When should I initiate?

0io- · 2019-04-06T16:33:15+00:00

You should be initiating a lot and should have started a while ago. If you're not having sex with your wife you should be getting divorced. So, have sex with your wife. That means you have to keep initiating often.

Who has your wife been having sex with for the last three months while you conduct your experiment?

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-04-06T17:43:21+00:00

“When should I imitate?”

Whenever you want to fuck.

GoodWillFunky · 2019-04-06T16:53:22+00:00

This was the most outstanding thing said by Carl this morning on the podcast: “I’m not getting pussy. She’s getting cock” All MRP resumed right there. Go and meditate about it.

red88lobster · 2019-04-06T22:11:41+00:00

You should be initiating when;

You walk into a room and she is in the room. She bends over to pick up anything. She gets out of the shower. You get home from work. She gets home. She is home. She's alive

HornsOfApathy · 2019-04-06T16:41:19+00:00

You went wrong when you let your faggot ego play a stupid game of withholding sex with your wife so you wouldnt either get rejected, or have shitty sex because you failed to inspire desire in your wife. Either way - you're being a faggot.

Cut the monk mode out, game your wife and initiate when you want.

InChargeMan · 2019-04-06T20:07:55+00:00

Yes, hormones, stress, sleep, etc etc etc will affect desire.

You know what else? If Chris Hemsworth was in the picture her libido would come back like a Benny Hinn miracle healing just took place. She would guzzle his cum like it was the elixir of life.

The point? It isn't that she doesn't want to have sex. She doesn't want to have sex with you. You need to get your mind around this before you can advance to the next chapter.

screechhater · 2019-04-06T17:32:24+00:00

Frame and Owning Your Shit as the leader of the pack has a lot to do with her desire and mother mode means nothing.

As does menopause on a woman’s desire to fuck and blow

Red-Nerd13 · 2019-04-06T22:59:01+00:00

Two things, don't talk about fight club. If it gets brought up, you just say I'm reading some self-improvement stuff or whatever you want. My wife only asked once,I said some growth/improvement books. She didn't ask again. It's common for me to be reading this kind of stuff. Finance, business, personal growth, etc.

Second thing, the sex memorandum is for you, not her. Some guys here think it's dumb, I personally used it. I didn't say anything about it though. I put a time limit in my head to pass on sex if it wasn't what I wanted. If I did get what I wanted, then I'd take it, Fuck furiously, & give her lots of attention & affection as a reward.

When I got what I wanted, I was happy to give her what she wanted. I was done play the earning game though. If she didn't give me the sex I wanted, I'd simply say, no thanks, I think I can wait, slap her ass or something of the sort and switch topics. The point is of the memorendum is to release your dependence & expectations so you can just be happy regardless of what happens.

It doesn't happen overnight, and you'll get told no, or offered starfish sex or hand job. You as the leader just politely say that's not what your after and move on with zero hard feelings. I said this once and it was really effective, "No thanks, if all I wanted was to get off, I'd just go rub one out in the bathroom. I'd want to be with & connect with you". It was in a joking tone, but one of those jokes that we all knew was kinda serious.

Every situation will be different. You need to asses how to move forward with yours. I can tell you that over time I have reached a point (within reason) where if I want sex, I simply take it and she comply willingly, wettingly, and happily more often than not.

ChokingDownRP · 2019-04-06T17:50:20+00:00

I credit reading NMMNG with the majority of my unfucking, but there are 2 parts of NMMNG that I strongly disagree with:

1: The party that said you should tell your wife that you're working on improving and even have her read the book.

2: You guessed it... Sex moratorium.

Initiate whenever you feel like fucking. If fucking is important to you, and she is refusing to do it when you initiate, you have some choices to make. If you're not initiating because you're afraid of rejection, you're really just afraid to face the bigger truth: she doesn't desire you and she doesn't see you as a high value man. You know these things to be true... You're just going with the excuse of a self- imposed moratorium because that hurts your feel less, amirite?

johnn2015 · 2019-04-06T15:36:22+00:00

I think this monk mode of yours is an excuse to not get rejected anymore. Instead of try to initiate sex with her you should make her wants to have sex with you. Work on your game, flirt, take control, not be needy and be generally attractive.

jimmy_thetulip · 2019-04-06T16:02:31+00:00

monk mode

Fuck that shit. Be a man and Initiate whenever the fuck you want.

Faggot

SBIII · 2019-04-06T15:47:13+00:00

If you read a book telling you to go on a food moratorium, would you do it? I mean, would you starve yourself to death because someone suggested that you should do it?

The fuck you would.

BostonBrakeJob · 2019-04-06T17:40:18+00:00

When do you want to start initiating again?

More importantly, how do you initiate? Be honest. Is she a rubix cube or a sex toy?

SteelToeShitKicker · 2019-04-07T00:39:34+00:00

It's been three months now since telling her that we should take a fast from sex.

Um, why would you do this?

Sepean · 2019-04-07T11:22:44+00:00

When should I come off of "monk mode" if that's what you want to call it. When should I start initiating sex again?

Next time the kids sleep.

ReddJive · 2019-04-08T12:27:30+00:00

Muscular In shape, Good looking, Good career,

And gosh darn it people like you.

Except your wife. I wonder why?

sars445 · 2019-04-08T21:11:12+00:00

You're over thinking this. Just initiate when you want to, and often

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2019-04-06T23:35:51+00:00

I set up this situation w/ my(48) girlfriend(33). We both sleep without any clothes. Given the simplicity of the first situation, I naturally assume that any time she sleeps in my bed naked, she is interested in sex. Makes initiating sex a lot clearer. Occasionally she gets in bed w/ underwear on and when I roll over to pull her close I’ll tease her “what is this crap? “ She literally days “oops, sorry” and giggles as she gets takes them off to be naked. It’s all in how you set it up.

Now sometimes, she is interested in sex, but the timing isn’t ideal; tired, long day, early meeting, etc and we don’t have sex when we go to bed. Do I get butt hurt? No, initiate in the morning.