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Obviously, an integral part of the Christian belief system involves avoiding masturbation, pornography, and pre-marital sex. I'm a college student now, and I'm committed to focusing on my career and personal missions now and once I graduate, which means I'm unlikely to be married for at least several more years until I can devote time to a spouse and family. This is a situation some of you might share, since the average marriage age for men in the USA is now just under 30 years old. For most of human history, people married in their teens, so there wasn't this huge gap between when men started experiencing sexual desire, and when we were able to act on it within Church teaching.

I'm looking for advice on how to avoid sexual temptations and distractions during that gap I mentioned above. I've gotten my pornography use and masturbation under control, but my sexual urges have now gotten much stronger since there's no "outlet" so to speak. Biologically, our bodies keep producing sperm that we have an intense desire to get rid of. So at the very least it can be incredibly distracting at times from studies/work/etc, and at the worst can cause extreme temptations.

Also, The main TRP sub also suggests avoiding masturbation & pornography, with the implication that you will eventually start having casual sex and no longer need it. So it's hard to glean advice from them on this issue.


[–]TheChristianAlpha5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is what I find works for me is very well and when talking with some of my buddies they agree that majority of these elements are true for them as well. So if you think of your horniness levels (or ability to be tempted or whatev) as a glass with tiny tiny holes at the bottom and every time you view something that inclines you to be horny or makes you horny it adds liquid to that glass. The glass drains very very slowly, but it's really easy to fill it up or very quickly. Basically the more you see or view something that could be tempting to you in a short amount of time oh, such as 1 - 3 days, it can Increase your chances of falling into some temptation. This is coming from somebody that hasn't jacked off or gone searching for p*** in over a year. one other thing is when your willpower is low, or like when it's late at night or when you're just generally tired, is much easier to make a stupid decision and fall into some sort of Temptation whether that's fooling around with some girl in person or watching p***.

Here's a post where I go into more detail on it. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/anvztp/nofap_the_prostate_cancer_myth_and_what_to_do/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

[–]rocknrollchuck2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Check out the comments on this post, there's some great actionable advice in there!

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