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Wife wants to take Girls Weekend to Tahoe (self.askMRP)

submitted by Doxazosin

My wife wants to go on a girls weekend to Tahoe. I don't want her to go. The girls she will be with are her ex-sorority sisters. It's supposed to be a "no guys allowed" thing.

We're both in our 30s and we have 2 kids. She's a stay at home mom and I have a good job where I make about 120k.

We are swimming in debt. She has a spending problem. We are trying to save for a house but making little progress. Here's about current expenses:

Rent $2500/month Student loan payment $1800/month. Utilities average $700/ month. Car payments a $600.

All of these things except my student loans were her idea. I had never spent more than $1000 a month before we got married.

In addition to the financial part, I think the girls she will be with are trashy and can have a bad influence on her. One is recently divorced.

What should I do?


[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret48 points49 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

She has a spending problem.

No, you have a leadership and boundaries problem.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Indeed.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret16 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Can't believe no one mentionned the low hanging fruit here.

If issue is money, stop worrying about shit and just do fiscally responsable things.

If the issue is whether she will ride some dick while shes out. If she wants it, you cannot stop her. That you have no plan if she decides to is your issue.

At the very least, this

Or, "You think thats appropriate for a married woman with two kids to go to Taho with a bunch of divorced girls?" in a non accusatory tone, and her answer will tell you all you need to know. If she accuses you of anything, calls you untrusting, or bitches you out, then she's setting herself up for dick.

Or, if you have the spine for it, 'my wife doesn't go on GNO like that' and then shut up. you drew a line in the sand, and if you don't enforce, you're fucked

Your problem isn't that she may want some strange. your problem is, if she does, you don't have any options but to sit there and take it.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Or, "Yeah, go have fun. Where would you like me to have your things delivered?"

"Huh?"

"You'll need a new place to live when you get back, so where would you like your things delivered?"

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The fact that wifey wouldn't expect that response is where OP needs to focus, 100%

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Are you kidding ? GNO is great. Lots of wine and as the prize she wakes you up and rides the cock.

Oh, that’s my experience. I forgot we are dealing with a fagliscous frameless boy .... with debt creep

[–]abdadaRed Beret9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

RT's post on "let her go" is about this.

https://therationalmale.com/2012/08/27/girls-night-out/comment-page-2/

Although it's about a GF the frame points are the same.

Get your fscking finances in order, it's on you. Start containing the ship.

[–]Red-Curious15 points16 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

all of these things were her idea

I.e. I'm blaming her for my garbage leadership.

Why the heck are you paying that much on rent before your student loans are paid off? My wife and I collectively earn around a quarter mil ... and our mortgage is under $1,300. Set a budget and enforce it. Learn to tell her no.

I'd just tell her: Go for it. Have a great time! Take away her credit cards and remove bank access. "I thought you said I could go?" Of course you can, babe. You're just not going to use my money to do it. Have a good time on your trip. Then give a big, but not sarcastic smile. This isn't a joke or a game or a punishment. It's a boundary.

[–]Reject4446 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Housing costs vary a lot, depending on where you live. There are places in the U.S. where you literally cannot find affordable decent housing. Around New York City, you're getting a deal if you're spending $2,500 a month on, say, a 3-bedroom apartment. There is literally nothing cheaper available if you have a family and work in Manhattan, unless you want to live in a garbage apartment or a seriously unsafe neighborhood. OP doesn't say where he lives but there are areas where $2,500 per month is (unfortunately) a very reasonable housing cost.

[–]Red-Curious2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Good point. I rescind my statement to the degree that OP might live in one of these places.

[–]Doxazosin0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

OP here. I live in California near a major city.

[–]Red-Curious0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Okay ... so suburb prices or downtown prices?

[–]Doxazosin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice suburb

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I kind of agree with some of what you are saying except the “let her go part”. I don’t play games with credit cards, finances, I am the captain bullshit. I just enforce boundaries brutally with about as much tact and concern for her fucking fee fees as Ghengis Khan would have. My answer would be “you want to go party with your whore friends while I mind the kids? You degenerate cunt, why don’t I just sever my testicles and put them in your Louis Vuitton handbag! I am divorcing you, no discussion, no negotiation. Ask me shit like that you dirty fucking slut, you wanna live like that then do it on some other chumps dime.

EDIT: Very glad that I am upsetting fagets who want to watch their whore wives get railed by gangbangers. Please share your stories on this sub afterwards

[–]simbarlionRed Beret-2 points-1 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Maybe you could skip the rant and chain her in the basement. Or see it as a 'value of husband' test. If she takes strange, value of husband is low. Proven over thousands of years.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

The rant is standard TRP style hyperbole, we go to extremes because otherwise they just don’t get it. I love this sub but the whole self flagellation is god theory breaks my fucking heart. Sometimes a ho is just a ho. I am the discordant voice in the choir. Does not mean I do not call a spineless beta out for his failings, just means that sometimes I cut to the chase. This is one of those times.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I believe BPP called it the "pimp hand" to relationships, the viewpoint that you bring.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I get it. Your posts are valued, funy too.

I have a friend who's fiance gave up on the relationship as he was a boundary setting control freak. She couldn't fart without his blessing.

Control freaking is beta Af.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Controlling farts and controlling drunk recently divorced GNO's to Tahoe are not the same thing.

There is only one reason why the wife wants to go on this trip. Every Red Pill guy sees immediately even if she doesn't know it consciously. This is a marriage ending request so far as I am concerned.

pimp hand"

Butters taught me everything I know

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lets ignore the request to go for a second and look at the Man. How is this not mateguarding and controlling? Wouldn't an alpha not GAF?

Personally i think the answer depends on the health of the relationship, and beta / alpha of the man - which we dont know

I can go with Will's approach if coming from a man with frame who's wife gives a shit what he thinks.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How much rope are you willing to give? Because she doesn't need much to hang herself. /u/88will88 is a needed extreme of what could work, hyperbole or not. You can look at that, measure how far you are from that dynamic, and see just how much control you still cede.

[–]redknightofthepill5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She's a drag on you. Her decisions have landed you here. But in this world you can only blame yourself.

Who is going to watch the kids?

I get that if the SAHM is doing a good job at home keeping the house, cooking, cleaning, fucking, taking care of the kids etc. then it's fair to say it's her money too in a way, because her doing that allows you to do what you. But if you were driving your family toward financial ruin you better believe she'd say something.

Step up and lead. Maybe you can't just flat out say "no" to every stupid thing she wants to spend money on. But you have every obligation to veto things that are going to contribute to your financial ruin.

I often think men are unwilling to do this because they're afraid the woman will spend it anyway, which will expose underlying disrespect she has for you and the relationship that you could previously ignore. Then you have to face the implications of it.

It's not a good solution to just leave her when you have kids. But you are doing TRP on hard mode, so you need to figure out how to take control.

If you're in this situation there's something basic that's missing. I don't know what it is, but you need to do some self assessing.

[–]PeggedByOwlette0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I needed to read this today. The exposing the underlying disrespect part. I have been doing a form of exactly what you are talking about.

[–]redknightofthepill4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is one of the hardest things to face and deal with. What do you have to do about your life, your relationship and your family once it's out in the open that she doesn't respect you? What does it mean about you as a man, husband, father, leader, provider etc.? It means you suck.

If you're a real man, you're basically obligated to shut that shit down any way you can as fast as you can because that kind of disrespect is unacceptable, but if you're in that position, then it's already obvious that you don't know how to do it in an effective way. So you end up DEERing, telling her how it makes you feel, and attempting to utilize beta-dread, all of which your wife is basically invincible to by nature. The marriage will then spiral outta control and end in a bad way and you'll miss your kids terribly and it'll suck.

Or you are a little bitch, and just become the typical henpecked husband for the rest of your life.

Or, you say you yourself "ok, I fucked up, how do I learn, grow and overcome this?" Then you apply the RP basics with 100% commission and stop lying to yourself that the intermittent pressure flip is you changing things. After a year of the basics applied religiously, and you'll see your life is different.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This post mentions a lot about money, but I’m not sure that’s the main issue. What’s your real concern? That she would meet up with her trashy ex-sorority sisters and sleep around with some muscular guy while in Tahoe? Or are you just concerned about the cost?

If she truly wants to cheat on you, there’s nothing you can do about it.

And yeah.... $700 a month for utilities?!? What, do you have the lights and heat on all the time? My electric is 120 and gas is 80, and I have a large house. In fairness, I am very big on energy efficient appliances/bulbs/smart thermostat/etc.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This post mentions a lot about money, but I’m not sure that’s the main issue.

the classic problem with providing too much information in a post.

[–]drty_prRed Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

He believes that if he makes the meat of his post about "finances" and throws that she may "cheat" in there at the end that users will think it's about the cost of the trip.

[–]DanceMonkeeDanceRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Or maybe he just wants to be a cuck, but is afraid he can't afford it.

[–]call_of-the_void3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If it's truly about the money, why not say" we don't have the extra cash right now, sorry".

[–]gameoflibidos3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

so let me get this straight... your wife spends too much of your money... she made all the decisions including where you live and what cars you drive.. again with your money... Do you ride in the back seat while she drives those cars?

i'm also guessing since you are so worried about her trip with these other girls that you don't trust her and you are a low confidence male, probably don't go to the gym or even pick out your own clothes to buy.

Basically you're a giant pussy dude... she runs your entire life. You're not even the first mate while she's captaining the ship... your like a passenger in a shitty cabin somewhere without a window.

Time to start doing a lot of STFU, reading and start hitting the gym.

[–]SeamusAwl1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

you are so worried about her trip with these other girls that you don't trust her

This is a GNO on steroids. Having lived in the Tahoe area it is not uncommon that normal housewives on a girls trip to Tahoe, actually go down the mountain (hello bunny ranch) and come home with a huge stack of cash that they "seem to" always win during those trips.

[–]gameoflibidos0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Jack and jill went up a hill both with a buck and a quarter... Jill came down with 2.50. ... I get it.

If it's that well known and he doesn't want her to go... then tell her no and deal with her pouting, bitchiness and blowback.

If he lets her go... he has to trust her until he has a reason not to and not be pissy about it because HE LET HER go.

Simple as that.

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She can go. He can lay the boundary down that his wife doesn't do ALL Girl, no hubby trips to Tahoe. Then he needs the balls to enforce that boundary. In other words, HE LET HER GO. She just needs to sign a document removing her from his life.

[–]BostonBrakeJob2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your lack of leadership, and consequent blame shifting, as well as your insecurities have already been pointed out. So....what's your plan, man?

[–]Senor_Martillo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Jealousy is the ultimate DLV.

[–]2gunsgetsome2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

So… when is this trip happening? Asking for a friend…

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I see that you are a giver too..

OP, I travel a lot now. Be glad to keep an eye on her and her friends. You can trust an older man like me. I'm harmless. Just need names dates and hotel. Pictures if you have them. :)

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Time to make an explicit agreement with your wife about how things are going to be, or else, as /u/88Will88 says, you may as well get divorced now.

Does she want to be married to you and a mom to her kids, or does she want to go to Tahoe and pretend she's in college again? It's escapist fantasy, and you shouldn't stand for it. Women who are happily married and respectful of their husbands don't do trips like that. If you stand up for yourself on this, it has to be about that, not the money. That comes later or not at all.

You'd best start doing some sidebar and frame-building.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

First = mis-step was SAHM. She was in a sorority, so she went to college. Should have put her ass to work.

Second = allowing the spending to get out of control. Yes it's on you.

Third = Heavy debt, more of the same....

You are on the edge here of falling into the beta abyss. Give her permission to do this trip, and your life will never be the same. I will fucking guarantee it.

But you knew that, that is why you found this sub and posted your short story.

The fact that your question is "what do?", means you are so deep in poop for so long, that you have gotten used to the smell.

The answer is no. Fuck no. What part of the word no don't you understand. As in saying.."wife, you need to understand that this is a line that you will not cross and remain married to me."

If she goes, file for divorce first and discuss it later, if you are still willing to discuss it then.

Tiger, you need to get your balls out of her purse, and reclaim your self-respect here.

Many men think they can have the FMOFY conversation and succeed, but few can. But you can have the "disrespect me or fuck you" conversation NOW. Sooner is better.

Notice I take a softer stance than just divorce her now. But I'm a giver you know.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

oh, I do hope he calls you out on the struggles of a financially irresponsible wife

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

But remember, it did end in divorce anyway. I won that battle, but I lost the first war. Hard for me to ignore the idea that OP may already be on the slide down the path to divorce here anyway.

EDIT: I am coming to the conclusion, based on my past and many of the stories here....

IRON RULE: When a woman fucks up the finances, it is another version of cheating. Like u/weakandsensitive says: the guys deserve to be cheated on, and, IMO they deserve the financial fucking too.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

pft. I wish I had archived bearsaint post on his post-divorce run.

Every man wins the war once you look at the long game. Bitch took his kids, and took enough money that he was sleeping on his dads floor in a sleeping bag. He turned out all right.

Serves him right for posting it in PPD. I think the chicks laughed at him and called him a shitty father for his wife weaponizing the children

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

And it's worse than cheating. If she gets new dick, I can still use all my dick on the new women.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, it is worse. The money is lost, but I keep my dick either way.

[–]classicthrowaway864 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't think money is the real issue here, why don't you be honest? If you can afford a 2500pm house and 600pm car then you can financially afford for your wife to take a weekend away. And if you really can't then you've fucked up your finances along the way.

The truth lies in your last paragraph.

I remember when I used to be you - Actually giving a fuck what my wife did.

Let her go. But start working on yourself, your finances, your leadership, OI, the sidebar.

[–]Senor_Martillo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Anybody wanna go up to Tahoe and bang some ex sorority whores with me?

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hows the relationship? Do you trust her? Does she fuck you?

Can't help with money decisions, but I can tell you that right now she is either thinking (lusting) outside the relationship or is not, ie, she's happy with you.

Which do you think it is?

[–]bob13bob1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like problem for personal finance, not mrp. I also live in the bay area and household income significantly higher than yours, and big student loan. 2 kids 120k is poor here. Is that base salary? Or u including bonuses plus rsus in there? Typical career advice is change jobs every two years

You cant splurge like you are doing until you get in a house here, rent cost you dbouble dollar for dollar against a mortgage. I drive a 8 year old car, 14 year old car, and no cable package outside internet. Also try income base repayment in your student loan. Get your monthlies under control.

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If you bought a house 2 years ago you would be 300k richer today tax free. I'm a real estate pro. Go for a fha loan with 3 percent down or less. Pmi is worth it.

[–]ShrodingersDingaling0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

As someone whose house is paid for, I'd be curious to hear you further explain the 3% down, PMI is worth it advice?

[–]DanceMonkeeDanceRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm interested in the 300k richer.

[–]Senor_Martillo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can't help but have appreciated 20-30% over the last couple years if you own a house here. No financial wizardry just dumb luck.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ever consider that maybe she's asking because she WANTS you to man up and say "no" ?

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

“We are swimming in debt ....”

Are you out of your fucking mind ? So you seriously want to be slave to debt ? Let me tell you there are a lot of men working for the ex living in a studio apt, paying support, and they were tapped out financially, and she needed s new betabux, all because, they allowed the fucking stupidity. Key word- allowed

And, she did not take a gun to your head for those loans. It’s time to own your stupid mistakes

[–]Doxazosin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lease is up in 3 months. It's definitely time to make some changes.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Divorce her now, without prejudice. What a cunt whore you married. Your fault for marrying the filthy slut. Divorce her now, read my posts on how.

EDIT: This is not a joke, this is my real advice

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

While your approach is very direct and takes the shortcut to the eventuality, you're not wrong. Seriously, what is OP clinging to here?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Maybe give her one more chance before he dumps her. There are kids....

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah I can see that being reasonable. Kids make everything so much more serious. Why on Earth does a mother of two think she has a right to dance on tables whilst drunk with sorority girls? These women make me sick to my stomach

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why on Earth does a mother of two think she has a right to dance on tables whilst drunk with sorority girls?

...because her fearless leader did not tell her, "Fuck No!"

If you subscribe, in principle, to "the oldest teenager" idea, this all belongs to him to tell her no, and, guarantee her that she will be a divorced mother of two, going back to work, and this whole idea of a vacation will no longer exist.

Without his support, financial and childcare, she could not possibly do this spring break style slut-fest.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Whats going on Willie?

[–]hystericalbonding1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

He's craving attention today. Needs a hug and a hit of outrage.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

He's not wrong, but he's also set expectations before he enforces this boundary, op did not

[–]hystericalbonding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

he's also set expectations before he enforces this boundary

Or at least he has advocated setting a boundary.

EDIT: Very glad that I am upsetting fagets who want to watch their whore wives get railed by gangbangers. Please share your stories on this sub afterwards

Reminds me of the wife who berates her husband because he picked the wrong restaurant or loaded the dishwasher wrong. He can do better. He has done better.

Enough gossip - I can do better as well. There are some decent OYS this week.

[–]creating_my_life2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Height, weight, squat, and bodyfat estimate please.

[–]Doxazosin0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Me: 6'3". 195 pounds. 15% body fat. I don't do max squats for safety reasons. I can bench 190.

Her: 5'9". 135 pounds. She doesn't squat

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like she doesn’t squat in the bedroom either

[–]creating_my_life3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good. You're not a fat fuck. So there's hope.

Why don't you have any control over your life? What's going on?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

no squatting = no round ass or tight labia grip strength.

[–]FlyingSexistPig1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your money. Your rules. You need to set them and enforce them. I don't know how you think that you should be paying for her weekend with her friends when you're excluded.

[–]HATEFULretard0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro I made 50k ish last year and I live alright within my mean pay cash for everything and I have a nice car and pad.

That's nucking futs

[–]hibloodstevia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So your post wall wife, who has poor impulse control, is going for a drunken rager with her post wall friends in a town where the locals are on the prowl for tourists coming in looking for fun.

Yeah, I don't see a problem here.

[–]broneilbro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gotcha. I was making 125K but killing myself at a paper mill as a project engineer.

[–]JudgeDoom690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If your objection is truly over money, then you should set a boundary called a "budget" (Google it). A budget defines how much each of you can spend on things like restaurants, entertainment, etc. Then if she wants to go to Tahoe for the weekend and it's within the budget fine, if not then she needs to keep saving.

But if your REAL fear is that she will cheat on you (and the money thing is just a cover), then this is the classic GNO Shit Test, and you need to STFU and have enough confidence to let her go and not interrogate her about what happened.

If she's going to cheat, she's going to cheat, whether it's in Tahoe or the broom closet a work.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think the girls she will be with are trashy and can have a bad influence on her. One is recently divorced.

Oh HELL No!

[–]broneilbro-4 points-3 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Bro, let her go.

I'll ask this...why don't you want her to go? You think she being around her trashy sorority girls that she will want to go hunt dick with them?

You tried to hide your insecurities with your blame.

Look at it this way, if you don't let her go she will use that against you and based on your frame rip you to shreds.

[–]Red-Curious4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Look at it this way, if you don't let her go she will use that against you and based on your frame rip you to shreds.

So the solution is to give her frame even more power over his? I agree with the "let her go" sentiment. I don't agree with him funding the trip when she's already drained his resources to meet her standard of living expectations. He needs to cut her off, not keep empowering her.

[–]SeamusAwl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She is off to relive her CC riding sorority days and come home with a big wad of cash from winning it big with her slot.

[–]broneilbro0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

How is she going to fund it when she's a stay at home mother?

Start cutting back on the expenses. No one is forcing him to pay that much back.

I went from 5K in debt to over 30K because of hurricanes, a new house, a wedding ring, and the wife's German shepherd that needed a new hip.

Life goes on...but how the hell are utilities $700 bucks?

[–]Senor_Martillo2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Easy. OP lives in the Bay Area, so gets raped on the monthly by: PGE 200-300 easy for a standard SFR, local water district $100-ish, Comcast 100-300 depending on your package, cell phone, sewer, trash, you name it. Living here is a nonstop buttfucking of expenditures. That's why 120k for a family of 4 ain't shit.

[–]broneilbro0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dear god...Rome GA mortgage is $750 for a 3/2 2000+ with a pool.

[–]Senor_Martillo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Also: employers are in a war to pay kids straight out of school (stem only mind you) 80-100 for engineer 1 positions. Guys with 20 years under their belt make 200 easy. 350-400 is not unusual if you're a rockstar working for a FAANG company.

[–]SeamusAwl1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You think she being around her trashy sorority girls that she will want to go hunt dick with them?

There ain't no hunting in Tahoe. Less than 30 minutes away, down the mountain are a few "establishments" that they can collect their winnings while riding a never ending cock carousel. Of course, this is second hand information from one of the Pros i struck a conversation with when I worked in a casino. She was bitter that day complaining about all the "vacationing" housewives.

[–]Reject4440 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Really? Rando chicks can just show up there and do a "guest appearance" getting paid for taking cock for a day, and then just leave?

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I dont know the logistics. It wasnt a rabbit hole i went down. My BP self at the time was just in shock that there were women like that. However i think there is some prearrangement with the establishment and a room/bed fee.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No, he is not saying housewives get paid but that they take $$ from the pros because they are cheaper and indistinguishable from the pros.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

  1. Let her go. If she goes off and fucks someone else, you can't stop her and it's your fault anyway.

  2. In the meantime, sort out your finances. You should have a detailed analysis / spreadsheet of all your income and expenditure for at least the previous 6 months. That should include everything - rent, utilities, insurances, household expenses, medical, social expenses etc. etc. etc. From that, you need to make financial projections for the next 12 months. From this, you'll be able to work out an allowance on what can be spent on each area of expenditure and that should include a personal allowance spend for each of you.

So, in the future if she wants to fuck off for a weekend, it's either in the budget or it's not. If it is, she can go, if it's not, then she can't.

Either way, you should have a 100% grasp of all your finances - that doesn't mean to say that she shouldn't have any input if she is also contributing, but you shoud know where the money is being spent and if she's over spending, you need to cut it.

[–]SeamusAwl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she goes off and fucks someone else...

All girl, no hubby weekends in Tahoe.... It isn't a question of 'IF" but "how many". She is off to relive her CC ridng sorority days. While she is gone, he should change the locks and speak to a lawyer.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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