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Wife found out my account in a website and she wants a divorce (self.askMRP)

submitted by dbayraktar

I am 24 years old and married to a 21 years old girl. (married 1.5 years & no kid)

Let me tell you the story;

I created an account for a website in 2016 before my marriage about relationships, dates which people get help from someone else about their relationship, self-development etc. But my wife didn't know about my account. Sometimes I give advices to girls and guys about their relationship. They all think that I am good at it. I also let them know that I am married and I love my wife. Everyone knows that. I never cheated. I give some TRP advices to some guys there.

My wife said that she found out my account and read all my comments yesterday. She said it is wrong to give any advice to a girl. She said why did you do it? Why do you care? bla bla. she got jeaolous and I said I did it because it is like my job. I like helping people, I like to give advices to people. They all like my advices. But she got very angry and acted like crazy, she cried and yelled.

She said that she will go to her parents house on Friday and will never come back again. She says she can't trust me again. I don't know what to say. I never apologized. I said I did nothing wrong.

What should I do? I accept some consequences but I don't want to lose her. I love her but she can't trust me.

Need some advices, thanks.

EDIT: Thank you all for your comments. I think I do not care if she will leave me or not anymore. She asked me what I want to eat for dinner. She does not seem like she wants to leave. I think all of her threats are just bluff. I don’t care. All of your comments made me realize again that I should not give a fuck about her. I won't let her to make me feel like I am guilty.


[–]SepeanRed Beret 28 points29 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

It's a shit test and you should ignore or make fun of her. If you know TRP and don't see that, your frame is fucking weak. You need to either read the sidebar, or grow a spine.

[–]dbayraktar[S] 2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

You are right. I read sidebar, but I think my frame is still very weak. She was very upset and angry about that. She thinks that I seek validation from girls by giving advices them. One girl wanted to send me PM to ask about something for her relationship with her boyfriend. My wife said she saw that girl's comment and asked what she said to me in PM. I told everything but she doesn't believe me. She tried to contact with the girl and then she said "nevermind. I will get a divorce."

[–]marv86kw 14 points15 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I lost count of how many times you wrote she.

Can you check between your legs? You'll find absolutely no testicles in reach.

[–]dbayraktar[S] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

What am I supposed to write, but not she?
The problem is about her. I know you say don't care but I can't do it.

[–]marv86kw 15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Who cares about her? She's a silly girl. Maybe write about you.

You're the problem idiot. Fix yourself.

You care about her because you're not worth caring about yourself.

[–]echo979 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This!

[–]arm_candy 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The problem is about her.

It really isn’t.

[–]RStonePT 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You're supposed to be the main character in your own life story.

Get to a place where you can tell her not to hit her ass on the door on her way out and you'll not need help anymore.

She's 21, basically a teenager the fact you're taking her seriously speaks volumes

[–]i-am-the-prize 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're supposed to be the main character in your own life story

gold

[–]NeoTheJuanDJ 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Make that a 30 mile radius.

[–]ImplodedVeggies 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She’s looking for an excuse to jump ship, no matter how insignificant or unreasonable

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando 23 points24 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

You give RP advice to other people?

Talk about the blind leading the blind.

[–]redwall92 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Be honest man. You have seen the number of guys who come through here that want to make it their life's mission to help other guys. They want to be a therapist or a coach; they want to talk things out or communicate advice or create a space for guys to be heard.

I think we all go through that phase. We see a tool ... pick it up ... use it a little ... and then it's the best thing ever. What does a guy want to do with the tool then? Show somebody else!! But the real work comes in using the tool.

Use the hammer to build something. Use the saw to create a piece of furniture. Use the firearm to increase your skills.

Nah ... most guys would rather sit around and play show-and-tell with some toy.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

what do you mean man? this is like all of TRP and askTRP.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker" 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I never apologized. I said I did nothing wrong.

OP's a million miles passed the TRP/ATRP idiots. At least he has those two admirable sentences to be proud of, though I imagine they had less to do with being a man and more to do with his own shock, indignation, and speechlessness.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

One eyed men in the land of the blind.

[–]RStonePT 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm guessing his in the order of men or a fraternity of some sort

[–]FoxShitNasty83 32 points33 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

She said that she will go to her parents house on Friday and will never come back again.

Great, let's get your stuff packed and in the car. Next.

[–]turbospeedsc 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Last time wife threateaned this same shit, i calles her Bluff and toldo her that afternoon ser visitaron dates, child support ammount, even helped her pack her bags, even put the bags no the car to take her next day after work...... All this is a calm relaxed, even relieved i migth Say.

Guess whot got pornstar sex that same nigth?

[–]threekindsofluckyMod who asks, "are we the baddies?" 30 points31 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

what should I do?

Create a new account and reply to yourself so you can:

give advices to girls and guys about their relationship.

No doubt you will:

like my advices

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The wrong advices

[–]Kidterrific 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

First thing I thought.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuckin classic Arnie, lol

[–]dbayraktar[S] 4 points5 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

I will let her go if she wants to go but I know I actually don't want her to go.

[–]threekindsofluckyMod who asks, "are we the baddies?" 20 points21 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

don't want her to go.

And there's your problem.

The person who is the most invested has the least power.

[–]dbayraktar[S] -2 points-1 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

But I feel like guilty. I think that I should have told her maybe. She thinks I am an asshole. I don't want her to be sad about this.

[–]FoxShitNasty83 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What you are saying is that when you say no you feel guilty...

Her "sad" feelz isn't your problem.

[–]threekindsofluckyMod who asks, "are we the baddies?" 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's good you are so concerned about what she feels and how she thinks. I can see this one working out well.

[–]arm_candy 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Feel guilty for what? Do you legitimately not see that her reaction is bullshit? Why would you be obligated to tell her that you talk to people online? Unless you’ve left out some really important details, this is one enormous shit test.

The problem isn’t that you give relationship advice on some web site and didn’t tell her, but that she sees you as her bitch.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Maybe"? To what? What did you leave out?

[–]redditguy61 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Post her noods here and we'll judge if she's hot.

[–]Tyred_BiggumsDon't let these gypsy women fool you 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

This feels like a troll post.

Here’s the real question you need to be asking - do YOU feel that your actions were in the wrong in anyway?

Fuck what she thinks or what she feels. That’s irrelevant.

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I couldn't deal with her shit tests at first and she made me feel like I am really guilty, but I don't care now because I don't think I did nothing wrong.

[–]Tyred_BiggumsDon't let these gypsy women fool you 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't think I did nothing anything wrong.

FTFY. At least don’t write like a dumb ass.

[–]dbayraktar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

English is my second language. Thanks for fixing.

[–]losso519 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

21 year old wife shit tests, trantrums and nonsense. Its gotta be a sight to see lol.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No Kids = Dating with slightly more paperwork. Cut your losses.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret 5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

You are weak and unattractive, so naturally she looked for the first excuse to get the fuck away from you and out of your life.

This isn’t about your little advices, Abby.

Tell us exactly which sidebar books you read.

Also, what is your height/weight and lifts?

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I am a good looking guy. My height is 5'11 and weight: 76.
I don't lift regulary but my body is looking good. I know I must lift regulary.

I read NMMNG, MMSLP, Sex god method, Sex at dawn, WISNIFG, The Rational Male, The Manipulated Man, The Way of The Superior Man

But I am still have a weak frame. I am a faggot.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a good looking guy.

Doesn’t matter. Your weak frame makes you unattractive

[–]dbayraktar[S] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She always said she finds me attractive. Our sex life is very good. She always gives me BJ when I sleep but she thinks that I am an asshole and a liar.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ok now I’m pretty sure you’re trolling

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No I am not :)

[–]rightsided 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Shit test. Is the stay plan the go plan, or not? You're both very young, so maybe neither of you have enough experience. Call her bluff.

[–]Tiway22 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

21 and married LOL! My dude 21 is quite a child. Tell her that when she’s done throwing her temper tantrum and is ready to be an adult you can talk. Until then, help her move out and move on with your life.

Actually be ready to follow through with that.

[–]z2a1-9 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Grow a pair bub. You slipped and now she has cracked your fragile frame. Send her off and as others have said, you need to work on yourself first and foremost.

[–]echo979 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

STFU. Lift like crazy. That's your therapy and friend.

Hold frame. You are the prize. Don't blurt it out! Keep it clear in your mind. Make it your mantra.

When she does something positive or, at least, mature reward her with your attention and a few kind words.

You did the good thing, you asked for help. Good luck

[–]nantucketghost 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just tell her that if she's going to leave over something this petty and insignificant, you're glad you found out now before something serious came up and she really freaked out. If my wife found my alt account - not that I try and hide it, just don't talk about it as you probably - she wouldn't care. Not one bit.

I also don't try and pretend to be someone I'm not though. Make sure that's not the case.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Why did you marry a teenager?

[–]dbayraktar[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Stupid beta days..

[–]Tyred_BiggumsDon't let these gypsy women fool you 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Let us know when they end for you. Took me about 20 years.

[–]UnbreakableFrame 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You need a mission. Also, at 21, your wife's a child. You will need rock solid frame to not have a miserable life for the next 5-6 years.

[–]hoopingblob 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think it's time for you to let her go, man. You can't save this marriage if she can't accept that helping People is a Passion of yours.

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She is most likely afraid of the advice you give because it exposes womens nature which they tried to hold as a secret so many decades...

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I'd advice you that you shouldn't try to save it since it will cost you alot of valueable time and effort you Need to improve yourself and your life (maybe even Business?).

If she really wants this marriage she will come back and if not that's okay, you don't Need her to be happy, right? :)

[–]NeoTheJuanDJ 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

  • You failed to recognize shit tests.
  • You then failed said shit tests.
  • You then DEERed but what you’re really asking for is validation.
  • You then behaved in a reactive manner to her emotions.
  • You then exposed how much more invested you are in the relationship than she happens to be.
  • You are now on the Internet asking strangers for direction and how to live your life.

In your original post.. There were a lot of “She she she”. In my post, there’s a lot about you. You’re the problem. Read the sidebar and get to work.

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man.

[–]z1stxfile 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

what a child.

I'm sure what made her react that way, was the illusion that you knew the inner workings of your relationship and how "good" your game was. when she found out that you share this "knowledge" to other people, I think it broke HER illusion of YOU.

[–]No_Potential60405 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

you failed the shit test. congrats, you are her bitch forever.

[–]arm_candy 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

EDIT: Thank you all for your comments. I think I do not care if she will leave me or not anymore. She asked me what I want to eat for dinner. She does not seem like she wants to leave. I think all of her threats are just bluff. I don’t care.

Oh, wow. In only 12 hours you found your balls and frame? That’s pretty amazing progress! Did you manage to read the entire sidebar during that time? Go out gaming and build abundance? Hit the gym and build some muscle?

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

No. I already read sidebar before but my frame is still weak. All of your comments made me realize again that I should not give a fuck about her. She now acts well, but I won’t give a fuck even if she will leave me. I think I am not the guilty one here. I need to read the sidebar again and again and I think I must start to lift regulary.

[–]arm_candy 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

My point is that you’re lying about whether you care if she leaves. Nothing happened in the last 24 hours to drastically change your frame. It’s good that you are recognizing your weak frame but you also need to recognize that you’re lying to yourself. You care a ton and you won’t get your mind into a better place by pretending.

You have a lot of work to do, as do many of us. You should start by (re) reading the early books. NMMNG, WISNIFG.

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

It is not my frame that has changed. It is still weak. I have changed the way I think and it helps me to not give a fuck. I still don’t want her to leave but I can’t stop her.

[–]FoxShitNasty83 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

"I would prefer it if you stayed but I won't stop you if you want to leave"

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

LOL she tricked you sucker! Had she found dinosaur character socks in your drawer that morning it would have been that reason for her to leave.

She left because she isnt attracted to you.

You should just laugh and be like whatever crazy. I didn't do anything wrong you act crazy and IDGAF.

[–]HurricaneHugues 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Married to a 21 year old at 24? You already fucked up

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Are you married?

[–]HurricaneHugues 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Off course not. I'm not stupid

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

You think all married men are stupid? Lol. Then your father is stupid too. I guess you are 20 years old boy who likes to catch pussy all day.

[–]HurricaneHugues 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

My dad wasn't married. He was with my mom for 16 years and never married.

You also don't need marriage (a legal contract) to have a partner, have kids, and raise a family together under the same roof. Marriage is not a factor at all. You're an idiot.

[–]dbayraktar[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You are right. It is not neccessary to get married to have a partner, have kids etc. But I didn't get married because I love my wife. I had to get married because of her crazy father. I would never get married again if I were single again.

[–]HurricaneHugues 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So you got forced into a marriage by her dad? Wtf dude? Are you his slave? You're living a life that was imposed on you. What the fuck are you doing dude? Divorce this chick before it gets too late. What the fuck?

[–]aita2899 -2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Show her the email of the sign up date. If she still wants to act like this, next her. You have no kid drama to deal with.

Get a lawyer, I was stupid and tried the amicable route against the advice of everyone here. Once lawyers got involved shit moved damn quick and I’m grateful for that.

[–]arm_candy 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Show her the email of the sign up date.

Or stop DEERing instead. She’s already convinced this guy is her bitch. No need to further demonstrate.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Show her the email of the sign up date.

Bad advice. Own your shit. If he wants to LARP on the internet to strangers, that's his thing. "Yep, I do that all the time babe. I'm fucking awesome at it."

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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