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The "nothing can make me happy" bullshit (self.askMRP)

submitted by AquitasVeritas

Just a minute ago we were about to head out to the beach. But i know she is grumpy because we had some financial issues but we are almost out of debt and some friend of hers just went on a vacation(we brought them to thw airport) plus she is on her monthly shit.

So i was kind of expecting a fight any day now.

But the funny thing is.. this time she couldnt blame it on me. This time she said: you just dont understand. Nothing makes me happy anymore. Im not happy with my life etc etc.

So i try to cheer her up. Didnt work.

How do you guys survive the fucking monthly period.

And how come i still take her serious when she says that shit. And i KNOW in a couple of hours all is well?

If a man says some shit like that. You know its serious.


[–]redandswollen4 points5 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

This isn't about the period. When she says she's not happy anymore, it's either clinical depression or she's just plain tired of your shit.

You've been describing a woman that is about ready to check out of the marriage. Make sure you're not contributing to her unhaaaapiness. Otherwise, she needs to figure it out for herself

[–]AquitasVeritas1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

She wont check out(religious) But i think she is checking out emotionally.

I get the 'i dont care what you do anymore' a lot..

[–]number1233561 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

this sounds so bleak...

[–]AquitasVeritas0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

What does bleak mean(english is not my nativr language)

[–]number1233561 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Dark, depressing. Is your wife clinical depressed?

[–]AquitasVeritas0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

I really dont know. But she has been thru some shit (doesnt know her dad/moved out early/always beenn pushed around). It think it fucks her that she tought she found stability with me and now she finds out i dont own my shit.

Many times when we fight i hear her say: i tought you would nrvrr hurt me. I dont know my dad. My mom doesnt givr a shit but you... i tiught you were different..

When i hear that.. it breaks me.

[–]creating_my_life6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

i tought you would nrvrr hurt me. I dont know my dad. My mom doesnt givr a shit but you... i tiught you were different..

the only thing that should break you is how emotionally manipulative she is being.

that type of passive aggressive shit would piss me the fuck off.

[–]freshona2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

The "monthly period" is not an excuse to act like a piece of shit. Oldest teenager in the house, sure. Feeling bad, maybe a bit grumpy, fine.

It's a boundary that you can enforce. If after all that she still manages to fuck up your day during her periods, that's your issue. Deal with it. I'd look into the fact that you're asking how to survive the monthly period. Your choice of words is telling.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You should not be phased by her. Her words only describe her feelings at that particular moment.

When men speak they discuss facts. Don't listen to her as if she's a man

[–]AquitasVeritas2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This... so much truth. Man i love you guys for being there for me at whatever time of the day.

[–]AquitasVeritas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It feels like that.. it feels like surviving in this marriage. Sometimes we have our ups.. but too many downs..

[–]creating_my_life2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

she is grumpy because we had some financial issues

so you haven't always been a strong captain. you have a history of fucking things up.

Nothing makes me happy anymore. Im not happy with my life etc etc.

It's not your responsibility to make her happy. you're not a fucking clown or the hired entertainment.

So i try to cheer her up. Didnt work.

not your responsibility.

How do you guys survive the fucking monthly period.

I ignore it. Good behavior gets rewards. Bad behavior doesn't. DGAF about if she's on her period or not. It's not an excuse.

And how come i still take her serious when she says that shit.

Follow her actions. Not her words.

[–]AquitasVeritas1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

It makes so much sense to me if you say it like that but when im in the heat of the moment.. it eats me inside.

Like now we are both home. And we are completely ignoring eachother.

I know if i dont try to cheer her up or say at least something she will say that behaviour shows that i dont care about her..

How long will it take before she forgets my mistakes? Will she ever? Or will she keep throwing the past in my face?

[–]creating_my_life2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

How long will it take before she forgets my mistakes? Will she ever? Or will she keep throwing the past in my face?

She will forget EVERYTHING the moment she sees YOU as the prize in her life. THAT is what MRP is about.

She's angry because she picked your dick for a betabux for her life, and you're a shitty captain. Be a better man.

Own your shit. Read every sidebar book. Get yourself in fair shape. Be fun. Have goals. Chase them.

When her girl-sense finally sees that if she walked out you'd be fucking someone hotter and younger than her within a week, everything about the way she treats you will change.

Women fill the container they're given. It's your job to build a better container.

And we are completely ignoring each other.

You shouldn't care. You should have so damn many cool things to be working on that you barely notice she's there.

You can only control you.

Remember, MRP fixes men. Sometimes it fixes marriages.

[–]AquitasVeritas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its so weird to do that. I have been so used to being the fix insteas of fixing myself.. great mindshift needs to be made. But i am working hard to do so.

I got my lifting on point again and im about to make a promotion at work.

Still need to work on doing house things(the yard etc)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Read When I Say No I Feel Guilty

[–]AquitasVeritas0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I am at the moment. Almost halfway. Thanks

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Keep going. Combined with No More Mr. Nice Guy, it's really the foundation of indefatigable frame. You are responsible only for your own happiness, her emotional storms should not rile you.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

You're heading to the beach on a work day for the majority of civilization. How fucking bad can it be?

You need to consistently own your shit like a man should (alone or in a relationship) for an extended period of time. Preferably until you're done breathing. Being a man is not episodic, transient, periodic or saved for crisis. Tough times should highlight how awesome you are, not test whether you can "man up" for the challenge.

Stop trying to dissect what she is saying. She sounds like a fiery "romantic" who is driven by her feelings to great highs and lows. Arguments lead to breaking shit. Breaking shit leads to crying. Crying leads to vigorous fucking. Been there, bought the French, German, Spanish and Jewish version of that woman.

Stay consistent, because you certainly can't rely on her for that stability.

[–]AquitasVeritas0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Shes exactly like that. And yea i work weird shifts so we can do things like that and since the weather always suck here rxcept for today ofcourse. I thought it would be a good idea. And to get her mind off that we cant do expensive shit for the time being.

But thats my problem indeed. I have my peaks when im taking care of my shit and other times i doze off and procrastinate everything.

Damn i need a lot of work.

Only thing im wondering is. This needs time.. will she hold on till then?:$ i dont know.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

will she hold on till then?

Should this matter? You becoming the best version of yourself benefits everyone around you indirectly. You will get the sex life and companionship you want from one of many women who want to be around a man who "gets it." That may be with your current SO or not.

Be that guy.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

breaking shit is just not ok, no matter the fucking.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

The girl from Bethpage was the worst/best.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

OH, long Island chicks.

they are kind of a separate category.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Jewish when it suits, Gentile when it's fun.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

ye, they get real confused about the jewish guys.

thats why I hung out with the St. Mary's ( or what ever) girls.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Catholic girls are easy regardless. Good call.

As for the JAP, I knew I was there only for fun. She became a Jacobson, then a lesbian.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had one of those too. I got her in the "lesbian" phase... or between lesbian phases. now she has a partner that is a straight male, they live together. kids and so on. still a lesbian.

fun.

[–]donedreadpirateRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I usually fuck her brains out. I call it You Get My Cum Week. Deleted this parable I wrote initially to respond to this dammit. Anyways the point is, Shark Week ain't shit, it means nothing, starts nothing, stops nothing.

[–]wn360 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

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