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Girl bringing her friend with her? (self.asktrp)

submitted by SaveMeApparel

Hit this girl up talked for a bit now I wanna meet up with her for the first time but she saying she’s bringing her friend.

I’m thinking of either not going if it’s going to be a waste of time and I feel friendzoned. Or bring one of my boys maybe?

Also keep in mind where I’m currently living girls are more protective of themselves, so maybe it’s just because we meeting for the first time?


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[–]SaveMeApparel46 points47 points  (27 children) | Copy Link

Just asked her for her friends Instagram to check her friend out, also told her I’m bringing my homeboy with me. I’m gonna get him to distract her friend so I can get comfortable with her

Thanks though!

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood51 points52 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

You think this is a win but its a loss. The idea is to get what you want, not coordinate some imaginary version of a double date.

[–]mrmaika1032 points33 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Yeah doing things on her terms isn’t the move.

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’m not thinking of a double date but what I’ve decided to do is bring my friend and I’m also going to hit on her friend more than her and watch the jealousy kick in that way I can take the power back and next time she won’t even think of bringing someone else

[–]Helmet_Icicle7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

inb4 both of you flunk out while giving them attention, food, and drinks all night

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[–]SaveMeApparel20 points21 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Always on me

[–]Realistic_Grapefruit106 points107 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Not necessary. You only need them on for sex.

[–]dpgproductions24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OP watching too much South Park

[–]SaveMeApparel-5 points-4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Having one in your wallet doesn’t hurt imo

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Whoosh

[–]SaveMeApparel1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

HAHHAHAHAHAH I just realized shit that’s funny

[–]MedicalTruth031 points32 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Man don’t go. You are wasting your time. 100 percent guarantee the friend is either going to be cock blocking or your date is going to focus on her friend.

Just tell her I asked you on a date, not your friend. Also don’t drag your friend into this mess. What if her friend doesn’t like him? Now he’s stuck with someone who’s not attracted to him to make your ass happy.

[–]drsherbert6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Even if her friend cockblocks him, it doesn’t mean it’s a wasted date. He’ll build rapport with the girl and bang her on the next date. I personally would go on the date solo, assume the threesome and play the perfect doucebag. Even if it doesn’t happen, I would put in enough game to let them decide who gets to fuck me the next time. It’s a win/win situation for everyone.

[–]antariusz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Could also be the other girl just needs an excuse to go hoe around, so the girl will be "at her friends house" and then actually end up with a dude of her own. Either way, it's just a shit-test, and you shouldn't let it phase you... if you're having to post about shit-tests on trp, you aren't ready to pass them in-person.

edit: but I agree with the other poster, if you think you're being friend-zoned, you are. If you think it's just she's not comfortable with you because you just met and she's not sure about her safety, that's different.

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[–]MedicalTruth01 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Enlighten me. What would you have done? I’m helping the man out by saving him some time. No woman that has a high level of attraction for you is not going to bring a friend with her on a date.

Stop it with the “oh you can turn it into a 3some” or “you can bring a buddy with you”

[–]SICFJC3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s an even worse idea

[–]RP-Grin5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Quality response. Most helpful piece of info I’ve read all day

[–]superomar135 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You know actually this is a better answer than mine lol BUT I would definitely not say "don’t feel like im in the mood for a threesome today" if I haven't slept with her yet. It could work, but much higher strike out rate.

[–]peacemakerzzz2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Depends if it suits your personality you can pull it off. I wouldn’t say anything like it. Would rather say it without any cosmetic douche way to make my point clear and simple.

[–]superomar132 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think it's super dependent on how your vibe was with her when you met her. So if you're already an overtly sexual guy, which is a great thing, and you had that vibe with her from the beginning, then that line would work great. But if you came off more platonic and friendly and got her number that way, of if you still flirted but more lightly, then you'd get struck out. I've been both with different women in my life, and I realized the key is just being that overtly sexual yet calibrated guy from the beginning. That way you never run into this situation in the first place.

Think about it, if you were all sexual and flirty with her in the beginning, and she was digging it, you really think she would invite her friend to cockblock? Most likely not. So keep that in mind.

[–]peacemakerzzz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s all about social calibration

[–]macrian1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I'm sorry, I keep forgetting terms and acronyms. AA and ASD stand for?

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[–]macrian1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok, thanks

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[–]macrian1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You still didn't explain the acronyms

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"You and your friend have a good time. When you actually want to go on a date, let me know."

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Perfect answer, doesn't need to be any more complicated than this.

[–]axiscontra46 points47 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Honestly, Ive done this before. Its actualyl even a more power move to get her friend to like you too. I crashed a girls weekly friend date, talked to both of them, and smashed that night. That girl is great plate to this day. She actually commented she liked how I managed both her and her friend. I would then hang out with both of them and sometimes do double date stuff. Not too difficult just go out and have fun.

Edit: By like you too, i mean approve of lol. Take the threesome games slow lol. Get one first, do it well then she brings in the other.

[–]ngyuhnang6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I did that once too. But I don’t think I can pull it off again.

[–]SaveMeApparel-2 points-1 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Gon follow her friends Instagram tonight maybe even hit her up

[–]axiscontra26 points27 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

lol dont do that lmfaoooo. you gotta be trolling.

[–]SaveMeApparel-4 points-3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Didn’t hit her up just followed her

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Get off Instagram dude, seriously. "I just followed her" do you know how pathetic that sounds around here?

Unless you're using social media for a living or gaining/sharing knowledge then you're wasting your time doing nothing productive.

[–]SaveMeApparel-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don’t waste a lot of time just scrolling on there, also my age everyone is heavily into social media and I have a thousand followers which raises status from what I’ve seen

[–]Tambamwham10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’d just consider this a friend hangout. Let go of expectations. Make friends, meet people, have fun, have abundance mentality, meet other girls

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah the girl is pretty popular too if it doesn’t work out I could keep her around as a friend and meet new people through her I’m not that worried

[–]Psychological_Radish18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

DO NOT DO THIS.

If you feel you're being friendzoned, it's because you are. I went along with this bring a friend BS once during one of my earliest dates. I decided to bring one of my own buddies. Her friend ended up wet for him (too bad he was gay, lol)

me on the other hand...needless to say I did not get laid. Neither will you, most likely.

If she insists on bringing a friend, just call the whole thing off and see what she says. Possibly a shit test/compliance test and she will agree to meet you alone. But the fact that she even brought this idea up at all isn't a good sign, so I personally wouldn't even reply.

[–]Meterus5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

NB: I didn't see in OP's question any firm indicator that the friend is female.

[–]SaveMeApparel-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She is female

[–]Meterus0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh, well, bring a friend, good luck, either way.

[–]SaveMeApparel1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Will do!

[–]r4moy6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ménage à trois

[–]_-resonance-_6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Flirt with friend. Ignore date. act like they are tagging along with YOU

[–]javisms24 points25 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Threesome don’t fuck it up

[–]SaveMeApparel6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This weekend gon be interesting 😏

[–]javisms10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Can’t tell you how many times I could’ve pulled a three but didn’t because I was literally asking the same questions as you now that I look back im like WTF her friend wanted me to fuck her and so did the original girl!! I blew it happened too many times haha lesson learned

[–]AntonfromDotA2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Tell is how it went

[–]Tiway223 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly it can be fine. Many times you’ll end up banging both over time. Just enjoy yourself and get to know them. Definitely hit on both the whole time as long as her friend is hot lol

[–]cydestiny5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

First. don't ask for prescriptions. If you read through the posts you will realized that you get this mixed resolution because no one here knows your circumstances and they are giving advice based on what happen to them or worse so their own perception. But they all come from a good origin, they all wanted to help a brother out. So am I.

Second, you clearly wanted to go and you know why? Because you wanted to get laid and you asked because your man instinct told you otherwise, evidently in your last sentence. You are going to lose your frame/everything in a heartbeat if the girl shows 'fuckable' signal.

Lastly, don't make decision based on other's behavior. Of course you take in account of them but don't over-analyze. Leave it to the chick herself to decide to fuck you or not. You my man decide what you want with her. Is she a plate? Then I strongly suggest not to introduce any of your friends to her to save the hassle. Is she a one night thing? Then do whatever you want. You make the call and be responsible for all the consequences, hopefully learn one two from it.

Good luck.

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah everyone’s situation is different I’m going to decide what to do based on my situation, but it was still great hearing many different responses.

[–]MonxtahDramux7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

3 things will most likely happen depending on your frame:

  1. You will talk all night because isolating her friend will seem bad.

  2. You will go with your buddy to keep her friend busy. A possible foursome may ensue depending on you/your friend's frame.

  3. You will hit a threesome if you're perceived as high value enough.

[–]SteveSan824 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I wouldn't bother going but it isn't a waste. You can switch your attention to the friend and watch the jealousy kick in or her suddenly tryibg hard to get your attention

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gonna do that and see what happens never tried that and honestly don’t care losing this one so might as well try something new out

[–]nixon9935 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Win her friend,you win her

[–]Senior Endorseddr_warlock2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You'd be surprised how many times that 'friend' is a dude she's 'friendly' with.

[–]tinko2233061 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can't imagine being that dude. He is so deep in the friendzone that she brings him to dates with orher guys

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can confirm it’s a girl

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No.

[–]BPasFuck2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

A lot of this really depends on how old you all are.

16, 17, 18, not that big of a deal. She's just being a chick.

19-23, A little silly, but, eh, play through.

23+, gtfo

So, there you go OP, hope that helps.

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

17 that’s why I don’t take everything said here word by word because most guys here are older

[–]BPasFuck1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

OK. Bring a friend, or just fly solo. Your goal should be to lead the crew and just have fun. You wanna be the man with the plan, Captain of the ship, steering things toward the island of fun.

Don't worry about isolating this chick. Don't worry about distracting her friend and making out.

Your goal should just be, go have fun-- maybe a bite at a snack bar if you're minigolfing or whatever, charm the friend, charm the girl-- you're Captain Cool from Coolville, population 1, she gonna wanna be +1 resident.

Trust me, if she wants to be alone with you, the friend will disappear on her own. They'll both go to the bathroom, and the friend will come back and make an excuse-- or ask you to drop her off first, or whatever.

If that doesn't happen-- no big deal. Sometimes a second date is needful. If she wants to invite her friend again, just say something about how you thought maybe this time it could just be you and her so you could get to know her better or whatever.

If she doesn't go for that, it's probably not worth your time.

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is my favourite advice because even though most of the other advice works and is great this one makes the most sense in my situation.

I’m not worried about controlling the group I find that easy to do I’m just going to go with the flow and hold frame. should be a fun time not a stressful day

[–]BPasFuck1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You're several steps ahead a lot of guys, just recognizing that you need to calibrate a lot of the advice here for age appropriateness.

Dudes are used to dealing with older, jaded, women that have been roughened up and made warlike. Or worse, women that have learned to be extra manipulative.

You're mostly just dealing with fresh young things that are more likely to be silly or naive, as opposed to bitter and salty.

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah you forsure can’t apply game used by 30 year olds on a 17 year old girl I’ve tried it and it comes off as weird.

That’s why I stopped watching AMS his content is targeted for an older audience while MJ getright and stephiscold target a younger audience

[–]aDrunkenWhaler3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Bring a friend

[–]SaveMeApparel5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’ll bring my homeboy thanks

[–]superomar131 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Did you already say yes? Either way, bail. If she's meeting you with a friend, unless you've slept with her and it's for a threesome, is always platonic. Be like "Hey I'm not really in the mood to socialize with a group, so I'm gonna bail this time." Or something along those lines. Just come up with an excuse and make it about you, not her friend

[–]Hypnot0ad1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Had a girl tell me this once. I was like fine whatever. She showed up alone.

[–]nastyhumans1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

bring your boys!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Threesome.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Is her friend hot??

[–]ProFriendZoner1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Tell her "Sure baby, I'm always up for a threesome".

You'll find out right away how into you she is.

[–]mickenrorty1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Its a shit test to see if you have mates :) Seriously.

Then assuming you do, its a good way to further shit test to see where you sit on the social hierarchy and how you handle cock blocks from her friend (who may also want to fuck you if you pass all shit tests)

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Can you explain what you mean? As in I have mates that are higher value than me? Or as in if I have friends in general?

[–]mickenrorty1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Both, mainly its about just seeing how valuable you actually are.

[–]Blazer8081 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ok, you got your advice, I want to hear what happens next and what conclusions you drew from the whole situation you chose to go for.

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’ll be updating everyone on what happens we’re supposed to meet up Thursday

[–]spartan_samurai1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are already in her frame by agreeing to meet up with her and her friend. She is already creating a barrier for you to jump. Bringing her friend means she is just coming to check you out in person and not looking forward to doing something fun.

You can cancel the plan and say something important came up and you can meet her some other time. She will get an idea of why you canceled the date.

[–]telploit251 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

It depends where you’re meeting OP. Don’t be an idiot. It’s possible but it’s not always about being friend zoned. There’s a risk of you being a stalker or psycho. Women have to protect themselves. Of course she might not want to be with you alone especially if she doesn’t quite know you as yet. Don’t listen to the false macho bravado going on in this sub of having to win every little battle. Simply invite your friend to distract her friend or play your wingman depending on the situation. What’s the exact situation so I can clarify my advice? What date did you ask her out to? Where and what time of day are you meeting?

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Where going out to eat at 5pm. The reason I say it might be because they want to protect themselves is because I’m from the Middle East and guys are weirdos sometimes (ex. I’ve seen grown men with wives looking at my girlfriends asses when we were 15)

I’ve heard a lot of responses on my question and I’ve decided to go with bringing my homeboy with me to distract her friend because he even told me he knows her. And from there I’ll judge the vibe and escalate depending how it is.

Also going to try giving her friend a bit of attention and seeing what that does

[–]telploit251 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Don’t give her friend attention (flirting). Bad idea. You run the risk of just looking thirsty if you do it wrong. Also forgive me if I’m being ignorant but isn’t the Middle East strict on dating and sex outside marriage?

[–]SaveMeApparel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No you’re completely correct most of the Middle East is like that, but I’ve found groups of people that are influenced by western culture such as myself, because we’ve lived outside the Middle East and came back.

Also I’m confident in my game and I believe I can pull off giving her friend some attention whilst holding frame, but thanks anyways!

[–]secureMPC1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've had girls come by with their friend just to make sure I wasn't a psycho. Their friends leave after 2 min.

[–]lazlounderhill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Take them both out, focus most of your attention on the "friend" even if she looks like a straight up goblin.

[–]kclanton801 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Girls make rules for bettas and break them for alphas...... This has nothing to do with her feeling safe. She is unsure if she is actually interested in you..... And truthfully she probably is not interested.

She needs to come alone or no go. PERIOD

[–]Herdsengineers2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go but be ready to bail if it isn't going well. Talk to them both and initially talk more to the uglier one first. Win her over, but be giving IOI's to the hotter one (eye looks, beginning KINO). Eventually switch to the hotter one (assuming it's your date but doesn't have to be depending on things role). Then, build some more comfort, and eventually move to isolating her for one-on-one.

If the 2nd chick just won't take a cue and back out, she's been told not to leave no matter what. Gracefully bow out, while not seeming butt hurt. Just say "well it was great meeting you both, I gotta go."

[–]SpinPlates1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

One time I had a girl in route for a date with me. We were just going to walk around a park in the city. A few public and populated park.

5 minutes out she told me "By the way I brought my friend with me because I don't really know you"

I just ghosted her. Never responded. Blocked her on tinder and Instagram. I don't have time for that bullshit.

[–]MGTOW_BEASTMODE0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

"You need a chaperone? lol"

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bring 4 or more of your own friends and make an evening of it. (Forget about dating this chick too, if she was interested in that she'd have went one on one)

[–]boy_named_su-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

bad idea

find someone else willing to meet you for a coffee walk then drinks

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Buy a pitcher of beer? Get them to kiss? Get a hotel room and film the rest for us?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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