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Red Pill TheoryThose Three Little Words (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by 1atticusfinch1973

Before you think this is going to be about something romantic and wonderful, have you been to this sub? I'm writing a simple post about the most important three words you can use in any relationship, dating or otherwise to establish a dynamic, make women want you and have the best time you'll ever have:

I'll Handle It.

This is the automatic answer to things like making plans, being asked to help with something by an LTR, or any other scenario where it is required that a decision be made and action be taken.

There are major benefits to using these three little words. First of all, whatever is getting done is getting done by you, under your control. Therefore whatever restaurant you want to eat at, colour you want to paint the walls or activity you want to do the woman is simply along for the ride and will enjoy it. They will also appreciate the fact that they didn't have to make a decision. You're taking a leadership role in the relationship and are assuming the captain dynamic.

In a work situation it shows leadership, the ability to work independently and any boss or manager will highly appreciate that they don't have to keep an eye on you or your work.

Of course, the other component of this is once you tell people you're going to handle it - actually handle it. Over promising and not delivering once an expectation is established is suicide in pretty much any situation. And you have just destroyed any credibility you might have had in establishing your authority.

Comments and additions welcome. If there are a better three words that you can think of, fire away.


[–]blindface314 points315 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Until TRP, I definitely used to be annoyed if a girl was indecisive after giving her options for going out to eat or whatever. It's a trope that many guys bitch about and try to guilt girls over.

Now I know that they just want you to make a decision, to control them, and to take responsibility off their plate. They don't want you to ask them for advice. And that goes double for anyone in a relationship - you're not being considerate by asking them.

Just handle it. Great advice.

[–]WhySoRuff50 points51 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Either choose the spot straight out or give her no more than two choices. The options should be #1 and #2 on the list of places you want to eat.

[–]half_man_half_cat17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

+1 I think giving her a finite amount of choices also works great.

[–]AussiecuntTRP18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I knew this intuitively before discovering red pill. You see all these BP guys asking their girls where they want to eat/go/drink then they have a hissy fit when they can't get a girl to decide. You are the man. You fucking decide where to go or at least give her limited options. She aint going out with you because you go to fancy restaurants or expensive bars (unless you're a BB). She's going out to be with you and have fun and ultimately fuck you. Who cares where you go?

[–]zattraction11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

to take responsibility off their plate

You could also say you're taking responsibility off YOUR plate ;)

[–]rikleeRed42117 points118 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

finally a good, useful post that isnt PUA bullshit. cheers.

[–]pineappleeverything 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

We've been getting quite a few of these lately actually.

[–]CSMastermind70 points71 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Personally I like delegating. "This restaurant, this time, make reservations". As long as your mako ng the decisions and doing any of the hard stuff having them to the menial tasks works great.

[–]beginner_6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good point. A leader doesn't do everything by himself. It's not like a captain is steering the ship himself. He tells the crew in which direction to go.

[–]Scheme0018 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think the OP is spot on with this. Over and over I'm told this is what makes me more attractive with women I'm dating compared to other men.

[–]WorldNewPilla16 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for the post bro, I see what you are saying. Yet, I feel that using it too much may show you as a beta for doing all the things with her only participating after the work is done. What are your two cents about that?

[–]smyger0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My thoughts exactly, in a relationship this turns you to beta?

[–]Redpillandrew0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Good point. My two cents are: you make her do her part. Like "go fetch me this", "go wash the dishes". Yeah you handle all of it but you're in charge... don't forget this part. This way you show leadership and you don't do all the work like a beta provider. Plus: very once in a while, when asked to do something, tell you just won't. Firmly. Strong boundaries.

[–]WorldNewPilla1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I see what you are saying, it makes sense. Thanks mate.

[–]BreakingRed_13 points14 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

There are people who haven't read "Extreme Ownership" yet and are browsing this sub?

Get to it.

[–]rp_newdawn1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've had it sitting on my Amazon wish list of "books I wish I had time for". After reading your comment, I pre-ordered the new edition coming out next month. Thanks for the kick.

[–]butter_coffee0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hey!! I read that book. His new one “Discipline is Freedom” just came out 3 days ago.

[–]BreakingRed_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm baffled at how this sub rarely mentions his work. "The warrior kid" was basically portraying himself as an alpha uncle teaching the beta kid how to work hard and have a code in his life.

[–]SultanPepe6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Alternatively, "I've got this"

[–]prodigy2throw2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I never let women decide anything anymore. Decision making is a mans job

[–]CeleritySteam4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"What do you wanna do?" Confused silence. "Do you want A or B?" Indecisive prattling. "We're doing this." Ok. AWALT.

[–]SonOfTerra9211 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That's actually 4 words mate.

But Great post though. That's what men do. Translate will power into work that gets things done, whether it's moving mountains or getting laid.

Those two are kinda the same things aren't they.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Clicked on the thread expecting to see "I am pregnant."

You are right and this could be a far more developed post, because this is a very rich mine to dig. Imma gonna need the name of your grammar school English teacher though; they can use a bullet to they're head.

[–]konradcurzed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It is good to note that the 3 exact opposite words are "I Don't Know". Even if you don't know and are planning on making it up on the fly, never out right say "I Don't Know". It makes everyone uncomfortable.

[–]1Metalageddon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Very well done.

Shit, now I've gotta scrap another submission. You've done this very well, thanks OP.

[–]DntPnicIGotThis0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great post. Solid utility for life.

[–]1GreenPiller0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

"Are you done?" Is also a good one to use when she's done ranting.

[–]psionicsickness16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"Are you done?" is just oppository (sp? is this the right word?). You are allowing for a response. I get it, it says, "I don't care what you just said", but it's not authoritative, it's catty.

Someone starts ranting about unrelated or unimportant things? Just walk away, don't ask them if they're done.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Someone starts ranting about unrelated or unimportant things? Just walk away, don't ask them if they're done.

Yeah, I used to listen when my girlfriend was ranting about pointless crap. Then I tried just saying 'uh-huh' and going off to do what I want to do. Works a lot better.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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