One of my recurring themes is how false Societal Programming continually damages your life by filling your subconscious mind with a constant array of sweet-sounding bullshit that compels you to engage in all the wrong decisions and actions for your life; decisions and actions that cause long-term pain and suffering for both you and those around you.
Iâve also talked about how Hollywood is one of the key sources of false Societal Programming, and how it insidiously shapes your opinions regarding everything from sex to politics and economics. Not least of these things is Disney, defined in my glossary thusly:
Disney â Any thought derived from societal programming that monogamy, child rearing, or traditional marriage is pleasant and/or permanent in the modern era. Disney is usually suffered by women, but a certain variation can be suffered by men as well (see: Guy-Disney).
…as well as Guy-Disney, defined as:
Guy-Disney â The incorrect thought men have that somewhere out there is a girl who will love you forever, never cheat on you, never get bored with you, and never break up with you.
Iâve talked about Disney and Guy-Disney to death, but thereâs another aspect of Hollywood Societal Programming that is just as damaging, if not more so.
Iâm about to summarize the plot of every romance or romantic comedy movie ever made. Here we go:
1. Girl meets Boy.
2. Girl is skinny, quirky, highly intelligent, and pretty but not too pretty; not pretty enough to alienate the women in the audience (sheâs âjust rightâ). She is either a Strong Independent Woman Who Doesnât Need A Manâ¢, or a Nice Girl Who Just Canât Find The Right Guyâ¢.
3. Boy is either an asshole, a loser, arrogant, creepy, emotionally distant, or severely problematic in some other way. Dangerous Bad Boyâ¢, Cold Distant Businessmanâ¢, and Rude Arrogant Insensitive Smartass⢠are usually the most common types of Boys that Girls encounters in the Hollywood world.
4. Girl and Boy have immediate conflict and donât get along. Arguments and problems.
5. Boy softens and starts to like Girl. Girl and Boy have sex, or make out, and/or start dating. Passion and romance.
6. Three-fourths into the movie, a big problem occurs, usually Boyâs fault. Boy and Girl separate. Girl cries. Very sad.
7. At almost the end of the movie, Girl and Boy get back together at the very last minute. Everything is happy; Girl and Boy live happily ever after. (Marriage or living together is usually stated or implied.)
Most of you might be thinking that the problem Iâm referring to above is that everything shows how great the girl is and how shitty the boy is. True, thatâs a problem, but we men have been portrayed as either assholes, pussies, or retards in movies, TV shows, and commercials for over 20 years now. It sucks, but itâs certainly nothing new, and everyone is aware of it, even women.
What Iâm referring to is something much more insidious and effective, since your conscious mind canât see it, but your subconscious can. It is this:
Hollywood trains you to believe that courting is the hard part and the long-term relationship is the easy part, when in fact the reality is the exact opposite.
Hollywood teaches you that courting a new lover is an absolute nightmare. If he’s man he’ll be a liar, player, jerk, utter beta male pussy, lazy pot smoker, or a total dumbass. If she’s a woman, she’ll be dingy, bitchy, overly emotional, a stalker, or flat-out psychotic during the initial phases of the relationship.
During the initial phases of meeting or dating someone new, according to Hollywood, itâs nothing but pure chaos and emotional ups and downs. Itâs one huge problem after the next. Lots of arguments, crying, conflict, and mixed emotions. Itâs just terrible.
Then, if youâre able to survive all of this horror, something wonderful happens. You both suddenly love each other, stay with each other in perfect bliss, and everything is wonderful forever. All the work is over, and now you finally get rewarded for all of your suffering. You and your new lover Live Happily Ever Afterâ¢.
That all sounds familiar because youâve seen it in movies so many times, but have you actually experienced it in real life?
Highly unlikely. Because the reality is literally the exact opposite.
Once you find someone you like and who at least somewhat likes you, and sexual activity occurs, you donât have any problems whatsoever. Itâs actually the opposite. You have NRE, the honeymoon period. This is the greatest, happiest, most enjoyable part of the relationship. NRE is the most powerful positive emotion a human being can feel. You both make each other feel euphoric. Youâre desire for each other is almost like a drug addiction. You never argue because youâre not quite comfortable enough with each other to do that yet, nor do you even want to. The other person is so “wonderful.” Everything is new and exciting.
(There are exceptions to this of course, like when people do one night stands on each other, but I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about something new but ongoing, as demonstrated in these stupid Hollywood movies.)