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How should you handle a more attractive women then the one you are interested in cock blocking you?

I find the objectively hotter one a fucking shit stain of a human being while I am really attracted to the less objectively attractive one. The less attractive one seems to not want to flirt with me when we are all together but alone. She flirts heavily, major IOI'S etc. But I can't always get her alone.

Its almost as if she feels she can't compete. I'm not sure what I can do?

Edit: Thanks for the advice everyone. I will try to isolate and see how it goes.


[–]TRPNovice43129 points130 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Isolate. Alpha females are an actual thing. The more dominant (usually more attractive) woman will shit test any male trying to attract the other women in her group. The answer to this is YOU need to be more dominant than her. I think it's best you act as if she has no authority over anything. Go ahead and isolate the girl you're interested in and if the alpha female shows up again, you might need to confront her. Good luck!

[–]Elephant_777[S] 37 points38 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

This sound like very good advice. My gut agrees with this actually. I mean its easier to do because I actually can't stand the more attractive one. Thanks man.

[–]HaroldTFinch18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When the other one comes up, say it's so nice you are friends with X. She's awesome. Say talk later to the one you are interested in and walk away. If she makes herself available later it's good.

[–]babybopp9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Seriously do this. Don’t approach her while she is with the coven. Get her number and ask her out. Ask her for a lunch date, don’t start with a night date. Let her do the manipulation to get away from mother goose, that should not be your job.

[–]Elephant_777[S] 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That's what I've been debating about. Just finding a new girl because it's not my job to raise anyone's confidence. But I think I will follow the advice everyone gave here. If it still doesn't work. Oh well. More girls exist.

[–]babybopp1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No, you are going about this the wrong way. If u cannot get this gal, forget trp. Do not bail, conquer

[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

As a general statement regardless you should be moving to isolate any target from a group. Slut shaming, judgment, and reputation can be a hard thing to block and maintain. By isolating you give a woman plausible deniablility in front of her friends. She can then say things like "we didn't have sex!" because in her mind blow jobs and anal don't count. If her friends don't see her acting slutty, it didn't happen.

[–]Helmet_Icicle1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If keeping amiable frame doesn't yield any results, those sorts of women are typically vulnerable to a complete freeze out. They just can't handle the nonattention.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

We prefer the term Mother Hen. "Alpha female" makes them think they're formidable.

Bonus: amusedly calling a Mother Hen by that term to her face will blow her out of the water.

[–]TRPNovice431 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is pretty hilarious, not gonna lie. Will use this term from now on, apreciate it.

[–]RedKepler0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck the Matriarchy

[–]Jugurthajones8751 points52 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

“Hey, do you mind? I’m trying to flirt with _______ here.”

Make it publicly known (to them and anyone else around) that you prefer the less attractive one and don’t have time for the alpha. They’ll both eat it up. It’ll be novel to the alpha girl, who will smile and back off and probably be a little turned on, while the beta girl will be eating out of your hand.

But you have to be bold and up front about it. Trying to isolate her is letting the alpha girl dictate your frame.

[–]Elephant_777[S] 8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

What I struggle to understand is why a women would cock block a man she isn't interested in? While I know women don't always thinking logically. It confuses the shit out of me.

[–]THE_ANGRY_SHARTER31 points32 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

It's a weird ego-stroke / insecurity rebuffing. If she's the hottest one, she's used to getting ALL the attention. When attention is given to someone else, who is not her, who she might already have a small twinge of jealousy for.... it sets them off. They snap you out of it and sabotage the attention that the other girl is getting so they can feel like "the prettiest" all over again. It's exhausting. IT. IS. EXHAUSTING, to deal with this. Especially if you're an introvert.

It's SO ANNOYING to deal with, especially in the workplace.

[–]AlleyFrog964 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Omg ESPECIALLY the workplace.

[–]flipdoggers3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You guys are hitting on girls in the workplace...?

[–]AlleyFrog965 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro, if you seen the bitches I work with😩

[–]Jugurthajones872 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you. She’s probably doing it to mess with the beta girl and you’re just incidental. So break her frame and tell her to get lost.

[–]NeedRealityShock2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

well, you would be competing for her friend's attention

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What I struggle to understand is why a women would cock block a man she isn't interested in?

Because she's upset you're into her friend more than her.

[–]sebastianconcept7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Isolate her from that attention whore that is intimidating her.

[–]yumyumgivemesome2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

If the more attractive girl was more attractive, then you'd be more attracted to her. You're not. She's just the alpha of the group and your girl is one of her betas. Find ways to isolate and build rapport with the girl you actually like so that eventually her connection to you becomes stronger than her subservience to the alpha.

[–]Elephant_777[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The thing is when I first met the more attractive girl. I was interested. We flirted, got IOI's (eye contact, touch, she even invited me to her house at one point). Thing is as I got to know her. And learnt about her personality. She became ugly to me. Thats when I met her friend. Who while "less attractive" became more attractive as I got to know her.

[–]NegativeMeeting84 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He has a point, this alpha girl could be very well more physically better looking, but the word "attraction" is a bit deeper than just a look, even though it is a big part of it.

[–]WaltDFaulkens6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Pee on her

[–]NegativeMeeting82 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It is a very good joke, but it is overused by members of this subreddit.

[–]WaltDFaulkens0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yea sometimes it pisses me off when I see it

[–]Jesusfeminist9 points10 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

She’s telling her friend to cockblock you because she doesn’t actually like you

[–]Elephant_777[S] 16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That could very well be it. Never did think of it like that.

[–]krispydankage3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wouldn’t worry bout that man. If I was you I’d just message the one you’re interested in and see if you two could meet up on your ones. You’ll be able to judge if she likes you or not from her response.

[–]Aestheticcunt19965 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why would she flirt with him then?

[–]Jesusfeminist-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck knows. But if OP was hot and attractive I bet her friend wouldn’t do that. I’ve literally seen girls do this sooo many times

[–]imtheoneimmortal2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What she says isn’t what she wants

[–]AlleyFrog961 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

That doesnt make sense because when they’re alone she flirts HARD at him.

[–]Jesusfeminist-1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Fuck knows. But if OP was hot and attractive I bet her friend wouldn’t do that. I’ve literally seen girls do this sooo many times

[–]AlleyFrog962 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Really? Flirt with you alone but at the same time tell friends to cockblock?

Thats like me saying “hey bro Im gonna try and fuck this girl when we’re alone but if you see us talking be sure to cockblock her.”

[–]Jesusfeminist1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

No, more like. “OMG he’s kinda weird, won’t stop talking about his Yugi oh card collection, HELP ME”

[–]Elephant_777[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

😂😂😂 First things first. Yugioh is awesome. Second she can't seem to stop touching me when we are alone. She now started making sexual jokes like "spank me"

[–]Jesusfeminist0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I could be wrong. I’m just speaking from experience that I have seen and a lot of girls have told me that they do this where they help Their friend by cockblocking the guy

[–]Elephant_777[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm just joking man. By no. You could be right.

[–]TipsyLeo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No he’s wrong and his argument on why she could be cock blocking you is very misty. Listen to other guys advice not his

[–]Project_Zero_Betas-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She's upset you're giving attention to her friend, despite her being more attractive, simple as that.

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