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Thank fuck I found this (self.asktrp)

submitted by GGppll

I was fucking ‘heartbroken’ after a short term relationship. Did all the fucking beta shit to try and get her back. Wallowed for weeks, then I found out about TRP and I had a full on eureka moment and feel a lot fucking better (Feel embarrassed about the beta shit I did).

I felt like I always knew this shit, I’ve never had a problem with women (Questionable value, in the past), the problem is trying to LTR the wrong women and getting fucking oneitis and morphing into a beta.

Time to sort my fucking life out. Any more reading I should do?


[–]hiem3w42 points43 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Besides the sidebar? First trp book I read was the book of pook. Don’t forget to lift

[–]mravek18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Book of Pook is awesome. Inspired by the TRP community, I also started reading "Leil Lowndes: How to talk to anyone" mainly because I think of myself a little introverted (hate talking to some people, the shit people say and think makes me retarded)!

[–]GGppll[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I’ve read that, also got the rational male on order, I’ll get that too. I already lift, I’ve been in good shape for 4+ years, just need to get my career in order

[–]TheStumblingWolf23 points24 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Don't feel embarrassed about your past. It's necessary for you to not return to being that way again. Besides, you did what you could with the tools you had at the time.

[–]GGppll[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

If anything I’m thankful it fucking happened now, rather than later

[–]TheStumblingWolf0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah. Same for me too. Some people don't find out until they're ready to go on pension.

[–]GGppll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lucky I found out 40 years before that

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Welcome to the club motherfucker.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed[🍰] 19 points20 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I just posted a 70+ redpill booklist download link on my self-named sub. That should keep you going for a while.

[–]HotHead1212 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I read half of it

[–]GGppll[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Thanks, I’ll take a look

[–]Redditgoodaccount0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]Greaterbird0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Just finished reading The Book of Pook a few days ago.

I agree with a ton of what he said, but near the end of one of the chapters he suggests saying "let's go shopping" to a girl who is having a fit.

While Pook is not suggesting buying things for her, this one rubs me the wrong way. It's rewarding bad behavior with fun and attention, like giving candy to a screaming infant or treats to a barking dog. Pretty soon the dog and toddler will realize shitty behavior = reward. I should know - I've tried this approach a lot in prior days, and the tantrums just get worse and worse.

The better behavior is to calmly tell her your expectations as you would to the child she's behaving like - that you're not going to talk to her while she's upset, and that she can come find you when she's calmed down. Then, withdraw attention until she calms herself down so she can learn to manage her own feelings and behave like and adult. Same approach for stonewalling.

The aim is to get her to stop being enraged.

The aim is to win the war, not the battle. Withdraw attention for bad behavior, save rewards for good behavior that you'd like to replace the bad. E.g. on a day when she's being calm and pleasant, that's when you suggest going shopping. Get her to realize that awesome behavior = good times. Our behavior teaches other people how to treat us.

[–]Redditgoodaccount0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you on this as I generally agree that we can disagree even with the most competent redpillers.

[–]trp_protege0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you. This is very helpful

[–]TheBunk_TB2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I owe my ex girlfriend a debt of grattitude. It wasn't meant to be and it wasnt in my best interest. I was able to find better in my life. This applies to friends as well. I have had people leave and I have left people too.

( I won't be ugly but the side bar is a great resource to start with.)

One thing: It isnt a bad thing that someone left your life. It is often a good thing. We have people enter and leave. If it isn't due to death, it is often due to choice. Your challenge now is to be the best you for you. Be quality and you can have quality in your life.

[–]The-Wizard-of-Oz-2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same. Now man up. And go on.

[–]teveza112 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Its great that the TRP is here.

The more popular "relationship advice" is the same blue pill, beta, coward, woman-centric, circle jerk that has been causing relationships to fail and people to be miserable by the millions.

[–]GGppll[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

And hence why men 30-45 number way to die is suicide

[–]teveza110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, and the media's reaction to that reveals that society doesn't really care about men. Another red pill.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Rollo Tomassi’s “The Rational Male” is basically the Bible of TRP.

[–]GGppll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ordered my man

[–]JarydNei-5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I stumble on these TRP posts sometimes and am just astounded at the idiocy.

[–]GGppll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Alright buddy, keep ya hair on

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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