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Treat her like a little girlField Report (self.askMRP)

submitted by Daddy_ThunderCock

I have this little shitty white dog that lives in my house. My wife took it in as a rescue dog. It’s a maniac with all kinds of anxiety issues. When people came to the house, she would lose her shit and think my wife would be murdered. At times when we first got her I had to put her on her back and rub her tummy to get her to chill the fuck out. Getting angry and yelling when she had a barking fit didn’t work at all. Dogs bark, you can’t get mad.

I planned a few vacations this summer and didn’t tell her about it until recently. I do all kinds of shit and don’t tell her. This is pretty new and hard for her because I really DNGAF if she likes where I wanna go, we are doing it and it’s going to be fun as fuck. I also reject her for sex or stop in the middle of sex regularly. This was the only power she ever had in the relationship. I put her fantastic little pussy on a pedestal and would go to almost any lengths to keep my dick wet. Now that I have an abundance mentality it’s easy to say no to sex I don’t want. The night before I stopped another sex session and went to bed. A lot of non-compliance and shit testing. It was a power struggle and it was important that I held frame and didn’t get butt hurt. I was tired, so I passed out in about a minute.

Dogs bark and women flip out. You can’t get mad at them even if it’s annoying at times. Yesterday wife had a nice little flip out session because she has no frame and is feeling a huge power shift combined with leaving for the day etc. She was trying more power grabs that morning, none worked. I packed everything up and planned to take the kids so she could have some alone time. She said she was coming. I told her she had to apologize for her behavior and promise to be good if she wanted to go. She was bitchy like my 10 year old but complied. A few minutes later she had a full melt down. I had to pin her up against the wall and hold her face and force her to look into my eyes. I told her I loved her and kissed her. She kissed me back and cried. I made her look me in the eyes again, holding her neck and hair by the scalp so she couldn’t move and inch. I told her to tell me that she loved me. She told me she loved me and hugged me while sobbing. Iv'e only done this type of thing in bed, never outside but it worked wonders. After a minute I let her go and she ran upstairs to go finish doing a load of laundry so we could leave. Her attitude totally changed and she was back to being my happy submissive little wife. She was in a perfect mood the whole day and everyone had a good time.

Same shit the next day though. She turned me down for morning sex. I went to make coffee and read. 30 mins later she texted me to come up and fuck her. I said no. 30 mins later she came down and sat on the couch and asked me if I was “mad at her”. I laughed and denied it. She asked to come sit on my lap. I told her she had to straddle me. I moved her shorts aside to check her pussy and she was soaking wet. I told her to go upstairs so I could fuck her. I filled her up with cum and she has been happy and compliant the whole day. In fact, at church she asked permission to go to the bathroom during the sermon and I replied “You are an adult.” Then 10 mins later she said she really had to go and I told her she should. She laughed and said “Oh, I thought you meant to hold it because I was an adult. I am basically a high functioning child.” She is now embracing the idea that she is just a little girl who wants to have fun and has no coping skills or emotional strength. She knows I am unshakable, strong and can be her oak. This makes her feel safe and also very horny.


[–]simbarlionRed Beret10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's not even Wednesday.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro is prolific, that's for sure.

[–]Redpillbrigade179 points10 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

So what’s your question?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

I didn't have one. I thought FR was more of a report on what you did to see what works and what doesn't. Maybe others have had similar experiences and could add to it. I have never been able to pull her out of a really bad tail spin like that before and wanted to share the experience.

[–]hack3geRed Beret3 points4 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Usually FRs get posted on MRP

My wife also had an absolute meltdown this weekend too must have been a full moon or something - "I can't keep up with you. I am not sure I can keep doing this. I can't keep you happy. This isn't me." She shut down hardcore and basically went mute and cried - I kissed her on the forehead, tucked her into bed, told her she needed rest and it would all be better in the morning. I went out and hung out with the guys down the street all night. Next morning woke up to her fucking me while I was sleeping which has never happened before.

Life is simpler when you realize she can't see anything logically and is completely driven by her feelings in the moment and treating her like a child is extremely effective.

Only feedback I have on your FR is that you may want to objectively look at how much you are rejecting her vs. leading her to good sex. I see in a lot of your reports that you consistently walk away from bad sex because of non-compliance and shit testing but shit testing is her way of flirting and checking to see if you are congruent and non-compliance can be her begging for you to lead - do you ask her to do things? command? you may just need to take what you want. At some point in your journey the STFU / walking away needs to become a smaller part of your tool set and you need to more rely on AA/AM/assertiveness to pull her into your frame.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

“Life is simpler when you realize she can't see anything logically and is completely driven by her feelings in the moment and treating her like a child is extremely effective.”

Yes... so much simpler.

Just yesterday, we were watching a movie and she starts taking selfies and playing with all the different filters on snap chat... can’t stay off her phone..

I start thinking, this is the same person I once trusted with our finances, banking, & cash flow.

This is the same person I used to try reasoning with why I needed sex, etc...

Treat them like a little girl is the best advice.

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.04 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have openly started calling my wife "The oldest teenager in the house." to her face and she laughingly agrees with me and says yeah sometimes I need help adulting. I just think to myself jesus christ.

[–]Cam_Winston210 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Just yesterday, we were watching a movie and she starts taking selfies and playing with all the different filters on snap chat... can’t stay off her phone..

I guess this kind of behavior is becoming the norm for women? Mine seemingly can't stay off FB. I generally don't care as long as it doesn't affect me, which it did one time.
"Could you rewind it a few minutes? I didn't hear what ______ said because something-something reading someone's update that really isn't important but I'm trying to make it sound that way so that you'll think it was a good excuse to scroll Facebook right now".
{Click 'pause'}
"No."
[shocked face]
"Why not?"
"I'm not watching it again, get off your phone & pay attention and you won't need anything rewound."
[anger face]
"You don't have to be an asshole, I was just.."
"No."
{Click 'play'}


Don't get the wrong idea, I had that answer already chambered. I'd failed that little test several weeks earlier and had actually rewound it for her.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women are consumers. As much as I hate social media, it’s brilliant for advertising products... genius. Back in the day, one had to go to trade shows to display your ideas/products. MCT even uses it on side projects. It’s so easy to hook women through ads. Feelz= too easy.

Also, women thrive on gossip and drama. It’s the only thing of value -other than the pink- they can offer.

When we were in tribes, the men went off to hunt & fight during the day, women stayed back. They did what they do best, gossiped. They use this information as social leverage. It’s a tool. The only tool they have. Along with Feelz, explains why they can’t stay the fuck off social media.. they’re programmed for it. They strive on feelz and drama.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I didn't think MRP was for beginners to post in so I always post here.

The reason I take sex off the table is because I was hoping to train her that I don't "need" sex and its my gift to her. Ill have to give that some more thought. Also, its probably mixed in with me being exhausted and not having the energy to deal with bullshit, which is a bit weak. Sometimes I only have enough energy to give dick but not deal with mouth noises and be witty with AA/AM. I still don't have the frame I want so I can't always be assertive and pull her in because she will fight me harder. She feels power struggles and digs her heels in. Her only power is pussy, so I remove its value and she stops trying to power grab.

Last night she was shit testing me hard. I was able to fuck with her back and have some really good sex. I could tell it was playful testing, so its easier to deal with. Its more of a softball, and I am not always ready to swing at the fastball shit tests. Still need more frame...

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

With all the dog stuff in the beginning, I thought you were going to connect treating her like a dog to treating her like a child... both are necessary. I was all in...but I was disappointed.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was trying to connect treating her like a dog. Dogs bark, women bitch. Its normal and you just need to chill out and rub a belly or give a hug. Its all the same shit.

Edit: She has literally said "I am just like a puppy. I am cute and need kindness, snuggles and rubs."

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sometimes I only have enough energy to give dick but not deal with mouth noises and be witty with AA/AM. I still don't have the frame I want so I can't always be assertive and pull her in because she will fight me harder. She feels power struggles and digs her heels in. Her only power is pussy, so I remove its value and she stops trying to power grab.

At some point you will enjoy it and find it cute and funny - my wife hates when she gets all riled up and I just smirk and laugh at her. Drives her absolutely nuts because she can tell I know exactly what she is doing and its not working.

I had been getting non-compliance in bed and a lot of push back but I decided to buy a pair of sillicone hand restraints. One day she was pushing back and being a little snarky about something in bed so I told her to put her hands above her head and took them out and cuffed her around the head board and told her she doesn't get a say anymore. YMMV but now sometimes I think she gets snippy just so I will put them on her.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Meltdowns. WTF is this shit ?

Do not show weakness in your frame

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mine was a comfort test as I've failed similar ones in the past with very poor results. The one thing I think I failed on was not initiating - I should have create the connection between sex and comfort for her. She used to have these meltdowns every few weeks but now they don't happen very often.

Anything else I missed? How would you have handled the situation differently?

[–]JameisBong7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Stopped reading when Christian grey here lost his shit over some dog. Dude if any of this is true you are doing too much. Plan vacations with some of her input, otherwise it is pointless to have her come along.If you really DNGAF,you would take off on a fun weekend alone and tell her when you'll be back.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am bringing her so she can cook things and fuck, input isn't needed.

[–]FoxShitNasty832 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

How did you take the pussy off the pedalstool? Just don't want or need it? Get it elsewhere? What were things like for you, pre MRP?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I didn't know I was getting so much validation from sex until MRP. I was basically a crack addict for pussy and let her know how much I needed her. I felt really shitty if I wasn't getting laid and would even get depressed. My identity as a man was connected to sex. I got a lot of sex pre MRP but again it was all in her frame. She controlled when it happened and how it happened. I had to walk on eggshells and make sure she didn't get mad at me so I could fuck at night. I was always fearful of her attitude because it could mean me not getting laid and thus not getting my fix. She knew I was completely dependent upon her.

Taking it off the pedestal was a mind shift that took some effort and time. I still want lots of sex, but I don't "need" it anymore. First, I got over the idea that I could never divorce her. Before MRP I was terrified of divorce so it was never on the table in my mind. Once I got over the idea that I was "trapped" in a marriage I was miserable in I started to get some power back. I realized that I was extremely fuckable and started looking for IOI's and began gaming other women. I have never done this in my marriage and completely ignore women. I wouldn't even notice when I got hit on, which was often according to my friends and wife. I started lifting and went from jacked to super jacked and got even more attention. This helped tremendously with my confidence and knowing that if shit went south, I would have women lining up to happily suck my cock and swallow my cum.

The last part to really push me over the edge of not caring about her pussy was that I was getting so much of it that it that I didn't care anymore. I stopped looking forward to it so much because it was readily available. She is horrified I am going to cheat on her if she doesn't fuck me like I want. Now that we both now I am a man of value, she is trying to keep me happy so I don't go stick my dick in her friends.

[–]FoxShitNasty832 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks Daddy TC that was insightful. The grind continues for me

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You got it, keep grinding my man.

[–]FinancialLeopard5Needs a plunger0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She controlled when it happened and how it happened. I had to walk on eggshells and make sure she didn't get mad at me so I could fuck at night. I

That's exactly where I was.
I'm not getting any of sex now...but..............let's see.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I didn’t read the whole post.

I am allergic to dogs, so I cant have them.

But I know they are more loyal than women.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmaol

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red[🍰] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Do that shit you did with your wife to the little rat dog.

So weird, I usually have to give the opposite advice.

The dog needs a dominance hierarchy. Pin it down on it's back, helpless, get stupid close and glare into it's eyes when it fucks up.

"Who's the alpha, bitch?" You don't get mad, but it's unmistakable who is the top fucking dog and who sets the conditions of the pack.

Then, when the little bitch submits, all back to normal tribal activities.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Am I so awful at writing that you thought this was about my dog not submitting? Lol

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's not about the dog, it's about your dominance.

Since your post began with a flippant "dogs gonna bark, whatcha gonna do" allegory, I extended the metaphor and added some pretty blatant subtext to your externally blamed but internal framed comparison.

Woof.

[–]JCX_Pulse1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The post was good, but the further breakdowns of your method in the comments section was especially valuable, such as how you shifted to an abundance mentality and how you didn’t even notice IOI’s when you started.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I still remember being at a restaurant and wife was flipping out and wanted to fight our server because she was hitting on me and putting her tits in my face. I had such bad oneitis and was so afraid to get in trouble I didn't notice..

Happy my incoherent babbling about shitty rat dogs and bitches helped.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Could it be boundaries ? Nah

Mother fucker, do even lift ?

“Held her head so she could look straight into my eyes, while I pinned her against the wall... “

Wow, I got a raging hard on.

Lead so you don’t have to do that shit, “Daddy Autist”. Fuck almighty.

Lead with example. Explicitly high SMV via extreme fitness, wardrobe, hygiene etc. dread level ? Condition compliance with ?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dread level is very low because she flips out and it doesn't help. I get plenty of sex so I was coached to back down on dread. She was crying a lot and accusing me of cheating when I went out often. To be fair one night at a bar before closing I smiled at a girl and she leaned over and grabbed my cock. You would think I would get compliance with my SMV, but I don't.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dread. Slowly so it’s not an impact.

Jack Ten wrote a good one, where all of sudden an awakening happens. Oh, shit moment

Dread has to be subtle.

Lift, diet. Pass shit tests, build the action plan and start the life away, then start conditioning

Very subtle. I can manipulate with level 4 sitting in the same room.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

/u/Daddy_ThunderCock I had no idea you were a yap-dog enthusiast.

If we find out that you ride a moped, I think there will be a schism in this sub.

also

stfu

lift

sidebar

[–]yes_kid-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great post. Can you elaborate on what kind of shit tests, and how you responded? Details would be great. Thanks!

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