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Advocating Serial Monogamy for Men?

BlackDragon
March 6, 2017

The Alpha Male 2.0 lifestyle is the best (or should I say least-bad?) lifestyle in terms of long-term and consistent happiness for the modern man living in today’s fallen world (âconsistentâ meaning as consistent as realistically possible). In the years I have been advocating and debated this lifestyle with literally hundreds of people, not one has yet shown me a better system for a man that will make him happy over the long-term, as in decades of his life, unless that man is an usual exception to the rule (for example, if he has a very submissive personalty and/or a very low sex drive).

If long-term happiness is your top priority as a man, the Alpha 2.0 lifestyle is what you want. If you instead pursue lifestyles pushed by women, beta males, or Alpha Male 1.0âs, you will not be as happy long-term as men like me, as I illustrated here.

This is not in question and again, I have seen no compelling evidence to the contrary despite debating this topic with many people over many years.

However! Things get a little complicated when you donât consider your long-term happiness as your top priority. This, indeed, is where the conversations shifts and I could then be considered âwrongâ when pushing this lifestyle.

Enter serial monogamy.

As always, we need to get our definitions straight. Per my glossary, I define serial monogamy thusly:

Serial Monogamy â A constant succession of monogamous partners, one after the next.  This system is almost always initiated by women. Usually, no one partner lasts longer than about three years. Generally speaking, the younger the woman, the faster she switches partners.  Serial monogamy is the secret, preferred biological method of pair bonding for women under the age of 50.  (Polygamy being the biological default for men.)

Serial monogamy is a type of monogamy where you are monogamous to one person for a while, then switch partners and are monogamous with the next person. These relationships can last anywhere from two months to several years. (If the relationship lasts less than two months, then I donât consider you having a serial monogamous ârelationship.â Youâre just someone who happened to not have sex with someone else for a while.)

To be very clear, while serial monogamy is monogamy, it is not long-term monogamy or Disney monogamy that I rail against so often, which I define thusly:

Disney Monogamy â Any monogamy that is expected to last longer than three years with no breakup, divorce, cheating, or long-term boredom, ever, by either party. Disney monogamy is often expected in relationships and marriages, even though it rarely actually occurs in the modern era; serial monogamy, polyamory, or open relationships being more viable options.

Disney monogamy doesnât work, hasnât worked in Western society for quite a while, and all the facts and stats clearly show this. [1,2,3] Does that mean that serial monogamy doesnât work either?

The answer is, it depends. There are some things you need to know about serial monogamy before you pursue this as a lifestyle.

Serial Monogamy Is a Feminine System

The first thing youâll have to understand is that serial monogamy is not a masculine system. If you accept this lifestyle, realize that you are entering into a system that was never designed or you. Iâll prove it several ways.

As stated in the definition, serial monogamy is the biological default for women. Fuck one guy, just this one guy, and donât let him fuck anyone else… until I get bored with him and dump him. Then Iâll find a new guy, just fuck him, and make sure he doesnât fuck anyone else, until I get bored with him. And so on.

The stats, the science, and the biology all point to this. This is how women were designed 200,000 years ago, and they arenât changing any time soon. Most women love serial monogamy. They get both the boyfriend experience and societal accolades they crave and the NRE and exciting newness of a new lover any time they want. Itâs an absolute win/win for them.

Read this article here about how women really feel about serial monogamy. Itâs one of the most eye-opening things youâll ever read about how disposable women know you are.

Is serial monogamy what men really want? No. Menâs biological default is polygamy. Iâm going to fuck you and Iâm going to fuck other women, but you canât fuck other men, and donât ever leave me, or Iâll fucking kill you and kill him (in the case of the Alpha Male 1.0) or I’ll cry and be depressed for six months (in the case of the beta male).

Thatâs what most men really want, at a deep biological level, even if they donât like to admit it. Of course, in todayâs left-wing society, polygamy (a male system) is not accepted and considered barbaric, and serial monogamy (a female system) is widely accepted and even encouraged. Such is Societal Programming, and that’s a discussion for another time.

So, men choose other options, like Disney monogamy (though with cheating of course), open relationships, being a player, eschewing women completely and being a MGTOW, or whatever. But serial monogamy? Chosen by a man? No.

Iâll show you what I mean.

In discussing and debating the issue of relationships with hundreds of men over the years, I have had numerous men defend Disney monogamy, numerous men defend MGTOW, numerous men defend FBs/MLTRs, numerous men defend OLTRs and OLTR marriages, and numerous men defend other nonmonogamous marriages/relationships like swinging. Iâm talking lots of men defending all of these types of relationships to me.

Do you know how many men have defended serial monogamy to me?

Three.

Thatâs right. Three. In almost ten years, I’ve had three guys who said, with a straight face, that serial monogamy was a good idea for a man and that men should do it. One guy was on a pickup forum years ago. Another was a guy who used to comment on this blog a few years ago, and one more guy defended it in the comments in a recent post I made.

Three guys. Thatâs got to tell you something, folks.

Serial monogamy is not a male system. Even Disney monogamy could be considered male, but not serial monogamy.

Be sure you understand that.

When Happiness Is Not Your Goal

So does serial monogamy âworkâ for a man? What if you say to me:

âLook BD, I realize marriage doesnât work anymore and is a shit deal for a man, but all this open relationship stuff is too much work and I canât stand it if a woman Iâm having sex with fucks another guy. Iâll shoot myself in the face if this happens. So fuck it, Iâm going to do serial monogamy. Iâll just get monogamous, and I wonât plan on the relationship lasting forever. Iâll just dump her if she pisses me off and get a new girlfriend after her.â

Are you right, or are you wrong?

It depends on one key factor: how important your long-term happiness is to you. Remember I said long-term happiness, not happiness, because there’s a big difference.

If your long-term happiness is your top priority in life, as it is mine, then yes, you are wrong, and you’re making a huge life mistake. By engaging in this lifestyle, you will experience happiness mixed with frequent problems and unhappiness, due to things like:

1. Drama, since monogamy (serial or not) encourages drama from a woman, and since she knows sheâs got her hooks into you and you canât just go fuck someone else. Too much comfort equal drama, and monogamy makes women very comfortable.

2. Oneitis, since monogamy (serial or not) is conducive towards a scarcity mentality (âShe is my only source of sex. She is my only source of companionship.â) which eventually creates oneitis, including (and sometimes especially) if you are an Alpha Male 1.0.

3. Lack of sex, since the sex will decline sharply once NRE is over.

4. Pain whenever a relationship ends. Your fantasy will be that you are going to dump her when you get tired of her, and maybe you will. Usually though, you wonât. Youâll put up with her crap (for the reasons above) and she will likely dump you when you donât want it to happen. Remember that 75% of all boyfriend/girlfriend relationships and 70-80% of all marriages are terminated by the female.

âThat wonât happen to me BD! Iâm Alpha!â Yeah, it might not, but how do you know? I see Alpha 1.0’s get dumped all the time. And youâre going to have lots of these relationships. Are you going to dump her before she dumps you (or cheats on you) every single time? You and I both know the answer. Most men in serial monogamous relationships are just waiting around to get cheated on, betrayed, or dumped, and when they don’t want it to happen and/or aren’t planning on it.

5. Sexual frustration, since you wonât be allowed to fuck other women and youâll want to. (And please, for Christâs sake, donât lie to me and tell me you wonât want to. Stop lying to me, and more importantly, to yourself.) Look at all those hot girls youâre not allowed to touch. Does that make you happy, tough guy?

âNo problem, BD! Iâll just cheat!â Ah yes, cheating…

6. Cheating, on your part. Spending the rest of your life being a liar, sneaking around, living like a little snake, not being who you really are, being terrified of her finding something on your phone or in your email… none of this crap makes you happy and you know it. Cheating is not a path for a man who desires long-term, consistent happiness.

7. Cheating, on her part. You find out that sheâs been getting sexual (or even just romantically emotional) with another guy. Isnât that nice? All of your guy-Disney unicorn fantasies of feminine love, purity, and honesty have been dashed. And youâre raging with fury about the guy who fucked your sweet little angel who was Not Like The Restâ¢.

Are you happy now? Did your serial monogamy âwork?â Iâve never been cheated on by a woman and Iâve probably been in more multi-year long relationships than you have. Do you know why that is? Because Iâm nonmonogamous. Women canât cheat on me because theyâre allowed to fuck other guys, just like Iâm allowed to fuck other women. Being cheated on is an alien concept to me; I donât even know what it would feel like. And Iâm glad, since I donât think that would feel very good, and I want to be happy.

For all these reasons and many others, serial monogamy will not make you happy in the long-term as a man. Sometimes youâll be happy, sometimes youâll be unhappy. Youâll never be as long-term happy as the Alpha Male 2.0 who doesn’t utilize these problematic relationship structures.

But wait, the conversation isnât over. What if you then said something like this:

âOkay, BD, fine, I admit that being a serial monogamist wonât make me as happy in the long run as you. I get that I wonât get as much sex and the breakups will be harder and blah blah blah. I understand all that, but I donât care. I still prefer serial monogamy because of X and Y. Thatâs why Iâm going to do it.â

NOW we have no disagreement. You and I have different priorities. My priority is long-term consistent happiness. Your priority is something else. Of course you want to be happy, but happiness isnât at the top of the list. Instead you likely want, what I call in my book, one of the Six Societal Values, those things pushed hard by both Societal Programming and your own outdated, Obsolete Biological Wiring. So go for it, but I won’t.

I choose happiness first, over everything else. I donât see any real evidence for reincarnation or an afterlife, so I have to assume that once Iâm dead, I’m dead, and I never get to do this precious, wonderful thing called life again. I see no reason to waste my one, tiny, precious life on things like drama, not getting laid, having women dump me and thus making me feel bad whenever they want, getting cheated on, or any of that stuff. But thatâs me. You may be different.

If anything is more important to you than your own long-term happiness, then great! Feel free to get as serial monogamous as you like. Iâll be over here being happy and hopefully youâll be over there getting… well, getting whatever you want that isnât happiness. Fine by me. We have no argument.

The only disagreement is whether or not serial monogamy will make you happy. It wonât. But there is no disagreement between us if you state happiness is not your top priority.

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Title Advocating Serial Monogamy for Men?
Author BlackDragon
Date March 6, 2017 1:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Blog Caleb Jones
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