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Before the whole world was shut down, what were some of your favorite places to take girls for first dates? I usually do drinks or coffee but need some more ideas after quarantine is over


[–]cockkksucker102 points103 points  (18 children) | Copy Link

first dates should be low effort bro. don’t overthink it

[–]babybopp50 points51 points  (17 children) | Copy Link

Dude is going to pay... first mistake

[–]Wave942 points3 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

Curious you wouldn’t buy on the first date?

[–]AndrewAAA7226 points27 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Depends if its couple of beers at a dive bar or a coffee date you can pay. But if you are on a date at a fancy restaurant with a women who has a fulltime job just as you have, you should split the bill.

[–]btrpb60 points61 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Who the fuck does dinner for a first date? Too much time and effort investment, let alone money. Walk, coffee, or drinks. That's all I ever do.

[–]abhi_0724 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Who the fuck does dinner for a first date?

Beta chumps?

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I have one day per week where I'm free to go out and relax, 9/10 times I'll pick somewhere that does food because I enjoy eating out. Burger and a pint kinda deal. I'd rather cancel the date and still get my burger than go on a walk with some girl.

[–]idevastate3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That's actually very reasonable for you, how good is it of a first date scenario for you? Is it successful?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's great. The place itself is quite impersonal, benches and couches rather than 1 on 1 tables - has that rustic feel to it places go for nowadays - whilst being quiet enough on a weekday for you to sit and chat. Plus it's happy hour after work and I love a pint haha

[–]millenialprincess3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If its night time then coffee is inappropriate and taking her to a bar on an empty stomach has Predator written all over it. Try ice cream.

[–]TheMainGerman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is great advice. ^

[–]JohnNoomer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

People who aren’t poor

No worries if you think a dinner takes effort you probably don’t have the effort to make any money

[–]Wave940 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

True true

[–]cockkksucker1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

first dates, the cost shouldn’t even matter. newbs need to fix their mindset tho, ur the prize, don’t worry ab wining n dining these hoes

[–]babybopp3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Once u set that precedent that u will pay, u have already lost. Pay on the third date never the first.

[–]cockkksucker6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

hard rules are good for newbs, not all first dates are ltr’s. play the game dude

[–]E9er-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

it’s a learning curb. new guys haven’t shaken of BP fully and barely understanding RP.... they don’t know what’s good or bad for them yet. so doing the bad still seems normal. been chivalrous and courteous are been used wrong.

[–]Blazer80831 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A swimming pool, make sure to push her in the water to check out her natty face /s

[–]CrackDaMarco62 points63 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Their bedrooms.

[–]EnemyAsmodeus13 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This seems a little suspicious kind of reddit comment... What if they take me prisoner and rape me?

[–]CrackDaMarco-5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Then you're winning.

[–]juliusstreicher-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you have to ask, you're a homo.

[–]a-large-L34 points35 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Smoothies, snow cones, frozen yogurt, literally anything you want to do

[–]Gunnder13127 points28 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Bubble Tea - cheap, tasty, and non-alcoholic

[–]DennisErectus7 points8 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

The last point is a con.

[–]when_its_too_late-2 points-1 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

That is why I always carry a small bottle of vodka with me. Just add.

[–]liberateus37 points38 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Nothing says class more than your date bringing in their own flask to spike their boba tea on a first date

[–]when_its_too_late-4 points-3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

It better be a quality flask and be backed up by a párt cigar and cufflinks.

[–]liberateus15 points16 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Sir, this is a Wendy's

[–]awihsoj12 points13 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Ice skating is always my go to. it's never boring esspecially if she doesnt know how to skate. that way, you can teach her and it involves alot of touching so you get that boundary out of the way. You'll probably spend about 20-30 max and it doesnt seem too try hard which will make her intrigued to see what you have to offer next time.

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[–]riddermarknomad4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Get matching leotards and start practicing for the Olympics.

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nice.

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[–]ImplodedVeggies14 points15 points  (28 children) | Copy Link

Any free museum or exhibit. Say “I’ve been wanting to check it out”

After that any quick bite to eat will do

[–]ToldYouNotToWorry_9 points10 points  (26 children) | Copy Link

sure, if you want her anti-slut defense to be through the roof

[–]redpilledfox6 points7 points  (25 children) | Copy Link

Why would it?

[–]ToldYouNotToWorry_19 points20 points  (24 children) | Copy Link

museum/dinner is a try-hard for me, go for a regular coffee/drink and work from there

you want to fuck her ( hopefully ), and she wants to feel you, while you’re showing her some shitty exhibits she’s getting texts from guys that would gladly exhibit her ass on their bed

if you’re really insisting on museum, go for a bar nearby and visit museum “spontaneously” after, don’t make it a main date

unless you actually meet a girl in a museum that’s actually interested in that

[–]93_93_93_93_938 points9 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

and she wants to feel you, while you’re showing her some shitty exhibits she’s getting texts from guys that would gladly exhibit her ass on their bed

Just because you're attracted to low-IQ women doesn't mean a museum isn't a great first date for gaming sophisticated women.

There's room for all kinds of players in this game, and I appreciate ones like you thinning out the dumb ones for me.

[–]ToldYouNotToWorry_18 points19 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

ahaha, sophisticated woman are horny just as any other “trashy” woman

in fact, many times she’s even more down to fuck especially if that’s what she’s after, because she has more to offer and has more in her life except dick right now, unlike trashy who’s keeping that sex card like it’s her only thing she has, and it mostly is, so while you’re boring her to death with museums and putting her on a very fine sophisticated pedestal, she’s gonna turn on anti-slut defense, give you a very nice promise of second date where you just might get lucky ;) and fuck off to some other guy who treats her raw like garbage in the middle of night to have all her holes filled

regardless on sophisticated or not, they all function on emotions

edit: treat sophisticated women as trash take them to the cheapest bar and make it fun she’s gonna love it, and take trashy low women to “museums”

[–]jaw86255 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This. I've noticed the more sophisticated types are much easier. Being that they have full minds and lives they are able to compartmentalize sex easily. At first, at least. These are the same types who get widowed if you give them good dick because believe me, their grad school gender studies phD candidates aren't throwing much of that around.

As far as the "might just get lucky" behavior (nothing makes me sicker) I should note though that several times when I was vetting for LTR, I turned this game around on one of these more sophisticated women. Because we had so many topics to discuss, and I kept inviting her to do these kinds of "museum" type dates, she became visibly confused as to whether I was actually interested in her sexually. I let the frustration build until she was right before the breaking point. Suffice to say when I finally kissed her we had sex for about 3 days straight

[–]for_unpopular_things1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

this is the way. Nothing shows abundance/independence like literally not caring

[–]whhoa0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not bad advice, but this is hard to fake - there is a thin line between this and coming off as being unable to escalate. Any noobs don't try this unless you know what you're doing

[–]93_93_93_93_933 points4 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

so while you’re boring her to death with museums and putting her on a very fine sophisticated pedestal

Your constant framing of museums as boring and projection of how well-read and informed men conduct themselves in one makes it painfully obvious that you are intimidated due to your own lack of self-development and knowledge in this area.

Like I said: I appreciate you knowing your place and your limitations. Makes it easier for everyone.

[–]ToldYouNotToWorry_5 points6 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

dude why are you taking women that you haven’t found in museums to the museums?

museums require higher knowledge of either history or art or culture and therefore putting her on the spot and challenging her intellectually, why are you making it more difficult for yourself? And for what, just because of your illusion that she’s sophisticated? If it’s a first date, you don’t even know this girl.

And even if she is, it means a fuck’s nothing, because she’s not into being intellectually challenged but emotionally

[–]93_93_93_93_932 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

museums require higher knowledge of either history or art or culture and therefore putting her on the spot and challenging her intellectually

This is a beta mindset.

I use museum trips as an opportunity to teach, lead, nurture and challenge - all aspects of a truly confident and alpha mindset.

if it’s a first date, you don’t even know this girl

That's cute. So how did I get this first date without first screening and qualifying that they are worth my time?

Once you've graduated past picking up girls whilst bouncing ping-pong balls into red solo cups, you'll see that what you've written is incredibly ignorant and short-sighted.

[–]ToldYouNotToWorry_7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I like wine, there’s a good and various wine production in my region, can you imagine me taking you to the wine cellar, out of the blue, to talk to you next 2 hours about wine, grapes, barrels and all the small sophisticated details?

and if you’re not impressed and enthusiastic about meeting me again does that mean that you’re low class and stupid? no. you’re stupid for other reasons, mainly your annoying smugness. but I can’t blame you for not being interested and excited in something niche and not looking at me in awe as you were all night trying to look "smart as me" pretending to be interested but secretly wanting to have your dick sucked somewhere else, you went out to have fun but here’s this guy boring you to death with years and names of people producing wines, same thing goes for you and museums

so here you are, teaching challenging and “nurturing” (wtf?) her all night lol, busting her balls like she’s in the Who Wants To Be A Millionaire and suddenly you want to get your dick wet, because you deserved it right? You’re such a smart cookie, you must have deserved it by now. One moment you’re a Mr Professor Sophisticated and in another out of the blue you want to do wild stuff with her ass? I don’t think so. You have already painted yourself as that guy. After all that’s not you, that’s beneath you, you’re the guy if she holds it long enough that’s going to take her to museums, operas, dinners, you’re gonna fuck when you deserve it and exhaust yourself mentally for some idea of “high class” pussy.

do whatever you want and make it you you, but in general it’s a really stupid idea, making things way more difficult than it needs to be

[–]1rad_dynamic0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

People on here have no game and don't realise how easy it is to fuck birds by being dominant and reading between the lines.

[–]rn78899 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Dude, idk bout you but I’m here to fuck women, not birds.

[–]1rad_dynamic1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

UK English for attractive female. Don't be a retard

[–]whhoa0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Whats an example, in your view, of reading between the lines? Knowing when to push pull?

[–]1rad_dynamic0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

It's pretty easy. Just imagine a girl is always saying two things. The thing she is saying and the thing she means. You always want to cut into what she means rather than replying to what she is saying.

Girls are full of contradictions.

For example, she says she is extremely bored and all her friends have cancelled her plans but is still saying she doesn't want to meet up. With a bit of probing you could find out that she is actually just on her period. And, if you don't mind, simply telling her "oh it doesn't gross me out, just put a towel down" shows maturity and excellent communication skills and her legs will open up for you that night - "You just know"

An example right now from my Tinder. I tell a girl that I'm going back home soon then she asks me where am I from(first proper investment from her part). This sort of signals that I'm just going to fuck her and then leave going into the hills so she is checking if I'm local. With a bit of reassurance, I told her that I was coming back in a month or so and wanted to know if we had chemistry now and if so I wouldn't mind keeping in contact whilst I'm away from her city.

Push / pull is just saying one thing and then saying the opposite a bit later. You give her a compliment on her eyes. A few minutes later you could say "Stop looking at me with those eyes!"(pushing her away). You can say any two things that are contradictory, either in the same sentence or over the course of the evening.

Really basic examples: I don't like you! Are you free this week?

[–]whhoa0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Got it, makes a lot of sense. Thank you

[–]ev3rynightfireworks1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why don’t you enlighten us then

[–]1rad_dynamic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Learn game from YouTube videos. TRP is NOT game. You need both.

[–]GraphiteIsInPencils0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bad idea. Nothing dries up a girls pussy faster than making her walk around all day reading facts about dead people.

It's not that she isnt "sophisticated" enough to take to a museum. All mainstream museums are made to be family friendly and easily digestible by the public. Its just not some place you take a girl you barely know to.

Its boring to women. They lack the type of curiosity and interest that men have.

[–]Rapp560113 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Chipotle, gotta get them gainz

[–]spartan_samurai11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Walk in the park.

[–]ev3rynightfireworks-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So boring

[–]jm516 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Mid week, I like casinos. In the UK, you get your photo taken on the way in. Stops any serial killer vibe she might be getting.

ime, the food and drinks are reasonably priced considering the opulent decor. The larger casinos give plenty of opportunity to keep changing 'venues' within the venue.

Not a great date on the weekend. Too many people in a hurry to empty their wallets.

[–]MrAnderzon9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That serial killer vibe and her being comfortable is overlooked here on the sub. That’s genius you take to her the casino that takes your pics. I would do the same if I had that around my part of the world.

If she’s not comfortable. She’s not doing anything with you. It’s our job to ease her worries and lead.

[–]deezkneezplease7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

College bars, smoothies, coffee, somewhere that has a lot going on. It takes the tension off when there's a lot of distractions.

[–]PandaLitter12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Mcdonalds

[–]btrpb40 points41 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Dude please.

Classy birds prefer Burger King.

[–]ev3rynightfireworks9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bk is lower class than McDonald’s, all vets know this. If you’re really trying to stand out, at the drive-through say reservation for two and your last name

[–]CrackDaMarco7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Truth.

[–]CareIsMight5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A walk through a park with a takeaway coffee or a cheap $10-15 meal. You don't want to overthink it. I remember I took a girl out to a $100 per head restaurant (we were both working in hospitality and knew people who worked at this restaurant), but I could've had just gone to any little cheap takeaway and would've had the same result/outcome. We've been together for 2yrs now. But yeah, if you don't feel like spending too much you can just say something like you've already ate, or you're dieting for something, or you have a strict eating routine because you're working out, etc ... Those small White lies won't hurt you.

[–]ndestruktx7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Trail run or hike.

[–]MrAnderzon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Try not to have any type of food centered first dates but small snacks and finger if any. Keep it light.

You want the attention on each other not the food. Which is why any type of beverage is ideal for first date. Cafe or some type of bar.

K.I.S.S = Keep it simple stupid

[–]cydestiny4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Things you enjoy doing or is really good at. Would be icing on the cake if you have a place you frequent.

[–]smhfamswag3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

your crib, its 2020 we not doing dinner dates anymore lmao

nah, but really, the park, go ride some scooters or something. or get some coffee, nothing more than that tho.

ideally you do just wanna be like “yo come over lets watch a movie”.

[–]jsphere2562 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A lot of chicks I know are weirdly obsessed with Chik-fil-A so if you buy her a chicken sandwich she'll prob be DTF

[–]MGTOW_BEASTMODE3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Park and cannabis.

Or better.. take her swimming so you can see her with little makeup and she can see your shirtless sculpted body.

[–]KillaJewels1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Drinks or coffee are good ones. Make sure it's close to pull spot. Anywhere free is good too. I'll take em to the park, a nice furniture store like Restoration Hardware or the Container Store (if you're in the states).

They're unique, free, easy to bounce from at any time and most importantly fun. The bonus is you get to test if the girl has an entitled attitude (i.e. doesn't do free dates).

Most guys would go all out on first date, dinner, movies, etc.

[–]moto1010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get a pizza and eat it on the beach or in the park.

[–]boy_named_su0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

coffee w walk. then drinks. then drinks at another bar. then back to your place for something "innocent", then escalate

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Drinks and coffee are fine. Even cheaper is a walk in the park or on the beach and the cost is $0. The key is being low investment. This is even more true if you're going on a lot of dates.

[–]GunTotingFarmer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fishing is a good one in my experience. Check your local laws though, some places require a license.

[–]MontrealStud0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Happy hour

[–]axiscontra0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Somewhere, where none of you have to pay, is always the best first date. I love the famous meet at a park and take a walk. a free simple museum or exhibit, maybe a walk by the harbor or city event. I usually like to do it in the evening, so if I feel like escalating we can go to a more intimate place like a quiet bar or somewhere we can be alone.

The next date is at your place, or some where you can escalate intimacy.

I quarantine dates, to hiking spots and trails. I pretend we can "social distance" just to be safe lol. I always joke and say just dont cough on my face or something like that. Then we can isolate together haha

[–]Snowboard180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

One step above fast food. Like a quick hibachi place where you can sit and eat it there.

[–]Bungeeeeee0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

  1. drinks near your or her place

  2. a walk close to your or her place

  3. if you strictly don't want to fuck on first dates even if she begs you for it, then wherever you please, but keep it short, just to see if you like her

  4. your or her place if you want to risk it and can pull it off via texting

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

A good first date idea is whatever the fuck you where planning to do on that day, but with a girl.

[–]dzkkne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Picnic in the park. Grab some drinks at the shop on the way. Don’t come overly prepared. Tell her to bring a blanket for you two to sit on

[–]peacemakerzzz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ice cream parlor. Sweet, cheap, easy.

[–]McLovinReturns0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like hiking She meets you there If you like her than after you can offer a smoothie place or something Gives you things to talk about When you walk her back to her car you Make out with her

Couldn't do better

[–]lolomotif120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go to a park have a walk, grab a coffee at a cafe or a drink at a bar/pub.

[–]ariky0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Kebab or doner. I mean if you get hungry.

[–]SupremeBBC0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

That Turkish cuisine tho

[–]ariky0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ahahah yes they are, I was joking. A cup of coffee always works.

I like to discover new cafes that makes traditional coffees. It makes a nice impression when I say “Forget about Starbucks. I know a really good place at the end of the street. “

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Poundtown

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[–]badjoke886 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

what the fuck

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[–]badjoke883 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Damn.You got some balls dude

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How romantic

[–]TelasRayo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you must, then hiking is a good option, tell them to bring something to eat, if she flakes you still enjoy the outdoors and the workout.

[–]E9er0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

i think going out to eat is one of the best and cheap. nothing high caliber something simple. in-n-out or shake shack get a nice burger and a convo. 2nd date this time she pays! you can gauge her. if you don’t move on you still got a good burger.

by third split and split! done! i just recommend have fun set the tone. if you look like a good time doesn’t matter much what you do really. real key.

(had a friend who had a trophy truck. would take some girls to the local laundry mat play arcade game with monster trucks and have them play too. he be like if i beat you we go on a second date if you win you get a prize. 2nd date would be a ride on his truck. her prize? ride on his truck. man won either way!!!) smart1

[–]1rad_dynamic-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your place + a bottle of wine.

Really not that strange in 2020 with tinder and hookup culture.

Still vet, chat shit, flirt, have fun. If there's no chemistry? Just kick her out or let her go lol. Onto the next

[–]Freedom__Fighter-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Im going for ice cream at x time. Meet me there"

[–]SkillfulSully-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Cooking if you’ve know her for a while. Very romantic and sets the mood

[–]Detin-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ice cream, coffee, park, bar, etc. Should be low effort and the main focus should be your interaction, not the event. Midway through plant a seed about going back to your apartment to watch Netflix or something non-sexual to not trigger ASD. At the end of date suggest it and lead the situation and you’re set.

[–]johncillo-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There was a post about this in here with all the types of dates

[–]PersilTheDino-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bowling

[–]phellySL-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

First dates should almost always be coffee

[–]OptimalMale1-3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Starbucks! They love that stuff

[–]MrAnderzon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Starbucks is nice as a Plan C but not the main attraction.

Lacks originality.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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