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I need ideas for non wife activities on weekend nights. (self.askMRP)

submitted by ImSteveMcQueen

Hi guys.

My RP journey is going well. I lift, workout, great hobbies, good friends, etc.

I find myself alone on weekend nights because my wife is low energy then due to over exerting herself during the day/week. I'm tired of sitting at home when she goes to bed at 9PM. So I need something to do on weekend nights.

I'm a young, fit, energetic 48 years old. I live in a big city. All my guy friends are married, so they usually have plans on weekend nights. I drink socially.

I'm at a loss for what to do on a Friday or Saturday night from 9 PM until midnight. I don't really want to go to a bar and develop a drinking habit. I also don't really want to tempt myself with other women if I'm feeling lonely. I don't really want to go out for a late dinner by myself and even if I did have someone to go with, I'm not really a foodie. I don't want to work out on weekend evenings either. I have a great work out schedule during the week.

I feel like a need a wingman, but I'm not sure what we would do if I did. The old me would have picked up women, but now that I'm married, that doesn't work.

Right now I usually work on something in the garage. But it isn't what I want to do. What I'd really like to be doing is something fun with a sexy female companion. My wife and I have fairly regular decent sex, but I can't say I'm totally fulfilled by her.

The rest of my week is pretty much 100% full and gratifying. I have a lot of guy friends, we do a lot of stuff together. I have a couple good hobbies. I work and work out. Life is good except that I am usually spending 1 weekend night alone.

Ideas or comments ?


[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm at a loss

I don't really want to

I also don't really want to

I don't really want to go out

I'm not really a foodie

I'm not sure what we would do

See a pattern? Why not deal with the real issue?

What I'd really like to be doing is something fun with a sexy female companion.

But

she goes to bed at 9PM.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

How to hobby.

Manly hobbies.

And my personal favorites: play in a band, woodworking, martial arts.

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like the idea of playing in a band. I used to do that. Gets me into the night life without the risk of drinking too much or cheating.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I write, it's my thing

You can hit up a gym, you can take dance lessons(Sexy female companion), you can become a night class professor, etc.

The bigger question, why not lead your woman to doing something with you? Why not make her the sexy companion you want while you prowl the street?

She's tired - right I get that, my wife used to be on Facebook a lot, I lead her to giving it up. Now she fucking hates it.

Lead your woman to joining you on these night ops.

[–]ImSteveMcQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

I don't want to work out on a weekend night. I am not aware of dance lessons on a Friday or Saturday night and even if there were, I don't trust myself to be that close with another woman.

I don't want to dance with my wife. She is overweight and out of shape. I hate dancing with women like that.

Your comment on wives wasting time on low value crap is dead on. Mine does it too. Obsessing about Trump, drafting long work emails after work hours, working on charity events, etc.

I'm trying to lead my wife to be better. I've had some success. It is a slow process.

I just texted my wife and told her I am going to a BBQ if there was nothing planned at home. She asked me to do stuff with her. I asked her to confirm she wouldn't be falling asleep at 9PM. I'm waiting for a reply.

Probably the first thing I need to do is set the agenda that I expect to do something or I'm going to do something by myself without her. I'm learning.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There is hope man.

Instead of telling her not to fall asleep at 9 p.m. why not set something up where she won't be tired at 9 p.m.?

Don't watch a movie instead put Bob Ross on YouTube or Hulu and have your own paint night or is it together with your laptops and have both of you write a story on a similar topic and then read each other's stories and see what you came up with or grab a camera and head to a park and take some night photography whatever you have available to you in your area do something like that that get you up and moving and creating a memory vice just sitting sedentary

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Overweight, out of shape, boring middle aged woman? Why are you staying with her? I imagine the kids are mostly grown by now

[–]enfier0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'd hang out with you but honestly you sound like a bit of a downer.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Apparently he doesn't enjoy much in life

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Staying in and going to bed early on a Friday night doesn't have to be a bad thing. I like to crush the mountain activities early on Saturday morning so more often than not I'm pretty boring at night.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like you can't be by yourself alone.

It's liberating. Being alone with your own thoughts.

Try it.

[–]enfier0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well it's a weekend night and the gym was unexpectedly closed. Bit late to make plans really, so I cleaned out the garage some and worked on copying some Spanish lessons. I picked those two things because they are important to me (turning the garage into a gym/office/quiet space) and learning Spanish.

The things you do don't have to be amazing. It just has to be something you enjoy. You could try astronomy or camping maybe.

[–]redearththeory0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Find a good hobby that involves other people meets from 7pm to 9pm and then go out with people afterwards. Kickboxing or jujitsu would be good examples.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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