Confidence Above All
So I’ve seen a couple “OMG! I just met the perfect girl! I don’t wanna fuck this up! Plz HALP!” type posts, of late, and it’s time for a gut check.
There Are No Unicorns.
Yes, I know, your new girl’s special-specialness is way specialer than all the other girls who have ever-lived.
Except she’s not, or it isn’t or whatever. Now go punch yourself in the dick ten times.
Why? Because if you play it like “Yes, pookiekins, you are the sweetest girl ever! I iz in LURVE!” then you won’t see the anvil falling out of the sky, and then you’ll get flattened. Betafag behavior dries pussies right out. Like the Sahara Desert. Or the Gobi Desert. Whichever one is drier.
What then to do?
How Betas Fuck Up
This shit is important: write it down.
Guys fuck up by getting married or getting into an LTR and thinking that it’s over, and they’ve “won.” They anesthetize themselves with SportsBall and beer, quit lifting/exercising, chub out, and settle into their lives of unknowing desperation, being bitched out at home, and working in a 9 to 5 coffin. Then, one day, they wake up to find that they’re getting divorced because “You’ve changed” or “I’ve changed” or “I’m not happy anymore” or some shit. So much for “winning”. They get kicked out of the house, have their assets strip mined away and get to see their kids whenever the ex feels like it. And she sits around bitching to her friends about what a loser he was while she’s living in a house that he’s still paying for, wondering when she’s going to get her groove back1 or when she gets to EatPraySlut her way into the bed of some sexy foreign man.2 He's still trying to figure out "what he did wrong" when really just got the realities of life shoved up his ass, 'wif no lube, 'bruv. The BEST CASE scenario is that you stay married, don’t hate each other, but wind up dying anyway. Of cancer or some other nasty shit.
How To Not Fuck Up
You “don’t’ fuck up” by doing what got you there in the first place. Amused Mastery. Abundance Mentality. Being kind of an asshole, but not like a REAL asshole.3 Like a 'funny' asshole. Be mildly subversive. If she says “No guy has ever talked to me the way that you do!” then you’re doing it right.
Ex. One of my girls has like 7 orbiters – one actually gets tongue-tied around her, but stalks her on insta and ‘likes’ all her posts and photos. I told her to tell him that she has an owner, which she did – which I was pretty surprised but hey, good for her – and he just about shat himself at the thought. She enjoys teasing him – women love teasing betas – but there is zero chance he gets anywhere near her quim. Another guy writes poetry for her.4 PUUUUUKE! He is intellectualizing his desire for her pussy. Me? I just told her I was going to tie her up and fuck her. Guess which one of us is Nailing That Tail? Hint: Not Percy Shelley. When she mentions him, I ask if he’s written her a sonnet or something. If you are going to write fucking poetry, at least be Lord Byron, or Dylan Thomas, only without the syphilis and alcoholism. “The waste remains and kills” indeed.
Confidence slays. Keep her off-balance, like she’s balancing a chair on its back legs, almost tips over, but catches herself. Be cocky – if I am ever at loss for words, I usually go with the most sexist thing I can think of, and it’s like catnip for them, because the landscape is such a desert when it comes to masculine men. Oh, and if anyone mentions “toxic masculinity” near me, I correct them with either “traditional masculinity” or “heroic masculinity”, as appropriate. Don’t let the enemy use your own virtues against you.
What To Do About It
First, remember that women are never the end goal in and of themselves, but rather a pleasant accompaniment to a man’s life, which he pursues how he chooses.5
How do you gain confidence? Become the Prize.
How do you learn to approach women? You go out and do it. By the 25th approach, you won’t be afraid anymore. By the 50th, you won’t care how hot she is, by the 75th, you will be thinking, “What is the most fucked up thing I can say to her and still pull?” Approach Anxiety: Faint Heart Never Fucked Fair Lady.
Stop thinking whatever girl you are obsessing over is the Last Girl You Will Ever Talk To. Abundance Mentality - Why It's Good For You.
Stop being afraid of shit. Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Outcome Independence or Welcome to Level 99 DGAF.
And never forget: You Never Stop Competing.
Now go forth and SLAY!
1 The male lead in “How Stella Got Her Grove Back” was an obviously gay man using “Stella” for a visa to the US.
2 The story of that story is pretty sordid.
3 Never go full asshole, unless it’s in a “Total War” scenario.
4 In fairness, I did this once, also, but it was limerick about the pulchritude of her ass.
5 “Men are here to DO shit. Women are here to make more men.” - Napoleon Bonaparte, only he said it in French.