Child support is not based on gender of the parents it is based on the income difference between the parents, money spent on medical insurance, and time spent with custody of the child.

In instances where the system fails like you have mentioned there is no excuse for it. In cases where that isn't the case its a non issue. There will never be a system that monitors how the money us spent. Suggesting that would cause the price of child support to rise. Under that concept there would have to he employees that monitor and check how the money is spent and no amount of checks is going to prevent fraud.

We are all well aware of the problems with the courts having a bias against men in custodial cases. There is also plenty of opportunity for the father to make their case against the mother. Using the extremes is never going to provide an accurate picture. All that I am suggesting is that if people see a problem, not to merely point it out but to instead discuss ways to solve that problem that are both realistic and fair to the child. Most States already charge processing fees for paying child support, adding more to the child support system is not going to go over well in terms of cost. It would also be incredibly difficult to enforce even if you where able to monitor purchases. The amount of things that could be purchased in support of the child are incredibly long. How can you validate a purchase was for the child or not? Let's say the child support receiver buys a tv, how do you prove that child support money was used for that? How do you prove that the child did/will not get use of that tv? The receiver could simply say rent was paid with the support and groceries where purchased with support and the TV was purchased with their own funds derived form other sources. If the child does not have a safe home or basic needs met than it isn't an issue of child support fraud its an issue of child neglect.

This issue is fought in your community, by getting your elected officials to review the process and use the information available to force a legal change. If woman aren't held accountable (not true they simply aren't accountable at the same rate as men which would make sense given that more woman are on the receiving end of support) the issue isn't child support, the issue is court room bias. You won't fix that bias by trying to nullify the support payers responsibility.

What is the suggestion for people that refuse to pay support? They aren't refusing to pay the woman they are refusing to be financially responsible for their child. I have seen both sides of this, as a child who father paid his support and didnt do anything else. As a brother to someone who's father would send $8 in support when he was behind by thousands. (who eventually gave up all parental rights when my step father adopted my brother provided his bio father paid for the adoption) As a father who pays child support. I have witnessed woman use the money correctly to support their children and use it incorrectly. Either way, both parents have a financial responsibility to their children. Child support isn't where the fight is, the bias is the fight.