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Turning her down


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I was informed of something very interesting by a plate yesterday (lets call her Akiko).

She was laying in bed and I was rummaging through my fridge for something to eat after having a shower. I didn't feel like spending the afternoon with her - she had been hinting at going to see a movie together (I avoid almost any activity that could be described as a date with my plates once I get them spinning on less they start to fall off then a lunch date or a dinner might happen if me cooking at home isn't enough to stem their sway), I told her I had other plans.

"What plans" she asks.

"I have a meeting with a heavy Iron bar" I responded

..... ..... Silence ..... .....

"How about you help me with that secret mission of yours" (its a joke we share, making her cum from sex) she asks.


"Nagh, Im not the kind of man to skip his meetings" "ok mister, your loss" she says with optimism.


"You care more about yourself than you do getting pussy" she offers.

It hit me hard hearing her say that, she was right. I do care more about myself than getting laid, and it feels fucking empowering. I drove her home, we made plans to catch up again in a few days time to work more on my mission and parted ways.

  • Never negotiate for sex.
  • Never concede who you are for her will when it doesnt server both of you.
  • Hold frame, even when you feel there is no need to.
  • You are the prize, at all times.

[–]2CasaDeFranco 543 points544 points  (16 children)

The most powerful word in negotiation is no.

It's a cruel irony that women want you to invest increasingly more time in them, but the moment you do you lose value because you acquiesce.

[–][deleted] 213 points214 points  (8 children)

In my bluepill days when I would turn girls down and make them chase me I would tell myself that there must be something wrong with them because they always defaulted to crazy tactics to spend time with me.....

[–]thepontiff_ 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The gem comment of the thread especially that last part.

[–]TheLensOfEvolution 26 points27 points  (3 children)

I mean, they’re wired to do whatever it takes to get sperm. If they don’t, their genes die out. History is littered with the corpses of women who gave up chasing men and ended their bloodline.

[–]Zeimma 33 points34 points  (1 child)

Actually this isn the case as much as you think. Genetic history tells us that most woman procreate while the majority of the men die out. In some studdies I've seen it's a 17:1 raito of women to men reproducing. "Whatever it takes" for a woman is dirt simple, just accept sex and done. Basically I just don't understand your comment would you mind explaining it more?

[–]votre-mere 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That boils down to:

Oh shit all the men are dead

Oh shit I want to have children

Oh shit I guess I've got to fuck the ugly weak guys, who didn't go to war and die, before any other women do

It applies rather interestingly to modern AF/BB mechanics, only instead of them dying in war, it's the women hitting the wall.

[–]xtralargerooster 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's a little bit the opposite there boss... We are wired naturally to be donors... They are wired for selectivity... The whole point of this post demonstrates this specifically. When you care more about yourself than "pussy" you are sending a clear message that you are confident you are prized and aren't stressed you are going to fall out of the genetic pool. That portrays a sense of value clear enough that they won't just select you but will put in the effort to chase you too... If they see other women competing with them then that reinforces to her your sexual value and she will double down her efforts.

The Red Pill is more about understanding that the comforts in life for men are in their very nature self destructive for a man. Always fight complacency, never become gluttonous of comforts.

You have misconstrued this basic premise and have perverted your own frustrations into disrespect.

[–]TheReformist94 2 points3 points  (1 child)

This shit only works if they like you. Women select the men they mate with period. Otherwise they'll up and leave and service one of the other 20 cocks on stand by they got

[–]endertheend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why lifting is important.

Increases the women that will like you.

[–]1TimmyTurnersNuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That last part, I haven’t experienced until the past 6 months. Shittttttt women will do and say ANYTHING to get some dick/be with you

[–]dryenz 46 points47 points  (3 children)

a.k.a fitness test, never let her take any conclusion about your feelings, she’ll persuade you to do that, but only AFC fall for that

[–]Fryguy48 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I don't think I understand, would you explain it?

[–]dryenz 7 points8 points  (1 child)

A woman should never think that she has control over you, should never know how much you love her, they want to be loved, but problem is that attraction doesn’t work like logic, it means that if you show her that you love her, she instantly loses interest, that’s why she must be in a situation where she asks herself if you love her or not, she must be confused

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Albeit irony, it is at the very core of what TRP taught me. It is a realization that broke me of my blue pill ways...

[–]NorthEasternNomad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This so succinctly sums up everything a guy needs to know about dating...well said.

[–]banthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but the moment you do you lose value because you acquiesce.

There has to be a balance. My LTR dumped me because I dreaded her too much, spend too little time with her and she fucked another men.

[–]it_takes_the_redpill 134 points135 points  (5 children)

5 bucks says her name is legitimately Akiko.

[–]SocialEng 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Dedicates a name for her for the story... Never calls her by the name again.

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Next season of American Dad there'd better be an episode name "Steve learns AWALT."

[–]gains_o_clock 3 points4 points  (0 children)

honestly laughed when I read that

[–]Self-honest 97 points98 points  (1 child)

Great example man.

You can only truly commit to one person at a time. Be committed to yourself and things will work out as well as they possibly can.

[–]dank4us12 321 points322 points  (17 children)

Size is the prize! Swole is the goal! It's gains o'clock motherfuckers!

[–][deleted] 149 points150 points  (10 children)

I love going, I especially love going after I have told myself every excuses to not show up.

Killing my inner bitch has been the best.

[–]Veretox 8 points9 points  (7 children)

That feeling is life itself. Like, you lay in bed after work, too tired to move a muscle, but You stand UP and swing that fucking clanging piece of iron at the gym like a sword, devouring all your weaknesses with each stroke of a brush.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (6 children)

I like to take it easy on myself, some days are a real struggle, no worries 20 min session 5x5 get in, get out.

[–]Yourgonnagofarkid 3 points4 points  (3 children)

20 min session is a warm up, what?

[–]psycho_sid 1 point2 points  (2 children)

nah, some of the most efficient sessions last 20 minutes. I've made some fantastic gains training for less than 20 minutes 5 times a week. the 5x5 are awesome like that. (assuming you target one muscle per session and mix in core exercises while you wait)

[–]Brantmobile 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I truly hope by "target muscle" you mean movement. If you're actually running 5 x 5 on target MUSCLES, dear lord help your soul...

[–]psycho_sid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea, my bad; one exercise, ie I only do bench press, squats, deads, overhead press and barbell rows on 5x5

[–]Veretox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The further you are to your limit, the harder it gets. Don't let yourself down, don't take it easy, it is easy to waste potential. It is a lot harder to fulfill yourself.

[–]Jenny-Taylia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love going, I especially love going after I have told myself every excuses to not show up.

I did that today but much further behind on the timeline. Finally paid for the gym, did shopping, going to get an early one and try something new for once instead of reading field reports and saying "women are crazy"

[–]MoDuReddit 12 points13 points  (1 child)

RF does get me pumped. Did you know today is international chest day?

[–]finclover9 113 points114 points  (1 child)

In a relationship, the person willing to walk away has the most power. You gave a great example of that, nice job.

[–]PrideInIndividuality 11 points12 points  (0 children)

In a financial transaction too.

[–]send_it_for_the_boys 66 points67 points  (4 children)

Nice work! I’ve left a girls house who was all over me just to go to the gym. Got to build the Mental toughness too!

[–]MangoRefreshments 26 points27 points  (0 children)

So true, mental toughness is equally as important.

[–]Ihatemoi 8 points9 points  (1 child)

In my Blue Pill Days (I have always lifted, even in those times), I wanted to go to the gym after waking up with the girl in my arms and having fucked her like crazy. She of course started to call me out on how obsessed I was with the gym, my body, how there are more important things in life etc.

Needless to say as I was BP, I stayed with here, I felt shameful. NOT ANYMORE. FUCK THAT.

[–]send_it_for_the_boys 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Done the same thing in my bluepill days. Hey..benches before wenches. 💪🏻

[–]Yourgonnagofarkid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thats physical and mental discipline at its finest, keep it up

[–]flee_market 77 points78 points  (9 children)

"You care more about yourself than you do getting pussy" she offers.

As if it should be any other way?!

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (7 children)

Most guys it’s the other way

[–]nekosenshi 1 points1 points [recovered]

In my country I would be called a stupid or a madman for doing that, for most people here a woman is more important that self integrity and discipline and they are willing to do anything to get their hands on one and get laid, most of them are bluepilled also.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

What country if you don’t mind me asking ?

[–]RedPilledGodEmperor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It could apply to a lot of countries. The USA is pretty blue-pilled. The whole "happy wife, happy life" BS and men pretty much lose power once they get married.

[–]BewareTheOldMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"In my country...a woman is more important that self integrity and discipline and [men] are willing to do anything to get their hands on one and get laid, most of them are blue pilled..."

That's the unfortunate power and strength of lifetime Blue Pill Conditioning. What's even worse is there are women who take full advantage of these desperate men - and these men allow it.

This does not bode well for your fellow countrymen. Their time would be better spent on their own personal development and self-improvement.

I'm not saying that men don't have to put zero effort toward pursuing women, but the pursuit of women should NEVER be a man's primary focus.

A man's primary focus is his "mission" - whatever that is...and it most certainly does not include women.

[–]PrideInIndividuality 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Just curious, which country?

[–]nekosenshi 1 points1 points [recovered]

Uruguay, from experience I could say that most of the women here are a selfish, egocentric, and unbeliviable believed, even some bizarre overweight woman can get laid easily has there's always some desperate guy willing to bang her, even if her personality is terrible, and with most people plugged to social media, they can get validation with no effort, has a result their ego is so high that you can climb it and do a base jump from it, although this is probably like this in most western world.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didnt expect a fellow uruguayan

[–]OfficerWade 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I love how you didn’t subject yourself to any criticisms by lying. You were bold and it gets you very far in life compared to low life pick up artists. You get an A+

[–]heartbroken_nerd 62 points63 points  (19 children)

First of all, well done - you only serve yourself, that's the way to go in life, man!

However, I've read all the comments in this thread and I noticed something very funny about the state of TRP right now.

There is no questioning that OP has made the right choice - his own good over his bitch's desires. And most of the comments praise this approach as the ideal way to keep your bitch happy - not give in.

Yes, it's true. And yet, I want to warn all of you guys because a certain message has been lost in the transmission of the recent wave of posts:

The right choice (for yourself) does not always mean the girl will somehow be more loyal or attracted to you. It does not guarantee it at all. You might do everything right and she still shows you just how out of your control she REALLY is. It may not matter whether you think you did the right thing or not.

OP seems to 'like' this girl a lot which may be the start of a oneitis.

You have to stay vigilant and remember she is never yours, it's just your turn. What instantly comes to my mind when I see OP confidently state that he's gonna 'catch up with her in a few days' is the old TRP classic that I re-read every few months to keep reminding myself that these hoes ain't loyal:


Don't you ever think that a girl will keep trying hard to stay loyal and not disappoint you, NOT EVEN IF YOU DO EVERY FUCKING THING RIGHT.

That's the reminder from me.

[–]NormalAndy 19 points20 points  (2 children)

Girls function to shit test. First be in a position to realize it, next be in a position to welcome it.

[–]rcsob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Commenting to save this for a rainy day.

[–]swolemanriver 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Reality can be a drag.

[–]Stabiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That story is the story that kick started me taking the red pill in the first place.

[–]ManguZa -3 points-2 points  (12 children)

He didn't do everything right. He didn't frighten her that he'ld leave if she don't behave. And/or he didn't choose a woman who had already integrate that infidelity have consequences. They are like children they need to be discplined.

Be better than others & be sure that she understand that you leave her the second she don't behave.

[–]smallpoly 0 points1 point  (11 children)

Ask yourself, what kind of leader focuses on threats and discipline to get others to follow him? If that were your boss at work, would you want to stick around or would you be shopping around for a new job?

He's doing fine. He's respecting himself and sticking to his goals over the whims of others.

[–]ManguZa 0 points1 point  (10 children)

There are threats and there are consequences. All leader use consequences, all the time. You don't do correctly your work? You're demoted or fired (or bankruptcy if you work for yourself). And you know it, that's why you give your best. No consequences? Well if i'm payed the same i stay at home and watch Netflix.

[–]smallpoly 0 points1 point  (8 children)

Your previous comment sounds much more like the kind of boss that tries to keep people on their toes all the time, either out of insecurity or because he's trying to exploit you as much as possible. It's not a place you're going to want to stick around in if you can help it, even if the pay is good.

We all know how employment works and what happens if you make yourself a liability. You can tell what's not going to fly without anything needing to be said because it's already shown in the dynamic.

[–]ManguZa 1 point2 points  (7 children)

Maybe it's something that some women need to be reminded regurlarly in a relationship.

[–]smallpoly 0 points1 point  (6 children)

There's a time and a place for that, and actions speak louder than words. If someone is acting shitty, a self-respecting man won't feel the need to be around that person.

[–]ManguZa 0 points1 point  (5 children)

Well, it's the nature of women to shit testing. Do you leave each time one do it? Or do you make her learn to behave with you?

English is not my first language but i'm pretty sure i didn't talked about threats. Just to be sure that she knows, and dreads the consequences.

[–]smallpoly 0 points1 point  (4 children)

The goal is for her to see you as a leader worth following, and follow you out of admiration, respect, and not wanting to let you down. That kind of mindset can't be forced or negotiated.

Shit tests - if you want to find out if someone is going to be unbreakable in tough situations without just waiting for them to occur naturally, you have to try to bend them. Caving in shows weakness, anger shows insecurity, and either show a lack of self control. This is where approaches like agree and escalate amplify come in. If she can get under your skin, then you aren't the rock she's looking for.

Edit: corrections

[–]ManguZa 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Escalate what? I don't talk about having sex with her, who cares about that. I talk about making her submit to you. Of course it's not something you do with a plate (honestly who even try to do everything right with those?). But if you build a relationship with a woman you should train her to behave. If you don't, there is no need to be surprised when she cheat on you.

[–]WiseMonkeyGoodMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me (as in what I get from these exchanges) it's a matter of prioritizing yourself first and setting the bar for them. If they chose not to meet that bar, as a friend of mine used to to say, don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya. IE meet the bar I've set or make space for someone who will. Some will stay, others will leave. Simple.

[–]norwaydre 31 points32 points  (2 children)

Women want you even more after you tell them no, it’s like they can’t handle it

[–]smallpoly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The ability to say no shows security and options. It's also easier to respect people that don't seem like they can be easily manipulated.

[–]3d_truth 18 points19 points  (1 child)

I am sleepy and read the last sentence as you are the pizza, at all times

[–]MasterfulStudent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once you internalize this truth, you will finally reach enlightenment.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (7 children)

She is right and correct. Sex is sex. There's 300,000,000 adult females in the world.

There is only 1 you***. So of course you put yourself before pussy.

*** if you don't believe in spirituality / Self.

[–][deleted] 27 points28 points  (6 children)

There’s way more than 300 million adult females lol. It’s in the billions

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (5 children)

U gonna travel to the center of africa

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (2 children)

We’re talking about how many adult females are in the world, not what my travel plans are.

[–]tylerden 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Domt go to Africa, I live in Africa. Its like theNational Geographic here...and not in a good way.

[–]Xoramung 1 points1 points [recovered]


akiko that biacth to the curb. good move mr heavy iron man.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (4 children)

lol I think ill keep this one around, shes meets some criteria that drives me wild.

[–]flee_market 2 points3 points  (2 children)

As long as it is on YOUR terms!!! She dictates nothing! She can get with the program or she can get lost!

There are a million other women out there, and thousands of them with her "criteria".

[–]Self-honest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good job. You got the right idea man.

[–]Kyogata 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girls like it when you place your own physical health and fitness first. They want a healthy man who's going to be strong in the years ahead. I regularly put yoga or lifting ahead of meetups with women. They get turned on by it.

[–]halfback910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's long term vs. short term. Yes in the short term you can get more sex by skipping that workout. In the long term you'll get less.

[–]pieredforlife 3 points4 points  (2 children)

You are the boss . However you will be spending the night with your right hand

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Hahahaha you got me there, but to be fair I romanced the fuck out of myself first.

[–]abudun79 4 points5 points  (7 children)

I am missing the point in your post. It seems like you stopped in the middle. Nothing happened. Or is the point that your plate did not break?

You wrote about no accomplishment because of that mentality and then praise it in four points of absolutes.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm illistraiting something that struck me as she said it in that moment, her recognition of somthing I was internalizing honestly made my day.

[–]Aureayte 1 point2 points  (5 children)

OP showed abundance when he declined pussy for the gym. Which yes maintained his plate and made it even better. Girls want guys that other girls want. Maybe try reading the comments to get a better understanding

[–]abudun79 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I completely understood that all, I just cannot find "the point" he tried to make in the story he told. At least not to a degree that justifies a post, apart from being happy he did it.

[–]Self-honest 5 points6 points  (1 child)

This post has a ton of great points all boiled down very nicely.

She was laying in bed and I was rummaging through my fridge for something to eat after having a shower.

He's already not spending an extra minute on her than he desires to. He wanted a shower and some food. He moved on to a shower and some food.

I didn't feel like spending the afternoon with her -

And he was already making that clear to her through his actions.

she had been hinting at going to see a movie together

Girls communicate covertly. Pick up on her hints, laugh them off, maintain your plans and your frame.

I told her I had other plans

Again showing through his actions that he wasn't committing more time or effort to her. And keeping it vague makes her hamster start spinning about the other girls he may be meeting.

(I avoid almost any activity that could be described as a date with my plates once I get them spinning on less they start to fall off then a lunch date or a dinner might happen if me cooking at home isn't enough to stem their sway)

Bitch maintainence.

"What plans" she asks.

She's chasing. That's just an example of how to keep that dynamic at play. Spin away little hamster.

"I have a meeting with a heavy Iron bar" I responded

..... ..... Silence ..... .....

Silence is golden. If you're strong enough to stay more silent in the silent times, you will enjoy the rewards. I love this answer because OP might as well still be going to fuck other bitches. Improving himself when already not committing to Akiko will make him less likely to commit to her in the future, this making her work harder to please him.

So she attempts to see what, if any power her pussy holds.

"How about you help me with that secret mission of yours" (its a joke we share, making her cum from sex) she asks.

I'm stealing that, OP. That "secret mission, secret agent" shit is gold.


"Nagh, Im not the kind of man to skip his meetings"

Casually declining sex and keeping a prior committment to himself is making a statement about what an awesome man he is.

"ok mister, your loss" she says with optimism

She sounds like a child , she's happy with the answer.


"You care more about yourself than you do getting pussy" she offers.

And it stands out to her. It's makes OP seem better than all the weak, no willpower, thirsty motherfuckers out there. And she loves it. Women don't communicate overtly. The fact that she's saying it directly means she fully hooked.

It hit me hard hearing her say that, she was right. I do care more about myself than getting laid, and it feels fucking empowering. I drove her home, we made plans to catch up again in a few days time to work more on my mission and parted ways.

Well played.

Never negotiate for sex.

Even if it's a simple "yes" when you have something else planned. You can't always be available, sex doesn't change that. You hold the sex card, she gives that pussy up when you want it. The second you blow something important off for sex, she sees you in a different light. She knows she can use sex to manipulate you. It won't be the last time. Make sure there is no first time.

Never concede who you are for her will when it doesnt server both of you.

Be the stronger one in every way.

Hold frame, even when you feel there is no need to.

Everything is a power play on her part. Even if it doesn't feel like it.

You are the prize, at all times.

God damn correct.

[–]abudun79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to see that we agree on the details. Thanks for your efforts!

[–]Aureayte 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Pretty sure you can see all that through a) the title and b) the bullet points at the end of his post

[–]abudun79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe my expectation is to high. I'm just not the guy that hands out participation trophies.

[–]2muchtequila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I'm the first to admit that I think a lot of redpill stuff goes overboard.

That said, acting confidently uninterested did more to attract women than any bad pickup lines, negging or "game" ever could.

It's not about being mean, or rude or putting them down. It's about showing that you're fine no matter the outcome. You go home with the girl? great! She turns you down? Who cares, there will be others, it's her loss, not yours. There's no need to be mean about it, she's already lost out, move on and don't look back.

When I see guys doing things like negging it looks like the opposite of being fine with whatever outcome. You care so much about getting a prize you're expending energy to purposely make someone unhappy.

I had a woman explain it to me that when we first met I had such an air of "I don't need you because I'm already awesome" that it drove her crazy. She pursued me to prove me wrong, and when I didn't pursue her back it only pushed her further. She was beautiful and smart, so she wasn't used to having guys not fall all over her.

Again, I wasn't mean about it, pretty much the exact opposite actually. I was friendly and a little flirty but I had other people I wanted to talk to at the party so I wasn't just hanging around her. I'd say hi, offer her a drink chat for a couple minutes and move on.

Pretty much like OP said, YOU are the prize. Just do your best to constantly be improving yourself and have confidence in your knowledge that in the end, if someone doesn't want you, it's not your loss.

[–]Newbosterone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My goto for rejecting a woman's frame is "You say that like it's a bad thing".

[–]gonzo1986_2017 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Did she try and shit test you again? What Happened after that "incident"?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)


WOW, I wouldnt call it an "incident", it was just her reacting with direct communication to express her frustration. One day she will find a nice beta one day and turn him into a wage slave (shes openly admitted to this plan).

[–]mattattack3000 1 point2 points  (2 children)

“I have a meeting with a heavy iron bar” bro just say you’re going to lift LOL

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha yeah yeah, she caught me off guard trying to grab some nibbles.

[–]EnragedParrot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was a great line

[–]BostonPillParty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hold. The. Line.

When men care more about themselves and their development, life has a funny way of starting to revolving around them like the sun.

Good job.

[–]Leonidas_79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bruhhhh nothing makes me harder. Had something similar with a co-worker I’d been working on and already have in my pocket.

-”So you gonna walk me home today?bats eyelids

-”Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmm no. ”

-”No!?..... :( “

-”No. I already told you I was going to the gym”

And you just see the look of confusion and annoyance like “IM GOING TO MAKE HIM WANT THIS PUSSY!!”

Love it. Made her chase even harder.

[–]nasenbohrer 2 points3 points  (1 child)

so you answered to her "You care more about yourself than you do getting pussy" or did you just not respond to that ?

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just said "yep" cause I wasnt fully sure if I was being shit tested or not.

[–]Ffsgoddammit 1 points1 points [recovered]

Why did you give her a name if you're not calling her anymore in your post?

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I like to let people know that I enjoy asian women.

[–]zarathustrahhh 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I, too, have Asian fever. Luckily my city is full of them. I just don't feel the same way about white girls. They tend to have shitty habits, shitty hygiene, too much fat, and they embody the worst of the worst of what we call AWALT.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see the AWALT tendencies but they are just a better quality women to me, And yes, my city has more than I can ever get through.

[–]abudun79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because everyone that's what everyone does.

[–]magx01 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Nice brag post disguised as a "lesson."

[–]fcking77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great, it's good to say no sometimes.

[–]BlackMarmoset 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somebody with a scarcity mentality would think you turned town an easy lay for nothing. Somebody with abundance mentality would see that you were being offered something you already have (free access of sex) in exchange for giving up something you wanted to do and making something she wanted to do.

I find fascinating how accepting that simple exchange would have resulted in her learning that she can buy you off with sex, and consequently making you lose frame and likely her in the long run. No negotiation with hoes, must be your way or the door.

Btw I liked the secret mission thing, hoes love mystery.

[–]Alpha_Jedi 0 points1 point  (2 children)

A great reminder post. Thanks for sharing. Cheers.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Most welcome friend, I should file a field report from our first date but it would just read like bad TRP fan fiction.

[–]Alpha_Jedi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's true, then post away. Sure there will always be haters but someone will learn from it. Cheers.

[–]le_wolfe 0 points1 point  (1 child)

How did your meeting with the heavy iron bar go?

[–]Demiurge_Decline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldv'e been impressed had this been the first or 2nd date. After you have been with a woman and gotten off dozens of times, then its not hard to prioritize. Had this been the 2nd date or youve never been intimate, I wouldve been impressed. Good write up though. Truth still stands.

[–]OfficeDoug -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's hard to understand that sometimes we can be the prizes, but this reading make a certain point at negotiations.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

I have a meeting with a heavy Iron bar" I responded
..... ..... Silence ..... .....

She, too, was truly dumbfounded at such a bad response.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have always been more handsome than smart. In case it pops up again in my life, what do you think I should go with next time to communicate what is needed?

[–]baseballfan0 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just hold frame brah you didn't get laid cause you don't spin plates run kino escalation brah