Here’s what you need to do:

1. Make her feel the motivation to want to trust you again

Make her feel the motivation to want to trust you again

Her motivation to trust you, will come from her feeling attracted to you again and then realizing that she has something to lose now.

So, you need to focus on making her feel attracted to the new and improved you by interacting with her and letting her see that youâre no longer behaving, thinking or reacting the way you used to.

That wonât instantly make her trust you again, but she will begin to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, which will make her feel some motivation to want to forgive you and trust you again.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys donât realize that and end up begging, pleading and apologizing over and over to a woman, in the hope that she takes pity on them.

Yet, a woman doesnât want to get back into a relationship with a guy out of pity, or guilt.

She will get back with a guy if she feels compelled via her newfound feelings of respect, attraction and love for him.

So, start off by building her feelings for you via text, or social media if sheâs currently reluctant to interact with you in any other way.

Then, get to a phone call, video call or in person meet up, rather than just sticking to text.

Donât make the mistake of getting into a long, drawn out conversation about the relationship or how you stuffed up via texts or social media messages, because too many things can go wrong when using that approach.

For example: She can simply ignore your texts or messages, which will essentially stop the ex back process in its tracks.

Alternatively, she might misinterpret a lot of what you text because she canât see you and assess your body language, or hear the tone of your voice.

If you apologize to her for what happened via text, rather than thinking something like, âThatâs so sweet. Heâs taking responsibility for his actions and I appreciate thatâ she might think, âHe probably doesnât even mean it, he just thinks itâs what I want to hearâ or, âWhatever. Heâs just trying to suck up to me to get another chance. I will only believe him if I talk to him in person and can see that he is sincere and has really changed.â

As a result, she remains closed off and distant because youâre only texting her and she doesnât have any real evidence that anything would be different between you and her, or that sheâd feel differently.

So, I recommend that you only use text, social media messages or emails as a way to get her on a phone call or video call with you.

On the call, focus on reawakening her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction, so she opens up to meeting up in person.

Then, get her to meet up with you in person, so she can see that not only have you truly changed, but she honestly feels a lot differently around you now (in a positive way).

She looks at you as being a man who has transformed and deserves her forgiveness and trust, based on the significant changes youâve made and how that now makes her feel.

Another way to get her to trust you again isâ¦

2. Tell her that trust can be felt again and if she feels it now, then itâs okay to go with that feeling

For example: You might say, âI broke your trust. That is true. You were totally right to lose trust in me. However, trust is something that can be felt again. If you can see that I am honestly different now and you naturally feel more trust for me, then you can go with that. You donât have to block it out and think that itâs impossible to trust me again. If you do that, youâre going to give yourself trust issues. The better thing to do is to be mature about this and understand that trust can be felt again and if you feel it, itâs okay to go with it.â

She then feels more motivated to go with her current feelings towards you (e.g. trust you a bit more, respect the new you), rather than stick to how she felt about the old version of you.

It then becomes easier for you to interact with her and reawaken her feelings for you over the phone and in person, because sheâs now more open to it.

You can then build on her feelings and regain more of her trust, which will cause her to feel compelled to give you another chance.

3. Tell her that there is no rush to even think about getting back together

This is a bit of reverse psychology that works so well on women.

Itâs just as powerful, by the way, when meeting and dating new women.

When you say, âThereâs no rush for us to have sexâ or, âWe donât have to have sex right awayâ it flicks a switch in a womanâs head where she then wants to.

She feels attracted to you and wants to have sex with you, but was holding back to be more ladylike (and therefore, more trustworthy and girlfriend material in your eyes) and now youâre saying that you and her donât have to have sex right away.

Itâs just something that turns women on and makes them want to have sex.

Likewise, when your ex is feeling attracted to you again and wants to get back with you, but you say that thereâs no rush to even âthinkâ about getting back together, it makes her want to think about it.

When she thinks about it, she realizes that she is feeling attracted to you again and wants you back, so she then opens up to giving you and the relationship another chance.

Another way to get your ex girlfriend to trust you again isâ¦

4. Let her know that people do make mistakes that can make them seem untrustworthy, even though they are trustworthy

Let her know that people do make mistakes that can make them seem untrustworthy, even though they are trustworthy

For example: You can say, âLook, I know I stuffed up and Iâm not going to make excuses for that. However, Iâm sure you know that sometimes people make mistakes that can make them seem untrustworthy, even though they are trustworthy. Sometimes itâs a mistake based on immaturity, or lack of experience. Other times, it can be because a person wasnât in the right state of mind (e.g. intoxicated by alcohol, angry during an argument). Yet, there were also many times where that same person proved that they are trustworthy. So essentially, a trustworthy person can sometimes slip up and thatâs what happened with me. That said, I know now that trust in a relationship can be fragile and even one slip can make a person seem untrustworthy. Iâve learned from my mistake and I hope that you can forgive me. Iâm not asking for us to get back together, but I think we are mature enough to at least be friends now.â

Of course, make sure that you are making her feel attracted to you as you talk to her as well (i.e. by being a bit of a challenge, flirting with her, using humor, maintaining confidence in yourself no matter what she says or does), so she feels motivated to want to trust you again and give you another chance.

If you just text her something like that above, or say it in a way where you are pleading with her, then it wonât work.

You need to say something like that while also being attractive as you interact with her, so she feels the motivation to want to forgive you and give the relationship another chance.

So, donât forget about, or try to avoid the most important thing of all: Her attraction for you.

4 Mistakes That Slow Down the Process of Regaining Her Trust and Getting Her Back

1. Writing a long email or a series of messages or texts to hopefully regain her trust

What some guys donât realize is that many women see long emails, texts, messages or letters from an ex as being a selfish act.

Why?

In most cases, the messages are all about the guy talking about himself, what he wants, what he has realized, what he wants her to realize, how much he cares about her, how much he appreciates the time they spent together and so on.

In other words, itâs pretty much all about him, his feelings and what he cares about.

Even though his intentions are good, a woman will usually see it as being selfish because he is expecting her to read all of his long texts, messages or emails and then trust him again, so he can get her back.

If she doesnât feel attracted to him, or isnât in love with him anymore, she will think, âWhy should I care?â

The way to make her care is to re-attract her first, so donât make the mistake of trying to fix everything with apologies, explanations and requests via text, social media messages or emails.

Youâve got to get to the point where she feels a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you first, otherwise she will almost certainly not feel motivated to trust you again simply based on texts, messages or emails.

The next mistake that can slow down the process of regaining an ex girlfriendâs trust isâ¦

2. Crying to her when apologizing

If you have already ruined your ex girlfriendâs trust in you to be a reliable, emotionally strong and dependable man, then she isnât going to want to see you lose control of your emotions and cry to her.

It doesnât matter how sad you feel, or how sorry or bad about how youâve treated her, or what you did to lose her trust.

Donât cry.

Women need to be able to trust in you to be a man that they can depend on to remain strong, no matter what happens.

She might be nice to you if you cry her, but she will be secretly feeling very turned off and disappointed that you are essentially seeking pity from her based on how sad, regretful or down you are feeling about the break up.

Itâs totally fine to feel the emotions (i.e. you donât need to be an unemotional robot. She does want to see that you care), but just donât lose control of them and cry to her.

3. Apologizing over and over again

Apologizing is important and necessary, doing apologizing over and over again isnât what will convince her to give you another chance.

Why?

Apologizing repeatedly doesnât actually get to the core of the problem.

Instead, youâre just saying how sorry you are, but those are just words to her.

It doesnât prove that you really have addressed the problem that led to her losing trust in you, or that you really would never break her trust again in future.

So, donât bother apologizing to her over again and again.

Instead, give her one brief, genuine apology in a matter of fact way (i.e. get to the point, be real, donât be too emotional) and then focus on showing her via your attitude, actions, behavior and the way you respond to her from now on that you really have leveled up as a man.

4. Making the conversations between you and her feel exhausting and stressful, rather than easygoing and lighthearted

Getting into stressful conversations about what happened to cause her to lose trust in you, isnât the way to create exciting, enjoyable and appealing feelings of sexual and romantic attraction inside of her.

Instead of feeling happy and turned on, she feels annoyed, stressed and frustrated as a result of continually focusing on all the things you did wrong in the relationship.

As a result, she wants to get away from you and try to move on.

On the other hand, when you are able to make her feel happy, relaxed, open-minded, easygoing and lighthearted, then she stops focusing on the bad things that happened.

As a result, you and her can establish a new relationship based on her growing trust in who you have now become.