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When woman leave LTR,does she always has another man? (self.asktrp)

submitted by nixon993

Recently my ex(18) broke up with me.That day i noticed she doesnt wear necklace i bought her and when i tried to kiss her she was holding back a little.I knew something was wrong.Anyway she says she doesnt see anyone else and in a way i believe her,she is very shy but maybe she relaxed after all we had(I took her virginity,i was her first kiss...)I know its over but to think that she went to some other guy makes me crazy.Do women break up to be actually single?


[–]FinancialThanks165 points66 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Go and fuck some more women

[–]dingleburry_joe2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Best medication we can perscribe

[–]BusterVadge62 points63 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My philosophy is that it doesn't matter. Just move on.

[–]Spaghetti17764 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yes

[–]jjj2576172 points173 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

Hypergamy is a bitch— Kill your Oneitis.

Lift & Sidebar. Start with “The Rationale Male.”

[–]TimelessNY84 points85 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You are so very lucky to be here at your age after a simple breakup.

[–]i-am-the-prize22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yup. he won't know/see what you mean. but others will.

[–]ExoticPanther12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I was the same age when I came here. My girlfriend of years broke up with me, 3 months later is on holiday with one of her Male friends. Dodged a bullet imo.

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

yup, good outlook.

[–]Mikejonz11123 points24 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

OP every girl will have a “Slut Phase” or have had one. You just caught her before she had hers. A lot of people are subconsciously polyamorous/promiscuous they give this image that they’re monogamous which isn’t true. Your career, education and wellbeing are WAY more important than “girls” (frat boy version of girls).

[–]IndiansSmellLikePoo4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

When and how long do must girl's slut phases last for?

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

usually puberty through menopause.... I keeed I keeeed.

but seriously...

[–]Don_Draper2729 points30 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Yes, it's likely that when a woman ends a relationship, it is because she is branch swinging.

Regardless, always expect 99% of women to have orbiters. Even the fat ones. Even if she doesn't have anyone in her back pocket, it will only be a matter of hours before her new Tinder profile is overflowing with new dick.

[–]Greaterbird9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Orbiters don't matter. They're there to be strung along for validation and free stuff, not for sex and dating except maybe when she's at her most desperate.

The very act of orbiting is unattractive because it puts her on a pedestal.

[–]majani1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Orbiters get pussy bro. Friend game just takes a fucking long time, but it has a success rate, otherwise no one would do it.

[–]Greaterbird4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, as a last resort when she's in a dry spell or hits the wall.

[–]Redpillwhiterabbit1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Orbiters get pussy bro. Friend game just takes a fucking long time, but it has a success rate, otherwise no one would do it.

This would only make sense if only betas spawned betas. They don't. These behaviors are intentionally instilled in young men since birth.

Regardless, it's negligible success rate doesn't matter because the price is outrageously high and success isn't continuous.

[–]MGTOWJulietSierra51 points52 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes, she typically already has someone else in mind. Sorry.

[–]TFWnoLTR35 points36 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Even if it isn't a specific guy she has already met, she has at least built up a fantasy of a man combining traits of other men she finds preferable to you.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Do women break up to be actually single?

Basically no

[–]PhaedrusHunt14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah but these days women can't differentiate between being single and riding the CC

[–]Herdsengineers25 points26 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'll share this, I've been ghosted or dumped many times, and most of the time the chick ended up married to the next guy within the next year. I used to joke that I should charge a date fee because if they went on 2-3 dates with me, they'd be guaranteed to meet the man of their dreams shortly thereafter.

I say that to say this - it's so common that chances are she really does have another man in mind, or multiple other men, that she wants to go play with. Look at it this way, she's showing you who she is before getting married. She did you a favor. Don't take it personally. Instead, go to the gym, lift, and work on building yourself up. More women will come (and go!), there are no unicorns, always prioritize making yourself the best version of you that you can be. Women should always be secondary to that, even and especially if you are in a LTR or married to one.

[–]Rage815011 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"There are no unicorns" preach. Make yourself the fucking unicorn.

[–]gaberger11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol same thing happened now with my ex LTR of 4,5 years. She broke up with me and came back together with her ex. Yesterday my dad (who still is friend with her dad) told me she married. But I can only laugh about this. Because she is studying engineering and he is a field worker on a farm. I know exactly how long this will hold haha. Probably he got her pregnant and now they married fast to cover up that bullshit. ( they are both polish and have expectations from their parents in this case.

Edit: we split up a year ago..

[–]Scheme0014 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Not always. But she certainly decided awhile ago she didn’t want to be with you any longer. If there was another good option for her she would have taken it to make it easier for her to move on. Ghost her completely and at some point she will come back to you. You can do as you wish at that point.

[–]priapula1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

exactly, not always. i dont get why everyone says they always do

[–]ice_jj-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I’m in a similar situation. I prolonged the breakup by talking her out of it. After a month she finally made the decision and was probably finding guys in the meantime. And I made it hard for her to move on.

My point is, is it weak to take a girl back after she sleeps with a bunch of dudes or dates someone else? In my heart I don’t let that stuff affect who I care about, but it makes me think she needed dick to make her happy and now she comes back. Like it feels kind of shitty. But I know I love her so it’s hard to decide

[–]Standgrounding4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Make her one of your side bitches lol

[–]2319Skew1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Was that even English?

[–]ice_jj2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No it was beta.

[–]EspressoCappuccino9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Look on the bright side. You've found the RedPill at an age younger than 60% of the people here. I WISH i found this sub when I was your age,couod have saved myself from so much humiliation. Count this as a blessing in disguise. Welcome to the RedPill.

[–]McVaghunter63 points64 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Dude, you are so innocent, this alone explains why she left your ass.

Technically, you're correct, she's single now even tho she's currently fucking other guys, they don't count as a relationship. Unlike you, she's enjoying her youth.

[–]Standgrounding1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

While all of it is true, how being innocent is bad?

[–]NabroleonBonaparte2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Innocent = Naive & Soft

It’s mans duty to be knowledgeable and strong, otherwise why should she be with you? An innocent boy (not man) is similar to a girl with a dick.

[–]Standgrounding2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

And that's why most virgins can't find some puss. lol.

[–]CasaDeFranco2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

In my preTRP days I was completely innocent, I had a very long LTR up until that point. I had met this 9 who asked me directly, when are you going to ask me for drinks? We were texting back and forth a lot (pre-TRP, I know) and she asked for my number and I was like, one, I had only one LTR and she was my first (another rule I broke).

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This complete innocence turned her on oddly. She came over to my office (I was working on Saturday like a good boy) to have a quickie, I later realised with other women that despite her looks and experience, she was terrible in bed.

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It was funny because her body count was like 30, I remember even pre-TRP I was low key disgusted and ended it with some excuse I was busy with work - which I was considering I was working late and on weekends. For some reason this act she wanted me more. I was using game methods, but also ignoring game rules without realising what game was.

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Ironically she's still probably one of the best looking women I've nailed despite my SMV and awareness growing dramatically after a few years of creating my own business and reading/living the sidebar content. Every few months she messages me to go out for tea or some other bread crumb; I eventually had to block her when she revealed she had BPD and I realised that she was not worth the risk.

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I later realised with other women that despite her looks and experience, she was terrible in bed.

no offense, but that explains why she was trolling for 'innocents' - hoping the bright lights of her aura would blind you to her lack of intimacy (and later BPD).

if she was hot (really a 9) and healthy and a good lay, should would've been hunting for the male-chad-unicorn, not visiting you at work on Saturday - although I'm sure you're very handsome, just like mom said!

+1

[–]CasaDeFranco0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Amen, if it's too good to be true, I knew something was up.

[–]ImBackBitch926-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stfu

[–]craneonacrane10 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

If she's depressed maybe she will actually stay single for the most part. People are not eager to copulate when they wanna hang themselves

[–]Qba19945 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Only real answer I would agree with. If you build something meaningful and it has been broken and she still has feels for you she won’t jump on another cock that fast. But when she’s model looking it might be the case. Just to see if it makes her more happy or if the pretty boy can fuck her better.

[–]nixon993[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She is quite weird and cold.Maybe she is depressed even but who cares in the end,i will just move on.

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

and cold.

this is critical. they will never be as warm and as loving as at the beginning of the relationship. it will only go downhill from there.

if affection and warmth and intimacy is important to you, and she's not top notch in these areas, it will NOT get better later. (just like, unless you're one of a few ECs that turned their lives around on MRP; the BJ frequency does not magically get higher after you have kids ;) )

[–]nixon993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I guess you re right she never initiated intimacy

[–]Bone_Coat20 points21 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

in my experience, sometimes they leave the LTR and:

a) stay with the side dude

b) start dating a lot of guys at the same time (riding he CC)

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY20029 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Or C) the greedy bitches do both!

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

or D) do both and still try to get the ex-BF to long her (they want to be wanted)

The validation cheap women get from men is staggering. It can be their undoing.

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY20021 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agreed.

[–]ColdBeing10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women leave a relationship mentally before they do it physically.

Sorry to say this but someone else is in the picture.

[–]golgynat0r6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

90% of the time they got backup in case they drop or you drop. Get over it and find some fresh blood, godspeed.

[–]xoxe13376 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

she was never yours, it was just your turn. And plan B is always there long before any break up. I guess u have a slight idea how many txts and attention women receive and the thirsty queue is always on standby

[–]CarbonCommandant24 points25 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Typically an attractive female in or out of a relationship will have backups at hand. Usually 2-3 at a time. My ex-girlfriend hit me up for rebound sex after her former boyfriend cheated on and dumped her. We had sex THE DAY they broke up. 99% of women are no exception.

[–]febreze_air_freshner7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

yikes, being your exes rebound...paragon of man right here

[–]Huffnagle3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There’s nothing wrong with picking up a little easy rebound pussy, if...

1) She’s not some kind of bipolar crazy bitch.

2) And you are strong enough to keep it in perspective and not catch feelings.

[–]Naboo_the_enigma6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

In most cases Yes, even if she doesn't, it wont be long or she's lining someone up already. Had this happen during or right after all my LTR's

I was in the same situation as you my friend. GF from high school, both eachothers first. After 7 years she became distant all of a sudden and pulled back. She had one in the Wings. Best thing to do is Go NC and work on yourself. After a while She Will wonder what is up with you. By that time you should've improved yourself in every aspect. Learn from that LTR, go to the gym and get Involved with other girls. When she comes back you might have gained new perspectives and not want her back. It's going to get rough but enjoy this life lesson and the Road ahead. You Will be stronger on the other side and this Will never Hurt as much as it does now.

[–]nixon993[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you

[–]bayareaengineer20195 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She was most likely already talking to the guy before she swung over to the other branch.

[–]binrobinro5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

With relationships, there is no "always".

Some break up to be single, some to move on to the next guy.

[–]strainer1235 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

90% of the times yes, there's at least one guy for backup, I was dating this girl once, she said she loved me and whatever, then she stopped talking for a month, in the meantime I met a couple of girls, banged them, then the one more serious one came back, saying she wanted me and whatever, I went along, she ended up knowing about the others even though I had nothing with them, just a fling, she broke up with me, a week later I was walking down the street minding my own business, still trying to overcome our relationship ending, and she walks by me with her hands around a guy that looked a lot like me, he was her backup for a while I bet, they were walking like they were dating for months.

[–]VojvodaSrpski4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

She was single this whole time, while you thought she was “yours”.

[–]nixon993[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Ooo gde si vojvodo

[–]VojvodaSrpski0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Gde si početniče!

[–]oberstmarzipan2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Despite of what many here say: No it is often not the case that she is already seeing someone else. However she might have noticed that she gets attracted to other guys more and less to you. The point is, it doesn't really matter. Thoughts like: "did she end it over some other guy, was she fucking someone else" are poison and ultimately for you, they are irrelevant. I know it is tough, but we have all been there. The first one(I assume she was your first) is always hard. And a mere thought of them often stays in your head forever, but ultimately you will carry on.

[–]nixon993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She was not first but very dear

[–]ice_jj2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m in this situation. She said she wanted space and didn’t plan on moving on fast. So I downloaded tinder right after the breakup because I felt she had options lined up. It felt shitty because she found out but how else am I supposed to find other fishes.

So two weeks later my friend saw her on tinder. After she didn’t like how I did it so soon, she did the same after a little longer. I kind’ve know that she’s probably using it for sex because nobody wants to just date right away. It’s hard to imagine that she is probably getting dicked down every day if she wanted to

[–]downvotesanimals1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't use words like "always" and "never" when you want a serious answer.

[–]ElPoniberto1171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hypergamy doesn't care, she is not yours. Its just your turn. Also entering party years. Statistically women initiate divorce and breakup because they got another branch to jump. Don't worry man, I know it sucks after the emotional or financial investments, learn and grow. Better and worse women will come.

Sorry for the bad english.

[–]dadfrombrad1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When I was younger I dated with the female dating strategy. Hop in an LTR, have sex then leave once someone else shows interest then cuff them. Rinse and repeat.

If you don’t want this to happen to you, do it too

[–]dingleburry_joe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

IMO they always branch swing or feel they got a pretty good shot at it. It's happend to me before. Commit yourself to increasing smv, lift, read read read, pursue your own interests

The only medication is to get with other chicks.

[–]schielegirl1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

no of course not. that would be egomaniacal to assume that anyone who doesn't want you MUST be cheating with another man. look in the mirror.

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Depression can be one helluva reason...

[–]yrn_donno0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She 100% left you for someone else

[–]ToraChan230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why do you care who or what she does? She isn't your GF anymore.

[–]Jdub4150 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No, they don’t always have another man.

[–]JurJur0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ya u just gotta give no fucks

[–]nidham210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She's just a kid.

[–]Spaghetti17760 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Life is gray, not black and white. One of the problems we have here is saying "always this" "always that". If shes not a k breeder then you can be pretty sure she does, if shes K then 70/30 shes probably alone. You know her better than we do.

[–]nixon993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks

[–]agjrpsl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Cause of social media. The likely hood of her having many guys in her inbox is very high. That's where we are at these days. Women will always have thirsty dudes in their inbox. Your young and got a whole life a head of you. Move on and do your thing.

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She was not yours. It was just your turn.

[–]TheBunk_TB0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No. most women have a target or a chance at one. This stuff happens. Time to go enjoy yourself and have a good time with friends.

[–]Haytch12340 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Even if doesnt have another man, she always has options.

Men want to fuck pussy by default.

Women select and choose who to fuck. She friend zones the rest.

All it takes from her is to simply escalate things and show some interest beyond a friend ship. And before you know it, she is involved with someone else.

Thats how much easier women have it when it comes to sex and dating.

Just think about that mate.

[–]ImBackBitch9260 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most likely. Bc if you're used to being in a relationship then they dont want to be single. Unless they are getting big attention from other guys and she just wants multiple guys to fuck with.

[–]Domebeers0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

she banged a guy within 48 hours of breaking up with you

[–]theherosmyth0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro just assume she did and feel the pain. You're concerned about a battle, focus on winning the war. You're one fucking young motherfucker and you already have access to this knowledge. Study it, take action on it, and you'll create such a great life for yourself you'll one day call her and thank her for waking you up.

[–]liquorbaron0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Are you sure you took her virginity? Usually women that lose their virginity to a man have more of a tendency to pair bond and stick with that man. It's why female virginity has been so important throughout time especially when it comes to marriage. The more men a woman is with the less of a resolution she has to stay loyal to any man. The further away her n count is from her being a virgin the more likely she is to stray.

[–]nixon993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I dont think its important to every woman some of them just want to lose it

[–]We_Broke_Up0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Two chicks said they had a crush on me and asked me out back in high school. For the first one that I rejected, she was literally dating my close friend within the next day. The second one I rejected also ended up dating my close friend within less than the next week. I'll trust people but no way in fucking hell am I going to rely on someone else for my happiness. I don't think it's good to paint one group of people with one brush stroke but honestly fuck putting all your eggs and emotional happiness into one basket

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

They always have another guy or few guys on the line. 99 percent of the time.

[–]flatox0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, especially if you have oneitis.

[–]willieblackbean0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why does it matter whether she broke up with you coz she wanna suck ur best friend's dick or ur whole highschool football team's dick? Next!

[–]nixon993[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol chill out buddy

[–]LilLoserFreny0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah

[–]Lallo-the-Long0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. All the time. Like, more often than not, that's what's happening.

[–]faustian_talos0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She is fucking someone else. Get over it.

While you cry she is swallowing someone else's cum.

[–]IFuckingHateAllergy-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What kind of incel question is this.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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