Date Night Shit Storm- How did I do?

innominating · 2017-04-30T18:29:38+00:00

She threw out a shitty comfort test about the neighbor and you saw it as a shit test. She needed to hear, "baby, keep my balls drained and my stomach full and you have nothing to worry about." Instead you upped the dread by talking about a threesome. She alluded to dreading you back, and you are butthurt.

Comfort would have lead to sex with your wife, instead you went bar hopping alone. Only you can say whether you failed, it depends on what you want.

I will also say you should drop Facebook.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-04-30T18:35:58+00:00

I have never had a low-sex marriage.

Dread, ESPECIALLY ACTIVE DREAD is for low sex marriages. What are you doing? Also, I am not even sure the level of Dread that includes Active Dread bar hopping after dropping the wife off for being an asshole. Is that an ultimatum? Sounds like a Level 10- fuck me or fuck you speech. Except that's not even the problem.

Also, Dread is NOT A GOOD STRATEGY in response to Shit Tests. We have an entire suite of tools for that- agree and amplify, etc ad infinitum. Again, what the fuck are you doing?

I am really debating unlocking the Bloops link on this one. Classic title: This DeRP has just managed to Amused Mastery and Agree & Amplify himself right into Cuckoldville. You might want to switch the fedora for a 10-gallon hat, DeRPy...it'll hide the horns better.

BobbyPeru · 2017-04-30T19:20:07+00:00

I'm livid, although I am not showing it:

Don't fool yourself. If you're feeling it, she sees it. Always.

you mistook more of a comfort test for a shit test.. Thats like trying to play football in a basketball game. Now, her hamster is probably running full steam ahead (in the wrong direction).

Persaeus · 2017-05-01T01:39:05+00:00

what does it mean "two can play that game"

It means she could get a MMF threesome , probably in the time it took you to write this post

[deleted] · 2017-04-30T21:05:45+00:00

Bar. Dinner & (presumably) drinks. Wings & drinks. Bar hopping.

How much of this was fueled by booze on both your parts? Does she often go off when she has a few drinks? Do you find it harder to maintain a level head, keep your frame, keep your reply proportionate, after a few too many?

SteelToeShitKicker · 2017-04-30T19:14:22+00:00

dinner at our favourite place, concert, drinks and wings afterwards etc

You sound fat.

drty_pr · 2017-04-30T21:19:13+00:00

You fueled a fire that didn't need to be fueled. When you made the comment about her friend, you were allowing her to continue. She was acting like a bitch and you were giving her an emotional rollercoaster for it. If this "disrespect" was as annoying as you claim, it should have been squashed. Her emotional outbursts are a result of your lack of leadership. So long as you tolerate bullshit like that, and reward her with the feelz, she will continue this "disrespect".

Also Rangers suck dog cock. Sens in 5.

RuleZeroDAD · 2017-04-30T18:09:24+00:00

You're on Facebook. Weak. You care about what your wife thinks about your list of "friends." Weaker. You stepped right into her frame by not being attractive enough to banter about a threesome without it becoming a stupid contest of whom can add whom as Facebook finger fuck buddies. Weakest.

Stop using chick metrics to judge your own value.

[deleted] · 2017-04-30T19:21:47+00:00

2nd date rule.

Beats playing "shrill harpy, 1v1"

I notice you didnt mention the part where you didnt fuck her in the ass

Terribledragon4Hire · 2017-04-30T20:11:30+00:00

You are a Rangers fan. You lost me there.

weakandsensitive · 2017-04-30T18:57:20+00:00

If you have to ask, the answer is bad. Going to mrp mommy is just as gay as going to wife mommy.

And how is that a&a? It sounds retarded. A&a requires absurdity, not autism.

bogeyd6 · 2017-04-30T18:26:27+00:00

Getting into a spat over Facebook is a mistake.

screechhater · 2017-04-30T20:49:58+00:00

Did great except the Facebook. All you feelz fags always get in trouble with Facebook. How about going on "Fagbook ? "

But seriously, it was a comfort test that you let escalate, but then kept your balls intact. Good job.

mabden · 2017-05-01T12:20:44+00:00

During the concert she even slid her hand over my bulge, not very discretely. I’m having a wonderful time… After the concert we retire to one of our favourite pubs.

IMHO, you should have retired the evening between your favorite pair of thighs, feeding your face with pussy instead of wings.

bogeyd6 · 2017-05-01T12:03:24+00:00

two can play at that game

She is going to start dreading you if she has the guts. My guess would be new friends on facebook and maybe a girls night out.

Blunter-S-Thompson · 2017-05-01T14:59:04+00:00

My wife pulls this shit all the time. Night's going good then she picks stupid fights. Maybe it's a shitty comfort test. It's still not appropriate behavior. Sometimes I can pull her out of the shitty mood. Most of the time I can't. It's not because I'm not alpha enough or man enough. It's just the way she is.

STFU and realize it's not always about you

WisdomTangoFoxtrot · 2017-05-01T18:00:46+00:00

“Yeah, I know. I have no honor. Really though, that sucks for you, having a husband with no honor.”

This is not amused mastery. It comes across as butthurt amplified passive aggressive.

This caught me though...

She proceeds to say that what I have done is super shitty, that I have no honor that I am dishonorable etc. I counter with amused master and agree and amplify.

..and...

“Oh yeah” she said “two can play at that game.” (WTF does that even mean?)

It could mean, that she estimates her SMV higher than yours and/or is dreading you. But, in combination with the prior statement, she is projecting (or does project) and thus she could feel motivated and empowered to act.

See...women don't understand honor. Not really. That's a man term. She was called dishonorable at some point in her life for doing the exact same thing you did (freely associating with someone hotter than your partner). So yes, she is projecting.

You then removed this as an opportunity to achieve ends which are valuable for you, with your agree and amplify shit show, thus making it a sarcastic/passive aggressive understanding of honor...because you were butthurt. You continue to remove safeguards (by continuing to add hot friends) so you could achieve a goal of active dread (with your threesome line)....which is weak.

But better...you then kick her down the stairs...by going bar hopping...so that she can fall into the arms of...what...now two Chads? Three? How many holes does she have? Five if you count her virgin ears...which won't be virgin for long.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2017-05-02T20:40:46+00:00

Let's ignore your mastery of basic TRP skills for a moment. There are some fundamental ted flags here that you aren't seeing. The night didn't mysteriously go shitty because she went to he restroom and looked at FB. The problem in your relationship was brewing already and you still can't see it where it starts. Maybe you're both drinking far too much. But she is definitely too comfortable being a bitch and disrespectful. That means she thinks her SMV is higher than yours and she still doesn't see you as a leader. I just divorced one of these types. Disrespectful as the day is long, but would fuck me all the time. And she'd come back from the bathroom with another girl in tow and all of us would go have fun. But it was her nature to stay a bitch and be disrespectful. If your girl is "just a harpy" then that's your hurdle. She most likely won't ever drop that, but she sure as shit isn't going to change unless she sees you as The Prize.
As to your frequent statement of "sex isn't a problem", it's time to pull your head out of the clouds. Thinking the problems aren't as relevant because you're getting sex is a fallacy. I doubt any of you were getting more sex or threesomes than me and my marriage was still shit. Your wife not only doesn't want to be led, she doesn't see you as a leader given the way she values your presence.
btw, I don't mind your love of taking her home in the cab and then going back out, but it depends on what you gained the following day from the relationship. If she's still the same unpredictable harpy, you're wasting your time. She most likely needs less drinking and a different lesson. I predict a marriage of unhappiness or divorce at this rate.