If any of you are into Alpha Male Strategies, you may have seen his video on approaching.
What does he do?
1) Hi I'm AMS
2) What's your name?
3) Would you like to have a drink some time?
4) Gives them his number.
See, I see far too many guys on ASKtrp asking 'how do I approach?' 'how do I be funny'? 'How do I open'?
The more I go on in my RedPill journey, the more I look at behaviourism. I reached a point in my life where I was sick of people's bullshit. No more tolerance.
I also realised I didn't have the patience, time, effort or energy to try and make women like me.
It clicked. That was the mistake. All the 'game', all the fancy approaches, canned lines, jokes, 'pussy passes'. All of it, no matter how 'good', was all motivated by 'I want you to like me'.
Yeah, I had some success, but it was long winded, got tiresome and something didn't feel right. I also noticed how many times I wasn't successful.
It was a covert contract.
That's when I decided. I'm too high value now for this shit.
If I don't have patience or need for women to like me anymore, then let's consciously cut every approval, 'like me' behaviour out. Everything motivated by 'tell me how good my game is'.
It was crazy how much disappeared. If you drop behaviours, they must be replaced. Fuck it. No more covert contracts. You're attracted, or not.
I replaced the approval seeking with assertiveness, directness, making my wants known, take it or leave it. I discovered a greater level of outcome independence.
I finally saw a lot of what Alpha Male Strategies talks about.
Women have already decided. They make up their mind, subconsciously within the first few minutes of seeing you. There are no lines, no jokes, no routines that will change that. Fuck it, if there is, does a high value dude waste his time on them?
When a woman is a yes or a mayeb, they do NOT want to like you. They do not want to know you. They don't want rapport, comfort or connection. They only want to be ATTRACTED.
It's your job to only behave in a way that's attractive.
Game comes later, when you've take her out and isolated.
Be direct, be assertive. Simplify everything.
Most newbs can't grasp this. They think there needs to be some initial space at first where you prove yourself. Prove your game, your jokes, your personality.
In...out...see you later.
Your worth is built long before the approach. Build yourself into a motherfucker who has the right to ask for what he wants, without needing to prove or qualify himself first.
Simple, clear, direct is attractive. Only a high value male feels the right.
If there are blocks in your self belief and ability to do that, then you haven't done enough in life.
I can analyse and explain what a woman sees in the simple, powerful, no bullshit approach, but let's stick with behaviour.
She's already decided. Be succinct, simple, assertive. Communicate to her that you don't give yourself for free. Just enough talk, in her language to convey desire. Polarize, and make her choose.
Instead of asking what you 'need to do' or 'change' in your approach, start asking what you need to NOT do, and what to get rid of.
When you become high value, you'll be surprised how easy it is. She's already chosen.
And before the whiny little sperg incels say 'oh, but that's not so easy for me, I'm 5'2/bald/ugly/virgin/lack confidence/'
Work...work hard to be able to ask for what you want, without approval/validation/being liked first.
It sounds as though a few guys think I'm saying be passive. That's not my intention.
Be polarizing. Have intent. Take action. See if she's invested and know when to stop trying to make her invested. Abundance.
I'm not saying be as minimal as AMS. I'm saying keep it simple. Know when gaming is really approval and validation seeking. Dancing monkey.
Get in. Show some intent...couple questions, tease, polarize, get out.
There is a point where all the extra game is validation and investment on her.
I've had a lot of experience in the last few months that show me many women are already interested. I don't need to waste time gaming 'maybe' girls.
If you don't have a level of attraction early, work on yourself. Not spending months learning how to game maybe girls.
Save game for those who show a level of interest.
Too many newbs have zero abundance or outcome independence.