4 common reasons why:
1. She becomes an individual again, so she starts looking out for herself rather than trying to care for you
When in a relationship, itâs only natural that a woman (and a man) will have to make some adjustments and compromises (e.g. dress up to look good for her guy even if sheâs feeling down or under the weather, be supportive of his wants and needs, stop going out to clubs and bars with her single friends, spend more time doing the things her guy likes).
So, when she breaks up with him, her first reaction might be to start enjoying her new-found freedom and individuality.
For example: She might enjoy being able toâ¦
- Pursue her own interests and hobbies without having to compromise for her guyâs likes or dislikes.
- Hang out with whomever she wants, whenever she wants, without feeling guilty or needing to give him an explanation.
- Focus more on her studies or work.
- Stay out late and party with her single friends and even hook up with guys that she meets, if she wants to.
- Not have any relationship responsibilities (e.g. put his needs ahead of hr own, deal with arguments and disagreements).
- Make her own choices about things (e.g. where, what and when to eat, how to spend her weekends, where to go on vacation, who to spend the holidays with).
As a result, she (initially) doesnât miss her ex very much and when he then reaches out to her via text, social media or gives her a call, she acts like she doesnât care about him.
Instead, sheâs having fun being an individual again without having to care about anyone elseâs feelings, needs or wants other than her own.
Yet, hereâs the thingâ¦
Just because your ex might be feeling that way now, it doesnât mean she will feel that way forever.
In fact, when the novelty of being single again wears off, she will likely start missing being in a relationship and having a guy take care of her.
When that happens, she will open herself up to dating and finding herself a new guy as quickly as possible.
This is why, if you want her back, you need to make sure you donât give up on her, just because right now sheâs acting like she doesnât care about you.
You need to maintain your confidence around her and continue interacting with her and sparking her feelings for you every chance you get.
When she realizes that it actually feels better with you in her life than without you (i.e. because you make her feel positive emotions such as respect, attraction, excitement), the less she will be able to act like she doesnât care about you anymore.
Her guard will slip down and she then opens up to the idea of being your girl again.
Another common reason why women act like they donât care about you after a break up isâ¦
2. She disconnects from her feelings, so she doesn’t feel drawn back to you
When a woman breaks up with a guy, she usually disconnects from her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction for him and becomes cold and emotionally distant.
Naturally, when that happens a guy might feel confused and he may then wonder, âWhy do women act like they donât care about you after a break up?â or âHow can she forget about everything we had together and act like it meant nothing to her?â
The reason is because acting like she doesnât care is a womanâs way of ensuring that she can get over her guy as quickly as possible and move on.
At the same time, if he tries to talk her into giving him another chance (e.g. by promising her that he will change, offering to do whatever she wants), she wonât be easily convinced by him and then risk getting hurt again if she gets back together with him and things donât work out.
This is why, if you want your ex to stop acting like she doesnât care about you, you have to spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you first.
If you donât, she will remain closed off towards you and she will focus on moving on and finding herself a replacement guy who will.
So, how can you reawaken her feelings for you?
One great way to do it is by using ballsy humor to make her smile, laugh and feel good to be interacting with you again.
The more laughter you can share together, the less she is able to pretend that she doesnât care about you.
Then, rather than think things like, âI wish he would accept that Iâm not interested in him anymore and just leave me alone,â she will be thinking things like, âI canât believe Iâm thinking this, but I actually feel good around him again. I actually look forward to his text messages or calls and Iâm even open to seeing him in person again. I donât know how this happened, but I feel drawn to him again in a way that feels good.â
She then naturally relaxes her guard and opens herself up to seeing where things go from there (e.g. seeing you in person, hugging, kissing, having sex and being back into a relationship with you again).
Another common reason why women act like they donât care about you after a break up isâ¦
3. She is just testing to see if you will lose confidence in yourself
One of the qualities that women find attractive in a man is his confidence.
So naturally, when a guy is being insecure, needy and desperate, a woman will feel turned off by him.
This is why, one of the first tests a woman might put her ex through after she breaks up with him (e.g. acting like she doesnât care about him) is to check if heâs going to react by becoming insecure and self-doubting, or by maintaining his confidence with her.
If he stays strong and even laughs at her when sheâs being distant and unfeeling towards him, she will automatically feel a surge of renewed respect for him for handling her like a real man.
When she feels that respect, she will then start to feel attracted again and when that happens, her defenses will come down and she will open herself up to the idea of giving him another chance.
On the other hand, if he falls apart and becomes despondent (e.g. gives up on getting her back, is extra nice to her in the hope that she will be nice back) she will know that he doesnât possess the one fundamental quality she needs in a man (i.e. confidence) and she will then usually focus on moving on and finding a man who does.
So, if you want to make your ex care about you again, make sure you maintain your confidence with her.
No matter what she says and does, you are confident.
When you believe in yourself, so will she.
Another common reason why women act like they donât care about you after a break up isâ¦
4. She’s trying to get you to react in an unattractive way, so she can have more reasons to remain broken up from you
Sometimes, even though a woman has broken up with a guy, she might find it difficult to give him a convincing reason why.
As far as sheâs concerned, something about the relationship just didnât feel right and she doesnât want to be with him anymore.
However, because she doesnât know what to tell him that will satisfy him enough so that he will leave her alone, she decides to act like she doesnât care about him, in the hopes that he will do something to give her ammunition to stay broken up.
For example: A woman might be hoping that her ex willâ¦
- Lose his temper with her for acting like she doesnât care (she can then use his aggressiveness as an excuse not to want to be around him anymore).
- Use the No Contact Rule and ignore her for 30 or 60 days (she can then use the time apart to move on and find herself a replacement guy).
- Pretend that he only wants to be friends with her to stay in her life (she can then find another guy because heâs not making her feel attracted).
Hereâs the thingâ¦
If you want your ex to stop acting like she doesnât care about you, you canât play into her hands by losing your cool around her and behaving in unattractive ways.
Instead, you need to show her (via your actions, behavior, conversation style and the way you respond to what she says and does) that youâre a new and improved man now.
For example: Some of the ways you can do that is byâ¦
- Being more confident and self-assured so that you donât feel threatened when she acts like she doesnât care about you or says things like, âYou mean nothing to me now. My feelings for you are dead!â
- Using ballsy humor to break her out of her bad moods and make her feel happy to be interacting with you again.
- Flirting with her to create sexual tension.
- Leading the way in the ex back process so she can relax into thinking, feeling and behaving like a feminine woman around you.
The more she can see that youâre now the man she always wanted you to be, the less she will be able to resist letting down her guard and allowing herself to imagine what it would be like to be your girl this time around.
Where Guys Go Wrong With a Woman Who Acts Like She Doesnât Care After a Break Up
Regardless of what your ex is saying or doing right now, if you want to get her back, you have to make sure that your behavior and actions are going to be sparking her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you.
This is why you need to avoid doing the kind of things that will turn her off.
For example: Some mistakes to avoid making areâ¦
1. Seeking pity from her for how badly she is treating you and how it makes you feel
When the woman you love is being cold, stand-offish and acting like you mean nothing to her, itâs very tempting to want to confront her and say something along the lines of, âHow you can be like this after everything we had together is beyond me? Doesnât our relationship mean anything to you? I just donât understand how you can be so cold. Yes, weâve broken up but I still have feelings for you. How can you not have any feelings for me? How can you not care that Iâm suffering so much? Is this what you want? To see me suffer? Well if it is⦠you have your wish, because I am suffering!â
Secretly you may even be hoping she will feel so bad over her treatment of you that she will not only start treating you better, she will even say something like, âIâm sorry! I didnât mean to hurt you. Itâs just that I still love you so much that acting like I donât care is the only way I could think of to try and get over you.â
You and her could then kiss and make up and everything would be perfect.
Yet, hereâs the thing.
Seeking pity and getting positive results is only something that happens in romantic movies.
In the real world, when a guy tries to make his ex feel pity for him, she feels turned off by his emotional weakness and his inability to cope with the break up like a real man.
She also tends to feel resentful towards him for trying to manipulate her into being nice to him.
Then, rather than treating him better from that point onwards, she instead acts even more like she doesnât care about him.
So, donât bother trying to make your ex feel pity for how sheâs making you feel and focus instead on re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Another mistake to avoid making isâ¦
2. Accusing her of being selfish
Even though you might feel justified in accusing your ex of being selfish, itâs unlikely to make her see things from your point of view.
Instead, she will likely see your accusations as a sign that youâre not emotionally mature enough for her.
She will then feel that she made the right decision to break up with you (i.e. because youâre now coming across as a childish, immature ex and she doesnât want anything more to do with you).
So, if you truly want to get her back, the best way to go about it is by showing her that she made a mistake by breaking up with you.
How?
One way of doing that is by maintaining control of your emotions around her no matter what she says or does.
As a result, she will realize that youâre being the kind of man she always wanted you to be (i.e. confident, emotionally strong and someone she can look up to, respect and feel proud to be with).
When that happens, she will start to feel drawn to you in a way that feels good to her.
Then, acting like she doesnât care about you stops being something she wants to do.
Another mistake to avoid making isâ¦
3. Asking her if she ever loved you or if it was all just fake?
When a woman is acting like she doesnât care about you after a break up, it can definitely make a guy wonder if she ever did.
However, asking a woman something along the lines of, âDid you ever really love me, or was it all a big act?â only causes her to feel even more turned off by him.
Why?
When a man is insecure about his attractiveness and value to a woman and has to ask whether or not her feelings for him were ever real, she loses respect and attraction for him.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
Women are naturally attracted to men who believe in themselves no matter what a woman says or does and they are turned off by the kind of man who needs a woman to make him feel worthy and like heâs good enough.
So, donât put yourself in that position.
Believe in yourself and know that she loved you and if you focus on re-attracting her, she will easily love you again.
Another mistake to avoid making isâ¦
4. Interacting with her in ways that turn her off and expecting her to continue caring
A guy will sometimes feel so desperate to get his ex back that he will make all kinds of mistakes that actually turn her off even more.
For example: He mightâ¦
- Text or call her repeatedly to try and discuss the relationship with her.
- Send her flowers and cards apologizing for what happened.
- Ask her to tell him what he did wrong and how he can fix it.
- Beg and plead with her to remember the good times they once had and just give him another chance based on that.
- Pour his heart out to her and say things like, âEven though you donât care about me, I will always care about you. My love for you is real and I will do whatever it takes to prove it to you.â
He just canât stop himself from being that way because he thinks that heâs doing the right thing by showing her how committed he is to getting her back.
Yet, what he doesnât realize is that his behavior only convinces her even more that heâs not the right man for her.
She then digs in her heels and acts even more like she doesnât care, leaving him feeling confused and wondering what went wrong.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
If you want your ex to stop acting like she doesnât care about you and to get her back, youâve got to make sure that you start approaching her in a way that is going to be attractive to her.
Donât just expect her to change how she feels simply because you still care for her, because itâs not going to work on her.
What will?
Showing her via your actions, behavior, conversation style and the way you respond to her when she acts like she doesnât care about you, that youâre a new and improved man.
Youâre more confident and self-assured now.
You believe in your value to her and even though you do want her back, you donât need her back to feel good about yourself.
If you can display that type of confidence, she will naturally feel respect and attraction for you again.
When that happens, she canât stop herself from dropping her act and opening up to caring about you once again.
