Since I've been studying personality disorders for a long time (especially Cluster B, C and NOS), I thought I'd give you guys some guidelines to avoid the trap of female narcissism, which is purposefully being enabled by the retards who rule this sick Western shit show. So let's get into this shit.
#1. She Serves You a List of What She Wants in a Man
When women give you lists of what they want in a partner, they usually do it because they’re trying to appeal to your desire to impress them. They’re trying to mold your behaviour into something that accommodates them, setting the terms for the relationship and warning you that if you don’t try to please them by fitting into the box they’ve carved out for you, your chances of sleeping or entering a committed relationship with them are already forfeit.
Don’t fall for the manipulation; if she tells you that she doesn’t like men who spend their evenings in front of the TV whereas that happens to be something you do, the right thing to do is to tell her you’ll probably not be a good fit, and be on your way; not compromise by saying that you’ll reduce the time you spend watching it for her, or lie by saying that it’s something you don’t do.
#2. “I’ve Been Hurt in Relationships Before”
When someone tells you they’ve been hurt in relationships before, they’re essentially trying to solidify the relationship with you before it’s even started. They’re trying to prevent abandonment through guilt and threats (see below), as they’re terrified of reexperiencing the abandonment they suffered at the hands of previous partners (which actually started in early childhood with their emotionally unavailable fathers).
It’s a way to tell you two things:
- if you leave me, that makes you a horrible person (guilting you into staying),
- if you leave me, I’ll make a scene and potentially ruin your life (threatening/punishing you for abandoning them).
Healthy people don’t make others responsible for their feelings and previous breakups, so take it as a sign that she might be unstable.
#3. She Has an Entitled Attitude
This might be one of several things; a result of the feminist programming that tells women that they’re entitled to male servitude, an inferiority complex that stems from an inability to compete with men, or a bloated ego deriving from the heaps of attention she gets from hundreds of thirsty men on social media and elsewhere, especially if she’s above average-looking.
If she expects you to pay for a date and scolds you if you don’t, set an immediate boundary and make sure not to give in to her demands.
#4. She Dumps Her Emotional Baggage on You
I’ve dated girls with verbal diarrhea so bad you couldn’t put a lid on it if dinosaurs started falling out of the sky. They couldn’t stop japping about how bad they were treated by their previous boyfriends, what assholes their fathers were, and how unfair the world was to them from the day they were born.
I get that these thoughts need to be processed, but remember that your date is not supposed to be your therapist. If she doesn’t have anyone else to talk to about these things or if the compulsion to share them takes the shape of a freight train that can’t be stopped, she probably has unresolved issues of some kind that you shouldn’t attempt to solve (as this will become your entire relationship dynamic if you start enabling it).
#5. She Has a Bad Relationship with Her Father
If you take one thing from this post, let it be that a woman’s damaged relationship with her father is almost certain to translate to a damaged relationship with you. Whatever relationship dynamic she had with her parent of the opposite sex growing up, she’ll seek to reproduce with the men in her life; meaning, that if the only way she managed to get dad’s attention as a child was to give him the silent treatment, then that’s what she’ll do to you to get yours.
Also, I can guarantee that if she has any type of resentment towards her father, she’ll project that resentment onto you as well.
Bad relationship with dad = get the fuck out of there.
#6. She’s a Feminist
An absolute no-no in this day and age; telling you that she’s a feminist is the equivalent of confessing that she secretly despises men and thinks everything with a penis is sexist. Women who claim to be feminists have been indoctrinated by the system to believe that they’re victims of an evil patriarchy that seeks to keep them in the kitchen at all costs; they’re hostile and competitive in nature, which negates any chance of having a polarized relationship with them.
In addition to that, note that a lot of narcissistic females tend to gravitate towards feminism because it gives them an opportunity to get back at their abusive fathers/partners; an unacceptable substitute for personal development work, as it’s nothing short of obliterating the potential for healthy male-female relationships on a societal level.
#7. She Has No Sense of Humor
A therapist I’ve been following for years now talks about overseriousness as a sign of enmeshment; an emotional stiffness that results from unaddressed childhood wounds that are likely to make a relationship with her difficult. Overseriousness is often comorbid with high levels of reactivity, catastrophizing, and something that’s called operational thinking (lack of colour in one’s narration).
Bear in mind that I’m not talking about situation-appropriate seriousness here; cracking jokes at a funeral probably isn’t what you want to be looking for in a woman either. What I’m talking about, in a nutshell, is emotional repression, and an inability to let loose.
#8. Love-Bombing, i.e. Too Much, Too Soon
Even though fears of abandonment don’t necessarily translate to narcissism, they always translate to unmet childhood needs, which themselves lead to what’s called attachment trauma, and pair-bonding difficulties in adulthood.
Healthy women will take their time to find out if you’re compatible with them, whereas women with fears of abandonment will try to solidify the relationship with you as fast as possible (by offering sex, most of the time). That neediness goes back, once again, to their dysfunctional relationship with their father. Do not compromise. Avoid.
#9. She’s Vague About Her Past
There’s a difference between secrecy and personal boundaries. Some people are intrusive, which is why it’s important to not just divulge any information you’re being asked about without questioning the person’s motives. On the other hand, a symptom of mature adults is that they own their past experiences; they’re not afraid to live up to their mistakes, or talk about past relationships/events in a mature way, even painful ones.
This is not to be mistaken with point number 2, in which I made a case that some women tried to solidify relationships with you by talking about their hurtful experiences with men, basically asking you to take responsibility for how they’ll feel if you leave them. I’m simply talking about an open, honest conversation about the past here.
Also, the discussion should arise because you asked her, not because she spontaneously decided to tell you about it.
#10. She’s Passive-Aggressive
Direct communication is a trademark of emotional maturity. Conversely, an inability to ask for what you want directly and nagging the living hell out of someone because they couldn’t tell that you wanted them to pick the yellow curtain instead of the blue one, is a trademark of arrested development and possibly, narcissistic behaviour. Other passive-aggressive behaviours include:
- she can’t confront you directly about something you did or said to her that she didn’t like, and takes small jabs at you in order to “get back at you”.
- she drops hints as to what she wants, and gets bitchy when you don’t manage to mind-read her.
Any type of shaming, gaslighting or drama falls into that category as well.
#11. She Gets Defensive When You Shit Test Her
Because they’re naturally wired to find the man with the best possible genes to bear their offspring, women tend to be selective when choosing their partners. Men, on the other hand, are hardwired to spread their genes as widely and frequently as possible without discriminating, meaning that they’re not picky when it comes to procreation.
In today’s gynocentric society, however, it’s extremely important men learn to do just that; shit test women to separate the wheat from the chaff, as making a wrong choice could quite literally cost them their lives.
My advice is this: when women take small jabs at you to see how you’ll react, mirror the behaviour back at them. You’ll notice that most women can’t stomach the taste of their own medicine at all. Another double-standard that should be exposed, but no one barely ever talks about. Oh, and if they get defensive and start shaming you: say thank you, goodbye.
#12. She Badmouthes Her Ex-Boyfriends
Another characteristic of mature adults, is that they realize that it takes two to tango. In other words, both people have a responsibility in regards to the outcome of a relationship, any relationship, and dumping the entire responsibility of that outcome on the other person signals an inability to introspect and look at one’s own actions. It signals a blind spot, meaning a defense mechanism of which there can be many: blame, responsibility displacement, projection, denial, and many more.
If she badmouthes her ex-boyfriend, not only does that tell you that she’s not the kind of person who takes responsibility for her actions, but also that she’s going to badmouth you once she moves on to the next guy, which is bound to happen at some point.
#13. She Feels the Need to Compete with You (Not Feminine/Submissive in Her Attitude)
Contrary to what society teaches us, men and women are not supposed to be in a pissing contest with one another.
Remember that it’s normal for women to be insecure; if they start acting out, don’t take it as a sign that they’re necessarily narcissists. Many decent women today have been taught that they should be able to do just as well as men in every aspect of work and everyday life, making many of them insecure about not measuring up to their male counterparts. That insecurity is a direct consequence of the system’s feminist indoctrination, and should be able to be quelled if you just sit down and talk it out with them.
Healthy women will be able to be reassured that their inability to compete with you is not a deficiency, but a byproduct of human biology; unhealthy women will tear at your self-esteem to pull you down to their level, then trick themselves into believing that they’re just as able as you are. That’s the women you should avoid.
#14. She Has Addictions
The first thing you should know about addictions, is that they’re usually used as substitutes for needs that can’t be met directly, as well as shame-distraction tools. Even though women from functional families are susceptible to addictions too, addictions are usually reliable indicators that the family unit was damaged on some level. In other words, addicted females most likely had dysfunctional relationships with their fathers, and you know what that means if you’ve read point 5. Typical addictions in today’s females include:
- Junk Food
- Social Media
- Gossip and Reality TV
Then, if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, it should go without saying that planting your seed in a sick body (and attached to a sick brain) won’t do your son or daughter-to-be any more good than it does you.
#15. She’s Glued to Her Fucking Smart Phone
Staying on the topic of addiction, there are few things in today’s women that make me want to facepalm myself more than them being glued to their stupid phones all the time.
Trying to have a conversation with females whose brains have literally fused with their mobile devices is like trying to talk to a toddler riddled with OCD, ADD and Parkinson’s at the same time. It’s like trying to talk to Malcolm McDowell in that CO torture scene.
She’s not going to hear you, and even if she does, she’ll have forgotten all about it by the time you take your next breath.
If she doesn’t value your presence enough to keep that stupid thing away for a couple of hours, or if she’s so addicted that she simply can’t do it without experiencing some kind of withdrawal symptoms, give her the boot asap.
#16. Piercings and Tattoos
What goes for polluting the inside of her body, goes for the outside as well. Tattoos can signal one of four things:
- she’s hiding herself because she’s afraid of intimacy (red flag).
- she’s promiscuous (red flag).
- she seeks male attention to fill an inner void (red flag).
- she’s following a trend.
Unless you can determine for a fact that she was young and naive when she decided to modify her body, consider maybe keeping her around for a quick lay every now and then, but never, ever choose to put a ring on it.
#17. She’s Trapped in Victim Mentality
Even though I understand that an environment can be toxic and hold you back from achieving certain results, I also understand that toxic environments can be moved away from.
If you hear a woman blame her environment for being unjust to females (which is extremely rare in Western society, where anything from schools to workplaces is designed to accommodate women), all the while choosing to stay in said environment, that probably tells you she’s either looking for a pity party, or a free handout.
#18. Responsibility is Her Kryptonite
Finishing this list with a reminder more than anything else, just remember that women have every incentive not to be responsible in today’s world; not only are they hardwired to avoid being too direct (as they can’t confront like men do), but they’re also conditioned, in this particular environment, to put the blame on men instead of owning up to their mistakes.
- It’s the girl that doesn’t show up on a date and blames you for not sending her a reminder that the date was happening.
- It’s the girl that cheats and accuses you of making her do it, as though her mind and body were controlled by someone or something outside of herself.
It’s the girls that haven’t grown up despite being 20, 30, 40 years of age, which is becoming more and more prevalent in the gynocentric West. Do not negotiate with them; see them for what they are, meaning adult children, and move on.