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I'm a woman and I absolutely can't stand this behavior.

I'm not a feminist by any means, but I seriously feel like women who behave like this in the workplace set us back a 100 years. If women want to be seen as equals or divert from negative connotations this needs to be seriously address.

I use to see this this all the time when I was younger in my previous jobs and I couldn't stand it when my female co-workers would come to work crying over their personal life or because another co-worker made them feel a certain way. They would file reports with HR over other women gossiping about them, all the while they would also gossip in the break room about the person they were reporting. They would bickering with each other over conflict of ideas that had nothing to do with the task at hand. You get the idea?

As a woman it's embarrassing, especially when my boss or my superiors were men. It really made me think about how they saw it. They probably saw them as docile fragile creatures that had to react over everything and the smallest little inconvenience set them into a whirlwind. I know that's how I see them.

It bothered me the most because in the same breath these women would talk about how independent and feminist they are. How they can do anything men can. When in reality they weren't aware of how their actions further support the stereotypes that women are fragile, they don't deal well with things under pressure, they have nothing better to do with their time and minds than gossip, they're neurotic and hysterical beings of the lesser sex. Again you get the idea. Maybe that's also why I don't like TRH? but that's for another post.


[–]DevilishRogue3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think most women would agree with you. Fewer and fewer people of either sex are identifying as feminist these days and a not insignificant factor in that is how those who do so self-identify behave.

[–]nousernameisusername[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In California it's a movement that I dont think will ever fully die, especially in the land of celebrities and liberals. They all push an incorrect and biased narrative to get a rise out of their audience and influence people. It shows here in California just how much influence the feminist movement has.

[–]Gstarfan2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you for sharing. I agree, but I don't think it will ever end. It is human nature to be who you are, act how you have acted for hundred thousand years. It's kinda like how men have our tendancies to be a certain way with other men(we have our own way of competing and posturing or ways of measuring our dicks to each other). I think some are good things, some are things that we just have to cope with. Not everyone is part of this mould, but i think its instinctive to be. For your situation, hopefully you can remove yourself and join another dept or company that has a balance of people that keeps everyone in check.

[–]nousernameisusername[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is very true. Again I'm not a feminist, but I'm not a woman-hater. But I do feel like when men do these kinds of things to measure their self worth or prove themselves (IMO), it's much less aggressive. It's almost competitive. Not all women, but some when they try to prove themselves to be the "alpha" they just come off as manipulative and try to tear down other women on a more personal level. I guess the way I can put it is, men are much more calculated and cold. That's a huge issue I have with the feminist movement and mindset that all women want to somehow be the "alpha." They think that just because they are strong, independent, and capable of calling men out that automatically makes them the "alpha." When in reality, they come off as cry babies, and they get offended when people call them difficult or bitches. I quit both those jobs; the environment was straight up toxic. I work at a job where political views are shared just for fun, and it's surprisingly more inclusive. We've got all kinds of political opinions, I work with women who have all types of education from AA degrees to PhDs, and not a single one of them will focus their day on gossiping about other women to make themselves feel better. Not a single one identifies as a feminist even though some of them are liberals. Yeah, they gossip, but I think it's on a level where it's more so complaining about how someone can't do their job right. Not how many purses one of them has or how fake the other one is.

[–]Therealimpossible0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Y'know, this also happens at my school: girls would come sad & would start saying weird shit (such as that they'll be gone and stuff) and the next second, WOULD YOU LOOK AT THAT A GUY JUST BOUGHT SOMETHING OFF THE CAFETERIA LET'S END HIM. Some days ago our teacher had a talk with all boys to tell us about 'treating this specific girl nice because she's depressed' and it just ticks me off, every. Single. Fucking. Time

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