What do you guys make of this situation?

johneyapocalypse · 2019-09-02T22:50:33+00:00

You’re all over the place in this long ass post. We can’t answer what you want but consider this:

if a woman doesn’t respect you enough to keep another guys dick out of her, why would you continue to be with her? What does that say about you as a man and your boundaries? If cheating isn't a boundary than what is?

Get the divorce, start clean in Colorado. No kids so this is straightforward.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2019-09-02T22:50:57+00:00

Wholey shit man.... what the fuck. Why would you want her back NOW?

When she cheated, how much of a fag were you? Did you have it comming?

All I read is her branch swing failed. As if you try and put any culpability on that other guy. I think your sniffing glue on that one. Hes not the problem.

You have already moved away and started railing tinderellas. If I was in your situation, I would never go back.

Here, check out rians videos on cheating wives. See if you still feel the same way.

Red pill coffee: on cheating wives

And

Operation scorched earth

You do you man.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-09-02T23:15:01+00:00

“She was actually a great wife”

Except the part when she banged Chad ^tm in Cancun.

Wtf?

“I will edit as I generate new thoughts”

Please don’t.

UnPussified · 2019-09-03T02:11:50+00:00

GTFO, Eject.

She tasted a better-than-you life, immersed in high-value man universe, meets single Doctors & wealthy sales Chads, gets all kinds of attention, gets a taste of the medical device party lifestyle & you're think she'll somehow magically revert?

Try prying a rock out of a crackhead's pipe & see how that goes.

A lifetime of misery ahead if you take her back bc she'll NEVER respect you if you did.

She already demonstrated did NOT want to put you first. She only put up with you because her public image might be tarnished by a divorce.

She wants the crack and for you to pay the bills too.

That's all.

NEXT the cvnt.

You're lucky you found out now.

dilberryhoundog · 2019-09-03T01:48:45+00:00

2 ways to get cucked.

You have lower value vs the fucker.
You have higher value than the fucker, but he shows your wife a lot more attention.

It’s not really about value. It’s about attention.

In case 1, you might be giving many hours of attention per week. But if chad with the very high SMV comes along. His half an hour attention over “coffee” will be worth more to her, than your many hours over many weeks.

In case 2, even tho you’re high value, you don’t make it “worth” anything. Because of the fuckall attention she gets from you. While, Billy Beta at work, who can sprinkle some alpha, puts her on a pedestal and invests lots of time. She will eventually find enough value in his attention, for her biology to kick in.

I’d say you are case 2, and fucker had been building that pedestal for her from day one.

To prevent this you can do one of two things. Show her more attention... Or don’t allow potential fuckers access to her, to give her attention.

If you can’t do either of these (or both) from strongly within your frame, then it will probably happen again.

Side note: She’s probably “into you” again because the drama of the situation is causing you to “give her attention”. If you go back and the drama dies down, nothing will have changed with your wife unless you majorly change how her relationship resource (attention) is handled.

SBIII · 2019-09-02T22:39:38+00:00

You said you would do your best to be a man that says a lot in few words.

You failed.

marv86kw · 2019-09-02T23:00:39+00:00

You posted this on r/marriedredpill and removed the post. Like I said..

She's not sorry about what she did, she's sorry she got caught.

Firstly, you talk too much. Drop that bitch. The fact that your #1 option is divorce and stay with her just shows how sick your mind is. You need help: sidebar.

Fucking faggot.

jacksarmy · 2019-09-02T22:58:44+00:00

Tell the other guy's wife for the lols

persuacussion · 2019-09-02T23:07:30+00:00

Divorce her and keep the dog.

RStonePT · 2019-09-02T23:51:18+00:00

Dear diary, today I did things for vague reasons, I'ma ask the internet to validate it

The end

Rogue68486 · 2019-09-02T23:26:14+00:00

What arent you telling us faggot? Your wife just randomly fucks Chad out of no where? How are you planning to unfuck yourself so this doesn't happen again. Also you are debating being a cuck? Have you read nothing? For fuck sakes man. Scorched earth and move on. You weak faggot.

markpf73 · 2019-09-03T01:01:38+00:00

Did you ever see a Stephen king movie called the langoliers? It was a bit of a piece of shit but the take away applies to you:

You can’t go back to the past. The past may physically be there but it’s dead. It’s lifeless. And while you’re languishing in the past it will literally eat you alive. Stay in the present, Colorado, and make your future. Quit being a sad sack of shit about this one.

BobbyPeru · 2019-09-03T01:23:10+00:00

but it seemed as if she got worse and maybe she even felt like she got away with cheating, so she could walk all over me.

This is sidebar 101. Yes, she lost all respect for her cuck husband who stayed with her after cheating.

It’s obvious that you have read very little sidebar or for some reason didn’t absorb it. Get going on that first

You come on here saying your lifts are good with no numbers and how you “spit” game, whatever the fuck that means. You basically didn’t even have the courage to leave your wife by telling her and snuck out like a bitch while she was on a trip.

Now, you are thinking about taking her back , which would make you beyond a cuck even.

I’m not even sure what your question is, but that’s my take on your situation

gulpinsculpin · 2019-09-03T02:20:40+00:00

You have oneitis so bad that you won't divorce a woman who cheated on you.

I'm not sure what the other 14 paragraphs are for here. It's pretty clear what needs to happen.

KoolAidMan7980 · 2019-09-03T05:29:13+00:00

Come on brother. Put all the redpill theory, lifting, STFU, and all the other cliches aside for a second and look at your situation. You were married and your wife went out and fucked another guy. Whether it was because she turned 30 or you ran the ship aground or whatever the fuck it was, IT DOES NOT MATTER. If you dont have the most basic level of respect for yourself to not choose to be with someone that fucks other guys then just go ahead and throw the weights out and quit the redpill subs right now because there is no hope for you.

Youve run off to Colorado like a sad little boy unable or unwilling to do what needs to be done—filing for divorce. Then you have courage to write here saying other than fucking other guys shes a really good wife?!? Like wtf dude. When you read the sidebar and it talks about being a man is hard, this is the situations the writers are talking about. Is divorce going to be unpleasant? Fuck yeah it will. But how unpleasant do you think it will be when youre tasting another mans cock when kissing your cheating wife??

Do what needs to be done. You said youre in good shape and have a good career. Then you have a great base to build off of. Why waste it on a cheater? And just to close, when you wrote it was hard to find someone good like your wife it makes me question your vetting process.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2019-09-03T00:28:31+00:00

You have oneitis. Pretty acute case.
You must protect yourself financially as soon as possible. Why not use this opportunity to get the divorce, protect assets and income for equitable distribution, and continue to date her if you want. Even monogamously if you want. Wink wink.
All these glimpses, and realizations are your manhood trying to kick you in the nuts and the ass to realize what the fuck is going on. All those touchy-feely thoughts you get around how you enjoy being married, how she’s so special, lovey-dovey: read number 1 above.

And as far as did she cheat, did she not cheat, will she cheat, will she not cheat, who cares. The last time you spent on worrying about any of this, the better. Like I said above protect yourself financially, and then get laid with whoever you want, including her.

JameisBong · 2019-09-03T03:21:26+00:00

You are probably trolling,but if you aren't please get your divorce and move on. If she didn't follow you to Colorado,she absolutely doesn't give a shit about you.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2019-09-03T11:33:28+00:00

Remember how she treated you like shit until you left? She’s gonna treat you like that again once she’s convinced you’re back for good. (Been there, done that). If you are cool with that then fine. (And she will cheat again). If not then continue your path. This is your path to take. People are gonna treat you exactly how you allow them to treat you.

Did you tell his wife yet? How did she react? If someone disrespects and fucks with you like that you burn his life down to the ground.

vplatt · 2019-09-03T01:03:03+00:00

Well, I'm not going to tell you what to do here, but I'm guessing she's starting to feel the approaching wall, whether she is aware of it consciously or not. The urge to have kids is pretty strong and I would think she could be acting out because of that. You said it yourself: there aren't kids in this relationship.

Second point: There aren't kids in this relationship. Maybe it's time to ensure a more solid legacy and split. If she wants to be her own man in the relationship, then she doesn't need you. It may not leave her any happier in the end, but she has to choose that path. I mean, it sounds like her SMV is on par with yours or better simply because of age, she's an earner, AND she "She was actually a great wife. Cooks and takes good care of me.". She sounds awesome, but are you owning your shit here or are you letting her carry too much of the water? Only you know for sure. The lack of children thing may only be a tipping point.

One thing I do know for sure: You'll want to be confident in the chosen road ahead before there are children. The emotional and financial impacts with kids are much more traumatic than without.

You might also want to consider marriage counseling with her if you're really that torn about it.

red-sfpplus · 2019-09-03T12:43:36+00:00

he slept in her room one night and they just made out

You are a cuck.

Why the fuck are we discussing this?

No kids, divorce. Move on.

Or go read TheFamilyAphlas posts. He got cheated on and stayed with his cheating wife as well.

gameoflibidos · 2019-09-03T18:54:18+00:00

ALL HAIL THE CHEATING UNICORN. BATHE IN HER RAINBOW PUSSY JUICE.

DUDE... NEXT.

bowhunter857 · 2019-09-03T22:24:45+00:00

Did you seriously call him a predator? Dude get the fuck out with that weak shit. He isn’t preying on grown ass women by fucking them. Your marriage contract is between you and your wife not him.

hack3ge · 2019-09-02T22:44:02+00:00

Lol right she seems sorry.....

I mean if you are the type of guy who can only get a woman who likes to take other guys cocks in her ass, pussy and mouth and then screams in ecstasy as he cums in her pussy raw dog then I guess who am I to judge.

Fucking faggot....

0io- · 2019-09-02T23:07:54+00:00

If you're OK with being in an open relationship then just do that. You've already banged a bunch of hotties in Colorado. You know what's out there. Whether you want to stay married now is just a legal or financial decision. Since you've fucked her after you caught her cheating apparently you don't find her physically disgusting now. I'd just keep her in the rotation as long as you feel like having her around.

The reality is these days that any new "replacement" you find is going to have had sex with a bunch of other guys and is probably just as likely to do the same thing.

If she's adding value in your life and making you happy keep her around. If she's annoying you and making you miserable cut her loose.

Edit: Since you've discovered she's a "bad girl" now you should up the kink considerably, go for threesomes with other women, etc. She'll probably be in to it, and even if not it will be fun for you. Sounds like she got bored and jumped on an opportunity.

IRunYourRiver · 2019-09-03T02:06:06+00:00

Bad news: Your post. Good news: You found this site somehow. Now your journey begins.

escapethesolarsystem · 2019-09-03T12:40:28+00:00

No kids so this is so simple. Divorce, move on.

Took me a long time to find her and she wont be easy to replace.

There's always someone better. Don't let this nonsense prevent you from doing the right thing. You think you are high value / alpha but you also think you can't find someone better? That doesn't compute. Stop being sentimental and low confidence (I know, easier to say than do, but you have to do it) and do what needs to be done. Once a woman cheats, you burn her, no exceptions.

Generally, your biggest mistake was helping her with her career. Women don't need a career, they need a family. A career is just a place for her to find other dicks to ride, especially especially (I said it twice intentionally) in the west.

Also, if you are really serious about being married, move out of the United States to a more traditional country. The odds for a successful marriage are much higher and the divorce laws won't fuck you up if anything happens. Anyways, most American women aren't marriage material - too entitled, too high notch count, too selfish.

AtlasCuckd · 2019-09-03T17:38:58+00:00

Someone commented about your EX-WIFE tasting a better life. I think she simply tasted better (read Alpha) cum

Bro, let it go. Let HER go. All relationships take time to get over, that doesn't mean you need to revert back into it.

Go through with the divorce. She's only feeling remorseful because she fucked up HER situation; there's no remorse specifically for you here. Enjoy the peak of manhood. Get on your feet and kill it out there, we know you can. Question is, will you recognize your value and pull the trigger?

Praexology · 2019-09-03T19:05:53+00:00

Give yourself some distance from your poor emotional decision making state.

Plan as if you are getting separated, continue progressing towards YOUR goals. Not hers. Hers are irrelevant. Demote her to plate. A plate that you don't care if she breaks or not.

Choose a specific amount of time like 6 months or something. You're welcome to reevaluate then.(until then, don't consider changing your decision of separating.) Either she is still there and you can choose whether you want to pursue her or not, or she won't be there at which point your decision is pretty simple. If she's worth taking back she'll still be there, in the mean time grow a spine.

Vypered · 2019-09-03T02:01:47+00:00

Not sure…. Please advise.

You shouldn't care what we think. What do YOU want for your life ahead?

She is begging me to come back. I can tell she's extremely sorry. Sex was great too.

If she's genuinely repentant, and if YOU still want her - take her back. Being a MGTOW means you get decide whatever you like. If it were I, and I really wanted my wife back, I'd take her back with some very clear BOUNDARIES about her future interactions, and the understanding she'll be a very SUBMISSIVE wife (i.e. do whatever I want). Whilst daytime interactions I'd maintain frame and the feelz (standard RP stuff). At night (every night) I'd caveman her. She's always been hesitant to try anal? Now's your chance. Want her to deepthroat you? Now's her time to practice and learn. Then if it works out, it works out. If not, you've had some fun, just move on.

Again - do whatever YOU want to do.

...But keep a bunch of evidence of the affair, incase things ever turn nasty. Or ask her to sign a post-nuptial agreement, if that's a thing in your state.

1kdawg1 · 2019-09-03T09:24:56+00:00

Leave....no kids, no baggage, just leave.....

Dialerstring · 2019-09-03T11:33:26+00:00

Scorch earth.

RoccoPinkman · 2019-09-03T14:26:57+00:00

Wound up cheating on me with some guy that seduced her

Lol

I feel bad for her being seduced like that, is she ok now?

RicoDunne · 2019-09-03T19:03:29+00:00

Lots of RP lessons for you: 1) Women don't care what you have done for them... guided her from sushi bitch to a higher paying job. Hypergamy doesn't care what you did for her

2) Women who take a man for granted will want to jump onto the CC again - hypergamy doesn't care about you

3) Chicks test out a branch-swing but sometimes miss - she wants another chance to do better than your beta ass. Hypergamy doesn't care what you did for her or if you "wuve" her or not.

4) A woman can accidentally fall on a dick and still blame you for it - hypergamy has no honor or respect for weak men.

You have no kids with her, you got your stuff you wanted of the house - just keep moving on.

You have dated other women with issues that don't concern you, but are spending this post and our time to lament and justify overlooking the issues of the one woman that has used you and disrespected you. You are still in her frame dude.

Sure once you were together briefly the sex was good, but that's the lure to keep her beta fool hooked. Sure she's a good cook and took care of you. I take care of my dog too, because she benefits me as a watch dog and companion, but she is just an animal.

vabab8 · 2019-09-02T23:27:19+00:00

What do you think your SMV is? What is her's? If you are a high value guy then why would she cheat? You said you went to Colorado and only slept 7-8's. If you are a HVM the why not 9-10's. Colorado is a lower SMP than Calofornia. In Cali you are a small fish in a big pond. Colorado you're a big fish in a small pond. I dont think you want that. You want here. Go back to her. Set boundaries and be the man. You need to lead. As she became more successful, you got lazy in leading. If you lead her, she will follow. If she does not want to follow a HVM, then kick her to the curb.