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Next up on the creative writing subs: a divorced mom of two with a victim complex so obvious that everyone is calling her out on it. Similar sub link: https://archive.is/02QmR

Post title: Am I the asshole for sending my family an angry email because they still speak to my ex-husband and even have him over, especially in light of his present “relationship” with a girl 20 years younger than him?

Archive link to her post: https://archive.is/8RYIZ

Main post:

So basic background is I’m 42, two kids age 14 and 12 and signed divorce papers in April after almost 2 years of it being drug out trying to get my fair share from him.

Yeah I'm sure it was.

The details of “why” are not important

Yes they are, as by her own comments she had an affair. comments/cjt1ng/aita_for_sending_my_family_an_angry_email_because/evfprdp/?context=3

but I’m angry, embarrassed, lost and sad any given moment of the day. A lot of this has to do with feeling like I’ve been “replaced” by a 23 year old surfing instructor who is everything I’m not. My husband and kids claims that she is just his friend and helping him learn his life long desire to surf but Jesus Christ...give me a break.

So she cheated but wants her husband to...what? Cry and moan?

My husband has primary custody because he had better lawyers who were able to manipulate some minor missteps on my part into the court seeing them as a huge deal.

Yeah right. I'm sure you have a bridge in Alaska you want me to buy?

So this past weekend I picked up the kids and said we were going to visit my parents. They said they would rather use thier season passes to sea world since they spent all weekend with my parents and Aunt Stacey and Uncle Brian (my brother and sister who I didn’t even know were in town). I was like your dad took you? They said yes that my parents had invited him over to see everyone. I was devastated because while I don’t get along with my brother and sister (and my mom) they let my ex-husband know they were coming and not me. I can’t even let that sink in without tears forming. I sort of jested that “oh and let me guess Ms Surf Instructor was there too?” My daughter said “well actually we all went to her house in ocean beach because she gave Stacey and Brian lessons after ours.” That included my mom and dad. I was so devastated I took the kids back home and just went home and cried for an hour.

Damn, can't even put aside her differences with her ex to spend time with her kids. Her daughter also can't help but twist the knife more.

When I was done I sent a furious email to my entire family how inappropriate they all had been and then not only hanging out with my ex for an entire weekend, but his little chippy as well is a massive slap in the face and the fact they didn’t even tell they were in town let alone invite me makes me feel so alone.

Can't imagine why...

My mom was the only one to respond and she basically said “yes it was rude we didn’t tell you Stacey and Brian were here and we shouldn’t have done that. But we didn’t divorce Bradley, and we still see him as a son. This email along with your behavior over the last 5 years should really give you insight into why we might not want you at family events.”

Ouch. Mom's spitting out some cold hard facts.

In so many words she called me asshole for sending the email, was I?


Edit : to the people installing their own narrative on my post, yta. Just read what I wrote in the OP for your decision, ok?

So she wants us to disregard her goldmine of comments lol

Her own comments say that she was the victim for having an affair for 3 years. According to her she was "manipulated into by an uneven power dynamic." comments/cjt1ng/aita_for_sending_my_family_an_angry_email_because/evg1o10/?context=3

Sometimes the delusion is so strong that even mainstream Reddit has to wake up and smell the bs.

Archive link to her profile: https://archive.is/spVSL

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[–]throwlaca 332 points333 points  (24 children)

Lesson: When your own mom calls you a bitch then you might be a bitch.

My ex always feared I would go away with a younger girl as her dad did the same to her mom. Then 5 years ago she cheated, we separated and guess what, I'm with a girl 15 years younger. Destiny fulfilled, lol.

[–]Bruchibre 90 points91 points  (15 children)

Why did she cheat? Was it your fault? /S

[–]throwlaca 217 points218 points  (8 children)

Obviously it was indirectly my fault. My fault for dating whores.

[–]Menchstick 44 points45 points  (1 child)

You had an uneven power dinamic, clearly.

[–]Bruchibre 36 points37 points  (4 children)

I hope you begged for forgiveness on your knees. And learned the lesson.

[–]throwlaca 66 points67 points  (2 children)

Don't remember but I was a huge Beta back then. Now, I'm just a smaller beta.

[–]Bruchibre 42 points43 points  (0 children)

We've all been there. You're on the right path brother.

[–]volvostupidshit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You forgot about the roses.

[–]1neveragoodtime 56 points57 points  (0 children)

This happens so much it’s cliche. But it’s not, “he left her for a younger woman,” that’s her side of the story. She actually cheated and left him after sex starving their marriage, and then was shocked when he started pulling women 10-20 years younger than her. Meanwhile, men 10 years older than her are turning their noses up, they don’t want to carry her baggage.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lesson: When your own mom calls you a bitch then you might be a bitch.


[–]RightHandWolf 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The Mirror of Galadriel strikes again!

[–]PeterPansSyndrome 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I imagine you get hated on for dating a younger girl. Women even hate Leonardo Dicaprio for that.

[–]throwlaca 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah, I'm 40, my new GF is 30 (yeah my ex is 45). It's ok.

Problem start at the 'less than 25' limit, that is exactly the age bracket you should date.

[–]JurrasicBarf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is happened to me, girl kept saying you’ll find someone else prettier than me bla bla.

And in the end she cheated with someone else for vague reasons. I was into honestly and beta bullshit back then.

Now I run 2 plates like her alongside a main plate

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So the bitch didn't fall far from the whore tree?

[–]Endorsed ContributorThotwrecker 236 points237 points  (19 children)

Just goes to show you, you have to play to win. If you're getting divorced because you found out your wife has been cheating on you, and you want to make her miserable, you have to proactively try to fuck her over.

This dude's lawyer went Cochran-mode. He came ready to fight and win, he did his homework instead of despairing and posting on the internet about how much he loves his wife and how does he "fix the marriage" and "win her back".

This is why if you're in a shitty marriage, you need to be proactive. Make your life not shit anymore, go on the offensive, try to fuck her over in court. Stop being reactive and and in "fair" mode -- she won't play fair either, you have to be proactive and cold.

This story may well be made up, who cares, if it's a fantasy, that only makes the point MORE clear. If you're married with kids and you wake up to this horror story of a wife, this guy is who you want to be. He knows his hot surfer girl replacing her at family events is driving her fucking crazy -- that's how you win in life. Think macro, stop worrying about your bitch ass hoe ass feelings and think long-term and large scale. Assess your life critically and frequently and make sure you're aligned with what you want to be.

This woman isn't "the asshole". She's your average beta's standard issue hamster. She's your average Skyler White of heartland America, your military wife, your tradcon bride. This is just women being women. Don't be in a bad position, always keep the upper hand and keep it firmly. If you can do better and you know it, then trade up.

[–]friendandadvisor 83 points84 points  (8 children)

The dude's lawyer could have been mediocre! It takes more than a husband's slick lawyer to get a child away from the mother. She probably neglected t o mention the "assaulting a police officer with a deadly weapon" conviction. Anything less and ol' Dad would be going over to pick them up every other weekend.

[–]halfback910 61 points62 points  (2 children)

Yeah there must be some serious "Mommy does drugs and doesn't feed me." Shit going on.

[–]friendandadvisor 2 points3 points  (1 child)

From what I hear, mom doing drugs, and even selling them doesn't qualify for losing custody.

[–]halfback910 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've seen that one go both ways.

Part of the issue is that if mommy is doing and dealing drugs, usually the father isn't like... a SUPER high quality guy either. Bigtime Manhattan lawyers don't date heroin addicts.

[–]I_HATE_GOLD_ 27 points28 points  (2 children)

Yeah the court is stacked in moms favor. She goes into say she was an “unfit driver” sounds like she has an addiction problem to go along with her infidelity

[–]NightFire45 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Considering when she found out about the weekend family visit, returned the kids and went to cry there is probably evidence the husband kept of child abandonment when she banged dude #2. Also considering she's all wrecked now dude #2's branch broke when she tried to swing to it.

[–]MilkMoney111 23 points24 points  (0 children)

But the “details don’t matter” lmao toxic bitch

[–]lobstergenocide 12 points13 points  (0 children)

One of the comments she left said she went to the wrong spot for a soccer game and left her 10-yo daughter alone for 2+ ours in ocean beach CA waiting to be picked up. That’s some serious child endangerment

[–]vicious_armbar 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I've been though it. It takes more than a slick lawyer to get custody over the mom. You need a good lawyer AND enough money to throw at the legal system AND the mom has to be fucked up AND you need to be able to prove it AND you need a halfway decent judge.

Even then most judges will refuse to enforce the parenting agreement you've paid thousands of dollars to create. The standard is usually for judges to lock up the father if he's the fuck up. But only to chastise both parents if the woman is clearly at fault. As always our injustice system gives jail time to men, and therapy (if that) to women.

[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillcad 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Yes, unfucking your own life can save a marriage better than working on the relationship And if marriage ain't savable there is a much younger, hotter, tighter bitch around the corner who cant wait to suck off and please a real man

[–]lobstergenocide 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Working on the relationship never solved shit. She doesn’t respect you because you’re such a great SO that listens and cares and yadda yadda bullshit. She respects you for being a man or she doesn’t respect you at all. Marriage counseling and “working on the relationship” is a racket to put your money into your therapists’ pockets before you get divorce raped and lose the rest of it anyway.

[–]catchpull 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe this haven’t been upvoted to the moon.

[–]whats_the_deal22 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Think macro, stop worrying about your bitch ass hoe ass feelings and think long-term and large scale. Assess your life critically and frequently and make sure you're aligned with what you want to be.

I can't tell you how much I like this statement. I wish I could tattoo it on my arm for the next time I'm acting like a bitch ass hoe.

[–]Tbonesupreme 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Fair point.

Although I don't think pissing off your ex is the right motivation, if you can envision what would make her crazy with jealousy - it's probably the life you want to be living, anyway.

[–]lobstergenocide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Success is the best revenge

[–]heartbroken_nerd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Never in the history of TRP has anyone posted a comment that fit with their nickname more.

[–]Gnosiis_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stop being reactive and and in "fair" mode -- she won't play fair either, you have to be proactive and cold.

That's exactly right. This point reminds me of that Michelle Obama quote: "When they go low we go high". As much as I love her it's the totally wrong approach. The problem with "low people" is that they don't respect people who take the moral high ground. If they did, then they wouldn't be low people in the first place. If you actually want to beat these kinds of people you have to do so in their own game, especially women. For them it's just good business. There's no need to voluntarily give up anything you don't want to in the name of fairness and equality when you have the means to keep it. This is the only way to defeat a selfish enemy.

[–]SergiuIlescu 87 points88 points  (2 children)

One of her comments

My husband told me flat of he was not attracted to me since I was fat. The supplier said everything I wanted/needed to hear to feel like a person again and manipulated me into the affair

The delusion...

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 36 points37 points  (1 child)

My husband has primary custody because he had better lawyers who were able to manipulate some minor missteps on my part into the court seeing them as a huge deal.

But nothing is ever her fault.

[–]severus_iudex 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That is the most common denominator in most RedPill examples I've got. It's never their fault.

[–]Aethetico 179 points180 points  (36 children)

Make them jealous by finding someone better. Always works

[–]throwlaca 190 points191 points  (5 children)

Don't even make them jealous. Just forget about them.

[–]K1KK0_1t4 73 points74 points  (0 children)

He did. She didn't 🤷‍♂️

[–]rnsbrum 24 points25 points  (1 child)

I feel like making them jealous only increases the possibilities of her trying to fuck up your life

[–]bcvickers 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Worse than she already has? AWALT probably applies here so, yes.

[–]jrr6415sun 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Well it’s different when you have kids and have to see them every week.

[–]thechaosz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not when you have custody.

Ez game

[–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 87 points88 points  (27 children)

This is why abundance IMO is the single most effective tool in an LTR.

In this story, you had a wife who cheated on and probably left her husband because she thought he was a committed simp who couldn't do any better.

Lo and behold he get's rid of his wife weighing him down and he's banging prime 23 year old surf pussy. This in-turn drives his ex-wife nuts because it shows her that she clearly misjudged the situation, his value and his pussy pulling abilities.

Had he been talking to and displaying his ability to land fine 23 year old's should his wife slip up she would never have stepped out of line.

[–]heartbroken_nerd 7 points8 points  (26 children)

This is why abundance IMO is the single most effective tool in an LTR.

But this entire post/situation has nothing to do with managing LTRs.

He's not going to get back with this 40-something bitch and he wasn't the one who cheated either. She fucked it up, has nothing to do with his abundance or lack thereof.

[–]Ikbenaanhetwerkhoor 28 points29 points  (25 children)

It does. I think you misread.

If husband showed his ex-wife he could be pulling prime snatch she wouldn't have cheated in the first place. Therefor managing his LTR

[–]heartbroken_nerd 46 points47 points  (22 children)

Therefore he'd still be stuck with a woman clearly fucked in the head to the point her own mother doesn't want anything to do with her. What a win.

This has nothing to do with abundance. You don't need a replacement ready to go before you leave a toxic relationship.

[–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 16 points17 points  (4 children)

We're discussing two different but very related factors that intersect to make up an LTR.

The first factor is how you as the man, the supposed leader, behave in the relationship. Do you take control and direct proceedings and diplay traits that inspire desire and obedience or do you quiver and suplicate like a beta simp inspiring comfort and boredom.

The second factor, the one you're pointing out, is partner choice. Choosing a good, sweet, caring, submissive women that has high quality traits with as few red flags as possible etc.

In my experience, If you're executing the first factor then generally the second factor falls into place. When you behave like a masculine man, taking the lead, with abundance and a moderate level of dread then most women's behaviour suddenly falls into place. At the very least they won't be cheating on you or treating you like a trashcan.

The reverse, for the most part, doesn't follow in the same vain. If you choose a good girl and behave like a supplicating beta simp, it's very seldom that she'll remain a good, sweet, loyal, submissive girl. Your poor performance can turn even the nicest of woman off a man and toward a hypergamous branchswing.

I'd say it's about an 80/20 split. Your behaviour accounts for 80% of your woman's behavior and the other 20% is partner choice, which is why my initial instinct in OP's scenario is to jump to his behaviour and lack of abundance.

[–]Flintblood 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Here’s the thing, and probably what separates a sexually man going his own way from TRP seeking LTRs. Many of us don't want to always lead or perform. There are many times where I really don’t want to lead, nor do I want to follow. A lot of times I simply just want a girl to walk beside me and be my friend, albeit a close friend with benefits. My best bro friendships have always been balanced in leadership - mostly going with the flow and taking turns calling the shots. I prefer the same with females I date.

The juice is not worth the squeeze if I have to plan and decide everything, play competition games and entertain her every step of the way. The vibes are either there or they’re not there. I’m not going to be the one spending the majority of the emotional energy manufacturing them.

*Edited for nuance

[–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 3 points4 points  (1 child)

The juice is not worth the squeeze if I have to plan and decide everything, play competition games and entertain her every step of the way.

This shouldn't be a conscious process of plotting, planning and excessive effort. It may have to be at first, but once you've done it enough, it get's internalized and pretty automated.

I naturally take the lead and decide things, while dishing a bit of dread without having to think about it or consider it because it's what now comes naturally to me, it's instinctive.

Behavioral changes are always conscious at first until they become unconscious.

[–]Flintblood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. I've seen the change in myself; I usually end up directing when she (any date) is decisionally placid and seems to be in a holding pattern for me. However, there are days when I don't want to plan or direct anything - but that doesn't mean I want to supplicate and be directed.

[–]bcvickers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say it's about an 80/20 split.

The 80/20 rule strikes again. You're right on IMO. There's only so much you can do in LTR selection, the rest is up to you.

[–]Ikbenaanhetwerkhoor 17 points18 points  (15 children)

I'm just talking about preventing the cheating, nothing else. No need to bring other shit into this

[–]The_Sinnermen 17 points18 points  (12 children)

Imo, one shouldn't be in a LTR with a woman that needs this kinda shit to stay loyal.

[–]omega_dawg93 11 points12 points  (0 children)

competition anxiety works well in LTRs.

during dinner, my girl noticed a very young lady checking me out... even waved at her and asked, "is there a problem?"

the girl was behind me at an angle over my shoulder... so i barely noticed her but honestly, could feel someone staring.

for the rest of the night, my girl's attitude switched to completely and totally submissive... cordial... pleasing.

when they know you can pull younger, finer ladies, they worry. best part... I wasn't even aware that i was "pulling." lol.

[–]1neveragoodtime 22 points23 points  (9 children)

They all need this kinda shit to stay loyal. It’s what creates loyalty. He may be better off without this one, absolutely, but if he doesn’t learn from his mistakes, the surfer will leave him too.

[–]teveza11 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They all need this kinda shit to stay loyal.

Yes. The idea that there is true love out there is BS.

[–]MEpicLevelCheater[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have awarded you a point, per the request of an EC.

[–]The_Sinnermen 11 points12 points  (5 children)

I'm 100% on board with many of the ideas and principles of TRP, but I don't believe that. Some humans are loyal, end of story. From that lady's comments you can see she's obviously a basic entitled dumbass bitch, not the human baseline.

Loyalty is a human value, it goes deeper than man/woman relationship.

I do agree that you need to keep yourself sharp in order to not let a woman take you for granted if you do go the LTR way. Yet some people (f or m), even if you let yourself go and become a fat beta, will NOT cheat, but simply leave you like trash and go jump on some cocks. But they'll leave you first.

[–]Tbonesupreme 12 points13 points  (1 child)

If you don't get AWALT, you don't get RP.

Yes, there are some exceptions - but that doesn't disprove the rule. Women are very prone to branch swing.

And they won't even count it as cheating, because "we were pretty much done anyway". To them, it's not being disloyal.

[–]Ochialoc 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Humans are only loyal on the right circumstances. If you don't provide them you get no commitment from anyone.

[–]Olga_Schmutzer -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

Don't be stupid. If you don't see the whole point of this woman being crazy and just no good (which IS part of the post), you have bigger problems to worry about then abundance. And now go back to work! ;)

[–]Redditgoodaccount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah bro but Dread is not a magic wand, it's very effective but sometimes situations and people are so encrusted that you really need a plan B, C, D etc. Showing WIFE that you can pull PRIME SNATCH it's easier to say than to do. Wife shares your space, memories she knows your caveats and weakness, it's enormous to play the game in house it's fuckin hardcore that's why there's a separate game theory for married men.

[–]severus_iudex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having to constantly show your wife that you can find new pussy any moment now, what a life that must be.

I bet that by doing this most wives would actually find it as an excuse to cheat. She would tell her friends that her husband was flirting all the time or that he wasn't 100% committed to their marriage. Even if she wasn't planning to cheat, she would make sure to throw a tantrum every other day just because she feels insecure and jealous.

What you're talking about is not a sound strategy to hold a LTR (if LTRs are your thing), but a way to get back at a bitchy wife or girlfriend. If she has lost her sexual drive towards you or simply resents you for whatever reason, there is no amount of beautiful plates you may be spinning that will make her get the tingles for you again. It may work for a somewhat young woman on the early stages of the relationship, but is simply not viable in the long run.

Even the worst type of CC-riding Karen wants some kind of security, even from a chad or a beta bux.

Echt niet normaal..

[–]the99percent1 29 points30 points  (0 children)

And still being on talking terms with her entire family. Gold

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Always be finding someone better anyway.

[–]whiffofass 1 points [recovered]  (3 children)

She had an affair for three years and says she was mind controlled into cheating and is the real victim. LOL

    [–]Blackhawk2479 92 points93 points  (0 children)

    Women are never responsible for their own actions. AWALT.

    [–]BlindStark 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Instead of actually taking care of her kids or acting like a decent human being she’d rather post on Reddit to get sympathy votes too so she can continue playing the victim when it’s obvious she’s not lol

    [–]C2074579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    He hypnotized me with his dick, Harry! Please! You have to understand!

    [–]Kyogata 65 points66 points  (1 child)

    Looks like he is the 'nice guy' that every woman complains about not having ... then when she has one ... she goes off and has an affair.

    She just demonstrated hypergamy by having an affair with a guy who's richer and more powerful than her previous ... FOR THREE YEARS. Then, when hubby shows her he really is an attractive man to a hot babe, that he's a good father and friend to her family, she complains about an 'uneven power dynamic'. Hahahahahahahahahahaha.

    [–]McVaghunter 65 points66 points  (3 children)

    One of her comments (a 42 yo fat woman):

    "You don’t think it’s a little gross a 43 year old man is bumming around with a 24 year old girl ?"

    -357 points

    My fucking sides! Her entire comment history is a gold mine, gotta save that shit to have some laughs later on.

    [–]sebastian_ramirez05 20 points21 points  (1 child)

    Dam dude there’s a girl in my high school who slept with a couple of her friends dads

    [–]SomeGuy1251 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    ....wat...wat the fuck...redd.....reddit being based?

    ...what planet am i on again?

    [–]friendandadvisor 53 points54 points  (1 child)

    I'm getting fed up with this "power dynamic" bullshit. Women SEEK OUT powerful men, for their power.

    [–]vicious_armbar 15 points16 points  (0 children)

    The real uneven power dynamic is between husband and wife. Given the usually ridiculous outcomes in family court.

    [–]SuperCrazy07 58 points59 points  (4 children)

    I’m 50/50 on whether this is fake or the woman is bat shit crazy. Both are viable explanations.

    [–]knightydk 38 points39 points  (0 children)

    I read all her comments and they seemed like classic female hamstering

    [–]Senior Contributorexit_sandman 25 points26 points  (1 child)

    I am 95/5 in favor of the fake.

    While people like that undeniably exist, idiots writing outrage porn are more common.

    [–]lala_xyyz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    But how do they write women so well??

    [–]throwlaca 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    I don't know why they keep posting shit written by women on TRP. They are obviously shock pieces aiming to trigger people and draw attention to them. Women say or write one thing and do another. This is stupid cosmo-style internet bullshit and no information can be extracted from this post.

    [–]toolate4redpill 20 points21 points  (0 children)

    Woman really hit the wall in their 40's, getting fat and disgusting on top of that is to make sure that wall is made from titanium.

    [–]throwawaytokeep1 21 points22 points  (1 child)

    Hahaa she said she was mind controlled into having an affair 😂

    [–]volvostupidshit 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    One of the funniest shit I have read.

    [–]massivewang 17 points18 points  (1 child)

    This woman lacks self awareness to the point that the only conclusion you can reach is that she has some sort of emotional/mental/psychological disorder and or illness.

    Forget hypergamy/TRP/whatever else, one thing you need to learn is how to figure out is the root cause of the bad behavior - is it a lapse in judgement and an emotional outburst - or is this person mentally/emotionally ill? This will save you a ton of suffering in any area of life - at work, social settings, etc.

    [–]Senior ContributorMentORPHEUS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Underrated comment. For young men, the "Women are wonderful" effect can lead them to dismiss or ignore serious red flags.

    [–]billsmashole 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    This sounds like a miserable woman. She divorced her husband, then gets mad when he moves on. Even her family doesnt like her it sounds like. Good luck to her finding a date at 42 with a shitty attitude.

    [–]3chazthundergut 47 points48 points  (0 children)

    This reads like a divorced husband's revenge fantasy

    [–]vicious_armbar 12 points13 points  (0 children)

    How shitty of a person do you have to be to not only lose custody of your children as a woman, but get your own mother to hate you?! A woman basically has to show up to court with a heroin needle sticking out of her arm not to at least get 50/50 custody.

    [–]fizzyfuzzy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    As soon as she said the details aren't important, I knew she was at fault.

    [–]RealMcGonzo 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    My husband has primary custody because . . . manipulate some minor missteps on my part into the court seeing them as a huge deal.

    I think I can guess what those "minor missteps" were. Cheating, risky behavior, not taking care of the kids. Courts are quite biased to keeping kids with mom, and that is frequently a good idea IMO. To overcome that would require some pretty serious "missteps".

    [–]nariman2000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    Her mom dropped fax no printer

    [–]CrownPrinceBS 1 points [recovered]  (1 child)

    My husband has primary custody because he had better lawyers who were able to manipulate some minor missteps on my part into the court seeing them as a huge deal.

    Knowing custody laws as I do, he didn't have better lawyers, it's rare for the man to be given custody unless the woman has fucked up and it's clear she's fucked up if he won custody. Flag 1.

    They spent all weekend with my parents and Aunt Stacey and Uncle Brian (my brother and sister who I didn’t even know were in town).

    Jesus, who doesn't let family know they're in town?

    My mom was the only one to respond and she basically said “yes it was rude we didn’t tell you Stacey and Brian were here and we shouldn’t have done that. But we didn’t divorce Bradley, and we still see him as a son. This email along with your behavior over the last 5 years should really give you insight into why we might not want you at family events.”

    Ouch! Her mum is a beast of honesty, she had an affair as well, fuck her.

      [–]umizumiz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I got full custody because my ex didn't show up to court lol

      [–]1msammy_is_back 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      That should be titled "THOT GETS PATROLLED"


      Holy shit the whole family is shaming her for being a sloot. HA HA

      Go ahead ladies - go out and act the fool. Act like a total whore. Your whole family will disown you and you'll get replaced by a 23 year old surf instructor.

      Shit like this still gives me hope that the dystopian feminist future hasn't completely ruined western society yet.

      [–]umizumiz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Have full custody. Exwife forced to live in shitty trailer with affair partner. Calls constantly wanting to come "raise her child". Wants to live in my spare room. Talk to exMIL regularly, for the kids. She won't let her daughter move in either. Lol Karma truly is a bitch.

      We're 32 years old btw AWALT

      [–]The_Sinnermen 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      I lost my shit when she started using the #MeToo movement to justify the affair. She just shat on all rape victims.

      How can you have an affair for 3 years with a supplier and compare it to young women being raped and assaulted..

      [–]JohnIan101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      That is an amazing disconnect.

      She is the person who would buy the magic beans and call it an investment for her future.

      [–]ChristopherBurr 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      You want to piss off people? All you have to do is live a great life.

      [–]RightHandWolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Living well is the best revenge. - Anonymous

      [–]TradiWaifu 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      Women don’t just lose custody like that. Lawyers don’t matter. She must be a shitmom.

      [–]juddshanks 9 points10 points  (1 child)

      Honestly I read that and I genuinely do feel bad for her. Not because she didn't bring it on herself but fuck what a situation to be in. She's angry, as we all would be, because she's totally wrecked her life.

      She's totally misread her own value, her kids have had jack of her, you can tell the next 20 years are going to be seriously grim, containing a cliched internet dating profile with no takers, struggles to earn and accustom herself to a single income lifestyle, increasingly bitter interactions with her kids, the bottle and a sad lonely 'retirement'.

      The harsh reality for females is if they're married they had better make damn sure they have ways to add value to a relationship as their sexual attractiveness diminishes. And they sure as fuck should avoid doing anything that will give even the most cucked husband the moral push he needs to get back into the marketplace.

      [–]SomeGuy1251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Honestly I read that and I genuinely do feel bad for her.

      ......fuc...fucking why.

      She completely fucked up and it is 100% her fault.

      A rare case of karma has been granted and you react by...feeling sorry for her?

      Check if you balls are in your pants bro.

      [–]cracksniffer666 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Should be seeing this as a worldwide red pill, because that's what it was, it was all over the front page in multiple subs, lol.

      [–]Flintblood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      She is extremely bitter probably because she blames him for her choice to have an affair, then she blames him for not getting primary custody and alimony and half his income for child support, then blames him for her family liking him and not wanting to dissolve their relationship with their ex son-in-law and brother-in-law.

      This post had me laughing and made me very happy. This guy is winning. Guys, it shows you that 42-year-old father can pull 23-year-old hotties if you have a decent personality and higher smv.

      [–]ucfgavin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Wow, what a bitter, spiteful, and manipulative cunt. Good for that guy, and good for her family.

      [–]BringNewRevolution 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I don't know if I can take away anything constructive from this but damn I laughed too much. Thanks!

      [–]jrr6415sun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Being mad at the young girl is stupid, but I would be upset if my family hung out with my ex more than me and didn’t tell me they were in town.

      She must have done some bad things for that to happen.

      [–]WhiteGhosts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      cancerous human being

      [–]escapethesolarsystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      In defense of the r / AITA sub everyone basically reamed the OP and ripped her apart for being the POS she is, and many near top comments include how men are commonly discriminated against in family court in the US and Canada. The entire section is really enjoyable to read.

      (Sorry, I forgot reddit auto-linked to other subs when you typed in r/ fixed. :D )

      [–]bakamoney 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Can we keep this "React" shit off this sub?

      If you couldn't say stuff on the actual post don't come around here to bitch about it.

      All the subs build along these lines are fucking pathetic.

      (Shit "people from ideology I don't like" says., where are all the good men, etc etc etc)

      [–]knightydk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I agree it gets old, basically the same book with a different cover

      [–]misls -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

      Yeah, I’d say this is mental masturbation of sorts. Does nothing for anyone, any person who’s been on this sub for even a little while knows cuckery to the even the least extent.

      [–]PleezSitOnMyFace 1 points [recovered]  (1 child)

      none of those links seem to work for me

        [–]OneLastTime1997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Huh, they aren't working for me either. Maybe the server is down? Either way there's enough info to find the posts themselves and I'm not the only one who has/can archive them, so, by all means, feel free to send the new links my way or post them yourself.

        [–]umizumiz 0 points1 point  (0 children)


        My ex-wife is the same way.


        [–]jack_napier69 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        if you dig into the comments she said she was "seduced and mind controlled into an affair" prior to the divorce, I actually had to try my hardest not to spit my hot tea all over my keyboard lmfao

        [–]SomeGuy1251 0 points1 point  (0 children)


        This had me literally lol ing

        I am actually a bit surprised the reddit is not fully swallowing her bullshit

        [–]bgovern 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        Honestly, I don't think this story is a good example. If you read the comments, and assuming it's not a troll, the woman in this case clearly has significant unresolved mental health issues.

        [–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 12 points13 points  (0 children)

        unresolved mental health issues.

        Yes. It's called being female.