Youâve slept with a few beautiful women, and now you think youâre Neo after he saw the Matrix.

Once you get to an advanced level of game (meaning youâre able to sleep with attractive women fairly consistently), youâre at high risk of developing a god complex.

âGood is the enemy of greatâ â Jim Collins

Youâll watch videos by well-known dating coaches and think, âPshh, Iâm so much better than this clown.â Youâll watch your friends approach women and tell yourself, âHeâs so bad. Get on my level.â And, most importantly, youâll start to see yourself as above it all.

I remember a couple years back, I would spend most of my nights out coaching my friends instead of interacting with women myself. I told myself I was doing this because I wanted to help my friends, but it was mostly just a way for me to stroke my ego.

Once you start getting good results from game, you can convince yourself that you no longer need to improve. This complacency leads to stagnation.

 

The Downward Spiral

Now that youâre âadvancedâ, instead of going out four times a week, you might only go out once a month. Instead of approaching ten girls when you go out, you might only approach a few (and spend the rest of your night coaching your friends). Instead of analyzing what you need to do to get to the next level, you might just âwing itâ.

Most often, when a guy starts to lose passion for the game in this way, he ends up in a long-term relationship with one of the girls he met while out.

This isnât always a bad thing. If your ultimate goal is to start a family, and you find a girl you see long-term potential with, thatâs great.

Unfortunately, many guys end up dating a girl whoâs âgood enoughâ. If you end up getting in a relationship with a girl whoâs better than average – but not exceptional â youâre selling yourself short.

Men end up settling for one of a few different reasons:

1. -Once you start getting to a point where you consider yourself âadvancedâ, your game is good enough that the women you meet will want to lock you down. Women will start to see you as a prize, and theyâll try to convince you to get in a serious relationship with them. Itâs extremely easy to say yes (even if the girl is unexceptional) because doing so means you donât have to deal with the chaos of going out. Youâre giving up excitement in the name of comfort.
2. Letâs say you usually get â7sâ and you end up hooking up with an â8â. We tend to get attached to women who are a bit more attractive than weâre used to, mostly because itâs extremely validating to our ego.
3. Game can start to feel empty and meaningless at a certain point. One-night-stands are fun, but after youâve had a good number of them, they also feel pointless. Once you start to think this way, you might convince yourself to âpursue something meaningful with one special girlâ.

Again, if you end up settling down with a girl who meets your standards, thereâs nothing wrong with it. Unfortunately, In the above situations, we often rationalize that a girl lives up to our standards even though she doesnât.

To avoid this mistake, have a clear idea of what youâre looking for in a serious relationship. What do you want in a girl? What donât you want in a girl?

You can write this out, take 15-30 minutes to list out the qualities a girl youâre going to date must have (and the red flags that she must not have).

You can start with traits that you want (e.g. Intelligent, beautiful, passionate, open-minded) and then you can define what exactly you mean by those traits.

Deciding to get in a committed relationship is an important decision whose impact will echo through the rest of your life. Donât take it lightly. Iâve seen friends seriously damage themselves by getting into toxic relationships.

One friend of mine became addicted to drugs and alcohol because he dated a girl who was herself an addict. Another friend of mine went through an identity crisis after he dated a girl who was both depressed and highly manipulative: she would threaten to cut herself or commit suicide if he didnât do what she wanted him to. It was fucked up.

If you know what you want in a relationship, youâre going to make it much easier to say no to a girl who doesnât live up to your standards.

 

Stay Hungry

Most guys who get to an advanced level of game let their ego get the best of them. You can see this in many of the most famous pickup artistâs and dating coaches.

Mystery is a prime example of this. Not only did he spiral into narcissism and depression, but he also began to see his method as infallible. Once you start to see yourself as godâs gift to women, youâll have trouble making any further improvements.

Truthfully, you can always get better. Furthermore, if you stop focusing on improvement, you will inevitably get bored with the game â it is the sense that youâre improving over time that makes game so addictive.

The first key to avoiding this pitfall is to be aware of it. Accept that you have an ego, and that if youâre not careful, it will trick you into complacency.

Furthermore, repeatedly look at your strengths AND weaknesses. Go back and rate yourself on the list of sticking points from part 3 on a monthly basis (if not in written form, do so mentally at least).

Proactively look for mistakes you might be making. Your ability to identify your weaknesses so that you can improve them is a major key for long-term improvement.

The Paradox of Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance

Some guys have trouble looking for their own weaknesses because doing so seemingly implies that you are not accepting yourself as you are. Thatâs bullshit. Even if you were the best in the world at something, thereâd still be plenty of room for improvement.

Focusing on your weaknesses isnât about beating yourself up. Itâs about having high enough self-esteem to acknowledge your faults and work on them. Self-acceptance doesnât mean thinking of yourself as perfect, it means that you accept both your good qualities and your flaws.

 

Conclusion

When youâre advanced, going out to meet women is a peak experience. Youâll still get rejected and have bad nights, but overall this stage of game is where you get to reap the rewards from all the effort you put in.

Not only will you have mind-blowing sex with beautiful women during this stage, but youâll also experience the pure fun of being in a state of total confidence while meeting women. And if you persist through this stage, you can get to mastery.