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Placing my “best friend” on neutral friendship. (self.asktrp)

submitted by Andgelyo

I’m 28. Been best friends with these dude since I was 12. Now that we are older and getting much busier i haven’t been hanging out with this guy, sometimes months on end. Long story short, I found out this guy blocked me on Instagram (I still don’t know why). Confront him about it, even almost getting into a physical fight with him. This guy is all about social media image and posts pics of him traveling, partying, driving in expensive cars, etc. I meet with him later and his excuse was “ it’s just social media bro, don’t take it personally, you all (close circle of friends I have) are like family and you know it”.

I told him “ a true friend wouldn’t block friends and wouldn’t care about image, doesn’t matter if you’re broke, asian, white, Spanish, gay, whatever”. Blocking or deleting a childhood friend is a serious red flag in my opinion, all for just social media presence. It may sound petty, but that’s a serious offense to delete your friend who grow up with just to look good for the gram. As a side note, we used to joke around and tag each other in stupid shit and just play around messing with each other. I have a hunch, that being friends with me on social media, would make him look bad. I have also have another hunch that he may be jealous for whatever reason, as he just graduated undergrad college at 27-28, struggling to find a job right now, while I finished graduate school and in a decent career in the health care field.

So I decided to put this asshole on neutral ground, not hanging out with him, and only seeing him occasionally when all of our other friends are there. I definitely don’t think my friendship with this dude will be as a strong as when we were kids. Redpill brothers, was I right, or just overreacting over social media?

TLDR: “best friend” since grammar school blocked me on social media, is known to flex on gram, confronted him and told him that true friends wouldn’t care, decided to occasionally hang out with him only if necessary


[–]rpsheepdog8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Long story short, people change

1) for a guy with such a "cool" social media life he sure does put a lot of emphasis on not having you involved at all

2) you seem to care way too much about this shit, I get it you were friends but people change

3) you haven't told us why he blocked you, which leads me to believe we aren't getting the real story

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[–]Andgelyo[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

I never found out why, I confronted him about it, but he never gave me a true reason. From what he told me, he blocked some of our close friends too, I think it’s for his “image”.

If it is for his image, then I think I’m better off finding better friends.

[–]rpsheepdog5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah I mean it seems like he made his decision...

I truly believe that actual friendships and relationships aren't worth "fighting" for if that requires convincing somebody you should still be friends

I have too much shit going on the convince somebody to be my friend, if they want to be on the boat they're welcome, but they're also just as welcome to be off the boat or follow along. At the end of the day I'm the captain going where I want to go

[–]ArchsofArch0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes and the minimum standard is, even if you like to sugarbait or whatever, I am really open minded, sure sex can be paid for, dont deliberately try to backstab me. This is it. You can be on drugs. It's okay.

She did stuff I could put her in jail for right now. I just never want her in my life again.

I put the other guys on mute cause I don't want to deal with the drama. And again I don't know them well.

[–]MrAgamemnon0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

From what he told me, he blocked some of our close friends too, I think it’s for his “image”

Well, there we go. He is creating a fake version of himself online, it is most likely he is ashamed of who he is and how you guys see him or would see through this fake new guy (personality, minor things).

Or one step further, blatant lies and made up stories which he knows he might get called out on.

Or he is ashamed of you guys.

[–]Andgelyo[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

In other words he’s a fake, the more I read other people’s comments the better I feel about ghosting this guy

[–]ArchsofArch-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Based on what, the guys supported me, women don't. I don't keep female friends.

You can do whatever you want.

They are not even people I know well, she is not even from my school. She was in my school for like 6 months.

I have never been to her city.

I met them once on a house party.

This is my standards of friendship.

I don't care you like to sleep around for benefits or are a virgin or are poor or rich or whatever. Or you tend to be on drugs or having bipolar issues or are suffering from thyroid disorders, or are without a job and stalking a chick you met once.

Don't fuck up my life deliberately. The moment you try to pull some whale dominance shit to ruin something for me, is the day I will cut contacts.

And its really simple, I would have supported her if she was just sleeping around for money, but I can't stay in contact with her, if she is doing that and trying to ruin my life.

This is my standards.

I don't think think she has anything I should be insecure about. Her family is on rent and she is the only provider and she isn't doing a good enough job for that.

If anything I think i am a very non judgemental person.

Her highlight of her life is eating out of your ex.

[–]ArchsofArch-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That could be cause she doesn't have an image.

She is the cum dumpster for her town (all of them) and that fat whale wasn't ltred by her poverty line bfs. She is bipolar and on meds and has thyroid issues. I haven't talked to her for three years.

I care about my image, cause I have one.

I can't have her in my life, my image will fall.

She wanted to fuck me over. This was premeditated.

I don't care what saccharine bs she pulls above it, I don't stay in contact with backstabbers.

I will never hangout with her again, or talk to her. You do you.

[–]KeisezrGo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Friendships are not that important as people make them out to be. Personally i put MINIMUM effort in keeping a friendship, so once in a month or two i might talk to you, i think being so into the whole friendship bullshit game is strange, i don't see any benefits.

[–]Battletoad1010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

wot a snek

[–]ArchsofArch-1 points0 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I met that chick once,

And for what she did she is lucky I am not pressing charges on her.

My best friend just got married.

Tell her if she talks to my family or friends or anyone about me again, expect a lawsuit.

Jaw unreleaaaaashed. Also she is a prostitute. Actually prostitutes have a lower count than her, but she does stuff for benefits, does it matter if she is a cum dumpster?

I will never have her back in my life. Faaaaak.

[–]MrAgamemnon3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What is the relevance of this to OP's post?

So you put a "prostitute" in her place with the threat of a "lawsuit"?

Please, keep your autistic imaginations in your head.

[–]RedSkeller2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't have a problem with women being here and posting, but try and make sense at least.

[–]ArchsofArch0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel some women think that if their hamsters are strong enough and they fake that they have anything remarkable about them, it might look like it's true.

[–]Andgelyo[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Lol laughed at this. In all seriousness, i think real friends wouldn’t block or delete their friends off social media.

[–]ArchsofArch0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have a short life and I don't want to waste it on someone who likes to stuff dicks in her blubber.

The last time we ever interacted was 3 years ago. I don't see the point of having her in my life she is the kind of person now I wouldn't let near my family.

I was thinking of calling the cops on her. Next time she interacts with anyone I know expect a court case.

Why are you hanging out with mentally ill prostitutes?

[–]ArchsofArch0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your ex is so toxic why are you keeping Her in your life ? You can find someone else. If I had to jump so many hoops to be in an ltr with someone I won't.

Her relationships involve her making people agree on her bs and forcing them to follow her agenda. Even if you love her you will never have freedom.

Date someone else, not me if you hate me, but at least someone who has lower control issues.

Seriously there is a reason other guys don't ltr them maybe you can't see the emotional manipulation they are doing.

Pick someone healthy. Pick that last brunette you were with, she was sane.

I am hot. I'm saner than your options. My current people around me are outliers.

But I wish you well.

I have never been hurt /abused by anyone in my life.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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