ever that means to you, is irrelevant. You checked opporunities to cheat on her. That is what you unwillingly signaled to her and she would be stupid to believe anything else.

As long as there's no proof her story "saw my profile on her "friends" phone." is made up and she's been on Tinder, too, you do better to believe it was like that, if you have any interest in rescuing that LTR.

If you want to save that LTR, you've got to admit what you've done and build trust again. IDGAF and abundance mentality are absolutly the wrong tools for that job. You took yourself out of the position to act like the usual RP guy here. You're not recovering from being a unsexy beta looser, you're trying to recover from the amage you did to you LTR. Trying to be completely outcome independant and acting like you stand above all of that, is like hitting your bosses car in the parking lot and then shitting on his desk for revenge.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-07-09T21:24:29+00:00

Not married/contract with the State?

Who gives a fuck what she wants. What do you want?

You are the Prize and your own judge.

bob13bob · 2018-07-09T20:54:16+00:00

If you want to play the field, then why stay with your ltr? How good was the relationship before the tinder fiasco? If there is a time to be free in your life, do it now.

wkndatbernardus · 2018-07-09T21:36:24+00:00

So, are you going to be with her out of guilt? If you told her that, do u think she would be ok with that?

[deleted] · 2018-07-09T21:33:02+00:00

you could just tell her the truth. that you love her but you've got needs one woman can never meet, and that's why you were on tinder. that you understand if she wants to leave because you aren't going to change, but you hope she doesn't cause you love your life with her

when you get caught doing something shady, don't run from it. don't excuse yourself for it. apologize for how it affects them but stand your ground if it's something you really do want. the truth is, 99% of men want both an LTR/marriage AND to spin plates--not one or the other. and if you're high enough value you can pull it off. if you think that's you, then grow some balls

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-07-10T12:47:59+00:00

Im 26, she's 24, 5 year ltr

Next woman. Non issue.

34380 · 2018-07-10T03:57:16+00:00

Maybe she was on Tinder. Maybe she wasn't. Either way, you being on Tinder was a violation of trust and a pretty shitty thing to do. I'd be pretty pissed in that situation, too. Just let her go.

Rian_Stone · 2018-07-10T17:35:18+00:00

without knowing what the fuck you want, any advice is just asking what other people would do in your place.

friendandadvisor · 2018-07-10T19:34:32+00:00

... she left, when I come home she's gone.

This is all that you need to know in order to make a decision.

CalvinRichland · 2018-07-15T04:43:37+00:00

You dont give a fuck about her why should we?

Bedtimeshine · 2018-07-10T07:46:03+00:00

Be a grown man... get off tinder. I wouldn’t be able to take another adult serious enough to give my commitment to them if they were EVER on tinder... let alone while they are with me. Tinder, instagram, Snapchat, etc... its all for clown ass little kids. Live a real life.