TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

7

It is working.. (self.askMRP)

submitted by AquitasVeritas

I have read it so many times... i know its true. But i just havent experienced it yet with my wife.

Since my last post i tried to handle my shit. I am reading NMMNG & WISNIFG and several other books.

I started lifting (5x5). And watching my food/diet. I planned a couple of fun trips.

And what is most shocking to me(altho i know this shit works it still shocks me..) Is that the more i take care of myself and take time for me and the more dominant i am the more she likes it.

Im having sex every day now. She is way more relaxed and listens to me when i tell her to do shit(instead of asking her how to do things).

And it feels good.. my sex drive is up the roof. And im starting to get my confidence back.

Its been over 2 weeks without even 1 shittest.

I am amazed..

Have u guys been through the same?


[–]SgtSilverBack8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You feel better because you have a path for yourself. You aren't sitting there waiting on an external force to move you where it wants, instead you are taking control of your life and that gives you a sense of purpose.

While you've been getting some gains in several areas, don't get complacent and think that you have MADE IT.

There will come a time in the next couple.months where you will get some bumps in the road. If you get complacent she will ram that strapon down your throat and you'll regress through your anger phase.

So congrats on the NEWB gains and get back to work on OYS and creating a new path for yourself.

"The only easy day was yesterday"

[–]AquitasVeritas0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Exactly. Thanks brother. Those were my toughts exactly. I need to keep my focus.

[–]straius0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep, one of the reasons RP takes time and why Rollo has the section he does about your personality changing and people reacting to that is that you essentially are changing or reprogramming aspects of your personality.

This is why short term gains and successes get shit on as often as they are celebrated on a post (or both).

Every month you will internalize a little more of your model and frame you are building. But that process takes time.

So remember that the real victory is when everything is internalized to the point that you literally are not the same person anymore. You are a different version (better) than you once were and maintaining your frame, your lifting, all of it, is second nature and a settled positive reinforcement loop.

As an example... Your newfound sense of possibility is great. Use it to build on and reinforce your new habits. But you now lift and exercise the rest of your life. And that last part is where this now becomes a personality change.

[–]Red-Curious3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

my sex drive is up the roof

I think this is an under-appreciated aspect of RPing. Many men in DB marriages consciously repress their sexuality. They know they want sex, but they forget what it's like to have the hard urge - especially with the physical, emotional, an intellectual strength to act on that urge to gratification. They have changed the urge for sex to resentment about sex.

RPing takes that conscious repression and says, "Stop being an idiot - it's okay to feel that urge and let your strength take over sometimes" - just not in a rapey kind of way. As a result, regardless of whether the woman is actually responding to the changes in the man, he's going to get more sex and more satisfying sex simply because he's going for it, when in days past he would have sat in a corner and stewed about it instead. I don't know what % of RP success is attributable to this factor, but it's more than 0, thus worth being reminded every now and then.

[–]zurgenfloggin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The more I lift and diet and take ownership of my life, the more everything else falls into place which results in attractiveness and...

brown-chicken-brown-cowwwww

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

While it's great that your wife is coming around, she's only a metric of your value. If you're doing this for her, you've already lost. You need to have the mindset that you hate the old you and all this improvement is to make YOU a high value man. She's welcome to come along for the ride.

What goals have YOU accomplished in your never ending quest to become a high value man?

I like the one of you telling her what to do instead of asking her. That's some low hanging fruit, but an incredibly important first step in leading your household.

[–]CrippleSlap0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

When did you start lifting? i'm only 7 weeks in

[–]AquitasVeritas0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Started about 2 weeks ago. But started the 5x5 just today.

I wanna build some strength, confidence and spike my testostorone before i do a good 3 days split.

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The test spike is minimal as it only lasts about an hour or two after lifting. Jeff Nipard on youtube actually looked at and discusses the scientific studies behind that myth.

[–]roadblock820 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm about 3 months in. I had a period fairly early on when things seemed to be great. No shit tests for a while, but eventually they started up again. Some of it seems to depend on what sort of day she's having but the tests are still there. I just keep lifting, reading and working on myself and it seems to be working well. Sex life is almost where I want it; there's still a few things she's reluctant to do but for the most part she will do anything I want now.

Keep your head down, keep lifting and absorbing the sidebar material.

[–]DeplorableRay0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not getting shit-tested is not something to brag about. Two weeks in your work out's, hey? You haven't even began dread yet. Shit tests, and passing them, means your getting somewhere.

Don't be amazed by what she does, or what you can make her do.

Be amazed at/when you make progress on being a better you.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2024. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter