Next up on the creative writing subs: a divorced mom of two with a victim complex so obvious that everyone is calling her out on it. Similar sub link: https://archive.is/02QmR
Post title: Am I the asshole for sending my family an angry email because they still speak to my ex-husband and even have him over, especially in light of his present “relationship” with a girl 20 years younger than him?
Archive link to her post: https://archive.is/8RYIZ
So basic background is I’m 42, two kids age 14 and 12 and signed divorce papers in April after almost 2 years of it being drug out trying to get my fair share from him.
Yeah I'm sure it was.
The details of “why” are not important
Yes they are, as by her own comments she had an affair. comments/cjt1ng/aita_for_sending_my_family_an_angry_email_because/evfprdp/?context=3
but I’m angry, embarrassed, lost and sad any given moment of the day. A lot of this has to do with feeling like I’ve been “replaced” by a 23 year old surfing instructor who is everything I’m not. My husband and kids claims that she is just his friend and helping him learn his life long desire to surf but Jesus Christ...give me a break.
So she cheated but wants her husband to...what? Cry and moan?
My husband has primary custody because he had better lawyers who were able to manipulate some minor missteps on my part into the court seeing them as a huge deal.
Yeah right. I'm sure you have a bridge in Alaska you want me to buy?
So this past weekend I picked up the kids and said we were going to visit my parents. They said they would rather use thier season passes to sea world since they spent all weekend with my parents and Aunt Stacey and Uncle Brian (my brother and sister who I didn’t even know were in town). I was like your dad took you? They said yes that my parents had invited him over to see everyone. I was devastated because while I don’t get along with my brother and sister (and my mom) they let my ex-husband know they were coming and not me. I can’t even let that sink in without tears forming. I sort of jested that “oh and let me guess Ms Surf Instructor was there too?” My daughter said “well actually we all went to her house in ocean beach because she gave Stacey and Brian lessons after ours.” That included my mom and dad. I was so devastated I took the kids back home and just went home and cried for an hour.
Damn, can't even put aside her differences with her ex to spend time with her kids. Her daughter also can't help but twist the knife more.
When I was done I sent a furious email to my entire family how inappropriate they all had been and then not only hanging out with my ex for an entire weekend, but his little chippy as well is a massive slap in the face and the fact they didn’t even tell they were in town let alone invite me makes me feel so alone.
Can't imagine why...
My mom was the only one to respond and she basically said “yes it was rude we didn’t tell you Stacey and Brian were here and we shouldn’t have done that. But we didn’t divorce Bradley, and we still see him as a son. This email along with your behavior over the last 5 years should really give you insight into why we might not want you at family events.”
Ouch. Mom's spitting out some cold hard facts.
In so many words she called me asshole for sending the email, was I?
Edit : to the people installing their own narrative on my post, yta. Just read what I wrote in the OP for your decision, ok?
So she wants us to disregard her goldmine of comments lol
Her own comments say that she was the victim for having an affair for 3 years. According to her she was "manipulated into by an uneven power dynamic." comments/cjt1ng/aita_for_sending_my_family_an_angry_email_because/evg1o10/?context=3
Sometimes the delusion is so strong that even mainstream Reddit has to wake up and smell the bs.
Archive link to her profile: https://archive.is/spVSL