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Making Male Friends (self.askMRP)

submitted by Red_Pill_Phoenix

Long time reader/ lurker here with an odd question (made an account to ask!).

A few months back I moved to a new state to take a new job. I've had the same circle of male friends for most of my life and now suddenly I have no bros to hang out with. I've come to realize that I've had the same friends so long that I don't really know how to make new ones.

I lift at home (and no real gyms near me anyway). I am a professor, so almost all of my colleagues are very Leftist intellectuals and not the type to hang with. To make matters worse, I am in central Florida and it is sort of a giant retirement village. Most guys around here have walkers (hence the lack of gyms).

Now it's summer break and I am mostly working from home and I'm just around the wife and kids too much and really just need to kill some beers with some dudes. Any thoughts or advice appreciated.


[–]broneilbro4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Find an MMA gym. Or pickup a hobby. Where in FL are you located?

[–]Red_Pill_Phoenix[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Near Port St. Lucie. I was going to join an MMA gym but the times conflicted with work.

I have hobbies but they tend towards solo activity. Hmmm...might need to figure out a more social hobby.

[–]johneyapocalypse6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

One but per sentence, bro.

Try hard enough and you'll have a but for everything. Enough buts and you'll avoid making friends forever. Still more buts and you can avoid life altogether.

Those buts will kill ya.

[–]Red_Pill_Phoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hear you bro. Thanks for the check. Revised mindset:

MMA schedule conflicts with my work, so fuck it. My hobbies are solo, so I'll try to find some other people who do the same shit. Or get them interested in what I already am doing. Or see what they are interested in and do some new shit. There's this old dude who goes fishing in his boat. Who knows, he might be cool.

[–]broneilbro0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Look at Meetup.com or try to build them at work. I've been in your position but no excuses. All my coworkers at my last job were 50+ and didn't do anything on th he weekends but just tried to survive through it.

You need your tribe, it will take work but you need them.

[–]Red_Pill_Phoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Your old co-workers sound like mine. What did you do with them? I was trying to get this one guy go get a beer with me but his wife wouldn't let him... It's hard to have patience with peak soy. With my old crew we'd lift weights and drink whiskey. Good times.

[–]broneilbro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I worked at a paper mill so yeah a bunch of good ole boys that worked hard but never really partied. Only time was my going away party as I deployed and that was fun but boy it was bad.

[–]drty_prRed Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Just because you're an Alpha now, doesn't mean you can't be friends with Betas. If you carry an attitude that you're better than people because they're "leftists", you will certainly be conveying a negative vibe that will keep people at bay.

One of my absolute BFs is a Beta through and through. Guy would give me the shirt off his back and do anything in a time of need. As I would for him.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm a right wing gun nut. One of my good friends is a Bernie supporting, self declared communist. We have some really good conversations. There are people of differing values that you can have deep discussions with.

[–]drty_prRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you don't challenge yourself by having friendships with different minded people, life can be rather drab.

[–]Red_Pill_Phoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh true enough. I talk and associate with my colleagues and they all have a different worldview than I do (obviously). This isn't so much about me looking down on them. I have good work relationships with them and they are decent enough people.

It was 2 concerns I had: 1) They don't seem to like doing any of the things I do (like shooting guns). 2) Just being able to talk to bros about shit going on from a redpill perspective and getting feedback. I don't dump my emotions or problems on my wife. I go to my bros. I can still call them of course, but not the same as going out for a few drinks.

That being said I appreciate the advice here and will simply have to adapt to my situation and find a way.

[–]oneredguy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have made a lot of male friends through church. Post red pill. After divorce and having the red pill shoved down my throat, abandoning the beta factory, I went back. With a new mindset. Church is basically set up to create an in group friend group for you. It can be dangerous to your frame, however, so skate around the edges. And these aren't going to be full blown red pill alphas. Just other men. Locate the ones who aren't losers and invite them over. Ask them questions about their lives and give them room to vent. No need to comment, just allowing them to vent, nodding, and inviting them over again is enough. Teach through your own life and actions.

If you mean friends like guys you can confess too? I'd keep all confessions online. If you do happen to find a RL bud you can confess to, it's been my experience, that what you've actually found is a bucket crab. Not a man who will be happy to see you overcome, but a man who will secretly delight in the fact that you actually do have failures. And so, subconsciously, will encourage said failures, even going so far as to burn bridges once you are overcoming them.

It's good to have guys around to hang out with. But like in all relationships, you must manage them. For new friends? Why not attend a few different churches, scope the guys, and go to dinner with a few of them and their families? This is literally what church will do. Plus with your neighbors.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

While you're at it...read them all

[–]Realworld520 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

brojob

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro chats

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

My first thought is move. Simple solution. But, I don’t know why you are living where you are because you didn’t say.

[–]Red_Pill_Phoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I did say. It was for work.

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok, but can you move so maybe you’d be between civilization and work?

[–]cm-man0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

How about starting a poker night with some acquaintances you think share your values?

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can make friends with blue pill fags

.You may see right through their bullshit, but you picked a profession where “duck and hide” is the norm. Get used to it

I have to deal with the SO’s work mates quite a bit, they are mainly spineless “happy wife....” lot fags. I hold court talking about K2, Everset or Denali, or plastic in the ocean. Pussy, working out, or fucking their wives is off the table

You are gonna have to break through. Bro’s are where its at and you know it, fag

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a professor, so almost all of my colleagues are very Leftist intellectuals and not the type to hang with.

Why not? Remember TRP isn't a political movement. You can be RP while being right, left, centre, up, down and anywhere in between. And make no mistake about it, there are plenty of right-wingers who are hard BP.

Do you only hang out with people who agree with you? Can you hang out without talking politics? There are so many non-political topics of discussion that there is no need to discuss politics when hanging out with friends.

[–]wildnight98MRP APPROVED-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If it works for you, you could look for a conservative-leaning mainstream non-crazy church (e.g. Southern Baptist). You'll find like-minded guys there and probably a bunch of programming already in place for doing things together.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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