Benefits of living alone?

bleepbloopdrama · 2020-05-09T22:37:35+00:00

I would definitely live alone. Everyone I’ve roomed with couldn’t clean up their shit and always left dirty dishes everywhere. It also feels great knowing you are completely independent.

salezman12 · 2020-05-09T22:01:03+00:00

If you can afford to live without a roommate then you should choose that option 100% of the time. Havin to worry about other people's opinions sucks. When you live alone you do what you want, when you want, and you dont have to consult anyone else on the matter.

PinacoladaSauce · 2020-05-09T23:10:01+00:00

You’re 22. Live with your roommate for a few years, and invest the money that you would be spending on more expensive rent. Or use it for another fund or something like music lessons or martial arts or whatever. Invest that money in yourself.

You’ll still be able to fuck so long your buddy is chill. You’ll still have time to yourself. You’ll still be able to do everything else, but now you have a friend to bounce ideas off of, do stuff with etc.

Roommate, and do something smart with the saved money. Still should be working on yourself not focusing on the benefits of living alone yet anyways. It’s not time yet

Jacked2TheTits · 2020-05-09T23:42:54+00:00

Hmmm, this is a tough one and could depend on the circumstances. What do you like to do? how much are you making? What kind of town are you in?

KEY POINT! Girls are NOT harder to pull just because you have a roommate.

A good roommate can be exponential. You can save money... good for your finances going forward. You can potentially afford to live in a better spot in town (paying $1300/mo for a one bedroom vs paying $1k/mo in the best area of town). Social networks and events are expanded and the amount of effort that it takes to plan and do something is much more reduced. Groups of girls can be easily brought back because you have a wingman.

In order for this to happen, you need to screen any potential roommate really fucking hard. Just because you are cool with someone does not mean you should become roommates.

Since you recently graduated, I'd recommend a roommate, but if you pick a bad one it could easily be a fuck up.

fuddubandha · 2020-05-09T20:45:57+00:00

Save money if you can by living with someone. You can play the plate game even with roommates next door. If girls wanna fuck they will fuck you outdoor too. Never cohabitate with woman

comcain · 2020-05-09T22:45:04+00:00

There's advantages both ways. Roomies cut your rent in half but they can be a pain in the ass to get along with. Living solo, no hassles, but a bigger dent in your income. Pick one.

Don't ever move an LTR in as a roomie. I know you didn't ask that but I thought I should emphasize it.

Cheers

_Send_ · 2020-05-09T23:20:46+00:00

If he’s bad with females/ a simp, he’ll do nothing but annoy the living hell outta you. You’ll be the reason chicks are around, but he’ll feel as if he has a chance or that they’re his friends. Shit will get old quick so def make sure you know this dude WELL.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-05-09T23:41:59+00:00

There's a greater benefit in owning your living space. Yeah you want to live alone and slay poon comfortably left and right, but that's really short term gratification with no real ling term benefits. I don't know what state you're from, or how much money you make, but wouldn't it be wiser for you to purchase a place instead of renting.

Say you rent for 10-15 years. At the end of those 15 years you would have spent a shit ton in living expenses but with nothing to show for it. Your dollar will go towards paying somebody else's property taxes and mortgage. Heck, sometimes people's rent payments are slightly above the mortgage they would be paying had they had the foresight to look into buying their own place. You don't want to be that guy. Interest rates are at an all time low right now. Put a down on a place, secure a healthy mortgage, rent a portion of the place. That way your tenants can not only pay your mortgage, but also put a little extra in your pocket. Heck, then you can refinance your mortgage a little later, secure an even healthier rate, take out a home equity loan, buy another place that you rent entirely, and secure that income to pay all your bills, plus you would still have your regular job income. Considering you're on TRP, I'm sure you have a "Get After It" mindset. Which means quite possibly you could be an entrepreneur in the future. You could establish a small "office" inbyour home (literally a computer and a desk in a room), and get some excellent tax deductions from that for both your business and your RE taxes. Plus at the end of 10-15 years, you would have actual assets to your name, or securely locked in a Trust or LLC. You slowly build your wealth and portfolio, so that you have something to pass on to your kids when you die, so that they don't have to start from point 0. That's how all the big cats and Mr Moneybags build generational wealth.

Just something to think about.

skyrunner22 · 2020-05-09T21:00:35+00:00

If you are still young and can vet your roommate and tolerate them, I say go for roommate. It will help you save even more money.

As far as living alone, it will be your kingdom to rule and do your own thing. Makes for better logistics and you should get more respect. But again in early 20s, if you can save up more money I would go roommate route. Late 20s you can start to think about your own space. Both can work well, just as long as its not your parents cramping your style

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-05-09T21:17:53+00:00

Roommates are cheaper and usually are cool about women coming over

Texan2116 · 2020-05-09T21:45:41+00:00

roommate is conditional....some dudes pull tail like crazy..if this is such a roommate, then, the chicks he pulls may have friends, not to mention saving some cash.

patrickprinehart · 2020-05-09T23:13:01+00:00

Fuck the idea of a roommate. Unless it’s an absolute must.

You’ll clean up their messes and eventually it will cause a divide. Listen to their bullshit. Watch them get drunk and try to beat their girl. Shits dumb.

Hell, I had a roommate that literally would text the chicks that I had come over as I was sitting next to them on the couch and he was across from me in the chair hitting on them.

When they arnt keeping up to your pull game, they become haters.

Now if they love to cook, do dishes, and pay half of everything.... then it gets complicated.

Or maybe college. Because shits wild and rowdy. No one gives a fuck about a clean house. You’re just there to introduce each other to whatever chick you invite overs friends.

Iluvalmonds83 · 2020-05-09T22:35:45+00:00

Depends on your lifestyle needs.

If you don’t mind shared space, have a reliable trustworthy housemate(never with a LTR though) , and you have a financial mission, go for it.

But having your own place to yourself is awesome if you can afford it, especially if you’re an introvert. That’s always the preferred choice.

chia-pet-turtleneck · 2020-05-10T01:40:21+00:00

It’s great. Wake up naked every morning, lay out my yoga mat in front of the window and meditate for a few minutes naked, brew a coffee naked, maybe plan my day naked, then take a shower. Pure freedom.

Besides that, there are still many advantages. You don’t have to deal with annoying roommates who don’t do their responsibility of helping clean and keep the place organized, you don’t have to deal with loud music, and you can bring a girl over whenever the hell you want. That’s the best part. No need to worry about roommates bothering you and her, or your place being a mess when she comes over. First impressions, not just of you as a person, but of the place you live are very important. Living alone you have all control to make a good first impression of your place.

There’s some psychological advantages too. I take great pride in keeping my place right. Clean floors, clean tables, dishes in the wash, incense, etc. It feels good to be responsible for and take care of your own things and not rely on others or share responsibility. It was definitely a struggle the first week or two trying to balance my regular life and also keeping my place nice, since I was used to living with my parents splitting the home care with me, but I got used to it and it’s not a problem.

I can’t compare living alone to living with roommates though, but it’s probably similar to living with parents. Many of my friends, all of whom have roommates have attested to the things I mentioned, especially the cleaning stuff and the worry about the place being unexpectedly messy when they’re bringing girls over.. I would highly recommend getting your own place if you are financially able to. You won’t regret it.

InflatableRaft · 2020-05-09T23:46:02+00:00

You have plenty of time to live by yourself when your older. I have some great memories from the years I spent living with friends and partying together.

spedoid · 2020-05-10T00:32:30+00:00

You can bang whoever you want when you have a roommate. Just be aware they will feel the same. So if you're chilling at home maybe he will have some loud sex in the missionary position for the sole purpose of procreation while you try to watch the sopranos. Oof marrone...

At 22 I wouldn't mind a roommate for the occasional company, and to save bills. Have him sign a lease subletting from you, write rules in a contract, get three months rent in advance. Get someone nerdy and clean, like a quiet kid who plays pc games all day. Don't get some wanna be Chad who crushes Natty ice and leaves the toilet seat up

As you approach 30 it rapidly becomes faggy to share your space with another man. Especially if they aren't as neat as you that may drive you crazy.

IveSawitall · 2020-05-10T08:49:15+00:00

Live alone.. I've been living alone for long time. I keep my house clean and tidy. I am very hygiene conscious. But I brought my younger brother to stay with me for a year now.. I pay the rent and feed him but he can't even keep his own toilet clean. there is always dirty here or there, noodles in the sink, Never washing the dishes. Never throwing out the trash. Everything looks unkept and dirty.. Using the microwave oven and won't clean.. just too many dirty habits I can't mention. I had to step up and perform a thorough cleaning myself.. My brother, but I will ask him to rent his own apartment as soon as he's making enough money. Live alone bro. Living with anyone to save the rent is not worth it.. own ur shit. Be a man!

vandaalen · 2020-05-09T20:52:40+00:00

depends.. are you trying to be mommy's little rascal or a man?

dtyler86 · 2020-05-10T00:31:49+00:00

At your age it would be definitely smart to get a roommate. While having your own place shows that you have some money, it might be impressive to some women, and it might give you more privacy, it’s financially not the right move. Don’t worry about impressing people you don’t even care about, worry about the amount of money you can be saving so when you do move into your own place in a few years whether it’s 25 or 28 or 30, you’ll be able to buy something with a substantial amount of money down. I’m 33 and I moved into my own place right around my 30th birthday. I mostly did it for the privacy but I also did it because I truly couldn’t stand my roommates being very loud and dirty. However, you are at such an age where it’s socially expected for you to have a roommate, I would even argue to say that you have far more fun having a roommate since it really allows for a larger social circle which is what your age flourishes on. I had thought around 30 that it was embarrassing that I had a roommate and I found the last couple of years that so many of my single friends still had roommates up until about 31 or 32. Especially with the economy we’re facing, get a roommate.

Oh, and another thing to consider. All of those little things you might not realize you need, like a potato peeler, a printer, the occasional jumpstart to a car, getting locked out of your place, these are all things that you don’t really think of until they happen and they are super obnoxious we’re having a roommate fix a lot of those issues. I used to put meat in the sink to thaw to cook for dinner and will call my roommate if I was being held up at work for him to put it back in the refrigerator, nowadays I leave a goddamn popsicle stick in the sink and I leave for the weekend and come back to a colony of ants because the kitchen is on touch while I’m gone.

ngyuhnang · 2020-05-09T23:05:56+00:00

When I was living alone I brought many girls home on the first date and banged them there. It stopped since my parents came back here to live with me (it’s their house). I pulled off banging chicks in my car but it doesn’t happen often. Living alone is definitely a game changer.

boy_named_su · 2020-05-10T00:02:17+00:00

I lived in my own apartment, in a building where two of my friends lived too. that was great. we could pop by each other's places, but got our own space

UniversalFapture · 2020-05-10T00:17:18+00:00

If you can live alone, then do so.

Don_Draper27 · 2020-05-10T00:29:46+00:00

Depends on the roommate. Unlike everyone in the comments who have lived with slobs i currently live with some who’s extra clean and very decorative. It rubs off on me and I’ve found myself keeping a nice clean room most of the time, my car is clean and the interior gets wiped down. Even my office room at work is set up nicely while the rest of the building looks cluttered and messy (at my work it’s 6 guys, no girls).

My point is it’s a “you are the 5 people you hangout with the most” situation. If your roommate has high SMV and knows a lot of people and gets a lot of hooks ups, etc then it’s beneficial to be around them. Meet more people (more girls), have a good wingman, take turns going to the market, etc. Yes my roommate is like this. I easily meet attractive new people just being around them.

aegeaorgnqergerh · 2020-05-10T00:50:09+00:00

I thrive on the company of others, so even just knowing someone else is in the house is a bonus for me. I like time to myself, such as now, but it's good to be able to "shoot the shit" with someone else under the same roof, now more so than ever (we're in lockdown after all).

But other than that, it's totally personal preference, and depends on your priorites.

I could live alone right now, but I'd not be able to afford as extravagant a lifestyle as a result. Take it to the extreme - you get your own place to be a "strong independent man" but if you can't afford to go out or travel to places, what's the point?

As for getting girls back, I'd suggest you need to work on that first. No offence, but it suggests that doesn't happen often. If you're doing it regularly, you can live with your parents and they won't give a shit.

fightingpanda94 · 2020-05-10T01:21:30+00:00

Live with a room mate. I’m 25 and have had at least one since I bought my house at 20. The extra 500-1000 a month really helps a guy get ahead. I plan on being room mates free in the next 6 months but it isn’t a horrible compromise in the meantime as long as you have the right people.

LivndeadX · 2020-05-10T01:39:02+00:00

Been living with a relatively close friend for 3months now. 23, after the lease is up (in another 3 months) I'm moving out to live on my own 100%.

If rent is 33# net also account for your utilities as well.

mcrow5 · 2020-05-10T02:59:56+00:00

I live by myself and I absolutely love it. I can do whatever I want when I want to. Right now I'm playing incredibly loud music that would surely piss off anyone else who lived here. I considered getting roommates in, but I don't want to put up with their mess and opinions. I love being by myself too, if I want to see anyone I go out and see them.

jaw8625 · 2020-05-10T03:19:22+00:00

Yes. you feel independent and in control of your life. Bitches automatically respect you more, and are much more willing to come over if there is no chance of running into others. I lived alone one semester in college, and I had so many sorority girls who normally would have nothing to do with me sneaking over since no one would ever know.

Also, you can fuck them all over every room in the apartment. Nothing like having them cook you a meal naked, and interrupting them with kitchen sex

axiscontra · 2020-05-10T03:55:11+00:00

I rent a cheap 3 bedroom so I could sublease the rooms and have them pay most of the rent. I own the lease so I basically make all the rules. Finding good roommates is hard tho. For me its my place and they have the rooms. Girls dont mind because they know its mine, they do get a lil iffy knowing someone is there.

I would go cheapest as possible, save and invest, just make sure the place is nice, it would be better if the place was yours and the guy rented a room but thats not likely.

Huntbutt · 2020-05-10T05:23:51+00:00

it's excellent in every way compared to having room-mates.

if you drink a lot or smoke a lot of ganja make sure you clean on a schedule or else its easy to let your place get fucked up since you wont care if your just buzzed as fuck 24/7

cheers

beginner_ · 2020-05-10T07:01:27+00:00

33% of net pay is usually the max you should spend on rent meaning you should aim for spending much less.

Personally I would focus on saving or paying back debt and living with a friend is one way to save a lot of money. However I would discuss certain things before like cleaning schedule and in general if you guys are compatible in terms of cleanliness and orderliness. For example I'm not very orderly so having for example books lying around on a table, "some clutter" is ok. What I'm not ok with is a dirty kitchen. If you cook and eat you clean up afterwards were afterwards is after eating and not on 2hrs or 2 days. Roaches and other bugs....Don't need to intentionally feed them.

Of course where you live matters as in laws. For sure you will both sign a lease/rent so that you will legally only have to pay half of any damages.

With girls living alone is of course a huge advantage. You can be sure most will hold back when there is someone in the next room potentially listening in. It just makes it a bit more complicated as you need to somehow make her know that potential some other person will be at your place.

But again, given your age I would probably focus more on getting finances in order than getting an ideal setup for fucking around. 33% of net pay is way too much IMHO. You can do that when you have 0 debt and at least 1 yearly! salary saved, better more.

EDIT:

I did exactly that and saved easily $1000+ a months. living in a shared relatively cheap apartment. (cheap means cheap for where I live which still means it's pretty good living quality, cheap doesn't mean complete shithole). Given how the market here is, renting costs you far, far more than when you buy and pay mortgage. But buying property is very, very expensive. So the plan always was to save and then buy. Now I pay about the same monthly as before for double the space and everything new. So it depends on your priorities but given your age I would put finances first.

Anupam200288 · 2020-05-10T07:06:24+00:00

I have been staying alone for last 5 years...and yes you could live your life the way you want....NO COMPROMISE OR ADJUSTMENTS to worry about with any dickheads..

2020-05-10T09:09:29+00:00

Get your own place if you can afford it. I stayed with a fucking annoying student this year whose sleep schedule was so trash (dude slept super late and I like sleeping early to hit the gym early morning). He was also undisciplined af and that can start to affect you in indirect ways. It's a lot easier to be disciplined when you're living alone just my opinion

Lostfate09 · 2020-05-10T10:29:58+00:00

Peace and fucking quiet

bert_cj · 2020-05-11T05:02:56+00:00

I live by myself. I think of all the money I’d save if I had a roommate. Still want a roommate, but I don’t know anyone in the city where I live.

"Hell, I had a roommate that literally would text the chicks that I had come over as I was sitting next to them on the couch and he was across from me in the chair hitting on them."