Should I force myself to drive into the city tonight with a friend and go to some bars even though I am severely depressed?

CANN0N_99 · 2019-04-26T23:48:20+00:00

Sounds cliche but please just try it, go gym and smash a workout get a decent sweat on, then at the end of the session pull out a 1-1.5 mile run. Ur mood will stabilise, if u start drinking as soon as possible after that i guarantee u will have a good night. Also don’t fap.

SimplyFishOil · 2019-04-26T23:58:07+00:00

If you don't, you just feed the depression. Do you want to keep being depressed?

izzyinjurious · 2019-04-27T01:09:57+00:00

No bro find a purpose and a craft and just do that and work on taking over the world. I felt shitty at 26 too, I had my quarter life crisis for my shit together and now working towards becoming a programmer which is paying off. Yeah go out push your limits on being comfortable, but mostly lift and work on finding a mission.

masterduelistky · 2019-04-27T00:20:57+00:00

Have to be careful about drinking too much falling deeper into depression, but I think as someone that's in the same situation, being a recluse will eventually only make your need for socializing more profound. I just have learned to go out and not expect anything.

discohumpty · 2019-04-26T23:48:41+00:00

Yes you should definitely go out especially if you don't go out often. You never know what may happen. But (I'm projecting) if you go out with low energy not much will happen. But take it as time to practice socializing. You should be opening girls, but at the very least socializing 'should' help your depression.

Seven_league_boots · 2019-04-27T01:28:25+00:00

Depends how clinical your depression is. Alcohol often makes that worse.

Casd12 · 2019-04-27T02:44:48+00:00

Depression is a negative feedback loop, you need to break it. Go out and enjoy yourself. One step at a time

Jussie_Mullet · 2019-04-27T00:31:21+00:00

Yes there is psychology behind it.

Yes sometimes you have to force yourself to do things.

Ask yourself are you going to feel better after you have done it ?

or are you going to feel better if you stayed at home wrapped in your blankie?

This is the same fucking question people have to ask themselves to trick themselves to go to the gym

And on another note

Fuck your depression

I speak from experience here but question how many hours and days have you lost?

Time is a man's only real Precious commodity.

How much more of your precious commodity will you sacrifice to the false god of depression

ChemicalGiraffe · 2019-04-27T03:40:34+00:00

Go to the gym instead

Enlightened_Chimp · 2019-04-27T04:22:01+00:00

Yes 100%

[deleted] · 2019-04-27T04:22:39+00:00

Hope you went out my dude. Have a drink for me (currently abstaining myself and boy howdy do I miss whiskey hah)

communistcontrolact · 2019-04-27T04:26:26+00:00

Get over it and do t drink alcohol. Be a man

Whoisaryan · 2019-04-27T05:18:44+00:00

Just try to leave your comfort zone, worst case scenario you’ll hate it, but atleast you tried

BurningOrangeHeaven · 2019-04-27T05:19:44+00:00

Instead of a bar and drinking, going out for actual food with your friend might be better for you. Try a new spot

RedPill2018 · 2019-04-27T06:16:21+00:00

Listen to what Cannon said and also clean up your room/house/car. Also, get David Goggins book on Audible. If you have Amazon Prime, you get free credits for Audible in which the credits can be used to purchase books. If you aren’t available to get the book, check out his podcast that he did with Joe Rogan:

https://youtu.be/BvWB7B8tXK8

[deleted] · 2019-04-27T06:27:42+00:00

You never know what will happen. Even when depressed really cool, unexpected shit has happened when I decided to “just go out anyway.” You’ll probably STILL be apprehensive the next time, but as long as you actually walk out your door, you’re good.

gbnz87 · 2019-04-27T08:48:44+00:00

Theres two ways this can go.

You either stay home and stay as you are

Or you go out and because you dont have a good positive vibe you will likely not do well with women and will likely end up going home miserable.

I dont know what your mindset is like so its way too difficult to say.

muddynips · 2019-04-27T09:18:40+00:00

Take what energy you do have, and use it for something building. Depression is an existential angst, so the more you devote yourself toward meaningful efforts the more it will abate.

maljo24 · 2019-04-27T10:19:41+00:00

Push yourself back into life.

FereallyRed · 2019-04-26T23:52:36+00:00

I know I've answered this exact question before.

Your account is years old but you delete everything.

Smells like under a bridge around here.

You trollin, u/bf1bro18 ?

RexAdPortas · 2019-04-27T04:53:11+00:00

Yes.

Staying in your room isn't going to solve it.

OneYearTransform · 2019-04-27T11:17:05+00:00

A change in scenery usually lifts my spirits even though I despise going out sometimes. My room seriously makes me depressed af.

TheGreaterKudu · 2019-04-27T11:38:19+00:00

I’ve been diagnosed with depression. I completely understand how you feel. My secret to recovery from depression or addiction or loneliness or feelings of worthlessness: say “yes” to everything. It’s all brain chemicals, synaptic relays, and existing in the present, which is increasingly difficult the more you stay in your head or on this forum instead of focusing on other people and your surroundings.

Say “yes” to shit lame offer and before you know it you’ll discover a world you didn’t know was right around the corner. You don’t know what you don’t know, and unless you step off of the self obsessed path that, by your own admission, sucks, you’ll keep tripping over the same ugly roots.

[deleted] · 2019-04-27T14:53:14+00:00

Have a few drinks early, then switch to soda waters, if you’re not feeling it, don’t beat yourself up, try to just zen out comfortable in your own skin. The act of simply going out will be good for you.

It’s not that hard to get a few convos going at a bar with women, don’t have a convo for the sake of getting laid, have a convo for the pleasure of convo and for the practice of conversation skills...