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Who else feels like text from SO is a trap? Today I got a bunch of lovey dovey shit and so far haven't replied (not from STBX- she's history probably). In MMSLP Athol said saying I love you is good for the relationship, but is it a sign of weakness? It is showing your feelings and that's always a no no. Women have feelings not men with actual balls. What is your text game and is there any guidelines in the sidebar I missed regarding text strategy? My name is Bootyslayer911 and I am a faggot, red pill date 11/5/19.


[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret30 points31 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

It is showing your feelings and that's always a no no.

Robots aren't sexy. The key is to express your emotions like a man. But this will be very difficult until you have developed strong frame, so the rule here is "texting is for logistics only" until you're no longer a faggot.

[–]AlohaMaui8086 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You're in a much more giving mood than I am.

[–]Chump_No_More6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This problem is so pervasive with new guys that the words have to be said, often.

STFU is not a mindset, it's a stop-gap.

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

it’s becoming a mindset. after all, grandma used to say, “the wise one shuts up.”

[–]Tyred_BiggumsRed Beret14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women have feelings not men with actual balls.

Everyone has feelings you dumbass. The key is to not 1) expect anyone to fix them for you, 2) express them in a masculine way and 3) not allow them to influence you decisions.

[–]MillionaireSexbomb7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Text game comes over time and most people fuck it up. It’s similar to Heartiste’s rule of a ratio of incoming to outgoing texts and how much you text. Light flirting, teasing, communicating info. It can be great for qualifying a girl, keeping something a little warm until you see them, and then teasing them after. Text can help a little bit but it can also hurt a lot so it’s best to know when it’s applicable. New date coming up? Little flirting can help. Fighting with SO? Keep that to a minimum and handle it in person. Giving instruction? Quick text. Calling helps too and startles some, so up to you, as long as what you do is in your frame. If you’re staring at your phone trying to think of the perfect text, you’re trying too hard and should put it down for the time being. That said, if she’s texting you “I love you” and you don’t want to respond in kind, a little kiss emoji, “see you soon babe” whatever can be good. Context and screenshots always help give us context. Not the answer you might have asked for but the other guys in here provided what you probably need right now.

[–]BootySlayer911[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you’re staring at your phone trying to think of the perfect text, you’re trying too hard and should put it down for the time being.

EXACTLY what I've been doing. I don't think I fucked it up yet, but I also didnt think I fucked up my marriage, uh yet. I'll just call her and tell her to come over and hurt my penis again.

[–]MillionaireSexbomb5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If calling isn’t congruent to who you are, I wouldn’t recommend it. If all you’re doing is telling her to come over and bump coochies with her, a plausible deniability text works fine. Your sentence saying “I don’t think I fucked it up yet” is pretty telling, probably best to take a short break today for a few minutes and step back and evaluate. You have a STBX, sounds like you’re still unplugging and figuring your shit out, make sure you’re not getting in over your head with this new woman before you untuck yourself.

[–]echo9795 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course, you expres your emotions in a healthy, manly, non-needy, confident, cocky way.

Don't bottle that shit up! Also, don't go full retard!

Be aware that most women are more neurotic than most men. This means that they tend to perceive more intense all the negatives.

Don't be a needy, emotional mess looking at her for leadership or comfort. You might as well prepare her for the next guy.

If you are angry or disappointed, let her know in a clear and measured/controlled way. You are the teacher, the master, the captain. You must give guidance.

And...never go full retard!

[–]fannyfire2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The generic advice is that texting is for logistics but this in my opinion is because most guys here have a shit relationship.

You can text your SO. I send mine memes and joke about shit all day. Sometimes I text her that I wish we were home so I could fuck her brains out. Basically, you can do whatever you want but the cardinal rule is to not fight over text. Do not entertain their attitude. Always shut it down. If they call you and repeatedly blow up your phone tell her you will block her number. When she cries because she says, “What do I do if I need you and you blocked me?” That’s when you tell them, “It’s not your problem.”

Once you’ve trained them they’ll behave because they realize you value your time and don’t put up with their crocodile tears.

[–]Chump_No_More2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It is showing your feelings and that's always a no no.

Nobody here of any consequence is saying this, so I don't know where you're getting this message.

The classical Stoics have it right. Live every day with passion, just do not allow your emotions to rule you.

[–]BostonBrakeJob[🍰] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you can't say "I love you," without worrying about whether or not it makes you appear weak, to a woman that you do (presumably) love, then you should probably still to the logistics only rule of thumb.

[–]BootySlayer911[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't think I'll ever tell another woman I love her again. I realize that sounds pretty faggy, but I told my stbx I loved her all the time and she tried to cut my balls off.

[–]AlohaMaui8084 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

After potential STBX left in November

That's pulled from your comment on another askMRP post.

not from STBX- she's history probably

You can't call someone a STBX when you put potential on the front of it and probably on the end of it.

It is showing your feelings and that's always a no no. Women have feelings not men with actual balls

That's some machismo bullshit. Ego fronting is your go-to I see. Scrolling your recent comments... yup. Confirmed fronting faggot.

What is your text game and is there any guidelines in the sidebar I missed regarding text strategy?

It's literally part of the 3 part mantra. Just STFU. Also, it is stated so many places: texting is only for logistics, especially when you lack even basic reading comprehension. Maybe try to stop eating paint before operating a mobile device.

I am a faggot

Basically the only true thing you've said about yourself since arriving at MRP.

red pill date 11/5/19.

You aren't red pilled, you aren't even red pill aware yet.

It isnt something you can put a date on, it isnt a switch that gets flicked. It's a gradual process.

Start by accepting that you don't know shit about shit. You apparently don't even know how to work the search function on Reddit. If you did you wouldn't be posting stupid value leaching questions like this.

Read. Lift. STFU.

[–]RoccoPinkman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I stopped putting x’s on the end of texts months ago.

It’s too easy to get into that stupid code of ‘you only sent one x, what are you pissed off about’ so now I don’t send any.

[–]macheagle5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

MRP only works through a combination of passing both shit and comfort tests, you faggot. Nowhere does it say men can’t display emotions - but you must display them at the right times, and only your positive emotions. Keep your negative emotions in yourself or your garage or among your bros. You faggot.

[–]losso5199 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nowhere does it say you can't display negative emotions and have to keep it inside or hide in your garage like a faggot, faggot. A controlled, positively or negatively, emotionally charged statement from a man of value and action can instill joy, or fear, either one making her wet.

[–]_-resonance-_3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This. One day after prolonged success w/ stfu, I realized my game would be better if more words came out my mouth hole. This applied to texts, too.

It was tough. I’d say the wrong stuff a lot and go back to stfu.

But with practice, I learned what u/man_in_the_world mentions here. It’s a balancing act. Knowing when to express emotions, especially negative ones, is paramount.

100% true that negative emotions expressed w/ OI at the right moment is exactly what’s called for, and is appreciated by women. One of their shit tests is making sure that you are not play-acting your masculinity; that you are not an emotionless robot.

[–]nobsyoga0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think the problem with texting and social media is it creates a semi-permanent record. Women love to bring up crap from the past all the time, so why give them a way they can hold on to it and rub it in your face?

[–]BootySlayer911[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Guess whats all over my divorce papers? Old angry texts she promised (lol) she deleted. Lesson learned.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Lmfao this sub is nutty.

You guys are seriously the perfect mix of wanna be sociopaths and nerds.

You realize no truly confident man would be posting on an Internet forum about how to get girls right?

Jesus I’m seriously cracking up reading all this silly shit.

[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You realize no truly confident man would be posting on a "nutty" Internet forum to put down "wanna be sociopaths and nerds" right?

You're either trying to reassure yourself that you're not something that you fear you are ... or that you need not do something that you suspect you should.

[–]rightsided-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are a faggot. Your own words. Work on not being a faggot, instead of trying to be Casanova via text.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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