Wife’s a lazy in bed. Do you acknowledge low quality sex

IncitingDramah · 2019-07-23T15:21:24+00:00

Quantity of sex is there. Just need quality after 18 years with her I need to make it exciting and fun

After what I've seen with my wife and her enthusiasm I think there's two basic elements:

1) You have to be attractive - physically, mentally, and emotionally

2) You have to lead her in the bedroom

On #1

I relied. “your lazy”

I know I fucked up with how fast I reacted but I just replied “ I’m going to bed”

But then said some stupid shit like “Yeah so what I worked hard all day and it would have liked my wife climb on top and do the work for a change “

Is NOT attractive'

On #2

How have you lead her here? If she starts starfish, caveman on her, pull her on top of you and tell her to fuck you? You can't lead her/demand things when she's not turned on - you need to do it in the act - when her conscious brain shuts down and her hind-brain takes over. Once you push her boundary... guess what? There's no more boundary.

useful_stranger · 2019-07-23T16:07:43+00:00

I wouldn’t talk with her about how tired I was. Remember she doesn’t really care. She cares about how you make her feel. When your woman hears you say “I am tired” she hears you say “I am not worthy”. And thus she feels a bit let down, and with a burden on herself she didn’t have before. It’s subtle and even unconscious- bottom line : you lose attraction.

Act and talk like you are full of energy, never tired to give her a good dose of manhood.

Try this : “babe I nailed it today at work I got so much done it’s insane. I would love nothing more than your sweet sweet pussy to be right on top of me” or smth like that. As a matter of fact why don’t you start by eating her out while you’re relaxing laying on your back (have her sit on your face basically) . Get that clit nice and swollen and taste her when she cums. Then just slide her down and she can ride you facing or reverse cow girl if you’d rather look at her ass. Bonus if you have a mirror on your dresser/closet.

Turn her on a bit, then have her do as you please...

SBIII · 2019-07-23T21:15:40+00:00

Do you acknowledge low quality sex

I keep score cards on my bedside locker. After sex, I hold up one of the cards, rating her effort out of 10.

ReddJive · 2019-07-23T15:12:51+00:00

Sometimes a man wants to get fucked.

I don't understand any word in that sentence.

red-sfpplus · 2019-07-23T15:34:15+00:00

Cause when I bust my nut, Im raising up off the cot.

Ketonian_Empire · 2019-07-23T16:06:35+00:00

Buy a sex position book, tell her to study it, and she will be graded that night. Ha

HB3234 · 2019-07-23T21:44:04+00:00

It sounds a little like you've got two parallel desires. One is to not always lead in sex. The other is to get more validation/admiration/respect for the work you put in. You have tied them together so that when you have to take the active role in sex, you feel your other efforts are unappreciated.

If you come to your wife with both of these desires still tangled up, she will naturally recoil. Women hate validation sex, because suddenly we are just a prop to the real experience... Your focus is the validation, not the sex.

For an affectionate wife, a tired but horny husband is an instant cue for oral. If she's otherwise devoted and wants to please you, there are probably some fun/ flirt/ dominant ways to get her to this conclusion. I am sure the men here can guide you on this better than me.