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Why Sex Is More Important Than You Think

Blackdragon
January 25, 2016

One of the most frequent objections to the Alpha Male 2.0, non-monogamous lifestyle I advocate, particularly from women but sometimes from men as well, is âsex isnât that important.â

There are many subtle and no-so-subtle variations of this objection. They include:

Itâs immature: âHaving a lot of sex is fine when youâre young, but eventually you need to grow up.â

Itâs important but not that important: âSex isnât the only important thing in a relationship.â

Defensive: âRelationships arenât all about sex, you know!â

Low sex drive: âI had sex a few weeks ago. It wasnât even that good. I donât need it. Eh.â

Ad hominem: âIf you want sex all the time, then yeah, somethingâs wrong with you. A true man / real man / gentleman / doesnât need to hump and pump all the time.â

Bitter Female: âMen are liars and cheaters. Theyâre too much work. I donât need a man. Iâm happier by myself.â

Bitter Male: âWomen are all a bunch of angry feminists now! Iâm not going to play their game! MGTOW is the way to go.â

Monogamous wife in a marriage longer than three years: âUm, excuse me, but Iâm not his hooker! Thatâs not my job!â

Bullshit Disney: âYouâll find that if youâre truly in love with someone, you donât need to have sex all the time. You can just hold each other, look into each otherâs eyes and itâs just as good.â

Lazy: âSex? Eh, too much work. Iâd rather jerk off to porn. So much easier.â

I am now going to explain why all the above people are completely wrong. Like most people in society when they discuss dating and relationships, theyâre using their own emotions, experiences and preferences in order to distort fact.

The fact is that sex is a fundamental, core, biological, human need. Itâs on the same level as food, water, and oxygen.

If you havenât seen it before, here is Maslowâs Hierarchy of Needs:

maslows hierarchy of needs

It works like this. You need the items at the very bottom level of the pyramid. These are not optional. You need them for fundamental human survival. You donât necessarily need anything in the upper levels to survive, but the higher you go the happier and more fulfilled youâll be.

First, you go for the items at the bottom level, the physiological needs. Only when youâve received those things do you then move into the next level, Safety. When youâve got that level covered, you move on to the next, and so on.

Inmates in prison are never beyond the first level (until they get released). Most people in society never get beyond the third level, and very few people in the world (as a percentage) consistently operate at the top level, Self-actualization. (I do, as do people I respect, but weâre statistically rare.)

If, for some reason, the upper levels are suddenly taken from you, youâll instantly forget about them and focus once again on the first level. I could be the most intellectually-evolved, self-actualized person in the world, but if I fall off a cruise ship and land in the water, suddenly things like love and creativity donât matter. Iâm solely focused on survival needs, like oxygen and warmth.

Now take a look at the above chart and locate sex. What level it is on? Two? Four?

Nope. Itâs at level one, a core survival-based physiological need. Itâs right down there with food, breathing, sleep, and going to the bathroom.

If youâre a sexual importance denier (like that term? heh) youâre probably still not convinced. Youâre thinking something like, âOh, bullshit. That chart’s wrong. If I donât drink water, Iâll die in like three days. If I donât eat any food, Iâll die in two weeks. But I can go years without having any sex and I wonât die.â

Thatâs the problem with sex; unlike all the other biological needs we have as human beings, the damage you suffer by not having frequent sex takes much longer to manifest. Youâre right, if you stop eating, drinking liquids, or sleeping, youâll suffer sharp, negative effects that will be noticeable almost immediately. We humans donât like sharp pain, so because of this itâs very unlikely youâll stop eating, drinking, or sleeping, even if you consider these things stupid or a hassle. (Which by the way, I do. I would love to live a life without ever having to take the time out of my day to eat or sleep. Iâd rather work, have sex, travel and play blackjack, in about that order.)

If you stop having sex, or even stop having regular sex (i.e. you have sex once every few weeks and think thatâs âenoughâ) then make no mistake, you will be damaged physiologically and psychologically. The difference is that this damage and pain will take much longer to notice. Just like with the frog in the slowly boiling pot, you may not even notice that these negative effects have already taken place. Like most sexless married people, youâll slowly become accustomed to your new, lower levels of health and happiness, and consider that ânormalâ for you. When in fact, it isnât normal for you at all.

As time goes on, youâll slowly suffer more and more physiological and psychological pain and damage, while defensively snorting to all the happy people having sex all the time that âsex isnât that importantâ or that you âdonât need itâ or that itâs âimmature.â

What exactly are these negative effects of not having sex? Let us count the ways:

1. Not having sex at least three times a week doubles your risk of heart attack. [*]

2. Not having sex several times a week damages your sense of smell. [*]

3. Men who donât have sex at least once a week double their chances of developing erectile dysfunction.[*]

4. Sex reduces pain, both chronic and acute. Endorphins released during sex alleviate all kinds of pain including migraines, PMS cramping, and even arthritis. [*] I have seen this happen with many women in my life. One woman in particular (one of the best-looking women Iâve ever had sex with) suffered from a genetic condition called lupus, where her entire body would ache regularly. Sex was one of her âtreatments.â If she had regular sex, the pain was well under control. When she stopped having sex, the pain would get much worse. I also once dated a woman who was recovering from cervical cancer who experienced the same. Sex is one of the best natural painkillers there is.

5. Women who donât have regular sex develop looser vaginas. [*] You thought it was women who had a lot of sex who got looser vaginas? Wrong! Lack of sex makes the vaginal muscles relax, resulting in a looser v-jay-jay. How does that sound, ladies?

6. People who donât have regular sex get sick more often (colds, flu, etc.) because they lack the antibodies sex creates, particularly immunoglobulin A, which drops by 30% when people have sex less than once or twice week. [*] [*]

7. Women who donât have regular sex will experience much drier vaginas when they hit menopause. [*]

8. Menâs semen is a natural, powerful antidepressant for women. Women who have a man cum inside them on a regular basis are less subject to depression and suicide than other women. [*] [*]

9. Lack of sex reduces testosterone in men and estrogen in women, [*] which introduces all kinds of long-term health and lifestyle problems (which I discuss in detail in my book). It also further reduces the desire for sex.

I found all of the above effects within a 10 minute Google search. I know that if I took an hour or two researching this, Iâd find at least another 10-20 ways in which you damage your body and your psyche by saying âsex isnât that importantâ or âI donât need it.â

Because I know someone will bring this up in the comments, masturbation isnât going to cut it. There are a few health benefits to masturbating (such as prostate health for men) but A) actual sex has many more, B) any health benefits you get from masturbating you also get from sex (plus more) and C) the emotional, self-esteem, and psychological components of sex are not present with masturbation.

Does jerking off to a computer screen make you feel like a real man? Does a woman impaling herself with vibrator feel loved, desired, wanted and sexy? And donât even get me started on things like porn addiction.

Regular sex is a core biological need you that you have, on the same level of importance as food, water and oxygen. If you deny this, youâre flat out wrong, and Iâm glad Iâm not you.

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Title Why Sex Is More Important Than You Think
Author Blackdragon
Date January 25, 2016 1:00 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Blog Caleb Jones
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/blog/Caleb-Jones/why-sex-is-more-important-than-you-think.23130
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