As you go through your everyday life, you will randomly meet women every now and again.
You’ll have an opportunity to attract them and get to sex or relationship.
Yet, if you don’t know how to attract women as you talk to them, then you won’t be able to capitalize on those opportunities.
You’ll end up meeting a woman, you will like her and something could happen between you and her, but because you don’t know how to create a spark of attraction inside of her and build on that, then you lose your opportunity with her.
You and her end up going your separate ways and nothing ends up happening.
So, an essential skill to have as a man is to be able to attract women on purpose; to actively make a woman feel attracted to you as you talk to her and to be able to do that at will.
When you have that skill, you’re no longer relying on getting lucky on women.
Instead, you know that when you talk to a woman, you’re going to be able to make her feel attracted to you as you talk to her.
So, what are some ways that you can do that?
Let’s begin with number 1…
1. Attract her with your confidence
An example of attracting her with your confidence is that you don’t lose confidence in yourself when she pretends to lose interest in the conversation, or when she teases you to see if you’re going to start doubting yourself around her.
So, when a woman pretends to lose interest in talking to a guy, what a guy will usually do is that he will try harder.
He will start to appear tense and unsure of himself.
He will try to seem cooler.
Then, the woman will lose interest because she can sense that he doesn’t feel like he is good enough for her.
He doesn’t feel confident around her.
On the other hand, a guy who is confident won’t start doubting himself when a woman pretends to lose interest in the conversation.
He will have the knowledge that women pretend to lose interest in a conversation to test a guy’s confidence.
He will know that he doesn’t need to panic.
He will also know that she is going to feel attracted to him when she can see that he’s not doubting himself.
When she can see that, no matter how difficult she behaves in the conversation to test his confidence, he doesn’t start to doubt himself.
He knows that he’s good enough.
He is relaxed and at ease.
He doesn’t try hard to be cooler because he already is a cool guy.
He doesn’t need to try hard to impress her because he is confident around her.
He knows that he is good enough for her.
Now, the thing is, many guys out there are able to maintain their confidence around a woman that they’re not attracted to, or around a woman that they’re not trying to hit on and sleep with, such as a woman who is already married, a co-worker, or the girlfriend of one of his friends.
In a case like that, he’s not trying to pick the woman up and can feel confident in himself because he’s not trying to get anything from her.
He’s just hanging out, being himself and being confident.
Yet for many guys, when they talk to a woman that they find attractive and that they have a sexual or romantic interest in, that’s when their confidence starts to fall apart.
The guy starts doubting himself.
He starts thinking that he’s not good enough for the woman.
As a result, he starts to behave in awkward and nervous ways that ends up turning the woman off.
The thing is, some women will accept a guy who is nervous and insecure, but those women usually aren’t the attractive women that a guy really wants to be with.
It’s usually unattractive women or it’s women who want to manipulate a nervous, insecure, self-doubting guy.
The woman just wants to keep him around for a while, make him fall in love with her and then she’s going to break his heart by dumping him or cheating on him when she finds a guy who is more confident than him.
So, if you don’t want to end up in a situation where you have to accept unattractive women, or you end up getting with a woman who doesn’t really want to be with you anyway and who’s just planning on breaking your heart by dumping you or cheating on you, then you need to make sure that you are confident around the types of women that you find attractive.
If you’re talking to a woman that you find attractive, you want something to happen with her and you notice that she’s losing interest in the conversation or she seems to be becoming a little bit distant; don’t panic.
Don’t start doubting yourself and think, “I’m losing her. What am I going to do?”
Just relax.
Know that you are good enough and know that if she can see that you’re not doubting yourself or panicking because she’s pulling back a little bit from the conversation, then she’s going to feel attracted to your confidence.
She’s going to look at you as one of the rare guys who can maintain his confidence around her, regardless of what she says or does.
By the way, what happens next is really interesting.
When a woman can see that you’re not doubting yourself around her and you’re able to maintain your confidence, she starts bringing out her easygoing, friendly, nice girl side.
She starts being much more interested and attentive and easygoing.
She becomes an easier pickup.
She stops playing hard to get because she sees that you are a guy who is confident enough for a woman like her.
Another way to attract a woman you just met is to attract her with your masculine vibe or conversation style…
2. Attract her with your masculine vibe or conversation style
Just like a woman’s feminine vibe and energy attracts us to her, our masculine vibe and energy attracts women to us.
A mistake that some guys make is to suppress their masculinity and instead, try to be seen as a nice, sweet, friendly and cute type of guy.
A guy who hopes that if he behaves more like the woman that he’s interacting with and he is able to get along with her on her level, then she’s going to like him.
Yet, suppressing your masculinity around a woman simply makes her see you as just a friend, if anything at all.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with being a good guy or being friendly, but she has to feel as though you enjoy being a man and aren’t a confused guy who thinks that he needs to be like her in order to be liked by her.
If you can maintain your masculinity around her while also enjoying the interaction, she will feel attracted to you.
You don’t have to go overboard and be the most manly guy in the world in order to make a woman feel attracted to your masculinity.
You just need to let her sense that you enjoy being a man and you don’t suppress your masculinity out of confusion (i.e. because you think that you have to be like the woman in order to be liked by her), or out of fear (i.e. because you’re worried about being judged for being manly).
Now, some guys make the mistake of going too far when trying to express masculinity and they end up acting aloof, or not saying much or anything when talking to a woman to try to prove that they’re manly.
Yet, that doesn’t work either.
To attract a woman with your masculinity, you need to strike a balance between enjoying the interaction with her and allowing her to sense that she is clearly different to you in terms of energy.
Let her sense that you don’t suppress your masculinity out of fear of being judged, or out of confusion of trying to be more like her to be liked by her.
When you can embrace your masculinity and calmly express that in a relaxed manner as you talk to a woman, she will naturally feel attracted to you.
Another way to attract a woman that you just met is to attract her with your sense of humor.
3. Attract her with your sense of humor
Many guys are able to use their natural sense of humor around their family or close friends, but when a guy gets around an attractive woman that is single and he’s hoping to sleep with or get into a relationship with, his natural sense of humor is often suppressed.
He wants to use nicer jokes.
He wants to use safer jokes.
He wants to be on his best behavior around her.
He doesn’t want to say anything that might offend her or might cause her to feel a bit shocked.
He wants to come across as a nice guy and be liked by her as a person.
Yet, by using that approach, he ends up in the friend zone and if another guy comes along, who is a good guy, but doesn’t use nice safe humor and instead has the balls to use some ballsy humor with her to make her feel a bit shocked or nervous around him, then she’s going to feel attracted to that guy instead.
So, I’m going to give you some examples now of what to say to use that type of humor that attracts women, but before I do, I just want to talk about the fact that some guys wonder why this type of humor attracts women.
They think, “Why are women attracted to humor from a guy who seems to be messing with her? He’s playfully teasing her, he is making fun of her in a way. He’s not taking her so seriously. What’s going on there?”
Well, one way to answer that question is to say, “Why are we men are attracted to a woman’s tits? Why do we like titties?”
There are many psychological and breeding related reasons why we like a woman’s titties, but the reality is most men just like tits and that’s all they want to think about, “I like tits. I like to grab them. I like to suck them. I like to play with them. I like the shape of them” and so on.
Yet, if you think about it, you might realize that it’s quite weird how attracted we feel to a couple of bags of flesh on a woman’s chest.
We men feel so attracted to a woman’s tits.
Of course, there are psychological reasons why we feel attracted to a woman’s tits and you can get into the science of it and realize that it’s our body recognizing that she is a fully developed woman that can potentially produce offspring, but that’s another story.
Likewise, some guys might find it a bit weird that a woman would feel attracted to a guy who is playfully messing with her, is teasing her and making her feel a little bit nervous about herself and excited at the same time, but that’s attraction for you.
Attraction can be a little bit weird to understand on the surface level, but if you dig deep into the psychology of it, it makes total sense.
So, what are some examples of things that you can say to use the type of humor that attracts women?
The first example is where you ask a woman where she’s from. “So, where you’re from? [She says that’s she’s from Richmond, for example].
“You’re from Richmond. You know what they say about girls from Richmond? Oh, you don’t know? Hey, I’m not sure if I should tell you then.”
At that point, a woman will be laughing and she’ll be interested to know what they say about girls from where she comes from.
You can then just make up something on the spot.
For example: You might say something like, “Well, they say that girls from Richmond are more naughty than nice. I don’t know about you, though, you seem nice the naughty.”
Alternatively, you might say, “Well, they say that girls from Richmond have really good manners and when they’re talking to a guy who has an empty drink, they go and buy him a drink.”
Then you look at your empty drink and you have a laugh with her about that.
Another example is where you’re talking to a woman, she’s enjoying the conversation with you and is laughing and then say something like, “I like you.”
You can then say something like this. “Thanks. I like me too.”
Alternatively, you might playfully say something like this, “No…you don’t like me. You like, like me, don’t you?”
Talking to her in that way brings her back to her school yard memories of having a crush on a guy that she really liked.
If you can remember when you’re back at school, someone might have asked you, “Do you like her, or do you like, like her?”
As you may remember, that’s the sort of language that very young people use when they like another person in a romantic way.
Another example is where you’re talking to a woman at a house party, or a wedding reception, or you’re at a bar, or something like that, where she’s having a few drinks.
She might be a bit tipsy and she might then stumble and touch you.
Some women do that because they want to show interest in you.
Some women show interest in guys in very weird ways and they try to flirt like that and just accidentally stumble and then touch you on the chest and say, “Oh, sorry,” sort of thing to show that they are interested in you.
Pretty weird, but, you know, that’s women for you.
They do some weird things at times.
So, if you’re talking to a woman and she accidentally stumbles and then touches you, or she purposely accidentally stumbles and then touches you, you can then say playfully something like this. “Oh, so you’re throwing yourself at me now. Jeez, settle down, girl.”
Alternatively, you might playfully say something like this, “Whoa, okay. Someone can’t handle their alcohol.”
Essentially, you’re playfully messing with her.
You’re not one of those desperate guys who are on their best behavior.
If a woman stumbles and touches them, the guy’s like, doesn’t do anything about it and just thinks, “Well, I can’t say anything about that. She might think it’s rude. She might think that I’m assuming she likes me and blah, blah, blah.”
The guy just wants to be nice.
He just wants to be really good to her and hope that she’s going to like him as a person.
Yet, what you need to understand as a man is that you can CREATE feelings of attraction inside of a woman.
You can make a woman feel attracted to you based on how you talk to her, how you behave around her and how you get her to behave around you.
So, for example: If a woman accidentally stumbled and then touched you on your chest and you then said, “Oh, so you’re throwing yourself at me now.” and she then said, “No, no, no, I just accidentally stumbled.”
You can then smile and playfully say something like this, “Yeah, yeah, I believe you. Okay. Smooth.”
Now, it’s important to point out that you’re only joking with that sort of thing.
You’re not being serious and saying that you are seriously accusing her of hitting on you because she stumbled and touched you.
You’re not being serious about it.
You’re just joking around.
You don’t feel the need to be on your best behavior around her.
You’re confident in yourself, you know that you’re good enough for her and as a result, you don’t need to suck up to her and try to win her over.
You know that you’re good enough for her.
Okay, so a final example of this type of humor is where you’re talking to a woman in a bar, or at a party, or some sort of social event and then you say something like this. “You know, you’re the prettiest girl in this bar. Actually, second prettiest. Wait, wait, wait, wait, third prettiest. Nah, never mind. I like you for who you are.”
At that point, she is most likely going to be laughing and you can then tell her that you’re just kidding and you think she’s very pretty.
Then, you can get on with the conversation.
She’s going to be feeling attracted to the fact that you are a confident guy who can make her laugh and you’re not on your best behavior around her, sucking up to her and hoping to get a chance with her.
You’re not one of those type of guys.
You are a man who believes in himself.
You are so confident in yourself that you don’t feel the need to be on your best behavior around an attractive woman.
You have the balls to playfully mess with her and joke around with her.
You have the balls to use that type of humor that makes her feel a bit nervous, makes her feel a bit unsure of yourself, but at the same time, she feels excited, she feels happy, she feels interested and she wants to keep talking to you.
A lot of guys don’t want to make women feel that way when they’re talking to them.
They just want to make a woman feel nice, neutral, emotions and hope that something happens and that’s why so many guys don’t get anywhere when they meet women and want to have sex with them or have a relationship with them.
There’s just no sexual spark and it feels more like a friendly, neutral interaction.
What you need to understand is that as a man, you can CREATE a spark with a woman.
You can literally MAKE HER feel sparks of attraction for you as you talk to her.
You can then build on that attraction and get to a kiss and have sex with her on the first night or get her phone number, set up a date, have sex and get into a relationship.
Learn more?
Okay, I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and learned something from it.
If you’d like to learn more, I recommend that you read my eBook, The Flow, or listen to the audiobook version, The Flow on Audio.
The Flow is everything that you need to know to go from hello to sex with a woman that you find attractive.
It includes my best examples of how to start conversations, how to keep conversations going, how to keep conversations interesting, how to make women feel attracted to you as you talk to them, how to get to a phone number, a kiss, date, sex and into a relationship if you want that as well.
The Flow also includes examples of what to text a woman after you get her phone number, so she feels attracted to you and wants to go on a date with you.
Men all over the world have used my flow method to enjoy their choice of women and you can do it too.
Additionally, if you’d like to learn even more than what you learn in The Flow and you want to get even more examples of what to say, even more techniques for being confident, even more techniques for making women feel attracted to you and want to be with you, then you can get one of The Flow Booster Packs.
Women Want Love and Sex Too, But They Need to Feel a Spark First
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is that sometimes you’ll meet a woman who is open to something happening between you and her and is hoping that there is going to be a spark between you and her, but when there isn’t, she then goes home, is single and alone and wonders why she can’t find herself a guy who she feels a spark with.
In most cases, it’s because the guy she meets are either being too neutral with her or being too nice.
They’re just talking to her in a friendly way, or they’re just being nice to her and hoping that something happens.
So, if you want to attract a woman that you’ve just met, make sure that you are ready to make her feel sparks of attraction as you talk to her.
Don’t make the mistake of being Mr. Neutral who just wants to have friendly, formal, polite conversations with her and don’t make the mistake of being Mr. Nice who wants to suck up to her and hope to get a chance with her because you’re showing her how good of a guy you are.
Instead, be the good guy that you are while also displaying personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women.
When you do that and you see that it works, you will then realize that you have been good enough for women all along.
You have met women that you could have hooked up with sexually or got into a relationship with, but you didn’t create a spark and as a result, you and her went your separate ways.
Yet, now that you can attract women as you talk to them, you’re able to make women feel a spark for you.
They feel sexually and romantically attracted to and they want something to happen.
