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I broke up with my LTR (Painful) (self.asktrp)

submitted by depressedthrowaway3y

Thank you to the red pill for all your advice and information which led to me kicking my LTR to the curb. It was a painful decision.

To start off, I’m a 5 ft 4 male, who’s always had extreme troubles with woman, I don’t have a tonne of options around me, so you can understand how much more painful this was for me compared to the average red piller.

I applied red pill principles and I managed to get my first girl (in my life actually), the sex was great and life was pretty much good. However she was the following:

  • Disrespectful
  • Flaked On plans with no remorse
  • Denied sex quite often
  • Borderline Emotional Cheating with other guys
  • A tonne more

It’s been tough the last couple of hours as I told my LTR it’s over, given my situation, the lack of options, I’ll most likely go back to grinding for another girl, which may well take over a year.

TRP, given my situation, did I make the right decision?


[–]RedLegendx132 points133 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Discard anything or ANYONE who doesn’t bring value to your life, or even brings you down or tries to.

Time to use the time and energy you gave her on you, get more involved in self improvement, hit the gym, watch/listen to red pill content, get a new wardrobe, get a job or try to get a raise, eventually try to meet up with chicks and start to spin plates, etc...

[–]Iluvalmonds833 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly this. With the mentality that you’re making these improvements for YOURSELF, not in hopes of getting another girl. Increased female attraction is a byproduct of improving ourself.

[–]black-cattle2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Happy cake day.

[–]FatalComplex111206 points207 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes

[–]flatox30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

/thread, case closed.

[–]theUnBannableHulk70 points71 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Tough man. But you made a choice that few Men have the balls to make. You just became more masculine and yes your height is a disadvantage but women are attracted to masculinity even more than height.

Grind it out, take no shit and you find another girl faster. You made a hard choice and we’re here to support you. 👍🏻

[–]monky-loves-you28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You know you did the right thing. In the future you'll be able to see that clearly and you'll be proud of yourself for doing it.

Making a big assumption about lack of options, ask yourself why it matters if you have another LTR or how long it takes? Would your life be better if you have a LTR and if so, I hope that's not based on either your past experience, or your fantasy of meeting a unicorn (that we all have, to an extent).

Think about it logically - your life can be still better all on your own and based on what you described, it probably will be.

[–]HurricaneHugues45 points46 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Because of your height disadvantage you must be 10x more ruthless when dealing with these hoes man. Any inch you give them will look like a mile in their eyes. Don't give them an inch. Keep them on a very tight leash.

[–]jackothebast18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Tbf he doesn't have any inches to give.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oof

[–]Dos_Shepard76 points77 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

“In reality I'm 5'4, Stand on my money now I'm 6'6” - Lil Uzi.

Stay on that grind big dog God put your life on hard mode because you can handle this MFer.

[–]rentaljeep36 points37 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Dang you actually just quoted Lil Uzi. Unexpected props

[–]HastaPronto90-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Just be famous and rich like Lil Uzi bro"...

[–]watchguy4517 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude you should be so proud of yourself.

It’s hard to make the right decision when emotions are involved. But that’s what separates a man from every other species on the planet. You do the right thing for your self respect, even when it may cause you short term emotional pain.

This decision will help you become the person you are meant to be. Now spend the time self improving . Don’t let that pain go to waste.

[–]sowhattwenty2013 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she was doing those things, she was probably trying to get you to break up with her, and had likely made her mind up about the relationship ending a while ago. Women don’t like being the “dumper” if they can get you to do their dirty work.

Make a list of all the reasons she sucks, and things she did to you to bring you to this point. Review it often. It’s just your turn.

Get to the gym. Start talking to other women ASAP. Vow to be smarter in your next relationship. Learn all the red flags.

This is why oneitis is a killer—drill this feeling into your bones. It will hurt more the next time unless you take your medicine now.

[–]trwawyrnd11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

you did the right thing. this is why I always have backups /orbiters in LTR cause it's easier to get back on the dating scene and gives a good distraction. it also seems like she wanted you to stand up for yourself which you have thus she may come back.

[–]imahoaxandacoach10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When in doubt, leave. Trust your gut.

[–]violetmonstermunch4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I was like you and did the same thing. Only difference is she was physically cheating every week with a new guy or girl. 6 years later I'm fucking glad I did it. It's been 6 years of dry spell, didn't have sex even once but I'm still convinced I made the right decision.

[–]folded1000time12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–]violetmonstermunch0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

what?

[–]folded1000time1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

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[–]IATAsshole3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You base your happiness off of having a girl, you’re basically fucked dude.

Also you’re talking negative about yourself. Focusing on things you can’t control like your height, instead of shutting up, going to the gym, getting buff, working on yourself and becoming an alpha male ladies would drop their pants for.

[–]linkinway[🍰] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

why was it painful to break it off with someone who emotionally cheated with other guys on you? She was only using you, it was no relationship even

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Did you make the right decision? That depends. Is your self-respect important to you? Then certainly.

[–]Thatjuansailor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Next decision is to find yourself and try values. Pursue what you are passionate about in accordance with those values. Acquire currency and you know the rest....

[–]443610661 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It takes pride to do this, the self respect you will gain looking back at this will make your frame solid for future interactions

[–]pingutuxy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was like this, 1 year ago. I learned that if you're experiencing this kinds of behavior from your LTR, your turn is over. And you did the right thing, break up with her. She doesn't want you anymore, but is waiting for you to breakup with her so she doesn't become the "bad" person.

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You did well brother! Now you must lift like your life depends on it!

[–]VigilantSmartbomb1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Am I the only one who says downgrade before cutting off? I’m sure even she could have swept the barracks

[–]depressedthrowaway3y[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I couldn’t handle if she were to be with another man in front of me so it was better to cut off

[–]VigilantSmartbomb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I mean everybody creates their whatevers- falling in rank doesn’t mean she’s going to fuck someone else. On the flip side it may make her want to fuck you more because you’re pulling back.

I mean I’m happy now, but when I first broke up with my last blue relationship I regretted not demoting her (she would’ve liked that more too) until I found someone to replace her. Sometimes it’s good to have that in between, but I went like a year without sex, I got uninterested in it.

Don’t let a bitch get so inside your head you tell yourself you’re uninterested 🤦🏽‍♂️

Tangenttt lmao

[–]daudirfan580 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good for you man. I know the heartache is real but grinding for another girl and going to the gym will keep you occupied. You have chosen the right path.

[–]RPOpenUp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is a question you already know the answer off. Those are huge red flags and you should drop her no doubt

[–]Drawman120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get your hopes up man, giving yourself 1 year is gonna get net you 1 girl in a year. And yeah it is the fucking right decision.

[–]Lostfate090 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Given what you've said you made that right decision. You should be proud of yourself for having the balls to walk away even though its really painful, many guys would stay in a shit relationship with oneitis and then she would have dumped you anyway....like what happened to me recently lol

[–]FilipDimko0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You did great bro

[–]mr4kino0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nicely done mate. The cons you described shouldn't be accepted by any man. Well done again.

[–]Sendzo1230 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

can you describe emotional cheating. what was it exactly.

thanks

[–]depressedthrowaway3y[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Flirting with other men (sexual flirting).

[–]Merica9110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The Disrespectful one should be a deal breaker.

Over the summer I drop a plate that I was able to have sex with 5 times a day but the second she got disrespectful, like legit dissing me, I ghost her hard.

Am I egotistical? Maybe. But I feel like the disrespect words come out someone's mouth is what sits in their head daily. And if that's how one feels about you, trust me, you're better off alone. Not worth a single second to spend more.

Many girls are in relationships because that don't want to be alone. Many of them are cowards for this. Why? They'll get into a relationship with one they don't even fully respect but they're only doing for Instagram.

[–]riggedved0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I would say you did the thing a true man would do.

I bet that she seeing how you discarded her, she will start valuing you and respecting you more. Maybe even try to get you back.

good job, this was inspiring. I mean it!

[–]Corvus_Uraneus0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm curious about the " Borderline Emotional Cheating with other guys "

Whats that?

[–]depressedthrowaway3y[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Flirting with other guys sexually.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fellow manlet here. You have hope my man

[–]Endorsed ContributorNightwingTRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course. You were quite clearly a placeholder until she found someone else. Why on earth did you promote her from plate?

[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Keep abundance man.

An anecdote to cheer you up.

I had a chick I had a super hot one month fling with come back around a couple years later. She told me that during the time we hadn't seen each other she had dated this guy that was really small, like your height or less, but that he was in her words top 3 in bed. He was still in her head.

Point being, rock them drawers and your height won't mean shit. I'm 6'4 and 200# for reference, so it's not like pickings were slim for this girl.

[–]Snowboard180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love posts like this, men with some balls that make the right decision even if it means going through a month of kinda missing her. Well done

[–]Mao_did_nothing_wong0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

You obviously made the right decision. But if you don't mind me asking, how did you get a gf in the first place? Was she ugly or fat or what? Or do you look like chad facially? No disrespect, I'm a 5'3 gigamanlet myself that's why I'm curious.

[–]depressedthrowaway3y[S] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

She was actually a good looking girl, white 6/10, I used to be hopeless before TRP. I started lifting and learning game. Before you knew it I was getting some attention, but none of it turned into fruits except this girl. I tried hard, TRP is the truth. It was very hard for me though, considering the height. But I honestly will never tolerate disrespect no matter how desperate I get. I’m still hurting and the overwhelming support is helping me out. I don’t regret my decision.

[–]Mao_did_nothing_wong0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Somewhat lifefuel I guess.
How tall is she? And did you ever got your face rated/how would you rate yourself facially?

Since you browsed shortcels too I'm surprised to hear that you think rp is the truth. Most would call it cope.

[–]depressedthrowaway3y[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I browse shortcels because of course short men get rejected for their height. It’s not an unknown phenomenon. But red pill teaches you to maximise on your strengths and ignore your weaknesses because what can you do if they can’t be changed anyway? You’re going to either choose to better yourself or LDAR.

Facially, I’m also about a 6/10 if I had to rate myself. I used to be about a 4 until I used retin-A to clear my skin and learnt about facial proportions and cut my facial hair to kind of “suit” my face. All in all I put in a huge amount of effort to get this girl. But even then I wasn’t willing to put up with it. If you have any Short friends, show them the red pill. Masculinity is everything.

[–]Mao_did_nothing_wong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I fear that it's over for me. Idk if this is cope or hope. Do you have discord or anything else where we can convienently chat? Reddit sucks.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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