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I pray and read the bible almost every day, yet I can't feel the presence of God. Is not going to Church the problem?

My father just works and watches TV. He isn't a good role model and can't give good advice. I wish my parents were Christians.

My friends have fallen into leftist or right wing ideologies or video games. We have nothing in common. Maybe it's all me and not them.

I often fantasize about girls as if I was in a romantic book or movie.

Is it bad that I pray to be more attractive? Some may think confidence is the only way to get girls, but that has been debunked by several studies linking facial attractiveness and initial attraction. A 8, 9 or 10 isn't going to marry an average looking dude (unless one has social status).

For the last four months, I have attempted to follow a schedule, tweaking it many times. I am never able to stick to one. Nothing is changing. My skills are exactly the same from a year ago; I'm not growing. I keep watching porn and masturbating multiple times a day.

I long for love, affection, and comfort.

I long for a deep meaningful friendship (do they even exist?) or just a connection.

I long for a mentor or a father

What do I do? How can I feel love and comfort from God?

Maybe some of it will disappear as my teenage hormones calm down. I hope so.

"Watch Jordan Peterson" or watch any other internet dads --> They all give obvious advice

"Toughen up" --> I tried to suppress the desires but I keep crawling back to it

"Lift and workout" --> I sprint once a week and have been doing a pushup routine consistently for 22 days straight. Yeah, I'm faster and stronger, but it's not fixing the problems I have.

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[–]ENTPunisher10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you listened to your lobster daddy Jordan Peterson you'd already know that the first step is to "stop doing the things you know you shouldn't be doing." In his case that was popping benzos and in your case it's watching e-girls instead of pursuing real ones. So cut that crap out, pronto.

"Doing a pushup routine" isn't going to cut it either. You need to have a real workout and meal plan ready for as soon as Corona ends where you go to the gym and lift real weights.

It sounds like you haven't been going to church either. Go do the research now to find one locally that practices soul winning and believes in the right doctrine (Salvation by grace alone, OSAS, Post-trib rapture, Male headship, the Trinity).

And at your age you should be focusing on academics so you can get into a decent university where you'll have better career and sloot acquisition opportunities.

[–]operationveritas5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

People overthink so much stuff that just bears no relevance in life.

The answer to your question is simple.

Lift. Read the sidebar. Repeat.

Take some real action in your life. Your longings for love and affection have to come from within. Otherwise you’ll just project every time you come into contact with a female entity.

Seek God.

He will love you and comfort you like no other. Please Him and He will bring you the fruits of life you seek.

[–]Continuous-Metanoia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Amen, brother!

[–]UpTanks2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I pray and read the bible almost every day, yet I can't feel the presence of God.

Good thing faith isn't dependant on our day-to-day feelings lol.

Also, you likely aren't 'feeling' God because you aren't doing anything with your faith! It's like learning to ride a bike, you have to move before God can help you steer.

Guys much older than you have come here in the past saying the same stuff but with more baggage. "I'm married with kids, go to Church and read the Bible all the time but I can't feel God and now I'm doubting him"

On the outside, they have their lives together and just about everything they need physically - yet they still doubt.

You and those guys have 1 major thing in common: Eyes that are focused on the situation here on Earth.

And when you focus on Earth, you judge God by an earthly framework. Then, it is by the earthly framework that you criticise and in some cases leave the faith (atheism, rationalism etc). Despite the fact that our faith is dependant on GOD, on things unseen.

Anyway yes, read the sidebar, get a mission, lift etc. Now is not the time for romance, form friendship groups based on your interests/faith instead. They will come in handy later on, plus they are much more fun and edifying.

[–]Deep_Strength1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro, what is your mission? How are you a part of the body of Christ? Making disciples? Being discipled? Using your gifts of the Spirit?

Everything flows from that.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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