Good news: no one gives a shit about you.

CrazyHorseInvincible · 2017-11-08T03:03:10+00:00

user reports: 1: hate sub, c'mon you all know it

Your vague aspersions have no power here.

Go back to the shadow that spawned you!

Subbs · 2017-11-07T18:16:50+00:00

I have to say that while I've always kind of understood this, nothing has ever really driven it home as well as the simple words "Publicity is hard". It's so obvious when you think about it but the fact that making people care is an entire business and often the costliest part of any project really makes you realize that you shouldn't worry about accidentally getting people to care too much.

It's kinda like the people who worry they'll look like Arnold after doing some curls for a couple of weeks.

PeggedByOwlette · 2017-11-07T18:20:27+00:00

The moment you start caring/worrying about what other people are thinking of you, you no longer live your own life. You enter the other person's perception of reality.

Dino227 · 2017-11-07T17:49:58+00:00

A thought experiment I've utilized in the past was to visualize that I have died of a terminal illness, that my family has mourned and more or less gotten over it and moved on with their lives, and then suddenly I've come back to life and can continue going on living albeit with zero contact whatever with my family or past friends. They don't know I've returned. The question then becomes, now what? What am I going to do with this 2nd chance at life with none of my prior situational connotations?

FieldLine · 2017-11-07T18:19:19+00:00

For me, this realization was freeing.

When you cold approach a girl in class or whatever and it's quiet in the room so others can hear, no one is judging you. They genuinely don't give a shit. Even if you say the most cringeworthy thing in the world, everyone is so wrapped up in their own world that they don't even notice you.

When you start attending a Muay Thai class, and your hips are so shitty that you can't even get your leg above your waist when you kick, everyone is so busy worrying about whether they look dumb that they don't even see you falling on your ass again and again.

When you do an open mic at a comedy club for the first time, and your set sucks, because it probably will, everyone is so concerned about their set that your shit won't even register in their minds.

I mean, when you see a guy approach a hot girl in a bar and get shot down, you could hardly care. What makes you think you're special enough that others pay attention to you?

Ask yourself this: how many weirdos have you seen on public transportation with a finger up their nose, guys with armpit stains, women mumbling to themselves -- we've all seen them. Can you remember the last time, specifically, you saw someone like that? Can you remember their face? I sure can't, and I take public transit every day.

Do yourself a favor and read the OP a hundred times, a thousand times, till you get it through your head.

UrsusG · 2017-11-07T21:26:34+00:00

moment that you remember and cringe

So you think she doesn't remember that date in 1993 or 1994 when I had too much KFC hot wings and first farted uncontrollably in bed and then had to spend the rest of the night on the shitter pretending I'm showering?

Hell, I remember it as if it was yesterday, almost a quarter of a fucking century ago.

Rian_Stone · 2017-11-07T20:07:20+00:00

As a narcissist, i find this post to be heartbreaking. I may just have to do something unique enough to warrant my ego

phoenixtoast · 2017-11-08T06:22:22+00:00

I kind of have to disagree with this. It's taking a good point too far.

True, no one remembers what shirt you were wearing last Wednesday. But they DO remember if you're well-dressed or not.

True, no one remembers you had the tuna salad sandwich for lunch. But they DO remember if you're the guy who eats alone or is surrounded by friends.

No one remembers exactly what car you drive. But they do remember whether is a slick new model or a trashy 90's POS.

See my point. People in general and especially women are very good at telling if your on the upswing, stagnant, or downward spiralling at any given time. And the way they tell this is by adding up all the little details that are on display any time you are in public, and also nowadays, post (or not post) on social media.

So while it's true an individual data point doesn't mean all that much on it's own, put them all together and people can form a very good opinion about you very quickly.

MagicCharles · 2017-11-07T18:18:56+00:00

I think the biggest argument against this is the whole "social proof" that is often required by women to consider you a high SMV male.

Although the difference is that women do give a fuck about the way they, and society, perceive their potential mates, but not the way they actually are. The DGAF attitude will be immense added value, but your blunders may be even more damaging than the benefits this attitude confers.

Rodion-Raskolnikov · 2017-11-07T19:24:38+00:00

I work in a job where people are waiting for me to slip up. Your advice could get a career man sacked.

Squirmme · 2017-11-07T20:25:44+00:00

I have a mantra which I repeat when I am feeling these thoughts: “nobody fucking cares.”

Ganaraska-Rivers · 2017-11-07T22:23:36+00:00

Don't worry about what people think about you. They aren't thinking about you. They are too busy worrying about what you think of them.

[deleted] · 2017-11-08T10:29:37+00:00

This post is one big whole hamster that goes against the very essence of red pill. Of course people notice when you do fucking dumb shit in public just like they notice and remember when you do awesome shit. Why are you trying to get swole if you think no one notices or gives a fuck? Why are you driving that nice ride or wearing that super swarve/cool clothing if people are only looking right past you? See how daft that assumption is?

Is this where we are heading on redpill, hamstering away our inadequacies by saying "hurr durr but no one notices". I mean it's one thing to not give a fuck what others think but it's totally another thing to claim they are all blind to what's going on around them. It's a stupid notion.

enadelb · 2017-11-07T20:42:29+00:00

everyone moment that you remember and cringe... no one else remembers it. They just don't care enough.

I still talk to my friends from HS sometimes those "moments" are brought up and we share a good laugh at whoever's expense. We remember.

Don't believe me? Think of a friend, fellow student, or co-worker who you see almost every day. What colour shirt was he wearing yesterday?

That's a false equivilency from what was said above. Of course people won't remember what another person wore. They're more likely to remember an embarrassing moment of an individual than an article of clothing they wore.

People don't forget

juliusstreicher · 2017-11-08T00:03:07+00:00

This. I recently started membership in a new gym. Haven't been in X years, and am fat and weak. I'm also 60 years old, so, I thought that I might be stared at as an object of ridicule, contempt or pity.

Young, hot chicks at counter and male orbiters. They barely noticed or gave a fuck about me. Hot chicks are wanting 19 year old dick, young dude didn't even see me, because he doesn't want the hot chicks to think that he even knows what an old man is. If I dropped a 100 lb weight on my head, hot chicks might laugh...and, turn back to the 19 year old to see if she can still suck him off. The young dude might laugh...and go right back to trying to get laid.

They don't care if you drop dead or get your balls caught in the bench...they are too busy trying to get with the gym members of the opposite sex.

Lackluster2 · 2017-11-08T01:46:14+00:00

But what about your character and personality and behavior that forms people's perception of you. People talk about people when they are not around and they either say good, bad, or meh things... is that a different topic?

Rian_Stone · 2017-11-07T19:23:47+00:00

Will add to this.

I officially threw my IRL face onto this. guess what. No reporters, no DOXXING threats. A few death threats, but it's more idiots lashing out than anything.

No one cares, called my misogynist or anything. Truly, no one gives a shit.

shaggyctes88 · 2017-11-07T19:25:38+00:00

This is all very true, can confirm.

Source - I train neck at the gym

newName543456 · 2017-11-07T20:55:26+00:00

Still don't believe me? Go to work or school with your shirt on inside-out, with the seams showing. Watch how long it is before someone notices, if anyone ever does. If someone does point it out, look down, shrug, and go "Meh. Oops.", and go right back to what you were doing. Note how fast business as usual resumes.

I actually did once, except in blouse.

Nobody else noticed for 3 or so hours before I took it off because it was getting warm anyway.

And I routinely have laughing fits whenever commuting in public transport as something funny comes to my mind. Nobody gives a fuck. GOOD. I get to have my fun and nobody is stopping me.

[deleted] · 2017-11-08T00:21:45+00:00

I recently had a situation where I put the wrong guard on my facial trimmer and shaved an eyebrow completely off. I was mortified. My brain raced with thoughts of what people would say and think.

Funny thing was. NO ONE NOTICED. Not one fucking person.

And luck would have it... the son of a bitch grew back.

This really hammered home the point of this article.

Crookedly · 2017-11-08T02:47:55+00:00

At first glance, most people find this disheartening. But actually I find it liberating. Knowing nobody cares about you allows you to do whatever the fuck you want and not give a shit.

The simplest messages are the best messages.

Thotwrecker · 2017-11-08T05:17:58+00:00

People do give a shit, but the people who give a shit are generally fucking losers. Case in point - how many guys who really care so much about every slut that cheats, or every feminist who does what feminists do, etc, are really winners in life? The guys who follow every scandal and care so hard about, IDK, Anita Saarkesian being a cunt or mens rights not being taken seriously at UToronto, etc. They're fucking losers, and if you care and give a colossal shit about what some bitch does or some dude does, you're a loser.

TBP? A sub that exists to care about what we do? Losers. People who cared so hard about what incels do on their faggoty little incel bubble subreddit... losers. Incels who care so much about chads that they analyze every Chad's behavior to the point where they are essentially gay for Chads? Losers.

People who care about other people are losers. Take it a step further. Your friends think you are a fag for getting into self improvement and talking to girls, and ditching the afterschool LoL club. If you care about that, you are a loser.

Friend is BP and is getting cucked and is mad at you when you tell him to see the partyslut for what she is? And you get all bent out of shape and keep tracking what he does and trying to repeatedly save him? You're a fucking loser, go live your own life, go show him what a real dick can get up to.

People who care don't matter. It's a cliche, but it's a better cliche than no ones cares. Some people will always care. People will care if you're an older guy with a younger girl, or if you're a fat guy with a fit girl, or a fit guy with a thicc girl, or whatever it is. Remember, we live in a world where bitches take photos of dudes manspreading on public trains and post them to the internet to shame them.

People care. Those who just aren't really... people. They are trash. And if they can make you care, then they have successfully played their role, and now you are trash with them.

BurnoutRS · 2017-11-08T01:22:13+00:00

As part of my rehabilitation (car accident, brain and spinal cord injury) I go for long walks on a daily basis. Keeps me moving, great therapy overall even if you arent battling chronic pain.

Walking usually leaves my mind and upper body free to do other things. As silly as it may sound i've come up with a variety of simple drills that have helped me a lot. I make eye contact with passing drivers. If I see someone in their yard I wave and say hello. I live in a very rural area so i rarely see people out close enough to just strike up a conversation. When I started I had to force myaelf to do these things, but theyve started to become natural. I decided to up the intensity. I love singing and dancing but i noticed that when cars would pass by I would tone down the intensity, sometimes even outright stop what im doing for fear of ridicule. Honestly I was a little bitch.

Now I just dance, sometimes I even ramp shit up when I see a car approaching. The first time I allowed myself to just do me without fear of judgement was exhilirating. I crave that feeling now so I keep challenging myself to break out of my shell more and more.

Essentially this: who the fuck cares what someone driving by thinks of the crazy guy having the time of his life dance walking through the country side? Who the fuck cares what some random woman thinks of you? There's even more women than there are cars on the road. Life is short.

victor_knight · 2017-11-08T03:07:29+00:00

Exactly. Get what you need/want out of life and stop giving too many fucks. Nobody really gives a shit what you do anyway (or even if you live or die).

[deleted] · 2017-11-08T14:56:16+00:00

It's even more than that : people wonder what you think about them, not the opposite.

halfback910 · 2017-11-08T17:51:43+00:00

Yeah, when I realized that nobody cared about me it was liberating.

Nobody believes me when I say nobody cares. The best way I've been able to demonstrate that nobody cares/nobody is watching is by asking the person I'm talking to, "Do you have two coworkers you can think of?"

Almost always they'll say yes. Then I ask "Okay, picture the two coworkers. What did they wear today?"

Rarely will they be able to remember one of the coworkers' outfits. I've never had someone remember both. And it was that day.

I_Need_More_Space_ · 2017-11-07T17:55:58+00:00

This idea is why I bounce between being a "live and let live" atheist and a "militant" atheist.

Religions have been known to hijack this perfectly natural human tendency and use it to turn men against themselves. This is a sub about male sexual strategy, which is where this is worst exploited. Jimmy Carter infamously said, which true and deeply felt shame, that he "Committed adultery in his heart." No, dude, you're a naked ape with a cock and balls "designed" to spread your seed far and wide.

By the way, this is a similar vector that results in Western Islamic extremism. The arc runs from a realization that perhaps we haven't acted perfectly in the Middle East to a deep individual shame to a rectification of that shame with violence.

The realization that no one gives a shit is liberating. The realization that God doesn't give a shit is completely liberating.

I_Need_More_Space_ · 2017-11-07T19:18:37+00:00

Fear of rejection can cause many to fail before even starting.

Fear of inconsequential lives can also foster the prevalence of loserdom (Yeah, I just invented a word. Its like wisdom, but the opposite ). Why care when nobody cares and when the vastness of time won't even queef to acknowledge your existence? As stated in a comment before, this creates an easy out for losers to be losers without feeling about about their shitty existence. I truly believe shame is a great motivator, and we need more shame in this western world.

Balance is key. You should only care what others think if they themselves have virtues or knowledge that you yourself wish to attain. Most of the general population's opinions are useless as they are in the class of Sheeople. Pick your mentors, role models, and friends wisely.

driticool · 2017-11-07T21:32:11+00:00

I've always wanted to try this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HtDkg3Xwn7U

grimlocksgauntlet · 2017-11-07T23:07:34+00:00

Way to be condescending and encouraging at the same time...

TheVegasGambler · 2017-11-08T01:11:55+00:00

"No one is watching" sounds like a quote i could live to

ColdbloodedEdward · 2017-11-08T02:09:20+00:00

this is normal, still hard to understand for some. why do you think graffiti exists? 1. balls of steel 2. no one watches you 3. even if they saw you they won't do shit unless its a security guard

albus_scirocco · 2017-11-08T04:13:04+00:00

Why is everything an insult?

FinancierGuru · 2017-11-08T06:30:14+00:00

I'll the check the book. Think I saw the video before.

TRP_mask · 2017-11-08T07:43:26+00:00

This is either completely wrong or I'm in the wrong age group or something.

I'm 17 years old, high school, and I have Aspergers which has given me a reputation in the past and even though I've become way more social I'm still the loser in school. It doesn't really matter because I have red pilled friends outside of school, but it doesn't help either. I'm dating this girl, who happens to be the sister of one of my classmates. I went to a funfair with her and passed a few classmates of mine, who obviously heavily reacted. Now, if they don't give a shit about me, they'd maybe only tease me a little bit, right? Well, wrong. As it goes in high school, everyone knew an hour later I was hanging out with her. Having people yell at you for it is super embarassing, and recently I found out some guys made dumb pictures decorated with hearts mostly. It's so pathetic. Now the only one shutting his mouth about it is her little brother, but everyone else is saying he's 'having conversations with her sister to prevent me from starting something' or they just say it's useless what I'm doing (it's not btw, seriously she invites me over and cuddle, even made out a bit) as I'm ugly and she wouldn't want me anyway.

All this, and I am supposed to believe people don't give a shit about you? That's a tough one. Please prove me wrong.

Mojo5375 · 2017-11-08T13:02:44+00:00

Most people don't think about you because they're too busy thinking about themselves...

wendysNO1wcheese · 2017-11-08T13:12:28+00:00

That’s quite the music video to pull out of your ass for a post.

Sir-Pumpalot · 2017-11-08T13:38:55+00:00

good news, neither about you. besides that solid post even tho it should be normal thinking, the more time I spend here, the more I get the feeling that most guys here or in general in my age (25-35), never have been raised well, maybe it is because Im not american and its just the american way of life, but here are so many things that should be "normal" yet get the most upvotes. Im not judging anyone, what i'm sayin is, that it is an evidence for incapacity, so many jung fellas never have been raised well and the younger generation is even weaker.

For instance your post: solid - but normal. My father taught me "as a human (not man, not woman but human) you never should feel embarassed if you fail or do something stupid, because most people wont realize it anyways and if they do, who cares" and if I ask why? (when I was around 8) the answer was really simple: "because we are human, not animals, we know what we do" so as long as you think before you do stupid shit, you should never be embarassed it was YOUR choice to sing that lady gaga song in the subway, not a godly order, but nowadays shit has changed, so many young men are making fools of themself when talking to other people or women, because they have never learned to think before they talk or because they are nervous, which is needles as I'm sure most of those girls shit trough their asshole, not their mouth (prob both)

clon3man · 2017-11-08T17:07:06+00:00

This is true, after highschool. Also, there's no shortage of people who like to run their mouth giving all kids of advice that isn't useful. People DON'T care about your well being, but they DO LOVE giving cookie-cutter advice, because it makes them feel good. These are usually friends and family, and these are fucking dangerous people, because they like parroting over and over again, and steering you towards a path that they feel is valuable for you; unfortunately in 90% of cases their interest is mostly to get their message across and they don't care about the long term consequences. Yes, this includes mom & dad, who have the best intentions, but don't know how to do anything but parrot an idea they learned 10 years ago that they haven't examined properly. There is no greater echo chamber than your immediate and extended family.

Be very careful with advice on how to live your life from close friends and family. Few people really think through the advice to see how well it applies to the situation at hand. The sad truth is, within a month they've forgotten what they told you and will blame you for any failures, including failures they helped create by insisting that you listen to what they have to say.

Always make decisions with careful self deliberation and never let the voices of 1-2 people ring louder than well-reflected thoughts.

NoChillPhilll · 2017-11-09T09:11:00+00:00

Alot of 'nobody gives a shit about you' lately

metallicdrama · 2017-11-12T02:38:30+00:00

This is the blind sociopaths operate behind from with total ease. Master it.

SomberRook · 2017-11-13T07:50:53+00:00

Have to refute the study on people being unobservant. According to section 1.2 of the article one of the studies particularly the umbrella girl test was faulty do to a lack of constraint over controlled variables.

All the studies really prove is that people have a remarkable short attention span and have mediocre processing and perceptive abilities as a result.

People shouldn't necessarily do what they're afraid to do. It's fine to fear jumping out of moving vehicles or standing atop windy skyscrappers without guard-rails. Fear is an innate biological preservation instinct that has kept ancestoral humans from getting mauled by bears in the wilderness. Temperate fear is a survival mechanism.

What people should do is get over their inflated sense of self importance that inhibits their willingness to do things that may make them happy or more functional as a human being. Just as no one cares what their co-workers wear no one cares about the egos, self-conscientiousness, and insecurities of other people. Instead of "doing what they're afraid of" potentially to their detriment they should focus on getting over their useless insecurities. Much better advice.

NormalAndy · 2017-11-15T08:15:14+00:00

No stranger than just a few people controlling nearly all the wealth of the world by birthright. Society is all the poorer for it :-(

cynexyl · 2017-11-08T00:24:00+00:00

I was reflecting on that just earlier today.

All I had to do to come up with that conclusion was to go on the roof of the building where I live. Its a busy place.

I could see a lot of people. Inside of each one of their minds there was probably their own problems. Not a single one of them knew me. I have literally 0 impact over their lives. All of my problems which seem so big in my mind are literally nothing. I could do whatever the fuck I wanted, it would change nothing for their lives. So many people in the world, we're not special, we're one in the many crossing the street everyday.

SanguinePirate · 2017-11-08T01:35:27+00:00

I'd give you a gold if I could. Your reasoning makes me very happy

[deleted] · 2017-11-09T04:46:02+00:00

Lots of people watch me at the gym. That's because I'm jacked and good looking.

Funny thing, though. Years ago when I was fat, no one looked at me. No one noticed me when I was embarrassed and self conscious.

This is exactly what we want. People to ignore us when we're ashamed of the way we look and then people to admire us when we've put in the work. This is a major perk for noobs starting a gym regiment.

[deleted] · 2017-11-07T23:07:57+00:00

Want a tip? Get your money out of the banking system. Fight back against a system that treats you like you are worthless.

I repeat. Get your money OUT of the banking system.

tookmyname · 2017-11-08T00:23:25+00:00

"The red pill is where incels started and where the now returned."

-Everyone today.

zomcom55 · 2017-11-08T04:26:34+00:00

I mean I'm surprised I completely agree with something on this sub. I usually just go on these types of subs to laugh at the guys who act like other people are the problem for why no one will date them. When in reality it's their own damn faults for having shitty personalities and delusions of what the real world is like which is entirely fixable if they didn't blame others. But seriously, OP is talking the realist shit I have ever heard on the internet.

No one could give a FUCK about you. If they do, they'll think it for two seconds and then get back to whatever the fuck they were doing before. If they aren't blood related (and even then they might not give a fuck,) no one will give a fuck about you unless you give them a reason to give a fuck about you.

kkri3 · 2017-11-08T07:34:42+00:00

Another good way to see how nobody gives a shit about you is to delete all social media, and watch how many people will remember your birthday.

The fact that you are unimportant ironically gives you a lot of freedom. You can try out new things, you can do the stupidest mistakes, and nobody will know or care.