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My false rape accusation- an interesting battle for over 1 year (self.asktrp)

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I was falsely accused of rape on March 2019 after a ONS in February 2019. (3 weeks later after we had sex)

Met her at a University party. She was 22/23 I was 19. She had cuts on her arms. She was actually kinda cute, a little chubby and was pleasant.

Bought her a drink some time later, we divided to walk back to her place. Went to her place, had sex once and then took a Uber home.

red flags I missed:

  1. cuts on her arms. Big and deep. Overlooked them. 2)before she left, she was very intense with her friends. Almost like she was arguing.
  2. texted her- “had a great night last night” she never responded back.

Me and her kept chatting. A girl I fucked messaged me about her possibly having chlamydia. I messaged all the girls around that time I was sexually active with (3 or 4). All of them said thank you.

This girl didn’t. She kept pestering me with the results. I told her it takes 2 weeks. Later that night she sends me a message “why did you remove the condom the second time”.

In the morning police come to my place. My mother is crying. UK police tell me I’ve been falsely accused of rape. Wait 4 hours in the cell. After being interviewed, the woman asks me if I removed the condom during sex the second time. I never did. I never had sex with her the second time. Only had sex once and put the condom half way through.

My life was ruined. University decided to place campus restrictions on me. Can only be on eight from 9am to 9pm. The university councillor (fuck him) treated me like I really rapped her. Made me feel awful. I really hated it.

Her friends know about me. I see them sometimes around campus. I feel weird. Almost like an outcast. I feel like I don’t deserve to be there.

My parents treated me shitty also in the beginning. They treated me like I did something wrong. A friend of mine hates me now after he found out. Won’t talk to me anymore.

She kinda ruined my life. I really can’t be with girls anymore. I’m 20 atm about to finish my second year and have plans to be a charted accountant (CPA for u American folk).

I didn’t know it would be this bad. Nothing happened after the police station. No charges pressed. Except psych charges.

Almost think about what I could have done different. Almost reevaluating everything. Even one year later.

Maybe she had a boyfriend? Maybe I fucked her badly? Maybe I am a bad person... I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. I am kinda fucked.

It’s been one year. I have gotten better. Won’t have to see her around next year (my final year)- she graduated.

Furthermore I also think she got her friend to accuse me of harassing an underage girl in the shop. Really got to me. Campus security (not police) treated me quite badly. Asked me to give them my name, said no. Idk if they knew I studied there. Went there the next day to explain my situation. He said he already filed the report and “wouldn’t worry too much if I was you”.

And here we have it boys. Still fucked. Still in my head. I have no frame anymore. Always second guessing myself. People made me think it was my fault.

I dated a few cutters before, never knew they would fucking accuse me of rape.

For the record, I’m decently looking. Fairly handsome. Keep in good shape. No model or anything.

TL:TR/ FALSLY ACCUSED AT THE AGE OF 19 OF RAPE BY A GIRL AND HER LIES. WHAT CAN I DO TO MOVE ON? ITS BEEN OVER ONE YEAR, CANT TRUST ANY FEMALE


[–]svenfromaccounting225 points226 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Focus on finishing school and getting your CPA. This is exactly why you need "Fuck you" money. Life is lonely and most people don't give a shit about you.

As for all the negative thoughts, relax. She's a whorebag who is morally bankrupt. Never volunteer information and definitely don't be the nice guy ever again.

[–]ICYlelouche20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What this guy said. Honestly man try your best to move on and don't torture yourself thinking about this.....because you did NOTHING wrong and i'm really sorry this happened to you. Also fuck what others think, just keep your head high and you will get through this.

[–]thesoloronin15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This. You’re a broke and horny college undergrad that’s why things didn’t go well for you socially.

But it’s also greatly fortunate for you that BECAUSE you’re broke, most people won’t pounce on you cause you haven’t got no value.

Now imagine if you HAD fuck you money? This 💥🚂🔥 wouldn’t let you off so easily as you would be a great Beta Bucks for her to lockdown to fund for her ride on the Cock Carousel.

Clap your face cheeks and wake the fuck up. This was a cheap and not-so-damaging lesson for you and now get back to your mission and put your dent in the universe.

There’s a reason why TonightsGirlfriend ends with the tagline “I don’t pay them for sex. I pay them to leave.” People would willingly shut the fuck up if you have the 6 Sixes as it signifies Alpha-ness and Betas aren’t bold enough to mess with an Alpha.

[–]djc_tech2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is the most accurate and to the point post I’ve seen here. Life is lonely and you’re on your own. This is why fuck you money is needed.

[–]Black JesusDerekMorganBAU113 points114 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Life is a culmination of bubbles. Leave one bubble to enter another one and all of your issues in the last bubble are left there.

Shit that happened in the hood stayed there when I left. But then I had a whole new set of problems.

That's life my nigga.

[–]Ubiquitous-Toss43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Man I wish I could finish all my advice with that

[–]neo-rp2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is a great analogy

[–]DDD50_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wise words.

[–]sharktittylazerguns0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

How did you manage to leave the hood in another bubble? Asking cause I'm in a bad neighborhood

[–]Black JesusDerekMorganBAU8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I saved money and moved to a better part of town. Took almost a couple of years though

[–]LegendarySuperSalsa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hard work, determination, and not dwelling on personal/cultural issues and following the ‘self entitled chip on the shoulder’ mentality. If you are born in unfortunate circumstances and your elected officials constantly tell you you’re going to be there forever due to things that happened centuries ago, then that’s the mindset you’re going to grow up with and you’re going to fall right into their hands. I know plenty of people who grew up in unfortunate circumstances leave bad neighborhoods because they worked hard. I also know plenty of people who grew up sheltered who struggle in life.

[–]555654t45655532 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro this is my worst nightmare and I really feel for you. I have a friend who went through a similar thing but not as bad. He had an unhinged male friend who got pissed at him and told his feminist-zealot girlfriend that he had used his position of power in the university hall they lived in to try to get freshers’ drunk and pounce on them. My friend barely drinks and was a solid guy who would never do anything like this. The poor guy didn’t sleep for weeks and started avoiding all social gatherings in his hall. No girl ever came forward or accused him of anything but he was afraid this feminist bitch was going around telling everyone this, she even confronted him to his face about it in the hall bar.

That was five years ago and he’s totally back to normal now. After a year he came back to hall events and got a girlfriend, he just avoided this cunt who made shit up and his bitch girlfriend. Once he graduated he never saw these people again and he never even talks about it and doesn’t care. Once you’re out of uni you’ll never see these people again. Stay away from them and work on yourself. You’re going to be fine.

Edit: I think a really lucky thing for my friend was this ass hole shit stirrer played the same trick on another one of his ‘friends’ six months later, I think when he heard of that he knew that his male bullshitter accuser was a social pariah so had the confidence to come out of his shell. Just give it time my man and NEVER mention it to anyone, they ALWAYS think no smoke without a fire. You WILL come through this.

[–]Saladin1921 points22 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

> I dated a few cutters before, never knew they would fucking accuse me of rape.

You talk about this as if its a normal thing, I'm sorry to say but what kind of people do you meet where this is so casual, I have to say it's not casual, and I think you need help. I once went on a date with a girl who had Anorexia (I had no idea prior to the date) It was at that moment I knew not to continue with her, even though she wanted me badly it just wasnt feasible and I explained politely, stay away from those that are disturbed..

> For the record, I’m decently looking. Fairly handsome. Keep in good shape. No model or anything.

I'm not sure why this is mentioned or has anything to do with your situation, but what your experiencing goes way beyond red pill or red pill mentality. I think you need to take a break from all this and really plug out. Maybe even seek help, best you can do is move on.

> Questions I ask myself everyday: Maybe she had a boyfriend? Maybe I fucked her badly? Maybe I am a bad person... I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. I am kinda fucked.

The question to ask yourself is why are you going after those who are mental health issues, your history of "dating cutters" suggests you are in this realm after all birds of a feather?

> Furthermore I also think she got her friend to accuse me of harassing an underage girl in the university shop

Most women, do not go through the hassle of this, and its not easy to convince someone to do something illegal just for fun, so I worry that maybe there is some truth? or maybe your just a bit worried and anxious now.

Look bro, there are a whole variety of problems you are experiencing but at the same time there are some benefits. For one, you are going to get a degree and work a job and have self sufficiency this is a big positive given what your experiencing so be proud of that!

Two, I think you need to take a break from partying and all the girls and try and figure out who you want in your life, our partners are a reflection of who we think we deserve.. and I assure you, that you deserve much better.

three, another positive your only 20, you are not labelled as a sex offender legally, college is fleeting most of those assholes you will never see again, your friend is a dick if he doesn't trust you, youll find better more suitable friends.

Good luck bro!

[–]TheBlockedUser5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"I dated a few cutters before, never knew they would fucking accuse me of rape."

This is what caught my eyes as well. It's a shame what happened to OP but not because he is young and horny, doesn't mean he should stick his in anything that moves.

Especially extremely depressed women, who are prone to cutting. But alas, this is also life lesson.

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[–]KilluminatiGotti232 points33 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

In the matriarchal UK judicial system, are you kidding me? Lol he would have a better chance of building a time machine and going back to before they met.

[–]Blazer8081 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Any evidence of that, or are you talking out of your ass?

[–]Oh_Debussy17 points18 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

In the UK a woman cannot legally rape a man. That should tell inform you of their attitude towards the issue.

[–]Blazer80817 points18 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Not a lawyer by any means, but a bit of research goes a long way.

Yes, the wording around rape and penetration in the UK is bullshit, but we're talking about false rape accusations, which according to UK laws imply these two offences:

Perverting the course of justice, a serious offence. It can only be tried on indictment and carries a maximum sentence of life imprisonment. The offence is committed where a person:

  • does an act (a positive act or series of acts is required; mere inaction is insufficient);
  • which has a tendency to pervert; and
  • which is intended to pervert the course of public justice.

The offence of wasting police time (section 5(2) of the Criminal Law Act 1967) is committed when a person:

Causes wasteful employment of the police by knowingly making to any person, a false report orally or in writing tending to:

  • show that an offence has been committed;
  • give rise to apprehension for the safety of any persons or property; or
  • show that he has information material to any police inquiry.

Not to mention that even though he was cleared of all charges as it was a false accusation he still suffered moral and human right damages via discrimination/persecution by the University staff and University students because of that vapid cunt.

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[–]Blazer80813 points14 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Well it won't work if you don't even try will it now?

[–]i-am-the-prize6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yup. The only way her type of actions will become less frequent is when there is some punitive reaction to them and that becomes established as a deterrent.

I would do a gofundme, to fund a legal effort to "set up a legal precedent in the UK to sue/push for punishment (even the wasting the courts time) false rape accusations"

yes, you will get lit up, and accused of a "chilling effect" and more scare/shaming tactics... so use an alternate email address and find a law firm to take it first and have the proceeds go directly to their escrow, have the firm's name in the gofundme so "doubters" can call for verification. don't make it about personal monetary gain, have your case be the first (of many) they use.

i wouldn't be surprised if a single wealthy mgtow still-angry guy would drop some real cash, and I think every RP guy would give you a few bucks. i'd throw in $100 to help OP along...

[–]KilluminatiGotti2-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You’re so naive to think that the court system of the UK would hand down a sentence to a women who falsely accused a man of rape lol if the law actually worked the Prime Minister Justin Trudeau would be doing 25 years in prison as we speak.

Citing litigate definitions means absolutely nothing when the government is pushing an agenda of feminism, globalism and mass immigration. Due process doesn’t work and it hasn’t for a very long time.

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[–]Blazer8080 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

It's up to them to do it, but it's up to us to make sure they do it. Sitting with your dick in your hand while being fucked is BP as fuck.

[–]Count-Mason0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

They weigh every case on evidence. Unless your filming yourself like Patrick Bateman what evidence will you have to give them.

You can't just tell the police it's a lie and expect a case to be made, your living in a fantasy.

[–]cumberger23 points24 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

you will need therapy. straight up. this is traumatizing and will have serious negative impacts on the way you live throughout the rest of your life.

[–]babybopp11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is why I keep rambling on about Reading the fucking Sidebar. Many guys like OP come here asking questions that it is clear that they haven’t even bothered to read. There is a section on BPD women. Never date a woman that self harms. She has no value of her body and herself. She is nothing short of a ticking time bomb. These girls have decade long issues and a lot of dudes think that they can fix them. They are crazy in bed but the bottom line is Never Stick It in Crazy. OP had a very expensive lesson in this.

[–]otamatonedeaf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This probably occured pre-TRP. If so, telling him he should have read sidebar is as useless as boobs on a bull.

[–]2319Skew9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through that. Did you get a record? Can you move to another place when you are done school and start your own life? Thanks for sharing btw.

[–]ViolentInteger18 points19 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Sorry to hear this happened to you. Even if you did everything right, you can still get unlucky and land a crazy woman who didn't show any red flags.

But you need to move forward with your life. The first is to get your university to start treating you like a human being again. They need to lift all the restrictions on you. Harp on the fact that its been over a year and no charges were filed. If they drag their feet, be a pain in the ass. Find their pressure points, and call them repeatedly until they're fucking sick of you. "The squeaky wheel gets the oil."

After that, meet with your former friends one-on-one. Explain to them that people with mental illnesses like Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) exist; they tend to enjoy ruining peoples lives. This, in combination with everyone's assumption that the accuser is always right has harmed you. Reasonable people will understand this and come back around. Those who don't aren't very useful people to have in your life anyway.

Keep pumping iron. Keep working hard in your studies. That needs to be your primary concern anyway.

Maybe ease in to some flirting and socializing with women. No need to jump back in full blast if you're not comfortable. But sitting around and doing nothing on that front will just make old memories fester.

Realize that you can't change the past, but you can control your present and future. You have a LOT of control over your path in life and your happiness, but just like everyone else, you need to work hard at it. Keep moving. You should always be making progress on small and large goals alike.

One day you'll realize that you hadn't thought about this incident in years.

[–]thesoloronin2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Great advice but all those will only dampen the fire. BPs are plugged in and unsolicited RP truths will only rile them even further, hence the Anger Phase.

One of the reasons why solid Red Pillers stay Red Pilled is because of BS like that.

The social ostracism and the willingness of so-called “friends” become the fuel to the fire that stay alight in one’s new RP-ed soul. Just like mine.

[–]juliusstreicher4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Great advice but all those will only dampen the fire.

No, the advice was shit.

He should get an attorney for the university, and threaten to sue. He should NOT talk with his ex friends at all. WTF should he? And, if you noticed, he's a bit of a lunk head. He'll most definitely try to meet up with female ex friends alone. Here it comes again!

No, he'll never convince his ex friends, and the fucking university will not just listen to his side, as if they were his long-time confidantes.

[–]thesoloronin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Damn. Kinda beat me to it. But yeah I would’ve done that suggestion either.

[–]ViolentInteger-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

He should get an attorney for the university, and threaten to sue.

Threaten to sue? You think large organizations give a shit about legal threats? They have full-time legal departments specifically to deal with this.

So let's say OP sues and wins. Then what? A chunk of change isn't going to make his bitterness and depression go away. My advice was aimed towards dealing with that. One way or another, that needs to get solved otherwise he'll stay miserable in life.

He should NOT talk with his ex friends at all. WTF should he?

Simple: 1.) because some of them may be reasoned with and made decisions based on bad information, and 2.) because OP needs to restore a semblance of normal life, and humans typically achieve this through social interaction.

He'll most definitely try to meet up with female ex friends alone.

Straight men do not form friendships with women.

No, he'll never convince his ex friends

Get a load of this guy with his angry crystal ball, projecting everywhere!

and the fucking university will not just listen to his side

The opinions of useless administrators don't matter. What matters is his restrictions are lifted.

Take a deep breath. This story obviously triggered you. You need to reflect on why it engaged your emotions.

[–]juliusstreicher0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Your self-delusion helps nobody. This is a Red Pill forum, and, as such deals in realities.

Please refrain from posting until you have something that will be helpful.

[–]ViolentInteger-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You made claims here with absolutely zero supporting evidence or logic.

"That which is asserted without evidence can be discarded without evidence."

Don't forget to downvote this reply. You know... so you can feel powerful.

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[–]ViolentInteger-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're being an ass and a total cunt

"You're destroying me with logic. I don't like that and you're a bad person."

which is why women are discouraged from posting on this sub.

This isn't a place for women to post responses. They don't have the RP perspective needed to help. "To know the road ahead, ask those coming back from it."

this sub is for men

Indeed it is. And not for women.

You need to step back and take a deep breath. You got triggered by OP's post. Reflect on why that happened. After that, work on your debating tactics. Otherwise you'll keep getting steamrolled.

P.S. Don't forget to downvote this response too!

[–]Endorsed ContributorNightwingTRP8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is the literal damage of the absurd policy of "believe all women" rather than telling women to take some personal responsibility for their actions and think about their behaviour.

This also serves as a reminder to stay far away from crazy. While false rape accusations are reasonably rare on here... they happen for a variety of reasons. From you not being alpha enough, from her own urge to preserve her social status (her friends disapprove of you, therefore she never slept with you, you must have raped her), to vindictiveness because she can't get a relationship with you, or plain maliciousness because you upset her delicate fee fees in some way. Any one of these can happen at any time with any woman. Minimise your risk. Any indicator of crazy must be treated very seriously and if you're not ruling these women out then you need to take a hard look at yourself and whether you have abundance mentality or whether you're faking it and failing.

[–]Anonymous2k185 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stop banging sketchy girls you just met

[–]thesaoexpress4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Damn sorry you went through this. Thank you for sharing your story

[–]KamelMedia3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Forgive but dont forget. Remember that bitch 10 years from now and ruin her life even worse when she least expects it.

[–]communistcontrolact10 points11 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Why didn’t you sue her? You’d have a chance at winning given it seems like she never tried taking you to criminal court.

Anyways cut everyone off who treated you like shit and become very wealthy. Anyone who tries to crawl back curse them out/tell them to burn.

You also need to figure out how to ruin this bitch’s life

[–]AncientDragons7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

“Ruin this bitch’s life.” This is a highly risky idea. If she lied once about rape she will lie again. It sounds like the only reason OP isn’t dealing with an actual court case is because the girl decided not to press charges.

Tangle with her now, or try to get retribution, and OP will be in court. Then the girl can make up any series of lies that she wants to in order to get him in trouble. And in this kind of case, it’s one party’s statements against the other. Imagine all of the crying and “woe is me” she will do on the stand. They’ll make OP out to look like a monster. He’s been through enough, why jump into a court case?

OP should cut off contact with this girl and move on. It sucks that she can get away with making these kinds of false allegations but there is no way taking this fight to court will be anything but a massive headache. He dodged a bullet here and best he can do is get on with his life.

[–]Grandazer7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dont let your frame get shaken by a chubby whore who cuts herself.

[–]juliusstreicher3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My parents treated me shitty also in the beginning. They treated me like I did something wrong.

Your parents suck.

A cunt ex- friend of mine hates me now after he found out. Won’t talk to me anymore.

FTFY

ETA: Avoid all cutters in the future. Avoid all women who take psychotropic meds or who are in therapy, or who have a genetic predisposition to mental illness, esp. BPD, schizophrenia or paranoia.

[–]cracksniffer6664 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I've heard I've "raped" a couple people too. I literally cried when a friend asked me if I did that. Vile. Vile. Fuck it.

[–]juliusstreicher0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Years ago, when I was BP and stupid, I asked a coworker out. She said "I'm busy." Same thing next week. At any rate, she reported me for sexual harassment! All she needed to do is tell me she didn't want to go out with me, and I wouldn't have bothered her ever again.

I felt totally violated, and unclean, as if I really had committed some sexual offense.

[–]cracksniffer6661 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah modern times are fucked. People coddle the shit out of women, which goes against any sort of real equality

[–]juliusstreicher0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not to overly rehash ancient history, but, now that I think about it, I remember even saying something to the effect "Look, if you don't want to go out with me, just tell me." She said, "No, I'm just busy...blah, blah". So, of course I still took it in the ass. (I shortened the numbers of time that I asked her to only 2 in my post, in the interest of brevity.)

[–]darkprince_233 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The fact that the girl had deep visible cuts and you still chose to interact with her boggles my mind. Why the fuck would you even attempt anything with a bitch like that? Don't stick your dick in crazy has been echoed hear on this sub so many times and for good reason. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

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[–]thesoloronin3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

High chances you’re right.

Source: I’ve dated a BPD ex that almost made me off-ed myself.

[–]Yusuf184 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get “fuck you” money and move out

[–]NathuSingh2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stay Strong, Bro. I will advise you to try to shift your focus to other activities. Shit happens. You have limited time over here. You can't change your past but you can build a good future. All the best.

[–]bittr_n_swt2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Man fuck that bitch you did nothing wrong but miss the red flags. Hate women like that honestly

[–]l1ght-2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sue that bitch for defamation & seek compensation for mental repercussions.

Also, random 21-year-old to random 20-year-old, brother, get some counselling. TRP shit aside, you need to get this shit sorted early.

Make sure there are no news articles about it (there shouldn't, considering your age,) if there is speak to a lawyer and get that shit removed.

False claims impact thousands of men, don't allow yourself to be another.

[–]strainer1232 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was falsely accused at 15 and it scarred me forever, 15 years later and I still think about it, I still don't trust women, or anyone by that matter, but I'm pretty vocal when it comes to false accusations, they're still widespread. Thats why they don't let MGTOW/Red Pilled guys to talk at schools, because they always need a fresh crop of gullible boys to fall for the same hoaxes we did so many years ago, you will never forget about it, you can and will move on though, it takes time.

[–]hedged61612 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

To be very clear, men are not safe on college campuses.

[–]throwitdownman2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its always the uglier girls who cry rape. I’ve very rarely known/seen any girl in my social circle who were attractive act like this. Personally feel the uglier the girl, the more insane her hormones.

Also ‘cute’ is just an alternative to saying she looks like an average, feminine person. So an average, chubby, girl with cut marks. Just avoid low SMV women, especially if they are easy.

[–]alleyteris4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It baffles me how shitty things women can get with, fucking up people's lives.

And I kind of disagree with the other people here that say that you need to forget about it. Chances are that you can never forget what happened, but if I where you I would sue the fuck out of her and your university too.

Staying in your corner and pretending it didn't happen will only make things worse as will people still gonna believe you did it.

By letting that cunt get away with it, paves the way for her to do this again to the next innocent man,

Sue the fuck out of her

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[–]LAdude713 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If there's no criminal charges for awhile, I would sue the shit outta her.

[–]BydandMathias1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck man, I feel you. We're the same age and you're going through circumstances I can never imagine going through. You need to get angry and fight with all you have. Don't let that oversized beached whale get away with ruining your life.

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first of all, the lesson here is don't fuck crazy. no offence bro but you ignored a GLARING red flag, for me personally, cut marks on a girl..... disgusting, get the fuck away from me. and you even said you have a history of dating girls like this, bro, stop fucking crazy bitches.

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crazy girls show you the signs, you just gotta be rational minded, not thinking with your dick, so as to avoid it.

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Now, I'm gonna say some shit that might sound fucked up.

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based on all the facts you've given.... you're fine. nothing happened. All the problems are in your head.

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1.you didn't go to prison, no getting fucked by the justice system, no criminal record. wooo, so that's the first and MAIN good thing.

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  1. So what her friends don't like you, of course they won't, that's just regular life drama shit, people take their friends side, who gives a fuck what they think.

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  1. the uni restrictions and campus police bullshit. Ok look bro, the reality is that universities in the west these days are an Anti-male shit show. fact. But it also means it's not something to stress about. the real world is not like this, you're just really invested in your University reality which causes you to give a fuck about this. you're not in any trouble with THE ACTUAL POLICE, so relax.

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so what your University is being gay about this, they are gay about everything, they have to be cos they have to be PC and shit. I went to uni, in the uk, not too long ago and so i know how it is. i just can't take the drama at university seriously cos it's like overgrown 14 year old bullshit.

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  1. and this is the most important point. your real problem is that you care what people think. The fact that somewhere there are people that don't like you, is what's bothering you. To be fair to you, you're 19 so i get it, i was also like this at 19 but bro you're gonna have to grow up. None of these people's opinions of you should be rocking you. Your frame was weak, now it's gonna get EVEN FUCKING STRONGER after this shit if you let it. Get better not bitter.

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trust me man, i've been accused of sexual harassment at work from a girl before as well, and everyone looks at you funny, and you feel this intense SHAME, obviously no where near the magnitude of yours but i TOTALLY get that feeling of shame. that feeling like you're dirty or a bad person or some shit. The problem this highlights however is that you are letting other people tell you what kind of person you are.

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FUCK ALL OF THEM, the girl, her friends, the campus police, the uni people, straight up, fuck em.

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YOU gotta knwo that you're the shit, cos YOU said so, not cos of how many girls you fucked, how many friends you got, how popular you are, how much money you got etc. NO, it's cos YOU said hey i'm fucking awesome, so god damn it, it's true.

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your post has many parts where you say this, that or the other person made you feel bad. that's your problem, these people have this power over you to make you feel bad. because you GIVE THEM that power. take the power back, instead of having to rely on others opinions to think you're awesome, decide from today that you're awesome cos YOU said so.

[–]LegendarySuperSalsa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It sucks that this happens bro but a tip ALWAYS beforehand text each other that you consent to have sex. I know this might kill the mood a bit but having this insurance is your undeniable proof for situations like this. Someone was once saved years of jail time because of old Facebook messages that proved all their sex was consensual google it. You can’t hope for the vague ‘had a good time last night’ text after the fact or sending her that text and getting nothing back, you want your insurance beforehand. Wonen are crazy and the whole world sides with them unconditionally these days. Do you buy car insurance after you total your car? If she gives you shit about it then don’t fuck her. If a woman ever gives you shit or an argument about something you want her to do and she isn’t having it then she is simply not worth it. You’re the man and she’s just some whore who’s nice tits and/or ass caught your attention momentarily.

[–]nordicpolarbear1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck this bitch. Wait a couple years and start making her life a living hell for your own amusement. Start slashing her tires busting out her windows etc. could help you to start feeling better and could make this bitch realize she shouldn’t mess with people :)

[–]Tambamwham1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You didn’t get a lawyer?

[–]unamins1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"After the police station no charges" then what you worry about???😵

Just acuse her of false accusation and move on!

Not all females are on this level of psychopacy!

Some friends got crazy? It was an opportunity for you to discover who they really was and who was really a friend!

The reality is that nothing happened, it's just in your brain.

[–]RaidenDark0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My dude, you need to start seeing a therapist immediately. Set an appointment now. There's no shame in seeking professional help, only shame in not getting it soon enough. I didn't and it fucked me over for about 8 years.

[–]FuckJanitors0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I’m starting uni this September now you got me scared OP.

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[–]FuckJanitors0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well i’m a quarter black but British so not sure how to feel.

[–]mustardplug10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This happens to more people than you’d think.

Just remember you did nothing wrong.

yo life will move on.

[–]madness0905-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

What if u visit her and ask her to talk, just break down in front of her and record everything. Say your are sorry and explain what happened to you. Maybe she feels sorry and spills the truth. Then go from there to a lawyer and ask what to do. This might be hard for you to do and also to catch her in the right moment.

Other option just stick through it but get therapy, it really helps.

Good luck bro I hope this never happens to one of us.

[–]juliusstreicher0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are a fucking maniac, bro! Ask a lawyer about what you just recommended-he'll set you straight quick.

[–]Paltriness0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Roehampton?

[–]catsdontsmile0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

But RapE cuLTurE

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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