As Iâve have written about extensively in my business content, in every area of life there are always 5 â 7 skills you must master (or at least achieve competency with) in order to be successful in that area. It doesnât matter if youâre talking about business, dating, gardening, or auto repair; there are almost always 5 â 7 things you must get good at in order to be successful in these areas.
Online dating is no different. There are five specific skills you must learn in order to ensure you can schedule first dates with women you find at least cute (using my four-level attractiveness scale of ugly, average, cute, or hot).
If you canât schedule dates online, or you can only schedule them with women you find ugly or average, that means you are lacking in one or more of these skills. Knowing what these skills are will help identify where you need to bolster your efforts.
One clarification needed! As always, when I say âonline dating,â Iâm only referring to the online portion of the interaction. Online dating, as I use the term, begins when you sign up on a dating site or app and then ends the split second you walk into the bar or coffee shop to meet up with that woman in real life. At that point, online dating is over and real-life game begins. Getting laid via online dating requires online dating skill and real-life dating skill. (For you touchy Thrill of the Hunt types, you’re right, itâs still not a cold approach, so in the past Iâve called it âdating gameâ for lack of a better term.)
This breakdown is represented in my overall dating system chart here:
So here are the five master skills you must learn for online dating, that is, your ability to use dating sites / apps to schedule first dates with women you find at least cute whenever you need to.
They are listed in no particular order, since they are all required.
1. Photo Skill
Notice I said âphoto skillâ and not âphotography.â I donât know shit about photography. I just know how to construct a photo that makes me look as good as humanly possible without actually having to Photoshop it. Thatâs what photo skill is.