Honestly? Im physically feeling pathetic and i want to fix it but i dont know where to start or how.

SmackinDatAss · 2018-12-24T04:07:04+00:00

Well first, let's stop with the pity party. You have some shitty issues to deal with, but just begin to deal with them. What is your mission? I know you 19 years old, but what is your mission while being 19 years old? What are you doing in regards to your mission. I want to be clear, in so many respects, it does not matter what your mission is, but just that you have a mission. Something to drive you.

Next, sit down and make a plan regarding that mission. If I do this this and this, I will make it happen. This will give you focus. Focus will provide some determination.

Get physically stronger. That means you need to lift weights. The real benefit to lifting will be discipline. Also, it will give you more focus. Stronger, disciplined and focused is not a someone who is pathetic. Rather, that is a pretty cool dude.

Finally, by focusing on your mission and being resolved to lift and get healthier, you won't sit around thinking about women all the time. Hell, thinking about women is a just a colossal waste of time. Roughly every other person you see is female, so work on yourself because you will always be able to find women.

MaliciousMack · 2018-12-24T06:52:52+00:00

100 pushups Run 1 mile 2 sets of 25 mountain climbers 2 sets of 25 bicycle kicks

Start with that. You sound like you want a workout plan, so here you go.

821sleepingbag · 2018-12-24T07:15:26+00:00

No sugarcoat, real talk.

Don’t put so much value on fucking girls. It’s only slightly better than masturbating, yet 99% of your self worth is derived from women. That’s not healthy.

Focus on your career, hobbies, fitness and health and it’s sounds like you have some good friends. At the end of the day solid friends will help you more than a woman ever will.

Once you fuck a bunch of women you realise it’s not all that fulfilling. It may be hard to see it from my perspective but take it from me it’s true.

Work on yourself first. If fucking girls is that bloody important than ask any of your friends to go to a bar and then game some chicks. Get rejected a bunch of times and it might take a while but you won’t get rejected forever. You’ll learn through trial and error and eventually you’ll hit your target. Then boom no more virgin. Also never tell any woman you are a virgin, pretend like you know what you’re doing.

gster50 · 2018-12-24T08:18:22+00:00

I lost my virginity at 21, it's not the end of the world.

Even a blind squirrel finds a nut eventually, just start hitting on more girls and eventually someone will like you back.

Now she probably won't be a 10, but neither are you. My biggest problem was I was afraid of getting rejected. Just start tanking the rejections.

Don't fall into the trap of once I've improved my self to x then I'll get laid. Hit on girls while improving yourself. It's a valuable ability to be able to go out and get rejected. And unless you have a massive deficiency somewhere else, that's what stops average guys from getting laid with average girls.

lush312 · 2018-12-24T04:03:14+00:00

You feel jealous of your friend because of a lack of success in your own life (in general, not just with women). From reading your post, it seems like you have nothing in your life that you are proud/grateful of. Try and forge some success in your life whether that be with women, your career, finances or hobbies etc. What will once have been jealousy will turn into inspiration.

Musicgoon · 2018-12-24T05:32:09+00:00

Just start... Somewhere... One small goal. Accomplish it. Then make another and another. Set the bar higher each time.

First off though, your attitude sucks ass. You're acting like a faggot. You aren't one and need to own and know that. You're choosing to be a loser instead of doing work. Get up off your lazy ass and apply yourself. Read the rational male. Learn game. Read the sidebar.

I was beta AF at your age. You can turn it around much sooner than I did. You're lucky to have an early start on it. Take advantage of it.

GiraffeOnWheels · 2018-12-24T07:04:29+00:00

Stopped reading after the second sentence. Stop crying start doing.

SidewaysCircle · 2018-12-24T04:31:19+00:00

Stretch every morning and night

Capt_Am · 2018-12-24T08:22:33+00:00

Your buddy got some doesn't equate to you getting less, and furthermore, you guys are running different races (your life vs his life), so no need to feel those negatives.

WonderfulPipe · 2018-12-24T13:59:53+00:00

We are in similar situations man. 20 yo kissless virgin. One of my closest friends is pretty incel, video game addict, super nerd looking, not intelligent at all, skinny af, below average. He is one of those who share cringy images on fb about how Videogames are his life.

He would lie about having girlfriend (and about other stuff, I’m sure), he even lied about getting laid, and I know this because he told me he lasted 4 hrs, she came like twice but he couldn’t, and he told me that out of nowhere.

But recently he told me she got a girlfriend, and this time, unlike others, was true.

He is my bro, but I was like “wtf, how could he got a girl”.

But that’s not the way you should see it, I know I have better hobbies, I hit the gym, I’m better looking, I have a more successful life overall, and... his girlfriend is pretty below average, I wouldn’t date her at all to begin with.

This can sound bad at the beginning, but what I’m trying to say is that you have to develop a great life to achieve your goals, if you know you’re raising your SMV you know you will fuck hotter girls, you can make a career, etc...

Just do everything necessary to get better everyday and the rewards will come.

Just1515 · 2018-12-24T23:23:09+00:00

Bro I was a virgin till i was 24. It doesnt even fucking matter. when you lose it it's a big so what situation. I couldn't even cum when I lost my virginity.

In my situation, I had kissed women before on and off since i was 15, but nothing more. Maybe that made me not care as much about losing virginity in a hurry. I kept to myself a lot as a introverted person so didn't really put myself in situations to lose it. That was the real problem.

Just relax and take some redpill stuff on board, it will help a lot when you put yourself out there. It is no hurry, and virginity is only a big deal if you fucking make it into one. Never understood all the guys crying about not losing it by x age.

58021 · 2018-12-24T04:25:26+00:00

Work out and start with small talk on the street, store, school, wherever you go. Don’t let it get you down your time will come

Velebit · 2018-12-24T10:30:53+00:00

Avoid hanging out with men who talk a lot about fucking women and put a high value on pussy. A normal person gets laid but does not have that as a signifitant conversation point.

Also sex is not that great. You can be pretty sure those girls and most of that sex was not some hot steamy affair like in porn but was an awkward thing where one or both didn't even enjoy.

In my experience, young and inexperienced girls don't even keep the hygiene downstairs readily so when you touch or lick the it smells awful. Yeah... spontaneous unplanned sex is garbage and in that age people are usually to poor, stupid and shy to plan for a good sex.

This means that with basically any girl, just by reading this you can be sure you have a more mature view on sex.

Secondly, those guys are competing amongthemselves to basically get std. What is the point in that. Woman is not a measure of a man and must not become it.

You are pathetic which means powerless because you adopted a shit measure of your worth. You should have a inner worth so strong you can be like Spartans and be nofap virgin until 30 when they got married after serving full military service.

No wonder they were motivated. Todays men are sad silly wankers and your parents have failed you and most other kids because they are idiotic materialists and think raising a kid is about money.

No fucking way. Raising a kid is about teaching values so he or she does not measure its worth by empty sex, it is about teaching emotional tools for controling anger, sadness, bitterness, jealousy etc, it is about showing, often by example, how to properly interace.

Raising a kid means not providing hedonism for a kid but character. Your parents left you to tv and peer group and consumerism to by default turn you into a hedonist and because you never had to really deal with hardships you are also a niceguy because your surroundings are so plentiful it never pays off to do anything except avoid conflict.

However at least you will start learning relatively young.

I recommend you Stefan Molyneux on Youtube and his 'honest conversation' videos it really shows you how plebs fuck up their lives by just being badly raised plebs and not think about the meaning of their desires and pointless pursuits.

Another one to read is Suicide Note by Mitchell Heisman.

And if you wanna know how our society in general is a far away shithole compared to how booming societies must be listen to audiobook 'Rise and fall of Empired by sir John Glubb' and you will understand how individuals in rising civilizations function and how we in a failing one compare. The comment section is also great.

Only after that would I bother with pickup stuff because picking up girls relies massively on your perception of self worth and that is low because you are clueless about your role and purpose in life. So work on that first by consuming these and only later go for pua stuff and yeah, no bodybuilding supplement will stop you from feeling like shit.

distinctspy · 2018-12-24T05:12:33+00:00

Stop looking for the easy path, you will only find reasons not to start. Just start. Even if you don’t know where. Just start.

IronboundAbyss · 2018-12-24T05:16:58+00:00

Hey man you've started it right. You get that you suck. Let that sink in and you'll figure out what you need (the gym). Lows are good because you get the chance to build up. Once you figure out mentally the need to go to the gym, GET YOUR ASS KICKED. Push yourself and you'll get it why everyone says go to the gym.

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2018-12-24T16:32:40+00:00

You are 19. The bad: you are being a bitch right now.

The great: You have SO MUCH TIME TO TURN THIS MOTHER FUCKER AROUND.

From the book of pook: (Read it online - its free)

I gave up trying to figure out 'how to get women' and 'understanding women' because I kept coming back to defining men. Just as you cannot define day without defining night, so too you cannot define women without defnining men. Thus, my focus became placed on SEXUALITY, meaning both sexes and the laws that influence them. I want to mine the secrets of Nature to see how that can better myself.

You say you don't understand women - Read the side bar and also YOU DON'T HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THEM - If you become MORE MAN it will fall into place itself.

You need to work on your mission + LIFT + READ + MEDITATE and improve yourself - then you won't give a shit about if your friend gets laid

YOU FOCUS ON YOU

Betas talk and care about number count - WHO GIVES A SHIT - YOU DO YOU and the pussy will come

Merry fucking Christmas

stylesm11 · 2018-12-24T06:20:58+00:00

Dude be thankful you see accepting of you truth and actually SELF AWARE

you'll be okay you have tons of more for growth like many of us