How to deal with a brat

light-----------dark · 2019-06-27T22:37:05+00:00

they get brattier.

have fun it with.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-06-27T23:20:53+00:00

Didn’t realize you are new at this - judging from your name and previous very good replies.

Think what you’re dealing with is typical “responsive desire”. Most women have RD.

While men can look at a naked picture of a hot chick and immediately get a hard on and be ready to fuck, doesn’t always work like that with women.

Sex starts in her mind first. That’s why we always say you have to fuck her mind first - and then her body second. Takes them awhile to warm up, to start thinking about what you’re telling them, to get a hit of feelz off of it. To play out the drama for herself.

That’s why you need to start gaming first thing in the morning when your feet hit the floor. Kino, flirting, spanking, drive bys, telling her that ass looks and feelz so good you can’t wait to smash it tonight. Text game during the day to keep it going, etc.

Marriage game is red pill on hard mode- the challenge is gaming the same bitch day in and day out for the long haul... keeping her attracted to you. And if you aren’t gaming her, you aren’t fucking her. She isn’t like a girlfriend who is programmed to be on her best behavior because she’s auditioning for the role.... plates are always dtf. Wives, not so much - when all of society preaches to her equality and happy wife happy life. She’ll try to push boundaries with you, that’s okay though, just remind her of the pecking order.. she’ll get back in line.

It’s a wife’s natural tendency- hypergamy- to look for the next best thing and to want to coast and turn you back to Beta - to keep you so unattractive that no other women would ever want to fuck you. You’re her beta provider ($), she can’t afford to lose you. Women know when a man is fucking.. she doesn’t want other women to sniff that out.

That’s why you must keep your SMV on point, dress, fitness, finance, dread, keep your value up and know how to deliver that value.

She’ll keep shit testing you (some are bratty yes) but they get easier.

They’ll be times when there will be no LMR, but most of the time it pays dividends to stroke her responsive desire (all the fucking time all day long). I think what you’re experiencing is her getting caught off guard with your advances when she hasn’t even had time to think about it. Last thing on her mind probably. Hence, the hand slapping you and the comment about you “scaring her”. She’s literally saying I’m not feelzing it. You didn’t create any tingles ^tm for me - you just trying to stick it in. Women get off more on the mind fuck then the actually fuck.

She needs to understand that there is a man in the house who wants to fuck everyday. Always be closing though. Fuck her mind first.

Beta game attempts to her stroke responsive desire but fucks it up. Instead of gaming her (displays of high value) and activating attraction triggers, betas go full retard with covert contracts: flowers, back rubs, expensive diamonds and vacations, date night, happy wife happy life, etc. these are great for comfort building but suck at attraction building. You actually lose value in her eyes the more you put her on the pedestal.

ReddJive · 2019-06-28T11:45:15+00:00

Some details you left out when we were talking.

/U/Sepean has good questions you need to ask yourself. I asked you. Are you a Brat Tamer?

Your wife is perfectly bratty. I love brats. Love shit tests. A lot of guys can't stand the perception of disrespect. Shit tests aren't disrespectful normally. They can be but it's all in the tone. Still if she stops shit testing you then you need to wonder what's up.

For a brat They are a test and as a brat she's trying to rile you up. make you lose control. you should be able to pass easily. She's testing if you are man enough if you are then it shouldn't even register. What does is her signal that she wants a man. She wants to be spanked. Used.

How deep this goes for her is something you'll have to explore. For some it's the front wall to true submissive. Others it's little girl. Then other still like it right there.

Brats need rules. Clear rules. Mostly because they like to find loopholes and test Daddy. Can they push him? Can she? Hint she isn't supposed to. She breaks a rule she's punished. Rules are rules. At this point I'd start a board and write a couple rules down she walks in your office. She asks what they are you tell her. Bet you get some fun out of that. My first two would be

No talking back. Not eye rolling or sticking out your tongue.

Sometimes her breaking a rule is her wanting the punishment more. And don't forget rewards. Just as fun.

I also told you she isn't to hit you so you need to stop that. Rules.

Captain_pants4 · 2019-06-28T00:17:19+00:00

I question if I’m too rough at times, but then again my woman always cums right away when I turn up the heat.

Sepean · 2019-06-28T07:32:35+00:00

There's some stuff here you need to unpack.

Is she really a brat, in the BDSM sense? If so, how deep does her fetish go?

Do you like dealing with a brat, are you that type of dom? Is it something you want to cultivate in her, or do you prefer a submissive, or are you into vanilla?

Depending on the answers, you're either going to want to seek out the BDSM community to learn more about the dynamic that is right for you, or to use MRP tools to take this in a vanilla direction. Right now, you seem to be going in the direction of brattiness and consensual non-consent, and you need to be very clear that is what you actually want. I get the vibe that this is more what she wants and that she's strongly topping from the bottom.

simbarlion · 2019-06-27T23:11:54+00:00

Pigeonholing is a process that attempts to classify disparate entities into a limited number of categories. The term usually carries connotations of criticism, implying that the classification scheme referred to inadequately reflects the entities being sorted, or that it is based on stereotypes.

"Pigeonholing" or labelling things like BDP, FA, Bratty (etc.), allow us to blame her for "insert problem" .so our brain (hamster) can then rest because we have found the problem. I am not saying they don't have a real impact, just that it actually doesn't change much once you give the label. Its still all your fault - thrive on these unique challenges you face.

Also: I think you are pushing the whole "physical contact" thing, it comes across as predatory. DV is a fine line as i understand it. If a friend of mine told me that story at a party, I'd be raising it with him.

silent_dominant · 2019-06-28T05:55:15+00:00

Dear God I hope they won't. You'll have to come up with all sorts of reasons to punish them then...

red-sfpplus · 2019-06-28T14:32:47+00:00

Comparing a Brat to a Submissive is like comparing a Corvette to an F1 because they are both “sports cars”

A Brat is one of two things:

A girl who just likes rough sex and has zero intentions of being a SUB

-or-

A girl who needs a strong DOM to make her comfortable being a SUB. This is done by training, trust and proper aftercare.

SUB is a state of mind. NOT physical acts.

Its that simple. Anything else is mental masterbation.

CaliEd256 · 2019-06-28T02:10:16+00:00

That’s not a submissive.

It’s like you’re wrestling with a dog, and it keeps biting you, so you wrestle harder. It might be fun, but one day the dog is going to bite you in the fucking throat.

Analogy you ask?

All it takes is a bruise, a mark on her ass, and her to get pissed off and call 911. Now your dumb ass is sleeping on a futon while she rapes your bank accounts. And you’re also busy wondering if you’re going to jail or not.

Brats aren’t submissive. It’s not cute, and it’s not funny. Unacceptable. If she says no to sex, withdraw attention.

Red Pill rules apply MORE in a d/s relationship, not less.