Commenter Bob asked the following on Badger’s A Reply To Cadence on Sex, Commitment and Spinning Plates:
I just have to say, as a Christian man, I find it near impossible not to have sex with Christian women by like the 5 date. This is because they seem to expect it and reject you if you don’t make a move. I don’t get it. Most Christian women aren’t better than nonchristian women. I’m dating 3 Christian girls now and one is already inviting me to basically get drunk and stay the night (explicit invite) for the second freakin date. If I tell her no I want to wait, I’ll lose her altogether. It’s similar with the other women. Women want passion, and of you don’t provide it and escalate thy lose interest. It sucks because I just want a Christian wife and I get caught up in banging women who aren’t even my girlfriend yet. I don’t know how to go about this. It sucks being alone and on a carnal level it feels great to sleep with women, but I hate offending God and feel guilty about it. Do I just sleep with 1 then try to artfully escalate to marriage ASAP? Seems like a bad idea but anything beats sinning or being lonely and needy.
This is a tough question. Let’s consult the wisdom of modern Christian leaders. Here is what the Purity Bear has to say (H/T Rollo Tomassi):
According to that video, if you find a woman who wants to have sex on the first date, marry her!
I still wasn’t sure, so I thought I’d get a second opinion from he-man Mark Driscoll:
There you have it. Most men are pigs, and the handful of men who aren’t are tired of picking up after the rest. Man up and marry those sluts!
